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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When try join forum the discussion stops , whilst tryin to meet get so many emails cant keep up , then some seem to lose bottle , but then other times two three turn up at once cant keep up with the mixed signals , we are genuine so plz lets all just play by rules and play fair i love the game yet most are cheaters and no play by any rules

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry we love game lol

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"When try join forum the discussion stops ,"

Nonsense, I checked your green arrow and you're last poster on very few. I'm sure I almost won the booby-prize for getting a clean sweep once


"whilst tryin to meet get so many emails cant keep up , then some seem to lose bottle , but then other times two three turn up at once cant keep up with the mixed signals , we are genuine so plz lets all just play by rules and play fair i love the game yet most are cheaters and no play by any rules "

I doubt it's your profile, more likely you just need to better develop your radar for detecting those who just like to talk.

Good luck

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know most are cheaters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use your message filters if you're getting too many messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No cheating rhem selves and us out of genuine meet not relation ship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've lots of verifications... Are you maybe focusing on what's not working instead of focusing on what IS working and doing more of that?

If you really are getting too many people dropping out, think of how you filter and choose to reduce the amount of time you're wasting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took us a few months to figure out how to spot the people who just wanted a chat and the people who aren't going to show up. Now its pretty easy. Just develop your radar better and the site will be loads more fun.

And I think you're paranoid if you think discussion in the forum stops because of you. I don't think there is a big enough consensus among forumites for them all to agree to ignore your posts

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try a different approach, put filters up & search yourselves. Meet in a club & if people don't turn up you still can have a good night.

There's not much on your profile to be intimidating.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"How do you know most are cheaters?"

I may be wrong, but read that bit as 'not playing the game fairly' rather than having affairs. You know, like the way Mrs ddc always.complains that I just *happen* to always get Park Lane and Mayfair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I almost shit myself looking at your profile lol ... Just need to know the ones you intend to meet a bit better

PS your profile is fine

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

There's hardly anything on your profile so how can it be intimidating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Courtney, people will post on threads that interest them that's all!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having feed back a relief thanks , as fem i can tell the players 7 out ten u do get the odd one who is strugglin to find way or etc males just think with dick and pick one who talkin all talk , lol like to no put all trust and find out , but if profile either say specificly or joined not long ago then back away , i aint silly just why be here if u playin that all , site or no site i aint short of interest

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Having feed back a relief thanks , as fem i can tell the players 7 out ten u do get the odd one who is strugglin to find way or etc males just think with dick and pick one who talkin all talk , lol like to no put all trust and find out , but if profile either say specificly or joined not long ago then back away , i aint silly just why be here if u playin that all , site or no site i aint short of interest"

If you're not short of interest what's the problem.

I don't find your profile intimidating but your status says you're looking for "the ultimate meet" that's quite something for people to live up.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I'd meet you guys like a shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually I Would find it a bit intimidating.

But then I wouldn't message you and waste your time.

Fussy- I know but I would find the 'ultimate' part sounds like a challenge, plus the beer thing- a lot of people I know don't drink when meeting. And again (I will get slated for this) poor use of diction and grammar would make me scroll on by.

I would say that you treat your profile a bit like a CV. If you aren't attracting your preferred calibre of meet- look again at your selection process.

And lastly do you pro- actively browse or just wait to be inboxed?

I go out and get what I want.

Just trying to help here btw not overly criticise x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks , we enjoy meets and like variaty just not know why so many are here not mean to moan i aint des which is why struggle to understand why have have drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually I Would find it a bit intimidating.

But then I wouldn't message you and waste your time.

Fussy- I know but I would find the 'ultimate' part sounds like a challenge, plus the beer thing- a lot of people I know don't drink when meeting. And again (I will get slated for this) poor use of diction and grammar would make me scroll on by.

I would say that you treat your profile a bit like a CV. If you aren't attracting your preferred calibre of meet- look again at your selection process.

And lastly do you pro- actively browse or just wait to be inboxed?

I go out and get what I want.

Just trying to help here btw not overly criticise x"

I agree, I'm sorry OP, but I struggle to understand your posts on here to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Look at your profile bitching sayin if this and that not gonna bother , who give u right to pick and choose and slate people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at your profile bitching sayin if this and that not gonna bother , who give u right to pick and choose and slate people "

No need to get rude. You asked a question about your profile. That is what gives them the right to criticize. If you didn't want it you shouldn't have asked, simple.

They didn't ask for advice, so you should keep your opinions on their profile to yourself.

Btw - hit the reply and quote button so people know who you're talking to.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Look at your profile bitching sayin if this and that not gonna bother , who give u right to pick and choose and slate people

No need to get rude. You asked a question about your profile. That is what gives them the right to criticize. If you didn't want it you shouldn't have asked, simple.

They didn't ask for advice, so you should keep your opinions on their profile to yourself.

Btw - hit the reply and quote button so people know who you're talking to.

-Courtney"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at your profile bitching sayin if this and that not gonna bother , who give u right to pick and choose and slate people "

Everybody on this site has the right to pick & choose who they meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see several bare back pictures and can't tell if it's the same guy!

Std's put people off

And for the record I'm not the slightest bit interested in anyone's opinion of my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find the profile intimidating, there isn't that much to it.

You do not close threads or conversations, we've all been the last person to type on a thread, it doesn't mean anything other than people don't want to discuss the thread anymore.

What I will say though is that you don't write or communicate very well, your don't write in sentences and what you say is disjointed. Maybe this is the reason you struggle, as evidenced by this and other topics you've posted.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Intimidating?.. No, not in the slightest.


"... I'm sorry OP, but I struggle to understand your posts on here to be honest "

Yep, I'd say this could be a better indication of why you might be having difficulty. I don't want to appear overly critical (especially as English might not be your first language) but perhaps others are struggling too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Talking to u ,my profile ask to meet genuine people , i aint short of meets or need site , cant help gettin annoyed with , story tellers and haters , why pick me apart , was bored coz i bore easily , i like good time , sorry to grate u , at end of day i dont give one toss if on site or not , some get secret thrill or comfort , as lonely and sad , i aint got time i want fun like it or lump it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Talking to u ,my profile ask to meet genuine people , i aint short of meets or need site , cant help gettin annoyed with , story tellers and haters , why pick me apart , was bored coz i bore easily , i like good time , sorry to grate u , at end of day i dont give one toss if on site or not , some get secret thrill or comfort , as lonely and sad , i aint got time i want fun like it or lump it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh you're coming across a little intimidating / attitudey on here......

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By *umslut jannineTV/TS
over a year ago

nottingham


"Tbh you're coming across a little intimidating / attitudey on here......"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No mean to , we no judge others , no need cv , be yourself we people too , if u wanna meet it must be hard , but u cant say one thing meaning other we either do or dont ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't care to be on the site or not, why are you concerned about being intimidating?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Right, well....have a nice day everyone

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Am I the only one totally lost ?

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By *evon DelightCouple
over a year ago

A town in Devon


"Actually I Would find it a bit intimidating.

But then I wouldn't message you and waste your time.

Fussy- I know but I would find the 'ultimate' part sounds like a challenge, plus the beer thing- a lot of people I know don't drink when meeting. And again (I will get slated for this) poor use of diction and grammar would make me scroll on by.

I would say that you treat your profile a bit like a CV. If you aren't attracting your preferred calibre of meet- look again at your selection process.

And lastly do you pro- actively browse or just wait to be inboxed?

I go out and get what I want.

Just trying to help here btw not overly criticise x"

Agree with red. That is all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Am I the only one totally lost ?"

No you aren't. I gave up a while back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When try join forum the discussion stops , whilst tryin to meet get so many emails cant keep up , then some seem to lose bottle , but then other times two three turn up at once cant keep up with the mixed signals , we are genuine so plz lets all just play by rules and play fair i love the game yet most are cheaters and no play by any rules "

Frankly you profile doesn't say anything about you other than you as people other than you want to meet. You reap what you sow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talking to u ,my profile ask to meet genuine people , i aint short of meets or need site , cant help gettin annoyed with , story tellers and haters , why pick me apart , was bored coz i bore easily , i like good time , sorry to grate u , at end of day i dont give one toss if on site or not , some get secret thrill or comfort , as lonely and sad , i aint got time i want fun like it or lump it "

Gosh please learn to type in sentences tha actually make sense! Talk proppa!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Talking to u ,my profile ask to meet genuine people , i aint short of meets or need site , cant help gettin annoyed with , story tellers and haters , why pick me apart , was bored coz i bore easily , i like good time , sorry to grate u , at end of day i dont give one toss if on site or not , some get secret thrill or comfort , as lonely and sad , i aint got time i want fun like it or lump it "
why did you post about your profile if you didn't want answers and why even post it at all if you couldn't give a toss

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"... You reap what you sow."

As Cameron is finding to his cost!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"When try join forum the discussion stops , whilst tryin to meet get so many emails cant keep up , then some seem to lose bottle , but then other times two three turn up at once cant keep up with the mixed signals , we are genuine so plz lets all just play by rules and play fair i love the game yet most are cheaters and no play by any rules "

...nooo what made you think that? whoever said it was is mistaken there is hardly anything written on you're profile in the first place?

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By *rish_And_BlondieCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool and Ireland


"Actually I Would find it a bit intimidating.

But then I wouldn't message you and waste your time.

Fussy- I know but I would find the 'ultimate' part sounds like a challenge, plus the beer thing- a lot of people I know don't drink when meeting. And again (I will get slated for this) poor use of diction and grammar would make me scroll on by.

I would say that you treat your profile a bit like a CV. If you aren't attracting your preferred calibre of meet- look again at your selection process.

And lastly do you pro- actively browse or just wait to be inboxed?

I go out and get what I want.

Just trying to help here btw not overly criticise x

Agree with red. That is all. "

For me this is everything. Absolutely agree. I don't believe anyone would stop posting on a topic because you posted. As I never click into anyone's profile on forum. I just know familiar faces and names and comment on the subject rather than scrutinise every profile as that would be wrong. And if people are doing that then more fool them. But I highly doubt it maybe it's just you finished the conversation and nothing else needed to be said?

What I've learnt most - don't take things too personally! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We both educated and Honest hard working welcoming people , when people post every one perceive it in different ways , we dont judge and give our time freely , if we took people messing about personal wouldnt have any soul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say its intimidating but it does read as if it was written by the Nigerian prince who keeps emailing me to help me make millions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its not intimidating, its very little typing there.

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

The profile is WAY too short.

Be honest ffs.

What do YOU want. What do you WANT from your meets. It's your show after all.

L2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We both educated and Honest hard working welcoming people , when people post every one perceive it in different ways , we dont judge and give our time freely , if we took people messing about personal wouldnt have any soul"

You do take it personally though. Your replies on here and your other threads all indicate an attitude of 'its not us, it's you'.

You asked for opinion but you don't like the answers given.

Your profile isn't intimidating but it's too short and written badly, as are your other threads. Improve those areas if you wish.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We both educated and Honest hard working welcoming people , when people post every one perceive it in different ways , we dont judge and give our time freely , if we took people messing about personal wouldnt have any soul"

Is English your first language? I only ask because your posts are very difficult to understand and its possible that you're misunderstanding how you come across.

I don't think that being hard working has a great deal of influence on Fab to be fair and being educated will only get you so far if you don't have the social skills to go with it. As far as being welcoming goes I couldn't possibly comment.

I infer from your post that you've been let down a number of times and that's a shame but it does happen to us all.

Good luck on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile isn't intimidating, just unappealing and uninteresting. I wouldn't mail you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When try join forum the discussion stops , whilst tryin to meet get so many emails cant keep up , then some seem to lose bottle , but then other times two three turn up at once cant keep up with the mixed signals , we are genuine so plz lets all just play by rules and play fair i love the game yet most are cheaters and no play by any rules "
no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile when coupled with your contributions to the forum would seemingly be your problem. Every thread you start seems to have the same, spikey and aggressive attitude. Often, I've read your posts, followed it up with a look at your status update and that's a moaning one.

Your threads/posts are very difficult to understand (language barrier?), they're often disjointed or plain make no sense at all. How do you expect someone to reapond to something they don't understand?

All that been said, you have lots of veri's and people obviously like what they see so why worry about it? Just crack on with what you're doing.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Look at your profile bitching sayin if this and that not gonna bother , who give u right to pick and choose and slate people "

They're not bitching at you, they are telling you that they find it difficult to understand your posts. I'm also findings it quite difficult to understand your posts. Not a criticism just a fact.

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

Your profile isn't intimidating but personally I find it cold.

The lack of names (real or not) makes it a lot harder for me to converse with any warmth, for example I cant say "If Hazza was to so desire I would be happy for Hazza to watch and to take photo's of myself and Sexy Bum having fun"

Just a small point but personally I find it harder to connect and to address people who are anonymous.

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough


"Look at your profile bitching sayin if this and that not gonna bother , who give u right to pick and choose and slate people

They're not bitching at you, they are telling you that they find it difficult to understand your posts. I'm also findings it quite difficult to understand your posts. Not a criticism just a fact."

This

You have asked if your profile is intimidating, my answer would be no...it doesn't say very much

However...

Your posts on the forum often tend to come across as aggressive and like d*unken rants. sorry

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

If English is not your first language I would include that on your profile.

Why?

Because if it's not your first language then people will give you more room for grammar mistakes.

As for a second language it's a fantastic effort. But it also is borderline poor if English is your first language and people can assume that it's a poor effort.

You are also very spiky.

If you ask for an opinion you will get one, don't attack those who recommend improvements. You ask for opinions.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Ps I get the irony with my post having punctuation all over the place.

I'm going to blame my mobile for that.

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By *ornysxcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Maldon

If your profile intimidating? Simple answer no, but as others have said your forum posts reflect on you as much as your profile. This post in particular has shown aggression when there was no need for any, for the amount of vari's you have we can't see what your partincularly picking holes in. If your talking about let downs an no shows then that's always going to happen, it's part of the life, both here and vanilla world. Also to state you don't need this site then the simple answer is go, if it frustrates you that much then leave it behind. Your swinging life and experiences are what you make them, only you can solve an issue you have. In the mean time

Happy swinging

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