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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm very flexible and more a go with the flow type of person. I don't mean i have no control over anything in my life but i find if i plan stuff i end up disappointed so like to have goals but not focus on that much and prefer to just see how things develop.

How do you deal with people who wanna plan stuff coz i just get brain freeze.

By plan stuff, i mean things from plan meets on a certain time or day (don't know if i'll be free or horny even, sometimes i forget i've planned anything as well coz i don't do this usually), or even they start planning whole futures of regular meets.

I'm not unopen to these ideas, just don't wanna say yeah i'm up for that with you, especially if we haven't even met. I don't even know if i'm up for it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Balls...should've posted this in the advice section .

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

ive planned stuff rather well on odd occasions its gone purely tits up

on other occasions its gone alright

for some other stuff being let down too often it dosnt really bother me and i can plan on the fly

every now and again I can forget that ive planned it and sometimes need reminding of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've never planned anything on here yet, don't even know how to.

I'm very adverse to planning as well for some reason, unless it's without limits, like i can say i'll probably free on *such a time* but then say to them to ask about meeting around that time to make sure.

As for planning long term stuff idk anything about what to say there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to plan my meets generally in advance not because I'm pedantic about stuff but for other reasons, although I have had a couple of last Mintue meets which have been fantastic.

In my non fab life when it comes to things with the kids as many of you know with my kids it can be hard, I have to plan everything from route to take, where the loos are, what and where we are going to eat, plan everything we need to take; so yeah my normal everyday life is planned out but activities away from the kids it's all unplanned and messy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very flexible and more a go with the flow type of person. I don't mean i have no control over anything in my life but i find if i plan stuff i end up disappointed so like to have goals but not focus on that much and prefer to just see how things develop.

How do you deal with people who wanna plan stuff coz i just get brain freeze.

By plan stuff, i mean things from plan meets on a certain time or day (don't know if i'll be free or horny even, sometimes i forget i've planned anything as well coz i don't do this usually), or even they start planning whole futures of regular meets.

I'm not unopen to these ideas, just don't wanna say yeah i'm up for that with you, especially if we haven't even met. I don't even know if i'm up for it anyway."
. Well at 8.05 we will text what we like about eachother at 9.15 we can decide where we are meeting at 10pm we can have coffee or cocktails and at 11.30 its back to hotel is that a plan or what xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to plan my meets generally in advance not because I'm pedantic about stuff but for other reasons, although I have had a couple of last Mintue meets which have been fantastic.

In my non fab life when it comes to things with the kids as many of you know with my kids it can be hard, I have to plan everything from route to take, where the loos are, what and where we are going to eat, plan everything we need to take; so yeah my normal everyday life is planned out but activities away from the kids it's all unplanned and messy!"

I totally get that other people have different lives from me and that's why they have to, or feel a need to, plan. My life isn't mad hectic but because i have kids it mainly has been hectic and i haven't planned anything for me, although yeah everything was planned around them. Think that's why i don't like planning actually, because when i used to plan things for me it never happened, lost the skill of how to even do it now.

Thanks, that's given me something to think about. As have all replies so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to plan everything, I really can't do spontaneity. I need to know when I get up in the morning what I'm going to be doing that day, if something changes it stresses me out because I haven't been anticipating it in my head. This especially applies to meeting people for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I posted this so i could reply to a guy who asked me something, gonna try and figure out what to say for myself. Doing it tomorrow, when i'm not tired and can think better.

But thanks. I might try to apply the planning for other people to myself, can't be that hard. Ot just carry on as i am now and keep explaining myself to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't stand planning meets ...

Won't do it .... ever

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