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"hi we have talked about swinging 9mainly in bed0 but wife nervous! any advice please ![]() There's usually a perception that the male is driving such discussions, in which case the advice would be to wait for her to bring it up next, and accept that might be never. | |||
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"Get her on here chatting first. It took me a while to get my head around it at first do spent ages just chatting while i got used to the idea." I would suggest this. But for god sake set your message filters the very first second on here, if she is nervous then the stupid, sexually aggressive and plain ignorant messages that can be sent on here could have her running for the hills. *Disclaimer ~ not all messages are like this, but there can be a fair number. | |||
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"We started out by simply going on cam. Nobody else involved and just progressed from there, then moved to going to clubs and seeing what's out there for real. But definetly get a couples profile set up and just go slow and see where things lead. I've seen plenty of single male profiles get annihilated when posting questions like this, so I'd take the friendly advice you've received ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I would feel absolutely awful if I knew my husband had been planning to get me involved all the ways he could over a long period of time. To me that sounds manipulative and sinister. I am so glad I came to the decision myself as a single female and met my partner on here, so I know and he knows there was no emotional blackmail or obligations involved. " Yes I agree. We went through all the stages together. It would have been different if we didn't have the trust we do between us. And heartbreaking to know he had a profile first and met alone behind my back! | |||
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"13 hours into the thread and not a single "show her your single profile and verification, see what she thinks" comment... You lot are slacking... Or did only the clique get the memo??;-) D " Think my last reply touched on it! ![]() ![]() | |||
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"13 hours into the thread and not a single "show her your single profile and verification, see what she thinks" comment... You lot are slacking... Or did only the clique get the memo??;-) D Think my last reply touched on it! ![]() ![]() Indeed, on reflection it did. My hat us duly dipped in your general direction. I will try harder next time. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"13 hours into the thread and not a single "show her your single profile and verification, see what she thinks" comment... You lot are slacking... Or did only the clique get the memo??;-) D Think my last reply touched on it! ![]() ![]() My point was more about couples too, though ... as the idea that my man had it in his mind, and was always trying to work on me would be an awful thing, and yet often times, one of the couple starts it ... and works and works on the other one. I was introduced to swinging by a man, but could not get rid of him quick enough because I felt it was awful, being worked on to do something he had concocted. Fast forward to me developing in this lifestyle myself, I feel my partner and I are much more on a oar with this. I seriously doubt all couples on here came to it together, although perhaps the balance has shifted in terms of who wants it more now, compared to at the beginning. I do think the dynamics of some couples clearly show one is the instigator, we have seen some terrier peeps at parties, and some people who clearly did not want to be there .... | |||
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"13 hours into the thread and not a single "show her your single profile and verification, see what she thinks" comment... You lot are slacking... Or did only the clique get the memo??;-) D " Personally if I was not into it, I would prefer my partner do it on their own, rather than use emotional blackmail or other means to get me into it ... I rarely comment on these married type threads as I feel that often in couples there is one instigator who at some point has 'forced' their opinions about swinging onto the other anyway. | |||
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"hi we have talked about swinging 9mainly in bed0 but wife nervous! any advice please ![]() really don't take our advice its Crap but Trevor fu##$$$%&ing McDonald's he's the man ![]() | |||
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"hi we have talked about swinging 9mainly in bed0 but wife nervous! any advice please ![]() Hard to give advice when we don't know your wife. You say you have talked about swinging. Does that mean both of you are happy about swinging or you have told your wife of your interest and she has played along to keep you happy while you are having sex with her? If it really has been a two-way conservation and she is happy but nervous suggest going to a club to have a look round talk to people there and perhaps even watch what takes place in a club. Many people use clubs for the social side only play occasionally. Take things slowly and only do what both of you are totally happy to allow. | |||
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" Personally if I was not into it, I would prefer my partner do it on their own, rather than use emotional blackmail or other means to get me into it ... I rarely comment on these married type threads as I feel that often in couples there is one instigator who at some point has 'forced' their opinions about swinging onto the other anyway. " This is why I'm here alone. We were here together many years ago, we had a few social meets, visited some clubs, we never played & only got as far as kissing others & then she decided it wasn't for her. A couple of years later she said I should carry on by myself. I do occasionally but always wish she would come with me. Will always want her to try but cannot & wont force her, hopefully one day she decides she'll have another try. | |||
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"Is your wife a motorbike....thread title ![]() It sounds like she is a cow and he is lining her up for some amorous bulls. Seriously, i will vouch that if 90% of married men proposed swinging to their wives ,they would quickly find themselves sofa surfing and receiving a dear john from some greedy solicitor. Another small percent may agree due to coercion and bullying by their partner and a small percent would be up for it. As a married man,,do you feel lucky?? | |||
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