FabSwingers.com forum: What's wrong with me???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure this is the right site to find a fuck buddy. Better off on another site. Imo.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Maybe the married part puts people off, and the pointless long legal ramble at the bottom - not sure what facebooks legal status has to do with fab...

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By *ause and EffectCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X "

It's not the profile and it's not the pics so maybe you are falling into the trap of going for guys who are superficially attractive but turn out to be just superficial. Been there. Done that lol If I were you I would find a good club and go along a few times on a strictly social no play basis. You will soon click with someone and if there is no sex immediately on offer you will out some of the wham bam brigade.

Good luck hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X "

You won't exclude negative comments by suggesting nice comments only - and presumably you are seeking advice.

As above, delete the silly disclaimers. They really serve no purpose.

Nice arse but vary your pictures. And if you are looking for an emotional connection, mention it. Most men on here are looking for exactly what you do not seem to be interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X "

But boy will you have to kiss a lot of frogs

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By *NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

St Albans

"Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X

Good luck hun"

+1 this

if somebody isn't prepared to invest their time in getting to know you as a person why play with them - insist on a social meet first xx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Fab is not the place to find a FB, it turns out men think that FB = bunny boiler.

I wanted that but don't care any more

The Facebook stuff is weird, this is not that awful site

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The long ramble at the bottom of your profile is pointless... if you look in the FAQs you'll see that it just takes up server space. It's worthless text, when you put stuff on the internet, it's out there.

The married part may put some people off but definitely not all... I'm sure there are others in the same boat.

Good luck

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Fab is not the place to find a FB, it turns out men think that FB = bunny boiler."

That's a massive sweeping generalisation though, lots of people are here looking for just that. I'm fairly sure that lots of men don't think that a fuck buddy automatically means bunny boiler. It's certainly not been my experience.

Why do think this isn't the place to find it? I reckon it's the perfect place. Just be honest on your profile, state what you want and actively look for it.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X "
. Hi..Not everyone will be happy meeting a married person. You do not advise if your husband knows it not .

Your profile contains too many meaningless and totally irrelevant disclaimers. This should be removed and replaced with your hobbies and interests .

You have plenty of pictures but the quality of the photography is only average .

The only reason that I can see for not obtaining meets is that you are being too selective .

Overall your existing profile should be fine for attracting meets .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If say it's your marital status and all the small print crap at the end of your profile. Pointless and boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X

Good luck hun

+1 this

if somebody isn't prepared to invest their time in getting to know you as a person why play with them - insist on a social meet first xx"

Well said !

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"That's a massive sweeping generalisation though"

I wrote a post asking about FBs and it got too long and ended. The consensus appeared to be that men see FB as a 'commitment' they don't want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is not the place to find a FB, it turns out men think that FB = bunny boiler.

Why do think this isn't the place to find it? I reckon it's the perfect place. Just be honest on your profile, state what you want and actively look for it.

Exactly....not my experience either on a whole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found myself a big black drop dead gorgeous boyfriend

#boastingbitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theres nothing wrong with you i'm looking for a FB myself but its a case of being too far away etc and possibly me not putting myself out there enough

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X "

It's difficult for a man - my profile says I'm looking for a friend with benefits, in Latin, granted but I've had no luck with it. I would have thought it was a lot easier for a lady. Scars are cool, btw.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"That's a massive sweeping generalisation though

I wrote a post asking about FBs and it got too long and ended. The consensus appeared to be that men see FB as a 'commitment' they don't want"

Interesting... it's definitely not my experience. I like to get to know people and I think sex is better the more you know a person. I rarely have one off meets, obviously it can't be helped if one of you isn't up for a repeat performance, but in general I like regular sex with regular people.

I also think the forum is quite a small section of the site so a thread on a topic never seems to be that accurate. Do what works for you and if you want a fuck buddy then search for it. They are definitely out there.

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

If the attached/married thing is a turn off for some, it won't be for others... I came out of a FB 'relationship' looking for some fun and have found myself an amazing FB, all while having a boyfriend at home who knows exactly what is going on and is happy. So they are out there to be found despite what a lot say.

You don't say whether your husband knows that you're on here or not which could be a bit of an issue, personally I wouldn't play with a guy if he was cheating.

Good luck, I hope you find your fuck buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were close by I'd be your FB

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

No issue with the FB part, but the OP seems to suggest that any man must begin from the point of view that FB is the instant position.

That's too quick. Fuck me once, let's see if we want to make it regular.

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port

You've obviously trimmed your profile as now it reads well.

Good luck in your search x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say 2 things:

First the married part and nr2 is, it seems you are abit too fussy, if you lowered the bar, you would find him quicker tho, good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go ugly early, dont be lonely. It's kind of a site mantra.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two FBS but I didn't set out looking for them, we met, clicked, and continued meeting. I'm sure it works differently for everyone, but I don't think many meet with the intention of becoming someone's sole partner on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, someone married and looking for a regular FB is basically looking for an affair and that will undoutedly put people off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go ugly early, dont be lonely. It's kind of a site mantra.

It's most certainly not the mantra, troll.

A friend with benefits is easy to find, keeping the benefits both beneficial and horn filled is the mission. I've got FBs I've been seeing for years. I've got some that are now just friends.

I'd certainly not lower my standards (whatever they are) or sweep up the floor to find one. Maybe that's where you're going wrong. Hows the wife?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Maybe the married part puts people off, and the pointless long legal ramble at the bottom - not sure what facebooks legal status has to do with fab... "

^^^^

This

and

I wonder if most men from here want to risk a potential fistycuffs with your husband

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By *expuss2015Woman
over a year ago

Planet Sex

I joined a club which from there I have found a regular fbuddy to meet up with and have fun with also at the club. We can also do our own thing too with others. Its nice to know he will make sure Im ok when he watches me with other guys knowing what type of guy I like etc. So I think for yourself maybe join a club and find someone that way.

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

The hubby part is the main issue we thing though some of the pics are pretty much duplicates and you say want a dominate male? Dominant possibly?

And yeppers go to a club if you can get away and that may well be another issue, playing away is tricky you see... can you explain to hubby why your puss is now shaven if your FB wants that??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea , you seem ok to me , infact reading your profile , I'd write you... Now see maybe that is the problem , maybe you're too approachable ...

;)

Good luck

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We met on here and although we are not duck buddies as we live together, we have found the perfect relationship (as much as anything can be perfect) right here when we weren't looking. Previous to Mr Law I had a couple of longer term fuck buddies/friends with benefits - I think it was because I invested in the social aspects first (didn't meet any through clubs) so they knew what I Nutter I was before they met me so no surprises there then ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you can start out with the aim that someone will become a FB / FWB / whatever. It's something that evolves naturally, or doesn't.

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Some of your pics are good try different shots . as some of them are duplicates

I try an vary mine an do different photos ie i do different poses , outfits etc

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The hubby part is the main issue we thing though some of the pics are pretty much duplicates and you say want a dominate male? Dominant possibly?

And yeppers go to a club if you can get away and that may well be another issue, playing away is tricky you see... can you explain to hubby why your puss is now shaven if your FB wants that??

L2"

Work part-time and waxed!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Interesting... it's definitely not my experience. I like to get to know people and I think sex is better the more you know a person. "

I agree totally, which is why I would like one

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By *sym45Man
over a year ago

JE2

Yes Miss Classy.

There are a lot of messers on the site.Fake profiles and the like.

It may help if you vary your pics.Also a lot of men are looking for MF but also MMF and so on.Just simple MF doesn't always do the trick.

Also maybe worth your while getting yourself

on another site.Good luck.Carl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There may be nothing wrong with you but think about what you are asking for.

From your own profile :

Men aged 38 to 51 only

OK with you being married

Can accomodate or afford to meet elsewhere.

Be OK with your own age, size & build

Be a normal nice guy

Be funny

Be smart

Be confident

Be assertive

Be dominant

Be confident

Be sexy

Be able to meet at times of your choosing

Be patient and wait for when you can meet

Want an exclusive FB situation

Be physically and emotionally in touch with you

Live 'nearby'

Not be asian

Not be black

Not be bi or bi curious

So that is around 20 conditions they must meet before they'd even get a look in.

Bearing in mind where you live, your personal situation and who and what you are looking for, is this too much of a tall order, especially on a site that just by it's nature will attract men interested in recreational sex ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There may be nothing wrong with you but think about what you are asking for.

From your own profile :

Men aged 38 to 51 only

OK with you being married

Can accomodate or afford to meet elsewhere.

Be OK with your own age, size & build

Be a normal nice guy

Be funny

Be smart

Be confident

Be assertive

Be dominant

Be confident

Be sexy

Be able to meet at times of your choosing

Be patient and wait for when you can meet

Want an exclusive FB situation

Be physically and emotionally in touch with you

Live 'nearby'

Not be asian

Not be black

Not be bi or bi curious

So that is around 20 conditions they must meet before they'd even get a look in.

On top of that, your photos are all closeups of the same couple of body parts without any variation. I see the photos as an indicator of intelligence and imagination.

So, apart from the demands, what are you offering the the male?

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By *hiterabbit69Man
over a year ago

Romford

Someone can dominate you, by being dominant.

If that was a guys profile, you'd be slated for the quality of pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As so many others have said , the fact that you are playing away without his knowledge would be a deal breaker for so many .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recipe for disaster....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally i cant see your face which is why id hesitate you gotta have attraction there to start a conversation, but i understand youd be warry of this for obvious reasons

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

As mentioned by others, your pictures are all very similar and your profile is quite demanding with 'I am' 'I want'

OP have you tried messaging the guys that catch your eye rather than wait for them to find you?

It's good to be selective, take your time and keep to your principles..

Best of luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X "

Not a clue, I can't see your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is not the place to find a FB, it turns out men think that FB = bunny boiler.

Disagree. Been through a few fb's from fab. Latest still going strong!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X

Thank you for your kind advise, I'm shy and lack confidence so going to a club on my own would be hard!

Good luck hun"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been on 8 months still haven't lost my fab virginity, just can't seem to find a regular a fb.

What am I doing wrong! I have not problem attracting the wrong type of guy, ( shag & move on)

Nice comments please X

Good luck hun

+1 this

if somebody isn't prepared to invest their time in getting to know you as a person why play with them - insist on a social meet first xx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To me, someone married and looking for a regular FB is basically looking for an affair and that will undoutedly put people off"

Nope , not looking for an affair! Just a fab....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fab is not the place to find a FB, it turns out men think that FB = bunny boiler.

Disagree. Been through a few fb's from fab. Latest still going strong!

Not a bunny boiler, I like bunnies too much !

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

If your husband were to find out, would he:

a) ignore this

b) bring it to your attention

c) bring it to your attention and go looking for your 'Fab'

d) do something else

I am just curious

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