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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

OK the verify system on here I view as being nothing more than a tool hat can prove that the person behind the profile is genuine .

You know they meet they are who they say they are and are into what they say they are into and deliver on there promises there nice normal that sort of thing .

So if I was to verify someone I'd be saying nice polite intelligent fun person who lives up to their promises .

What i would not do nor do i do is mention the sex or any details because that's a private matter it can be assumed the sex was good or great the meet went well i like them because I've verified the person so details about there skills as a lover are not needed .

I hate and find it very off putting when a read verifies saying she sucked cock like a pro or other overtly sexual statements in a verify . As I'm a bit old fashioned in my out look i view such comments about a private act between two individuals as a bit crass a bit disrespectful to the woman or man involved and all rather tasteless .

I guess some people like reading back there own verifies if the verify bigs them up sexually states there great its all subject of coarse one mans great is another mans average and all that,.

but to me and my tastes its all a bit distasteful i if'm honest .any one else have this view or am I just a old fashion dinosaur stuck with the old fashion view that .what goes on in the bedroom between two consenting adults stays between them and them alone .

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Totally agree with you

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

People copy what they see others doing, hence the survival of the legal notices.

If you had access to the entire site database, you could probably find the first verification:

"Treat this one with respect"

"Don't let this one pass you by"

Etc etc

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

What about 'shit shag' verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try and make our veris personal and describe my impression of the people. What we did in the bedroom doesn't need recorded imo

Also not sure why so many veris like to tell you how they taste. Although it makes me giggle

"Sweetest pussy I could lick it for hours"

"That's one tasty cock" etc

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I agree, I detest the blow by blow veris. I never leave them and I would never show one if any of my playmates were foolish enough to write me one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell meets I'd rather not swap veri's and I hide the ones I've gotten. I try to keep the veri's I've posted short and sweet unless the meet in question wants to proof read it first and make me change it.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"What about 'shit shag' verifications? "

Wear them with pride my man, at least you gave it a go

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Totally agree with you"

I view verifies like the old Ronseal adds is does what it say on the tin ...nothing more is really needed in my opinion than the sentiment and message of that advert

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it just shows that you meet and are a real person, I don't want to know the ins and outs, so to speak.

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"What about 'shit shag' verifications? "

Don't verify them if you can not say anything nice don't say a thing.

But you must look to yourself if it was a shit shag after all it takes two to make great sex maybe just maybe they weren't the problem the problem could have been you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"What about 'shit shag' verifications?

Wear them with pride my man, at least you gave it a go "

Can I have a sympathy shag?!

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"What about 'shit shag' verifications?

Don't verify them if you can not say anything nice don't say a thing.

But you must look to yourself if it was a shit shag after all it takes two to make great sex maybe just maybe they weren't the problem the problem could have been you "

Oh, you should read the one I left her. Celibacy beckons for her, methinkx.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones)."
well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques"

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I like mine to be nonsense. I'm not interested in sharing graphic details with people. There's no need. I like discretion. Time machines are important and should always get a mention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It totally depends on the individual and what they want to portray .

A more detailed veri can tell you whether the person is into what you are looking for as an example .

If someone puts details in a veri that you don't like , there's no need to display it . A veri can be just for your own eyes .

Your profile , your choice and we would never criticise the way others show or don't show veris , nor the content .

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

It's never occurred to me to check the content of what I will write about them.

I write it, they do a they please with it.

I only know of one having it tattooed onto their arm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him."

You do realise that nobody has to show their verifications & that some are a joke?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The clue is in the name...when we click to verify someone, it says, verify genuine...not performance review. It's not trip advisor

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

You use the site and its features the way you want, and I'll use it the way I want.

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.

You do realise that nobody has to show their verifications & that some are a joke? "

Yes I know but the fact still remains I find overtly sexual descriptions and comments in posted verifies. A bit unsophisticated crass and off putting and a bit disrespectful .

I was just asking if I was alone in this out look or not sometimes I feel like a dinosaur on here because of the fact I respect privacy something I find lacking in a lot of published verifies I see on here .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him."
I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"The clue is in the name...when we click to verify someone, it says, verify genuine...not performance review. It's not trip advisor"

Star rating for anatomy, skills etc just popped into my head for some strange reason!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that you should not have anything too graphic on your profile. I do feel though that sometimes people only get inundated with messages because people have read the more graphic verifications and thought, I want myself a bit of that action. What one person thinks is amazing, another could think is crap. xx

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

MicroSoft do not yet have a standard verification template. So, you verify just the way you want to

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"The clue is in the name...when we click to verify someone, it says, verify genuine...not performance review. It's not trip advisor

Star rating for anatomy, skills etc just popped into my head for some strange reason! "

The amount of guys on here who state they love oral yet cant be arsed to dip their heads, this is an excellent idea.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"What about 'shit shag' verifications? "

They need to be earned

C...

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts"

We are going to have to agree to disagree stating a man or a woman is a shit shag in a verify is belittling them hammering home your opinion on the sex like that is unnecessary in my opinion.

Just don't met them again surely that is the best way of showing your displeasure with the meet no need to go the extra mile and confront them on over the sex what would be the point.is it going to change the the fact you had a shit meet no is it going to change the fact your not going to meet them again no .

All you doing is in my opinion is trying to get your own back for a shit meet be stating the fact the met was shit the sex shit hammering it home in a verify .

There's no need to ever turn nasty even when someone's turned nasty to you first .you can just walk away thinking that wasn't worth the effect hopefully the next meet will be better and worth the effort as you do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree op, especially if she got loads of veris saying the same, gets a bit repetitive lol.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts"

You're doing this for his next meets, so he improves his technique which must be pretty shit

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts

We are going to have to agree to disagree stating a man or a woman is a shit shag in a verify is belittling them hammering home your opinion on the sex like that is unnecessary in my opinion.

Just don't met them again surely that is the best way of showing your displeasure with the meet no need to go the extra mile and confront them on over the sex what would be the point.is it going to change the the fact you had a shit meet no is it going to change the fact your not going to meet them again no .

All you doing is in my opinion is trying to get your own back for a shit meet be stating the fact the met was shit the sex shit hammering it home in a verify .

There's no need to ever turn nasty even when someone's turned nasty to you first .you can just walk away thinking that wasn't worth the effect hopefully the next meet will be better and worth the effort as you do so."
or maybe, you could look at it a different way, friends meet, neither needs verifications, they leave each other stupid verifications which also acts as a filter to out those that don't have the same humour and take sex far to seriously don't believe everything you read on this site

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts

You're doing this for his next meets, so he improves his technique which must be pretty shit "
in fairness to him, there has been an improvement, he's gone up a scale to "better than watching paint dry"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts

You're doing this for his next meets, so he improves his technique which must be pretty shit in fairness to him, there has been an improvement, he's gone up a scale to "better than watching paint dry" "

See, your "shit shag" veri has made him improve his sexual technique. Maybe a few more shit shag veris would be good for all of us

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts

You're doing this for his next meets, so he improves his technique which must be pretty shit in fairness to him, there has been an improvement, he's gone up a scale to "better than watching paint dry"

See, your "shit shag" veri has made him improve his sexual technique. Maybe a few more shit shag veris would be good for all of us "
exactly

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts

You're doing this for his next meets, so he improves his technique which must be pretty shit in fairness to him, there has been an improvement, he's gone up a scale to "better than watching paint dry"

See, your "shit shag" veri has made him improve his sexual technique. Maybe a few more shit shag veris would be good for all of us exactly "

A thirty second man or a selfish fuck is never going to change in my opinion your wasting your energy after the fact which are these.

Why would he change he's had the sex got what he wanted and has moved on looking for his next fuck.

If he gets a lot of bad verifies he will just shut down his profile and start back up with a new one .

Like a said giving bad feed back over bad sex is a waste of ones time why should someone listen to you if they got they wanted out of the meet.

And the type of person who would listen to such feed back their the type of person who would have there self confidence crushed by that type of heartless feed back.

Like I said in my opinion such feed back is more about getting even for a bad meet nothing else such behaviour in my opinion never makes the person dishing it out look to good or show them in the best possible light .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts

You're doing this for his next meets, so he improves his technique which must be pretty shit in fairness to him, there has been an improvement, he's gone up a scale to "better than watching paint dry"

See, your "shit shag" veri has made him improve his sexual technique. Maybe a few more shit shag veris would be good for all of us exactly

A thirty second man or a selfish fuck is never going to change in my opinion your wasting your energy after the fact which are these.

Why would he change he's had the sex got what he wanted and has moved on looking for his next fuck.

If he gets a lot of bad verifies he will just shut down his profile and start back up with a new one .

Like a said giving bad feed back over bad sex is a waste of ones time why should someone listen to you if they got they wanted out of the meet.

And the type of person who would listen to such feed back their the type of person who would have there self confidence crushed by that type of heartless feed back.

Like I said in my opinion such feed back is more about getting even for a bad meet nothing else such behaviour in my opinion never makes the person dishing it out look to good or show them in the best possible light ."
you do know people don't have to show verifications, right. I don't think you ha e the same sense of humour as me somehow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no to this post. I quite like reading that a man is VWE from another woman. Sometimes a girl just needs girth!! On the other hand, the biggest turn off for me is reading that a guy has "an amazing tasty cock". It's just so low quality.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Totally agree with you"

Me too, though the people do have to choose to display those veri's

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally I have a different problem with veris ( which maybe needs its own thread ), which is that I find them to often be sooo enthusiastic and complimentary that when I actually meet the person, I feel a bit let down when they're actually not that amazing!

Guess it's all subjective really...

However I do think that for women especially, they are extremely useful as you know the guy is going to be decent and treat you well, makes me feel more confident about meeting a total stranger.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

One of mine says I'm slightly better than a wank. Is that a compliment or what? I showed the veri but now I'm not so sure.

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By *andsonjohn OP   Man
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"One of mine says I'm slightly better than a wank. Is that a compliment or what? I showed the veri but now I'm not so sure. "

Anything that's better than a wank is a compliment

Not a big one but still a compliment I'd take it if I was you get a tea shirt made up and wear it with pride maybe

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"One of mine says I'm slightly better than a wank. Is that a compliment or what? I showed the veri but now I'm not so sure. "
you think that's bad, at least one of your meets doesn't change their avator to a pair of boxer shorts with dim written a Ross them cause it reminds you of them

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"One of mine says I'm slightly better than a wank. Is that a compliment or what? I showed the veri but now I'm not so sure. you think that's bad, at least one of your meets doesn't change their avator to a pair of boxer shorts with dim written a Ross them cause it reminds you of them "

They are French hipsters

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Can I just say, for all those potential sexual meets out there, my 'shit shag' verifications are, in fact and actually, joke ones. I don't need the 'advertising'. It's just a laugh between people who have a similar sense of humour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I just say, for all those potential sexual meets out there, my 'shit shag' verifications are, in fact and actually, joke ones. I don't need the 'advertising'. It's just a laugh between people who have a similar sense of humour. "

No? And I believed them to be the God's honest truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts

You're doing this for his next meets, so he improves his technique which must be pretty shit in fairness to him, there has been an improvement, he's gone up a scale to "better than watching paint dry"

See, your "shit shag" veri has made him improve his sexual technique. Maybe a few more shit shag veris would be good for all of us exactly

A thirty second man or a selfish fuck is never going to change in my opinion your wasting your energy after the fact which are these.

Why would he change he's had the sex got what he wanted and has moved on looking for his next fuck.

If he gets a lot of bad verifies he will just shut down his profile and start back up with a new one .

Like a said giving bad feed back over bad sex is a waste of ones time why should someone listen to you if they got they wanted out of the meet.

And the type of person who would listen to such feed back their the type of person who would have there self confidence crushed by that type of heartless feed back.

Like I said in my opinion such feed back is more about getting even for a bad meet nothing else such behaviour in my opinion never makes the person dishing it out look to good or show them in the best possible light ."

Do you understand humour?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"People can choose whether or not to display them. I've seen profiles where the verification summary is a greater number than those being shown; yet the verifications on display are extremely graphic.

This could mean that they want people to know these details or, those not shown are even worse (or maybe the shit shag ones).well what do you do, I met this guy from Brighton and I think I would of been better shagging a corpse, surely it's only right and fair I tell him he's a shit shag, so he has a chance to learn some techniques

Agree tell him and him alone that you was not impressed with his technique but as for putting it in a verify. why bother great sex is subjective you may think his technique was shit others may think it was OK or great all you have to do is tell him and move on no need to belittle him past you telling him your true thoughts on the sex were and that's why you won't be meeting him again or verifying him.I'm not sure I'd use the word belittling, more encouraging him to do something about it, I thought by publicly stating he was a shit shag it would get him to crank it up a gear, you can't sugar coat it for everyone, some people need hard facts

You're doing this for his next meets, so he improves his technique which must be pretty shit in fairness to him, there has been an improvement, he's gone up a scale to "better than watching paint dry"

See, your "shit shag" veri has made him improve his sexual technique. Maybe a few more shit shag veris would be good for all of us exactly

A thirty second man or a selfish fuck is never going to change in my opinion your wasting your energy after the fact which are these.

Why would he change he's had the sex got what he wanted and has moved on looking for his next fuck.

If he gets a lot of bad verifies he will just shut down his profile and start back up with a new one .

Like a said giving bad feed back over bad sex is a waste of ones time why should someone listen to you if they got they wanted out of the meet.

And the type of person who would listen to such feed back their the type of person who would have there self confidence crushed by that type of heartless feed back.

Like I said in my opinion such feed back is more about getting even for a bad meet nothing else such behaviour in my opinion never makes the person dishing it out look to good or show them in the best possible light .

Do you understand humour? "
obviously not its gone over his head at least four times in this thread

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By *loriajonCouple
over a year ago

near u

You don't have to post details of verifications ?.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You don't have to post details of verifications ?."

You're quite right, it's an indication the person is real but I think the point that was being made was make your own decisions and don't believe everything every says. Your own judgement is best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate, I agree with you. In fact, I find a lot of the veri's off putting, and just wouldn't go there.

I don't read many, and if there's a long, long list of veri's, I won't go there either.

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By *ome Social With UsCouple (FF)
over a year ago

East Midlands


"OK the verify system on here I view as being nothing more than a tool hat can prove that the person behind the profile is genuine .

You know they meet they are who they say they are and are into what they say they are into and deliver on there promises there nice normal that sort of thing .

So if I was to verify someone I'd be saying nice polite intelligent fun person who lives up to their promises .

What i would not do nor do i do is mention the sex or any details because that's a private matter it can be assumed the sex was good or great the meet went well i like them because I've verified the person so details about there skills as a lover are not needed .

I hate and find it very off putting when a read verifies saying she sucked cock like a pro or other overtly sexual statements in a verify . As I'm a bit old fashioned in my out look i view such comments about a private act between two individuals as a bit crass a bit disrespectful to the woman or man involved and all rather tasteless .

I guess some people like reading back there own verifies if the verify bigs them up sexually states there great its all subject of coarse one mans great is another mans average and all that,.

but to me and my tastes its all a bit distasteful i if'm honest .any one else have this view or am I just a old fashion dinosaur stuck with the old fashion view that .what goes on in the bedroom between two consenting adults stays between them and them alone .

"

Fully agree, I don't need to read how two people had sex, that's there business.

Personally, the verification in my opinion should be a tick box, is it person from pictures, were they on time, dressed smart, would you meet again etc.

I also think that verifications should be re-classed and split into the following

Meet in person - play

Meet in person - social only

Webcam - face to face conversation on cam

Just my opinion.

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