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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, I'm new to this and finding it so hard to get started off. I mean, obviously it was always going to be hard for a single male on here.

It seems that some people want a full story writing in the first message and if they don't like it you will get nowere.

I have tried everything, I also have a picture of me holding paper with my fab name on to prove I'm legit.

Any help/tips is appreciated.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Oh a real single male? Who on earth would pretend to be one of them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hahaha about 50% of the single males on here. Come on, help me out haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats the job got to do with showing your pics?.If a meet was to happen they will need to see you.And maybe say why you cannot accomodate as a lot think you might have an unknowing partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't jump off the page.

Have a look at some of the successful chaps on here and take some tips.

Once you get a good name as a decent single you will find it easier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I work with the public so I wouldn't want everybody knowing I was on a swingers website. I'm sure you are the same. And yes of course they would but once I was sure they was genuine and wouldn't see them whilst working.

I also still live with my parents unfortunately but would always get a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't jump off the page.

Have a look at some of the successful chaps on here and take some tips.

Once you get a good name as a decent single you will find it easier. "

Ditto.

All the best

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I imagine once I get my first verification it may be a lot easier.

Thanks for your help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I will say to everyone, you need patience lol.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Even people in high profile, public jobs can string a few sentences together that tell people about them and what they're looking for.

Most also seem able to take pictures that give an idea of their bodies - clothed and unclothed - without identifying themselves.

A great message will likely be ignored if the receiver views a profile and sees jack shit to interest/attract them.

A

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

The pic you have is pointless, the text starts negative with the well worn "I have s job" thing. We all do

Then all is does is say "hey women, pick me and do stuff for me."

It's not a good profile, sorry

If you want a full critique send me your usual opening message to a woman and I'll give you an honest opinion on that too

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

In a nutshell, you're asking for things to happen not giving reasons for us to want things to happen.

If that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain a little...

I have chatted to plenty of nice girls on here but it takes time... Commenting on other threads helps spark convo and show your normal I suppose.

But without a decent pic it's hard to get noticed.

I always send a pic attached to any message I send but then thereve got to actually fancy taking it further.. if they don't that's down to them

My little ad... Haha*

Any woman free to chat.... Send me a wink n I'll send u some hot pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The pic you have is pointless, the text starts negative with the well worn "I have s job" thing. We all do

Then all is does is say "hey women, pick me and do stuff for me."

It's not a good profile, sorry

If you want a full critique send me your usual opening message to a woman and I'll give you an honest opinion on that too

"

How nice of you !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree with every single comment, i have updated my profile text because it was painful to read.

I will spend the rest of my night taking pictures I guess.. As for chat up lines.. I have none but other threads on the forum it depends entirely on the couple/lady because I'd never dream of saying 'fancy a shag' but I guess I'm new to this and I'm used to having to chat women up before having sex with them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The pic you have is pointless, the text starts negative with the well worn "I have s job" thing. We all do

Then all is does is say "hey women, pick me and do stuff for me."

It's not a good profile, sorry

If you want a full critique send me your usual opening message to a woman and I'll give you an honest opinion on that too

"

Hahaha I love your honesty. Thanks for your help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am in the same situation , I have a high profile position and been on TV a few times so really can't afford to put my pictures on here I prefer the odd club coz everyone is pissed to notice .

That's what you got to do , don't meet privately , you will get busted sooner or latter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked at your profile like you had just messaged me. To be honest I didn't read it. Your pics are odd and creepy. Sorry.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE


"As I will say to everyone, you need patience lol."

yep maybe so, but without a decent profile with a few photo's ..no hope..

shame there's not a sticky post to help user's write a profile ,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I looked at your profile like you had just messaged me. To be honest I didn't read it. Your pics are odd and creepy. Sorry. "

Your boyfriends budgie smugglers are creepy, but hey, we are all entitled to our own opinion.

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By *heGateHouseBoltonWoman
over a year ago

Salford


"I looked at your profile like you had just messaged me. To be honest I didn't read it. Your pics are odd and creepy. Sorry.

Your boyfriends budgie smugglers are creepy, but hey, we are all entitled to our own opinion. "

That defiantly wont get you a meet

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By *heGateHouseBoltonWoman
over a year ago

Salford


"I looked at your profile like you had just messaged me. To be honest I didn't read it. Your pics are odd and creepy. Sorry.

Your boyfriends budgie smugglers are creepy, but hey, we are all entitled to our own opinion.

That defiantly wont get you a meet "
I think they are very sexy xx

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"I looked at your profile like you had just messaged me. To be honest I didn't read it. Your pics are odd and creepy. Sorry.

Your boyfriends budgie smugglers are creepy, but hey, we are all entitled to our own opinion. "

But remember, YOU are the one who asked for feedback! You can't just choose advice that you like, surely you have to take all advice into consideration without getting arsey if you don't like it!

PS - I like her boyfriends pants!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I'm new to this and finding it so hard to get started off. I mean, obviously it was always going to be hard for a single male on here.

It seems that some people want a full story writing in the first message and if they don't like it you will get nowere.

I have tried everything, I also have a picture of me holding paper with my fab name on to prove I'm legit.

Any help/tips is appreciated."

Hang yourself lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Hahaha I love your honesty. Thanks for your help."

No point being polite about it and not helping. I find that decent guys like the genuine feedback and make changes

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Big improvement to your profile I'd say. I even fabbed a pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea one of your pics is totally distorted so a waste including it. The other one I'd prefer a chopped off head shot over one with a smiley face (but that's just me). Would also be good to hear less about what you want and more about what you can offer...

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK


"So, I'm new to this and finding it so hard to get started off. I mean, obviously it was always going to be hard for a single male on here.

It seems that some people want a full story writing in the first message and if they don't like it you will get nowere.

I have tried everything, I also have a picture of me holding paper with my fab name on to prove I'm legit.

Any help/tips is appreciated."

You've only got 2 problems

1 you're male

2 you're single.

Good luck and you will needs lots of patience, even to get a chat.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"So, I'm new to this and finding it so hard to get started off. I mean, obviously it was always going to be hard for a single male on here.

It seems that some people want a full story writing in the first message and if they don't like it you will get nowere.

I have tried everything, I also have a picture of me holding paper with my fab name on to prove I'm legit.

Any help/tips is appreciated.

You've only got 2 problems

1 you're male

2 you're single.

Good luck and you will needs lots of patience, even to get a chat. "

3. Can't accommodate

4. Because of no. 3 people will think your cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I'm new to this and finding it so hard to get started off. I mean, obviously it was always going to be hard for a single male on here.

It seems that some people want a full story writing in the first message and if they don't like it you will get nowere.

I have tried everything, I also have a picture of me holding paper with my fab name on to prove I'm legit.

Any help/tips is appreciated.

You've only got 2 problems

1 you're male

2 you're single.

Good luck and you will needs lots of patience, even to get a chat.

3. Can't accommodate

4. Because of no. 3 people will think your cheating "

Umm, not being able to accommodate may well be your main problem, as for the rest- patience is a virtue.

Good luck

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