FabSwingers.com forum: Vanilla vs Swinger

By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

Could you please explain to me the actual difference in the life style?

I did not find ANY difference for Singles:

Both go to clubs to have sex

Both date strangers to have sex or simply know new people

Both have group sex...however Swingers more maybe

Couples instead are different, simply because Swinger Couples are in a very opened relationship

For me the two "lifestyles" overlap a lot

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By *ittleKinksCouple
over a year ago

Reading

ok swinging means you also enjoy the idea of your partner getting with others.

therfore you can still be single and have that mind set. If you are single and dont have that mind set you just like sleeping around.

Its like saying you gay but not dating, you dont need to date a guy to be gay still.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingles

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

"ok swinging means you also enjoy the idea of your partner getting with others."

Ah right I knew I was missing something!? I am NOT a swinger then but I like opened relationships (a lot)

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have no idea why people use the phrase 'vanilla' for non-swingers. As far as I know, its used for non-BDSM people.

May as well call non-swingers 'muggles'. It has the same sort of 'us and them' mentality.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

It took months to understand what vanilla meant. Very confusing

At the beginning I was thinking about drug or some kind of game with ice cream

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By *ittleKinksCouple
over a year ago

Reading

Vanilla like the ice creme i guess would refer to standard/ordinary/plain therefore it could be used in many situations to differentiate between those who practice some type of alternative relationship/fetishes etc.

Theres so many lables out there so if we can use one lable in multiple situations like this id say thats a good thing lol

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

Yeah but it is still a cryptic word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could you please explain to me the actual difference in the life style?

I did not find ANY difference for Singles:

Both go to clubs to have sex

Both date strangers to have sex or simply know new people

Both have group sex...however Swingers more maybe

Couples instead are different, simply because Swinger Couples are in a very opened relationship

For me the two "lifestyles" overlap a lot

Do they?

I'm going to go to work tomorrow and ask how many people I work with engage in group sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying that one woman I work with is shagging a guy who's getting married this year so maybe she would find a place on here

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Saying that one woman I work with is shagging a guy who's getting married this year so maybe she would find a place on here

He is still not married

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Could you please explain to me the actual difference in the life style?

I did not find ANY difference for Singles:

Both go to clubs to have sex

Both date strangers to have sex or simply know new people

Both have group sex...however Swingers more maybe

Couples instead are different, simply because Swinger Couples are in a very opened relationship

For me the two "lifestyles" overlap a lot

Do they?

I'm going to go to work tomorrow and ask how many people I work with engage in group sex

It could be a funny situation

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By *edonistic needsWoman
over a year ago

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"Could you please explain to me the actual difference in the life style?

I did not find ANY difference for Singles:

Both go to clubs to have sex

Both date strangers to have sex or simply know new people

Both have group sex...however Swingers more maybe

Couples instead are different, simply because Swinger Couples are in a very opened relationship

For me the two "lifestyles" overlap a lot

The difference is us swingers are honest about shagging. Vanilla friends aren't

as it's often gift wrapped in societal norms of ' relationships & dates '

My vanilla friends who know about my lifestyle think I'm weird as see sex as a monogamous emotional and frankly boring activity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people use vanilla for any sex they have not from Fab or clubs. My non-Fab sex has been far more adventurous than Fab sex. Vanilla sex would be the crap sex I had with my husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.

In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!

So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Liberated! Predictive text

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By *edonistic needsWoman
over a year ago

sexton

"For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.

In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!

So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen!

I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging

but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

"For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.

In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!

So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen!

There is a third category

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

"I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging

but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3

Wel I suppose these are the ones which a lot of couples search.

Fuck 'n' Go

A sort of fast food

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

Vanilla for me refers to people that don't practise bdsm/kink/fetish. Or doing none fetish activities. But I see and understand people refers to vanillas as those outside both swinging and fetish scene.

So I may go on a vanilla (normal) date or do a vanilla activity with my kink mates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.

In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!

So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen!

I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging

but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3

Someone said on here last week that guys cum quickly to get it over with if the woman is a minger.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Vanilla for me refers to people that don't practise bdsm/kink/fetish. Or doing none fetish activities. But I see and understand people refers to vanillas as those outside both swinging and fetish scene.

So I may go on a vanilla (normal) date or do a vanilla activity with my kink mates. "

You are confusing me in thia way

I will eat something and then re-read your post

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

So I may go on a vanilla (normal) date or do a vanilla activity with my kink mates. "

Some of the meets I have had on here as a single fem have been very vanilla and I think there is a vanilla extreme to the swinger experience - boring and mundane sex ... normal, whatever that may be. We prefer some fetish or other, whatever we are into at the moment. From my early experiences swinging, its the younger guys who get it over quickly and its because they can't help themselves ... and don't care about the woman and her needs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok swinging means you also enjoy the idea of your partner getting with others.

Ah right I knew I was missing something!? I am NOT a swinger then but I like opened relationships (a lot)

We're a coupke but have never had an open relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

So are you not swingers...???

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By *edonistic needsWoman
over a year ago

sexton

"For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.

In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!

So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen!

I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging

but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3

Someone said on here last week that guys cum quickly to get it over with if the woman is a minger."

Hidden profile Hun,,, surprise !!!!!

ooooo handbags out at dawn

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Hidden profile Hun,,, surprise !!!!!

ooooo handbags out at dawn

What...???

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By *edonistic needsWoman
over a year ago

sexton

"Hidden profile Hun,,, surprise !!!!!

ooooo handbags out at dawn

What...???

Just a wee response to previous post Hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So are you not swingers...???

Yes, we are, but we never do full swap and only ever go as a couple.

An open relationship is when one can go off and go their own thing?

We don't do that.

Bit tame for some I know but there are lots on here same as us lol

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

Yeah I know but I did not understand the actual response

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By *eLuv2PlayCouple
over a year ago

Alpena

We consider vanilla to be people in monogamous relationships.

We consider ourselves as swingers because we have sex with other couples and singles.

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

"An open relationship is when one can go off and go their own thing?"

True. So having an open relationship is the most extreme swinging condition apparently...given that both partners enjoy the idea of the other going with someone else.

But we did not. So we were not swingers. THIS IS A PARADOX!?!?

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

"We consider vanilla to be people in monogamous relationships.

We consider ourselves as swingers because we have sex with other couples and singles. "

Ok I will keep this simple definition otherwise I will become crazy.

So an open relationship is swinging

...I started swinging a lot of time ago then

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"We consider vanilla to be people in monogamous relationships.

We consider ourselves as swingers because we have sex with other couples and singles.

Ok I will keep this simple definition otherwise I will become crazy.

So an open relationship is swinging

...I started swinging a lot of time ago then

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and still don't have a clue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We consider vanilla to be people in monogamous relationships.

We consider ourselves as swingers because we have sex with other couples and singles.

Ok I will keep this simple definition otherwise I will become crazy.

So an open relationship is swinging

...I started swinging a lot of time ago then

I've always thought of an open relationship as a relationship where either party can go off and fuck someone else if they want to.

We're swingers because we meet other couples and do everything but full penetration.

But, never alone.

Swingers? Yes

Open relationship? No

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

Of online swinging sites and strange foreign names? Absolutely not

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

"We're swingers because we meet other couples and do everything but full penetration.

But, never alone.

Swingers? Yes

Open relationship? No

Yes I understood! You are a Soft Swap Swinger Couple

But an open relationship is still a sort of swinging, because you swing partners...even if not in the same place and time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're swingers because we meet other couples and do everything but full penetration.

But, never alone.

Swingers? Yes

Open relationship? No

Yes I understood! You are a Soft Swap Swinger Couple

But an open relationship is still a sort of swinging, because you swing partners...even if not in the same place and time

Same place, time, and same room lol

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By *eonardoLove OP Man
over a year ago

London

And same body!! No that's too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me swinging and vanilla describes single men.

In my experience. ..vanilla men are utterly shit in bed. Can't get/keep a hard on. Don't have a clue about a woman's body, and are bloody selfish in bed!

So far single male swingers are flippin awesome and I have the best sex with lovely like minded libered giving gentlemen!

I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging

but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3

Someone said on here last week that guys cum quickly to get it over with if the woman is a minger.

Hidden profile Hun,,, surprise !!!!!

ooooo handbags out at dawn

No handbags, I've had the same experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok swinging means you also enjoy the idea of your partner getting with others.

Ah right I knew I was missing something!? I am NOT a swinger then but I like opened relationships (a lot)

We're a coupke but have never had an open relationship?"

Same

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"I agree I ve had some of the most mind blowing sex since swinging

but trust me Hun there are guys on here that are also crap 1 minute wonders with the stamina of a schoolboy looking at page 3

Someone said on here last week that guys cum quickly to get it over with if the woman is a minger."

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