FabSwingers.com forum: How do you spot a fake?!

By *asker10 OP Man
over a year ago

london

With seemingly endless threads on fake profiles/ fake kik accounts, thought I would create a thread to help us ween out a few fakes. Whilst we can't name and shame, I think it's important people know what to look out for and what sends the alarm bells ringing. Below is a little start list which I guess people can add too.

No verifications

Not photo verified

No pictures

Photos not the same

Obviously these are not a cert in confirming who you are speaking too is not real. Just help you in bring aware! Not really sure of fakes intentions, but it's horrible to think they are ruining things for the rest if us and wasting a lot of people's time. Let's help one another stop getting caught out!

Happy fabbing.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

Being photo verified doesn't mean much to me to be honest. I'm not photo verified - never got round to it! I'm much more likely to meet site supporters than those who aren't but it's not an absolute rule. I'll even meet new unverified folk.

My perception is that there are more fake couple and single female profiles than single male profiles but I may be wrong.

I've had my suspicions raised by profiles - some have proved correct and others I was wrong about - can't beat a good gut instinct in my case!

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By *asker10 OP Man
over a year ago

london

"Being photo verified doesn't mean much to me to be honest. I'm not photo verified - never got round to it! I'm much more likely to meet site supporters than those who aren't but it's not an absolute rule. I'll even meet new unverified folk.

My perception is that there are more fake couple and single female profiles than single male profiles but I may be wrong.

I've had my suspicions raised by profiles - some have proved correct and others I was wrong about - can't beat a good gut instinct in my case! "

Think your right. Especially with couple and single female profiles being the biggest fakes. Wonder if it's just troublemakers or wether there is a sexual kick got off it? Fake profiles that is.

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By *.Man1510Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I've found a few times when chatting to people, if they reply to chat with a just a few words or even one word reply, that they make me suspicious. Be it they are fake / time wasters..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found a few times when chatting to people, if they reply to chat with a just a few words or even one word reply, that they make me suspicious. Be it they are fake / time wasters.. "

Maybe they answer in chat with one word or short sentence, as they checked the other sides' profile and didn't find a match... We get loads of unwanted pm's in chat from guys living 100's of miles away and also who don't read a profile...So answer with hi and bye...Does that make us time wasters???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disagree with your list OP sorry. Those may be true sometimes but definitely not always.

Trust your gut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they only come online for short periods at night /looking for outdoor or car fun only / or want to meet now / or if you look at their furniture or decor in their pictures you can get a good impression whether they are sadly fake or more than likely in a relationship or just desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we have used kik we've asked for a pic with the person holding a piece of paper with our profile name on it. Needless to say a fake can't provide and quickly disappears.

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By *.Man1510Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I've found a few times when chatting to people, if they reply to chat with a just a few words or even one word reply, that they make me suspicious. Be it they are fake / time wasters..

No not at all. What I mean is people engaging in chat, exchanging quite a few messages. Total respect to one word reply if saying along the lines of no not interested.

Im sure you are not time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they ask for more pics and they dont have any lol.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

No verifications

Not photo verified

No pictures

Photos not the same

Happy fabbing.I don't think anyone with common sense has to worry too much about fake profiles . As with most things in life you have to make a judgement call.

If you want to be on the safe side , just assume that any profile of less than fifteen lines is fake . You all need to take into account the content of the profile and how it is presented .

I never bother looking at verifications . Why would it be of any interest whom others have meet . I much prefer discretion as to people listing whom they have meet .

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By *asker10 OP Man
over a year ago

london

"I've found a few times when chatting to people, if they reply to chat with a just a few words or even one word reply, that they make me suspicious. Be it they are fake / time wasters.. "

I agree with this, especially if you have sent some depth in your message to them. Almost that over typing will give them away!

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By *asker10 OP Man
over a year ago

london

"Disagree with your list OP sorry. Those may be true sometimes but definitely not always.

Trust your gut. "

If you read the whole post, I do make it clear they are not a definite indicator. The whole post is just attempting to highlight some of the key areas people could watch out for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the fake men to be very enthusiastic and flattering towards me. They have a few pics taken from a blog somewhere and try to coerce into sexual chat.

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

My perception is that there are more fake couple and single female profiles than single male profiles but I may be wrong.

I've had my suspicions raised by profiles - some have proved correct and others I was wrong about - can't beat a good gut instinct in my case! "

Think this just about answers it in one.

Photo verified means nothing if other things are in place. Veris from cam mean nothing except that there was a person in the other end.

To us, plenty of pics and a good number of veris from meeting makes us feel comfortable. Once we're coming to meet an exchange of numbers for final confirmation.

In our experience, breaking from the above has almost always ended in disappointment.

If someone has all the assets but no veris, smell a rat. If they're new and have loads of face pics on show, smell a rat. Not always correct but gut instinct goes along way.

If someone seems too good to be true, they probably are.

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen

I rarely take notice of a male being photo verified. It's not unheard of them to post a private photo of themselves to gain the verification and then post fake ones on their public profile.. *sigh* the lengths that some people go to.

For me.. Warning bells ring with people using Kik.. Married or attached.

Guys who have been on the site a while with no veris..

And generally, if something looks to good to be true.. It normally is.

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Would say ,cant accommodate on a guys profile tends to mean ,living with someone(not always accurate) Day time meets only and not on weekends . No pictures ,short and sweet intro .And super fast on the invite .

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

"If you want to be on the safe side , just assume that any profile of less than fifteen lines is fake . You all need to take into account the content of the profile and how it is presented ."

We must be fake then - just over a line on ours.

I know they say size is important but I think that applies to knob size, not profile text.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you tell people how to spot fakes, then the fakes will take steps to avoid doing what you have told everyone is a way to spot them, thus making the job of spotting fakes much harder

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Would say ,cant accommodate on a guys profile tends to mean ,living with someone(not always accurate) Day time meets only and not on weekends . No pictures ,short and sweet intro .And super fast on the invite . "
doesn't mean they are fake though, does it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me think the best way is to Skype.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one yesterday confess that his profile was fake. It was a couple where the female half was much younger and I declined for that reason.

He then confessed that he had been on his own for a year but kept the profile because he liked it when guys on here messaged who they thought was the female talking dirty when it was really a guy in his 40's getting his rocks off.....needless to say I reported him!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

We had one last night who despite protestations of being 100% genuine claimed to be 24 years old, claimed to have once been in the special forces but then went on to admit he was 39 but thought if he lied about being younger he may get a meet...like that wouldn't have been noticeable....oh...but apparently he really was in the special forces....yeah right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just been told Im a fake as my age and pics don't match up

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Disagree with your list OP sorry. Those may be true sometimes but definitely not always.

Trust your gut.

If you read the whole post, I do make it clear they are not a definite indicator. The whole post is just attempting to highlight some of the key areas people could watch out for.

Unfortunately, this will also alert fakes to what indicators to avoid

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Nope , but its a good start , can always say send a picture of your missus holding todays sun open on page 4 , should be hard to google that sort of image

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not sure why Kik always gets a beating on here - I like to use it once I've established a connection - easier to quickly exchange messages, saves giving out your mobile number (which has caused problems in the past) etc.

Fakes are usually obvious - single word answers, desire to get your email address, place names mispelt, using different names, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No verifications

Not photo verified

No pictures

Photos not the same

sometimes people have been registered on the site and haven't used it in a long time, so may not be verified

I haven't even pic verified this profile, doesn't mean I'm fake

some people choose not to have pics on fab

my photos vary being here 3yrs, my hair colour changes, style changes, got more wobbly bits, I look different at times

so I have no cause to think someome maybe fake till they say they are going to a club I'm at and no show, even that I've been proved wrong as they showed up the next time

I've hosted a few parties at clubs and I do like to give people a chance, I have verified people that I thought oh they are fake,sometimes my gut feeling can be wrong

(I don't meet private so it's easier for me )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Disagree with your list OP sorry. Those may be true sometimes but definitely not always.

Trust your gut.

If you read the whole post, I do make it clear they are not a definite indicator. The whole post is just attempting to highlight some of the key areas people could watch out for.

Apologies, I certainly wasn't saying it was wrong. Just giving my opinion. I'm a wrong 'un so don't listen to me. I know fuck all.

Fair point.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Disagree with your list OP sorry. Those may be true sometimes but definitely not always.

Trust your gut.

If you read the whole post, I do make it clear they are not a definite indicator. The whole post is just attempting to highlight some of the key areas people could watch out for.

Unfortunately, this will also alert fakes to what indicators to avoid

Think we've been on Fab over three yeras now. There have been thousands of 'how to spot a fake!' threads in that time, all giving good advice. And yet, lots of the fakes keep doing the same easy to spot things!

If we are going to discuss it, the risk that you make it easier for people to be fake and convincing is always there...but it doesn't matter that much really.

As has been said above, you can't beat instinct. Appraising a profile and communication with the cool head of logic rather than the hot head of lust is always helpful here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on site for a while and no veris

Before you single men go off on one about how hard it is to meet there are so many socials you can go too so you can meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My perception is that there are more fake couple and single female profiles than single male profiles but I may be wrong.

I've had my suspicions raised by profiles - some have proved correct and others I was wrong about - can't beat a good gut instinct in my case! "

I think your right about this. We have had a few fakes who are couples and single ladies. It is gut instinct and normally after a few messages you can tell. That's our experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am here for a few years. I find its gut feeling. When I was with a lady friend we had couples who did not turn up too. It's easy sort out who is marrie or in a relationship. They disappear at the weekends. Fakes ruin it for everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rKentMan
over a year ago

South East

Google search images is a good way.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I have seen quite a few new profiles recently where the profile text always ends the same.... "I am a straight woman looking to meet men" - no pics - I am very suspicious of these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have seen quite a few new profiles recently where the profile text always ends the same.... "I am a straight woman looking to meet men" - no pics - I am very suspicious of these.

It's just standard text that Fab inserts if the person hasn't entered any profile text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they can't at least have a quick chat on the phone then I wouldn't bother leaving the flat for a meet arranged via messages on here....never had my time wasted yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it isn't ......you can leave it blank , 4 more I mailed yesterday have all left the site

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"No it isn't ......you can leave it blank , 4 more I mailed yesterday have all left the site "
did you tell them to fuck off?

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By *igblackdickMan
2 weeks ago

Broxburn

This girl think I’m stupid. A guy message me that I should come over to have fun with her girlfriend but the guy is in Milton Keynes and the girl is in Thurso Scotland and the guy gave me her girlfriend phone number and we chat and she send me every video and pictures and I told her I want to speak to her on WhatsApp video call that’s when she started giving me story that she will contact me in the afternoon. But she need all my pictures of my body that’s when I knew the person is catfish. How can a guy message around guy and give me her girlfriend contact number. There are a lot of catfish on fab swingers becareful folks.

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By *heelerMan
2 weeks ago

Northants

Those that say joined 6hours ago last on 6 hours ago with a silhouette every legitimate one stays on for while and gets to know the site

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By *umbriaman1962Man
2 weeks ago

outside of penrith

If it sounds too good to be true it probably is that my rule for anything on Web swinging or shopping

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By *carlettxWoman
2 weeks ago

Essex

Those that have been in over a year with little or no info or pics other than of a super hot body, maybe one super old veri that they won’t show

Ones that send immediately want to move to kik or telegram

Couples that are all of the above but only the man chatting / available

The list is endless

10+ years on here I spot em a mile off

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
2 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I spotted one today! I called him out and low and behold “poof!” He was gone.

Borders around the photos suggested they were screenshots that he hadn’t cropped down enough.

I feel clever now 🤓

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By *itygamesMan
2 weeks ago

with handbags and trainers , check the zip and stitching , dead giveaway

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I had a fake not long ago.

Now if I chat to anyone, I ask for an image of them holding up their keys. You’d be surprised at the questions you get as to why you’d want the image. Hilarious because being a woman you tons of unsolicited dic pics sent

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