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By *orth South Divide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, never.

My daughter is nearly 8 and I would never play at home while she was there.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never, just don't think it's right but each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally no.

But it's upto you.

Our daughter is 18 now but regularly have our grandkids over and wouldn't dream of it.

In fact we don't invite anyone to our house full stop.

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By *ntandchantCouple
over a year ago

Spalding

For us we have made the decision not to play at home. Our boys USUALLY sleep all night but there is never any guarantees. They could wake with a nightmare or ill and then the fun would have to end rather abruptly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally no.

But it's upto you.

Our daughter is 18 now but regularly have our grandkids over and wouldn't dream of it.

In fact we don't invite anyone to our house full stop. "

Btw the grandkids are not daughters kid's lol

Son's who is late 20,s

Dunno why I need to say but just am.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Its a no for us too. We would rather have the night out too as a bit of our time or date night if you might call it that. Just too risky ours are both under 4 as well so still wake at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a deffo no ...we have been ask loads of times to play with singles and couples while kids in bed ermmm no way ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the other side, we would never arrange a meet with people who will have their children in the house at the time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From the other side, we would never arrange a meet with people who will have their children in the house at the time..."

Agreed.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

HELL NO!

Not for fear of them waking up but because our home is their haven, their safe place.

I have no doubt me and Bradley could handle ourselves if we invited someone into our home who turned out to be violent, unhinged or dangerous but it's one thing to put yourself at risk, and a completely different level to do the same to your kids.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"HELL NO!

Not for fear of them waking up but because our home is their haven, their safe place.

I have no doubt me and Bradley could handle ourselves if we invited someone into our home who turned out to be violent, unhinged or dangerous but it's one thing to put yourself at risk, and a completely different level to do the same to your kids."

Paranoia at it's best? Maybe.

But I do not want any stranger under the same roof as my kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. swinging and family life are 2 completely seperate entities. It's one of the reasons we don't accommodate even when the kids are away, and why I tend not to meet anyone too local.

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By *esi tardkaCouple
over a year ago

acton

We have a very strong policy of no playing at home ... We have lil kids and don't want them getting up and seeing our activities ...

We enjoy clubs as it gives us the added security and we can play freely ...Even we don't do house-meets,very seldom we do hotel meets . We love swinging but don't want to feel guilty of exposing our lifestyle to our kids ..

Most of our family and friends do know we swing .,,

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We never did when our daughter was at home with us i can be very vocal when swinging don,t no why it is that way

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By *ntirelyuptoyouCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Done it once, meet had travelled a long way but babysitter had let us down. Explained to meet and we agreed they could come over and we'd just have a bottle of wine. Despite our best intentions there was a quick on the sofa, with the door shut and a chair up against it.

Wasn't enjoyable for either of us to be honest and not something I'd do again. I want to be relaxed and loud

At the same time I quite like meeting couples who have kids as they understand that if you need to cancel last minute it's unlikely your a time waster and more likely a 6 year old with an ear infection, or a 3 year old with a penny up their nose lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a meet couple of years ago, went to hers presumed she was alone as no mention of kids. Anyway, we're getting down to it on the sofa, passionately kissing away and there was a loud voice from upstairs " Mum, I can't get to sleep!" My erection went down quicker than a popped balloon but she was saying "it'll be ok, she won't come downstairs"

Completely put me off to be honest

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By *orth South Divide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Okay, you're all pretty much thinking along the lines I've been thinking. We pondered it a bit but, like you, I think it is a kind of invasion of a family space.

We chose to try out this lifestyle but I think we should probably avoid allowing it and home/family life to mix or overlap in any way.

So far, our experience has been three trips to Xtasia, which were all brilliant. We are currently in talks with a babysitter who would be prepared to stay overnight so that we can get back late and then have a bit of a lie in in the morning. Other than that, we're reliant on mine or N's parents, both of whom live a couple of hours away...

Thanks for your views.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation? "

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation? "

No kids here. But no way would we visit any house where children were present.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been invited to play with couples who have young children at home. We wont do it. No matter how much we get told. " they sleep all night. It won't be a problem".

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Would NEVER EVER consider it.

For one if my kids walk in on me and my husband having sex is one thing, but for them to walk in on mum getting spit roast by a complete stranger is quite another.

I would also Never go to someone's house if they had their kids at home, no matter their age or the fact that once they are asleep they never wake up.

Any parent knows that is a lie, just because my kids normally sleep right through doesn't mean they never got up, have taken ill or just need a glass of water.

I respect any child's mental well being over a shag.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation? "

I didn't play when my children were teenagers! As a single woman at the time with two daughters at home inviting a strange man into their home, even when they were asleep was a chance I wasn't prepared to take.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"HELL NO!

Not for fear of them waking up but because our home is their haven, their safe place.

I have no doubt me and Bradley could handle ourselves if we invited someone into our home who turned out to be violent, unhinged or dangerous but it's one thing to put yourself at risk, and a completely different level to do the same to your kids."

That was my view too, hence why I never did it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally no.

But it's upto you.

Our daughter is 18 now but regularly have our grandkids over and wouldn't dream of it.

In fact we don't invite anyone to our house full stop.

Btw the grandkids are not daughters kid's lol

Son's who is late 20,s

Dunno why I need to say but just am. "

Because you know how judgmental we all are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we wouldn't but know what it's like when restricted

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By *hitedukeMan
over a year ago

derby

Not a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to play no as inappropriate, however have had a couple back for a drink only - to do anything more for us would seem wrong but of course different strokes for different folks!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation? "

I don't often invite people to my house with my housemate around, there would be no way I'd have anyone around if I had kids unless I was very comfortable with them

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We tried it once with a couple we have had lots of meets with and trust.

It just didn't work, couldn't relax at all and now the kids are a little older it just wouldn't be right if one of them woke and see or heard something they shouldn't. To much of a risk...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

Have played at a friends house downstairs while their son was asleep, but he's still in a cot and there's a child gate at the top, so there was no chance of him coming down and walking in on us. Once he's a little older, wouldn't feel comfortable doing it.

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By *orth South Divide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


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No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

"

Now, I can fully understand a lot of the views expressed on this thread (although I do not necessarily agree with all of them). This one, however, I find frankly bizarre. Why on earth would I conceal the fact that I have kids or that they sleep at night?

And ON AN INTERNET FORUM!!!???

Try reading mumsnet (and, believe it or not, there are several threads on swinging over there).

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

I don't think it's odd posting that you have kids in the house on an internet forum. It would be odd if you said you kept them somewhere else.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

Now, I can fully understand a lot of the views expressed on this thread (although I do not necessarily agree with all of them). This one, however, I find frankly bizarre. Why on earth would I conceal the fact that I have kids or that they sleep at night?

And ON AN INTERNET FORUM!!!???

Try reading mumsnet (and, believe it or not, there are several threads on swinging over there).

"

You obviously haven't been on here very long. There are some serious freaks on here..... trust me

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation?

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

"

If I hadn't have read this forum I would never have known that kids sleep at night in their homes!next thing you'll be telling me is that they have their own beds also.

Sinister times indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our kids are 5 and 7.. We never play when they are in the house... We will accommodate, but only if the kids are staying away for the night. This stops us playing as much as we would like, but to be honest this bothers other people more than it does us. Xxx

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By *ntirelyuptoyouCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation?

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

If I hadn't have read this forum I would never have known that kids sleep at night in their homes!next thing you'll be telling me is that they have their own beds also.

Sinister times indeed.

"

Do they really? I'd of never known. I hope none of the freaks on here find out I have kids at home in their beds, who know what they may do

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

There's no need..there's many other places to play that don't involve kids in the vicinity

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation?

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

If I hadn't have read this forum I would never have known that kids sleep at night in their homes!next thing you'll be telling me is that they have their own beds also.

Sinister times indeed.

"

I detect a faint note of sarcasm.

Paedophiles don't only groom children they groom parents too and the net is a really good place to establish an "innocent" connection.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

Now, I can fully understand a lot of the views expressed on this thread (although I do not necessarily agree with all of them). This one, however, I find frankly bizarre. Why on earth would I conceal the fact that I have kids or that they sleep at night?

And ON AN INTERNET FORUM!!!???

Try reading mumsnet (and, believe it or not, there are several threads on swinging over there).

"

See my response above.

And mumsnet is hardly the benchmark of good sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one should have others in the house for sex when children are present. Those who do are wrong simples!

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By *andL-LiverpoolCouple
over a year ago

Huyton

We are going to obviously get lynched now, but we do, we have meets at home with our young children asleep upstairs, been doing it the past year and had no issues.

We find it very difficult to get sitters and yes their safety is always paramount but believe me when I say we do not just meet with anyone.

They have been and always will be more important than a shag but when you are as careful in vetting our meets and do socialise first then I do not see the issue.

We always inform any potential meets of the situation and have never had anyone say it's a problem. So there are more than just us on here that Do it xx

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By *orth South Divide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Okay, here are a few scenarios:

1. It is presumably fine to tuck the kids up, have friends over and have a meal, drink a few bottles of wine, put on some music etc.

2. It is fine for mum and dad to have sex (obviously).

3. It is fine to have friends to stay in the guest room, who then have sex.

4. Is it fine for a single mum or dad to have a person over who they then have sex with?

I think the last one is where we start to enter more difficult territory. But, surely none of you would say that a single mum or dad cannot have sex ever again.

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By *orth South Divide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"No one should have others in the house for sex when children are present. Those who do are wrong simples!"

I wonder whether it gets cold up there on your moral highground.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"No one should have others in the house for sex when children are present. Those who do are wrong simples!

I wonder whether it gets cold up there on your moral highground."

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By *orth South Divide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"

I detect a faint note of sarcasm.

Paedophiles don't only groom children they groom parents too and the net is a really good place to establish an "innocent" connection. "

This is true, but it can happen in any social situation, can't it? Internet or not. And in any walk of life.

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Okay, here are a few scenarios:

1. It is presumably fine to tuck the kids up, have friends over and have a meal, drink a few bottles of wine, put on some music etc.

2. It is fine for mum and dad to have sex (obviously).

3. It is fine to have friends to stay in the guest room, who then have sex.

4. Is it fine for a single mum or dad to have a person over who they then have sex with?

I think the last one is where we start to enter more difficult territory. But, surely none of you would say that a single mum or dad cannot have sex ever again. "

I'm single and have never had anyone to stay overnight. I would only do that with a trusted bf, which im not interested in at the moment. That's just me though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single mum of 3 my play time is very limited. However I wouldn't dream of inviting strangers in to my home. Even if they weren't there.

That said with someone I was comfortable with and know well I would invite them over. Though it would have to be after midnight and they would have to be gone long before my boys got up. And let's face it. Who wants to do that!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Okay, here are a few scenarios:

1. It is presumably fine to tuck the kids up, have friends over and have a meal, drink a few bottles of wine, put on some music etc.

2. It is fine for mum and dad to have sex (obviously).

3. It is fine to have friends to stay in the guest room, who then have sex.

4. Is it fine for a single mum or dad to have a person over who they then have sex with?

I think the last one is where we start to enter more difficult territory. But, surely none of you would say that a single mum or dad cannot have sex ever again. "

No I wouldn't say that.

All I would say to anybody with young children is be careful who you invite into your home.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

I detect a faint note of sarcasm.

Paedophiles don't only groom children they groom parents too and the net is a really good place to establish an "innocent" connection.

This is true, but it can happen in any social situation, can't it? Internet or not. And in any walk of life. "

True but why increase the odds?

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By *orth South Divide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"As a single mum of 3 my play time is very limited. However I wouldn't dream of inviting strangers in to my home. Even if they weren't there.

That said with someone I was comfortable with and know well I would invite them over. Though it would have to be after midnight and they would have to be gone long before my boys got up. And let's face it. Who wants to do that!

"

This is actually a really good point imo. I'm not talking about strangers but people who you have met and feel you trust, like any other friends you might have to stay, only these friends are fucking with you

Oh, and we have some friends who are both divorced from their first partners and then got married. She had kids from her first marriage; he didn't. But, whilst they were going out, he would go over after her young kids had gone to bed and sleep with her, but the proviso was that he had to be out of the house by 5 am, before the kids woke up.

They've now been married for 12 years and have a child of their own and those kids are now at university.

But, based on some of the responses here, their situation was totally wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single mum of 3 my play time is very limited. However I wouldn't dream of inviting strangers in to my home. Even if they weren't there.

That said with someone I was comfortable with and know well I would invite them over. Though it would have to be after midnight and they would have to be gone long before my boys got up. And let's face it. Who wants to do that!

This is actually a really good point imo. I'm not talking about strangers but people who you have met and feel you trust, like any other friends you might have to stay, only these friends are fucking with you

Oh, and we have some friends who are both divorced from their first partners and then got married. She had kids from her first marriage; he didn't. But, whilst they were going out, he would go over after her young kids had gone to bed and sleep with her, but the proviso was that he had to be out of the house by 5 am, before the kids woke up.

They've now been married for 12 years and have a child of their own and those kids are now at university.

But, based on some of the responses here, their situation was totally wrong.

"

You asked a question. People are giving their opinions on what you asked.

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By *ntirelyuptoyouCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Do whatever works for you and screw what any forumite thinks. I don't think any parent would invite complete strangers into their homes and put their child at risk.

But some swingers have very stringent vetting processes before inviting people to play, other have long term buddies who they trust. In the case do what your all comfortable with. We are all grown ups and what works for some won't be others taste but who has he right to judge!

In my humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single mum of 3 my play time is very limited. However I wouldn't dream of inviting strangers in to my home. Even if they weren't there.

That said with someone I was comfortable with and know well I would invite them over. Though it would have to be after midnight and they would have to be gone long before my boys got up. And let's face it. Who wants to do that!

This is actually a really good point imo. I'm not talking about strangers but people who you have met and feel you trust, like any other friends you might have to stay, only these friends are fucking with you

Oh, and we have some friends who are both divorced from their first partners and then got married. She had kids from her first marriage; he didn't. But, whilst they were going out, he would go over after her young kids had gone to bed and sleep with her, but the proviso was that he had to be out of the house by 5 am, before the kids woke up.

They've now been married for 12 years and have a child of their own and those kids are now at university.

But, based on some of the responses here, their situation was totally wrong.

"

If I was to start dating and enter in to a relationship with someone. Having them at mine late at night would be my only option. I don't have the luxury of family on tap to babysit. It would then be even more time before they got to meet my sons and even then I'd have to be convinced it was going to last. I've been divorced 6 years now and my boys have never met anyone. Although now they tell me they want me to find someone and go on dates. It's terrifying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would NEVER EVER consider it.

For one if my kids walk in on me and my husband having sex is one thing, but for them to walk in on mum getting spit roast by a complete stranger is quite another.

I would also Never go to someone's house if they had their kids at home, no matter their age or the fact that once they are asleep they never wake up.

Any parent knows that is a lie, just because my kids normally sleep right through doesn't mean they never got up, have taken ill or just need a glass of water.

I respect any child's mental well being over a shag."

Especially the last sentence.

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By *orth South Divide OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"You asked a question. People are giving their opinions on what you asked.

"

Yes, that's right and (in the main) I respect their opinions. I think I was just throwing out a scenario that I have personal knowledge of to provoke (not in a bad way, just interrogating a bit) some of those opinions.

I should stress that I DO respect other opinions and have found the response very useful. It certainly has encouraged a fuller discussion with my wife about this.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation?

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

If I hadn't have read this forum I would never have known that kids sleep at night in their homes!next thing you'll be telling me is that they have their own beds also.

Sinister times indeed.

I detect a faint note of sarcasm.

Paedophiles don't only groom children they groom parents too and the net is a really good place to establish an "innocent" connection. "

Lmao!

What the hell has grooming got to do with kids being asleep in their homes at night?that's obvious about kids all over the planet!..lets hope no paedos are reading this. What other really obvious humans behaviour should we refrain from discussing do you think?thank the lord your on here to protect us all from obviousness that is going on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation?

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

If I hadn't have read this forum I would never have known that kids sleep at night in their homes!next thing you'll be telling me is that they have their own beds also.

Sinister times indeed.

I detect a faint note of sarcasm.

Paedophiles don't only groom children they groom parents too and the net is a really good place to establish an "innocent" connection.

Lmao!

What the hell has grooming got to do with kids being asleep in their homes at night?that's obvious about kids all over the planet!..lets hope no paedos are reading this. What other really obvious humans behaviour should we refrain from discussing do you think?thank the lord your on here to protect us all from obviousness that is going on."

I'm glad you appreciate my help I do think you're being deliberately obtuse though.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation?

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

If I hadn't have read this forum I would never have known that kids sleep at night in their homes!next thing you'll be telling me is that they have their own beds also.

Sinister times indeed.

I detect a faint note of sarcasm.

Paedophiles don't only groom children they groom parents too and the net is a really good place to establish an "innocent" connection.

Lmao!

What the hell has grooming got to do with kids being asleep in their homes at night?that's obvious about kids all over the planet!..lets hope no paedos are reading this. What other really obvious humans behaviour should we refrain from discussing do you think?thank the lord your on here to protect us all from obviousness that is going on.

I'm glad you appreciate my help I do think you're being deliberately obtuse though."

I know I'm using it to counter your hysteria.

I'm thinking of removing all references of me being a dad,I'm going to make sure I'm never seen in public again with my daughter just in case some paedo see's us.i wouldn't want to increase the chances like.gonna keep her locked in a box.no paedo can get her then.thank the lord for the fab forum.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation?

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

If I hadn't have read this forum I would never have known that kids sleep at night in their homes!next thing you'll be telling me is that they have their own beds also.

Sinister times indeed.

I detect a faint note of sarcasm.

Paedophiles don't only groom children they groom parents too and the net is a really good place to establish an "innocent" connection.

Lmao!

What the hell has grooming got to do with kids being asleep in their homes at night?that's obvious about kids all over the planet!..lets hope no paedos are reading this. What other really obvious humans behaviour should we refrain from discussing do you think?thank the lord your on here to protect us all from obviousness that is going on.

I'm glad you appreciate my help I do think you're being deliberately obtuse though.

I know I'm using it to counter your hysteria.

I'm thinking of removing all references of me being a dad,I'm going to make sure I'm never seen in public again with my daughter just in case some paedo see's us.i wouldn't want to increase the chances like.gonna keep her locked in a box.no paedo can get her then.thank the lord for the fab forum. "

I honestly don't think it's me being hysterical.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation?

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

If I hadn't have read this forum I would never have known that kids sleep at night in their homes!next thing you'll be telling me is that they have their own beds also.

Sinister times indeed.

I detect a faint note of sarcasm.

Paedophiles don't only groom children they groom parents too and the net is a really good place to establish an "innocent" connection.

Lmao!

What the hell has grooming got to do with kids being asleep in their homes at night?that's obvious about kids all over the planet!..lets hope no paedos are reading this. What other really obvious humans behaviour should we refrain from discussing do you think?thank the lord your on here to protect us all from obviousness that is going on.

I'm glad you appreciate my help I do think you're being deliberately obtuse though.

I know I'm using it to counter your hysteria.

I'm thinking of removing all references of me being a dad,I'm going to make sure I'm never seen in public again with my daughter just in case some paedo see's us.i wouldn't want to increase the chances like.gonna keep her locked in a box.no paedo can get her then.thank the lord for the fab forum.

I honestly don't think it's me being hysterical."

I'm just being cautious these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. swinging and family life are 2 completely seperate entities. It's one of the reasons we don't accommodate even when the kids are away, and why I tend not to meet anyone too local."

Exactly like me....its amazing how many people don't understand why I don't accommodate even after explaining x

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By *ichardBarrowMan
over a year ago

grantham

No, not for us.

I would not relax knowing there was a child in the house.

That would also be for a visit as well, it would put everyone on edge I would imagine, it would me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation?

No and I would never post the fact that I had children at home and their sleeping habits on an internet forum either.

If I hadn't have read this forum I would never have known that kids sleep at night in their homes!next thing you'll be telling me is that they have their own beds also.

Sinister times indeed.

I detect a faint note of sarcasm.

Paedophiles don't only groom children they groom parents too and the net is a really good place to establish an "innocent" connection.

Lmao!

What the hell has grooming got to do with kids being asleep in their homes at night?that's obvious about kids all over the planet!..lets hope no paedos are reading this. What other really obvious humans behaviour should we refrain from discussing do you think?thank the lord your on here to protect us all from obviousness that is going on.

I'm glad you appreciate my help I do think you're being deliberately obtuse though.

I know I'm using it to counter your hysteria.

I'm thinking of removing all references of me being a dad,I'm going to make sure I'm never seen in public again with my daughter just in case some paedo see's us.i wouldn't want to increase the chances like.gonna keep her locked in a box.no paedo can get her then.thank the lord for the fab forum.

I honestly don't think it's me being hysterical."

You're not. Some people are just (insert appropriate word here).

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation? "

I see a few couples on a regularly basis in these circumstances and have also seen single ladies . I am just a normal visitor to the house and adjust my behaviour to the circumstances I.e . keep noise to a minimum and don't ring the door bell..

As action will be in the lounge , it will either be locked or blocked shut . Should children upstairs wake up ,I can be dressed promptly and just become a normal visitor.

On the occasions where children have woken up and not gone back to sleep I have simply left the house discretely .

Providing you behave appropriately and recognise that the children have priority in any household , no issues should arise . You just need to remember to keep noise levels down

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"No. swinging and family life are 2 completely seperate entities. It's one of the reasons we don't accommodate even when the kids are away, and why I tend not to meet anyone too local."

Exactly our take and we never mix the two.

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By *edsguyMan
over a year ago

south of Bedford

I've been offered meets with kids asleep upstairs, it's right out of my comfort zone I'd sooner not meet up than be put in a awkward situation

Get a hotel room or meet at a club if kids are asleep at home!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't have kids, but if we did, the answer to the OPs question would be NO. Kids may sleep well but if they are going to wake up, you can bet your arse they will wake up a time when you least want them to do so.

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"It seems we aren't the only one with young kids who do swinging. We have met people at clubs who have their parents looking after the children (as do we) and have spoken to several couples on Fab in a similar situation.

So, I have a question. Would you invite couples to join you at your own home for a bit of fun while your kids were asleep? Our kids are 9 and 5 respectively. They are normally in bed and asleep by 8.30 pm at the latest and nearly always sleep soundly throughout the night.

So, would YOU invite a couple to play at your place if you were in our situation? "

Afraid not, there's always the chance they can wake up and walk in on you.

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

Different strokes, each to their own and all that jazz...I've had meets in couples homes with their kids in bed, not just one couple either but quite a few!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We feel the people who say no because of the possible danger to their children are paranoid and perhaps should seek help as they could possibly be harming their children’s development.

Do those same people refuse access to workmen, friends or family for the same reason.

After all there is more chance of being attacked by family than a stranger.

Having said that we do suggest it is not advisable to hold meets at your own house when the start walking (this includes teenagers and above) in case they walk into a room where a meet is taking place.

Obviously for older children there is the chance to discuss your sexual activities and partners with them prior to indulging in the practice, but that would depend on how your family views such things.

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

The question of whether we would or wouldn't invite anyone over is moot - in a house with kids of a range of ages, it simply is not possible to tidy sufficiently well (and keep it tidy for more than 12 bloody milliseconds) to invite anyone over, without the worry of them getting an unexpected piece of lego stuck painfully somewhere embarrassing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never, I can't get out much now because eldest has moved out, so once a month I be going to a swinging club, I would never accept a stranger be it a single man or couple in my house while my littlin is there

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We feel the people who say no because of the possible danger to their children are paranoid and perhaps should seek help as they could possibly be harming their children’s development.

Do those same people refuse access to workmen, friends or family for the same reason.

After all there is more chance of being attacked by family than a stranger.

"

Do you genuinely believe that?

I didn't ever refuse access to workmen etc because they were unlikely to be in my home at night, when my children were asleep.

There is more chance of being abused by family than by a stranger but do you know some of the reasons for that? Family have access, they have knowledge of where the kids will be and when, they have the trust of the parents.....all the things that you would potentially hand to any swinging meets you invite into your home.

If you feel that's paranoid and I need help I don't care, it makes sense to me.

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

Yes, we would. But ONLY the friends we have made here (and elsewhere). Real life friends now (we go to each other's weddings, christenings & funerals). The least amount of time we have known any of these friends is 5 years, most 7-10 years plus so they're not strangers.

Our families are both several hundred miles away and we don't have a babysitter. Little legs can't get out of the cot or past the stairgate and all play would be downstairs. For us it's the only option and in these circumstances I don't see the issue.

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We feel the people who say no because of the possible danger to their children are paranoid and perhaps should seek help as they could possibly be harming their children’s development.

Do those same people refuse access to workmen, friends or family for the same reason.

After all there is more chance of being attacked by family than a stranger.

Do you genuinely believe that?

I didn't ever refuse access to workmen etc because they were unlikely to be in my home at night, when my children were asleep.

There is more chance of being abused by family than by a stranger but do you know some of the reasons for that? Family have access, they have knowledge of where the kids will be and when, they have the trust of the parents.....all the things that you would potentially hand to any swinging meets you invite into your home.

If you feel that's paranoid and I need help I don't care, it makes sense to me."

Agreed!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Yes, we would. But ONLY the friends we have made here (and elsewhere). Real life friends now (we go to each other's weddings, christenings & funerals). The least amount of time we have known any of these friends is 5 years, most 7-10 years plus so they're not strangers.

Our families are both several hundred miles away and we don't have a babysitter. Little legs can't get out of the cot or past the stairgate and all play would be downstairs. For us it's the only option and in these circumstances I don't see the issue.

*Her* "

Her interesting point...normally I would not even consider playing if kids were in house (I have with a couple before)

If I knew the people eg for a long time then I would be more comfortable in playing if that makes sense

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By *sVictoryWoman
over a year ago

HULL

I have children and I would personally say no to that one. I know the idea of being caught could be kinky but being caught in a delicate situation by my kiddies (or someone else's) is a bit of a mood killer for me

Plus, I think of the conversation I would have to have with mine should she see anything. I'm all for education and being open and honest with my kids but I think I'd find it and to explain some things to mine just yet.

Happy playing though guys do whatever is best for you and yours.

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By *sVictoryWoman
over a year ago

HULL


"The question of whether we would or wouldn't invite anyone over is moot - in a house with kids of a range of ages, it simply is not possible to tidy sufficiently well (and keep it tidy for more than 12 bloody milliseconds) to invite anyone over, without the worry of them getting an unexpected piece of lego stuck painfully somewhere embarrassing. "

Hahahahahaha yes!!! I know that fear

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We feel the people who say no because of the possible danger to their children are paranoid and perhaps should seek help as they could possibly be harming their children’s development.

Do those same people refuse access to workmen, friends or family for the same reason.

After all there is more chance of being attacked by family than a stranger.

Do you genuinely believe that?

I didn't ever refuse access to workmen etc because they were unlikely to be in my home at night, when my children were asleep.

There is more chance of being abused by family than by a stranger but do you know some of the reasons for that? Family have access, they have knowledge of where the kids will be and when, they have the trust of the parents.....all the things that you would potentially hand to any swinging meets you invite into your home.

If you feel that's paranoid and I need help I don't care, it makes sense to me."

Me too.

Also I think the dynamics are different if you're a couple, but as a single woman with young daughters in the house I'd rather the paranoia of keeping strangers out of my children's home.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"We feel the people who say no because of the possible danger to their children are paranoid and perhaps should seek help as they could possibly be harming their children’s development.

Do those same people refuse access to workmen, friends or family for the same reason.

After all there is more chance of being attacked by family than a stranger.

Do you genuinely believe that?

I didn't ever refuse access to workmen etc because they were unlikely to be in my home at night, when my children were asleep.

There is more chance of being abused by family than by a stranger but do you know some of the reasons for that? Family have access, they have knowledge of where the kids will be and when, they have the trust of the parents.....all the things that you would potentially hand to any swinging meets you invite into your home.

If you feel that's paranoid and I need help I don't care, it makes sense to me.

Me too.

Also I think the dynamics are different if you're a couple, but as a single woman with young daughters in the house I'd rather the paranoia of keeping strangers out of my children's home."

The concept that you must be paranoid and need help because you won't invite strangers around to your house for sex while your kids are there is laughable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We feel the people who say no because of the possible danger to their children are paranoid and perhaps should seek help as they could possibly be harming their children’s development.

Do those same people refuse access to workmen, friends or family for the same reason.

After all there is more chance of being attacked by family than a stranger.

Do you genuinely believe that?

I didn't ever refuse access to workmen etc because they were unlikely to be in my home at night, when my children were asleep.

There is more chance of being abused by family than by a stranger but do you know some of the reasons for that? Family have access, they have knowledge of where the kids will be and when, they have the trust of the parents.....all the things that you would potentially hand to any swinging meets you invite into your home.

If you feel that's paranoid and I need help I don't care, it makes sense to me.

Me too.

Also I think the dynamics are different if you're a couple, but as a single woman with young daughters in the house I'd rather the paranoia of keeping strangers out of my children's home.

The concept that you must be paranoid and need help because you won't invite strangers around to your house for sex while your kids are there is laughable. "

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

No.

Not in your situation and I wouldn't play with people when their kids were home.

My line in the sand is drawn. Firmly.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Yes, we would. But ONLY the friends we have made here (and elsewhere). Real life friends now (we go to each other's weddings, christenings & funerals). The least amount of time we have known any of these friends is 5 years, most 7-10 years plus so they're not strangers.

Our families are both several hundred miles away and we don't have a babysitter. Little legs can't get out of the cot or past the stairgate and all play would be downstairs. For us it's the only option and in these circumstances I don't see the issue.

*Her* "

Wish I'd read the whole thread now!

I know exactly what you mean, but you're my real life friends so I think that's probably slightly different for us cause we've known each other for donkies. I was talking about general swinging situations when you don't know people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a singleton - I wouldn't entertain visiting a couple if kids were there - although I would if they were childless. what did annoy me (and which is why i now refuse to host couples) is when I was previously speaking to some about meeting and hosting they would make all the demands and ignore the fact that the host says what goes and what doesn't where they live. I live in non smoking block and I had the male of a couple who smoked said "well I'll just stick me head out of the window and do what I like". I wouldn't dream of showing that level of disrespect to whoever hosted me...

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI


"Personally no.

But it's upto you.

Our daughter is 18 now but regularly have our grandkids over and wouldn't dream of it.

In fact we don't invite anyone to our house full stop.

Btw the grandkids are not daughters kid's lol

Son's who is late 20,s

Dunno why I need to say but just am. "

I did wonder for a second.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not. We wouldn't meet at anyone elses home either if any children were there. We have declined meets in the past for this very reason.

Mrs.

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By *ou212Woman
over a year ago

Egremont

Should this question really be asked???? It should be No No No No to everybody who has kids. Not only because they could wake up but more importantly their safety should be number 1 not fun. In my opinion for people to be inviting swingers to theirs when children are in the house then it should be a safeguarding issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U all have valid points , and all people take these into mind and worry about every outcome , usually can tell before invite if people weird and some people have children that wont walk in , if u all no meet if children there then hardly do nothing at all , and all wud die before anything happen to their child , dont judge unless reason too , weigh risks it u who make boundries

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