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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I have arranged a coffee with a man from here for this morning, we have chatted loads and confirmed several times today's meet. Question is he hasn't been on since Friday, not read my last message or been on to message me about today, would you still turn up as planned or assume he bottled it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bottled. Go shopping instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I would turn up if there's been no contact since Friday x

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

If this is your only source of contact with him I personally whould message him on here explaining that if you don't hear from him you won't be going to meet him as you are unsure if you can still make it.

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By *urph6969Man
over a year ago

armagh

hes in hidding mode

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose


"So I have arranged a coffee with a man from here for this morning, we have chatted loads and confirmed several times today's meet. Question is he hasn't been on since Friday, not read my last message or been on to message me about today, would you still turn up as planned or assume he bottled it? "

My guess? Bottled. Had 2 of those last week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's history.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I have arranged a coffee with a man from here for this morning, we have chatted loads and confirmed several times today's meet. Question is he hasn't been on since Friday, not read my last message or been on to message me about today, would you still turn up as planned or assume he bottled it?

My guess? Bottled. Had 2 of those last week."

Me too !

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"So I have arranged a coffee with a man from here for this morning, we have chatted loads and confirmed several times today's meet. Question is he hasn't been on since Friday, not read my last message or been on to message me about today, would you still turn up as planned or assume he bottled it? "

Personally I'd try to contact him which ever way you have of contacting saying if you don't here back from him one hour before the date that its all good and the dates still on you will not be turning up.

If he does not get back to you one hour before the date he's not coming sadly most likely got cold feet .I'm sorry to have to say that last line as no one should mess another person about in this way if that is what's going on here .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Experience says they won't turn up. So frustrating, I hope i'm wrong xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Meant to be at 11.30 and he hasn't been on still so I'm not bothering, if he shows and I'm not there, then it's his fault for not keeping in touch and I get to have a lazy day

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

If I'm meeting someone from here I'd always have exchanged numbers by now. And messaged on the day to confirm. If you haven't heard from him since Friday I'd assume no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dont like to exchange numbers until I've met for a coffee but do and would expect a message on the day to be sure it's still on, so I'm putting this one down as bottled it lol

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I'm not sure I'd recognise someone from their pics enough to not have a phone number! If you didn't want to see them again you can always block the number. Anyway sorry your meet hasn't worked out. It happens sadly. Do something nice for yourself today!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess hes shot his load and gone..pity im not in your area as im free and would love coffee and cake...victoria sponge or carrot cake for me please..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't know if he showed but doubt it, as I still haven't heard anything lol I did however, get some Xmas shopping done and had a manicure so not a lost day!!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Don't know if he showed but doubt it, as I still haven't heard anything lol I did however, get some Xmas shopping done and had a manicure so not a lost day!! "

Good for you OP not a wasted day after al then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't sound promising hun ,timewasters I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't understand why they do it if they got no intention fuck off and do one,I think they like the attentionx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I have arranged a coffee with a man from here for this morning, we have chatted loads and confirmed several times today's meet. Question is he hasn't been on since Friday, not read my last message or been on to message me about today, would you still turn up as planned or assume he bottled it? "
do you have far to go ,is he worth it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't go, seems he got cold feet lol.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

If I said I'd be there, I'd turn up just to show good faith, but I think it is more sensible to send a message saying if you haven't heard you shan't go.

Considering it's now afternoon, what did you end up doing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Shopping, lunch and people watching with a manicure to treat myself, so turned out to be a good day after all

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Good for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I too late to say meet ,he will be so disappointed if you don't turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you had a nice day anyway!

You did the right thing. ..people staying off fab right before a meet usually means they're bottling it in my experience!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep for sure ,he wouldn't have been there, we always exchange phone numbers before a meet, text if then no answer tell them you are not going,you have done all you can then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have been there ,you have to take into consideration that fab requires a good internet connection in order to access on phone ,this is why I like to have a telephone number when I meet just in case trains are late or some delay befalls me

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I wouldn't have gone. I would however have sent a message to explain that it was due to not hearing from him. That way you've done all you can do and are beyond reproach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I have arranged a coffee with a man from here for this morning, we have chatted loads and confirmed several times today's meet. Question is he hasn't been on since Friday, not read my last message or been on to message me about today, would you still turn up as planned or assume he bottled it? "

I'd give it until Thursday

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Hypothetically, how many times after I've arranged to meet someone do I need to re-confirm it?

I'd be pretty Damn annoyed if I turned up and the other person didn't because they'd pre-determined that *I* wouldn't.

Just a perspective...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Glad you had a nice day anyway!

You did the right thing. ..people staying off fab right before a meet usually means they're bottling it in my experience! "
I don't find meets nerve racking but why would a meet for coffee be nerve racking ,if you get to a point where you like eachother enough to meet swap numbers ,you can always block their number after and contacting eachother is a lot easier on the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he listed you as a timewaster yet..?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Hypothetically, how many times after I've arranged to meet someone do I need to re-confirm it?

I'd be pretty Damn annoyed if I turned up and the other person didn't because they'd pre-determined that *I* wouldn't.

Just a perspective... "

Well I would at least confirm on the day,if I'm going to meet someone I generally have good contact with them anyway right up until the meet

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"Shopping, lunch and people watching with a manicure to treat myself, so turned out to be a good day after all "

Has he contacted you since?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He still hasn't been on since Friday, and that's fine. I had a nice day and didn't go out of my way to plan meeting for coffee so nothing lost, people lose their nerve, have emergencies come up or just change their mind all the time, it's not the end of the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Magic Wand time

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...


"Hypothetically, how many times after I've arranged to meet someone do I need to re-confirm it?

I'd be pretty Damn annoyed if I turned up and the other person didn't because they'd pre-determined that *I* wouldn't.

Just a perspective... "

It depends entirely on the circumstances and what has been decided when messaging. I always ask for confirmation on the day. If there's no confirmation then it's simple: I don't go the arranged venue. Other folk play it differently. I don't get no shows as this method has worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bottled. Go shopping instead "

This

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I wouldn't have gone. I would however have sent a message to explain that it was due to not hearing from him. That way you've done all you can do and are beyond reproach."

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Hypothetically, how many times after I've arranged to meet someone do I need to re-confirm it?

I'd be pretty Damn annoyed if I turned up and the other person didn't because they'd pre-determined that *I* wouldn't.

Just a perspective...

It depends entirely on the circumstances and what has been decided when messaging. I always ask for confirmation on the day. If there's no confirmation then it's simple: I don't go the arranged venue. Other folk play it differently. I don't get no shows as this method has worked for me. "

I have the same approach, but in the circumstance where that HASN'T happened, surely the right thing to do is to honour the commitment you made?

I'm wasting my time here, as clearly OP'S instincts were correct, and the fella didn't show either....but please remember that there are plenty of men who don't need checking with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't meet as I send a message to check if a meet is still on, if I don't get a response I don't leave my house

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