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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello everyone

We have previously been on Fabswingers under a different username. 4 or 5 weeks ago something happened resulting in us cancelling our membership which will become clear in a moment.

We both entered this lifestyle some 18 months ago, 100% sure we were ok with what we were about to do. Cutting a long story short, my once prudish wife who refused to even consider swinging at one point, loved being a Hotwife from day one. She was so glad she was brave enough to give it a try and wished she had given it a go years earlier when I first introduced the idea.

We took a break in the summer so we could try for a baby, and luckily she became pregnant quite quickly. But even after getting pregnant she was still interested in one final roll of the dice before taking a break for a good year or two.

Come September we hit a very busy period with both work and the house. Her pregnancy had really kicked in, with tiredness and emotions affecting her somewhat. This when coupled with a big renovation project we were doing in the house really took its toll on her and put a bit of stress on us, with me becoming a little snappy and irritable as I do when working pretty much 8am to 10pm with work and the renovating.

At the end of October my then 13 weeks pregnant wife dropped a massive bombshell. The conversation started with her saying she wished to stop swinging, to which I agreed with if that was what she wanted, we would stop. Then there was a massive outpouring of emotions explaining that she had feelings of regret and disgust with herself and had serious concerns for the future of our marriage after what had happened - her breaking the vows that she made in front of God. She now _iewed them as worthless.

She demanded I delete the Fabswingers account immediately and erase every picture and video from our encounters. She wanted everything gone.

To say I was shocked was an understatement, I was very upset and confused, not to say regretting the day I ever mentioned swinging. I was searching for reasons why my wife who totally loved her naughty encounters would suddenly be filled with such feelings.

Things have calmed down a little some 5 weeks on now, but our sex life is non-existent, we haven't had any act of intimacy for 10 weeks now.

I have basically rejoined the website to come on here and get some advice.

Has any other couple experienced times like these?

Your support and advice would be greatly appreciated.

J

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

So sorry to hear this and wish you and your wife the best for the future.

My advice is delete and spend the time with yiour loved one.

She may just need time and you being on here is likely to worsen not better the situation.

Again

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your reply.

I have been trying my best to be there for her and things are improving slowly, however she will not discuss what she said a few weeks ago, it has just been swept under the carpet.

She doesn't know about this account, it has been set up purely to come on here and see if anyone else has encountered this kind of thing?

I'm sure it is the pregnancy hormones that have kicked it off, but that doesn't mean it will automatically go away once the pregnancy calms down.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a woman and mother of 2 children my advice would be this. Respect your wife and the fact that she is carrying your child and delete your account on here.

During pregnancy a woman will feel a range of emotions that a man could never grasp. A body that was once sexy and provocative becomes an incubator for the most precious thing in her life. The fact your wife no longer wishes her body to be seen as a sex object is perfectly understandable.

Listen to what the poster above has said and spend time nurturing the woman you love. If you do this then once the pregnancy is over and the baby is established then chances are she'll turn to you one day and say 'honey...lets go swinging again!'

However, chances are if she discovers you on here despite her asking the opposite then she'll feel hurt and angry and your swinging days...perhaps dare I say it....your sexy days with your wife....will be over in no time.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

She asked you to delete a couple profile.

You should respect that.

Sorry only my opinion.

And again good luck to you both

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Have to say that you being back on here probably isn't the wisest decision you have made if you really want to stay in your marriage.

Yes, she might come back around to the idea of swinging again in the future but for the moment I would concentrate on her and not be on somewhere she doesn't want you to be on.

That's my advice, for what it's worth, but only you can decide for yourself on what to do.

Good luck!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Then I personally think you will make things worse if she finds out you have made another account.

Talk to your wife.....only she knows what is going on in her head.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

PS your profile is a total lie going by what you have said and you should delete it.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"PS your profile is a total lie going by what you have said and you should delete it."

I was going to put that too but resisted lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Chicken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"PS your profile is a total lie going by what you have said and you should delete it.

I was going to put that too but resisted lol "

I third that. Didn't like to be quite so blunt but now Rugby's said it I'll stand behind her...she's harder than me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh thats nice....he asks for help and support...which I offer quite politely I thought and now I'm blocked for my troubles!!! Charming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope i've said nowt and im blocked too.Must be a general thing.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"PS your profile is a total lie going by what you have said and you should delete it.

I was going to put that too but resisted lol

I third that. Didn't like to be quite so blunt but now Rugby's said it I'll stand behind her...she's harder than me! "

Can I stand behind you too? As Rugby is harder than me as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh thats nice....he asks for help and support...which I offer quite politely I thought and now I'm blocked for my troubles!!! Charming "

Nah…. the profiles been suspended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh really? Don't feel quite so upset now. I'll nip back to the other thread then where the guy told me to fuck off to my friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's disappeared from what I can see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh really? Don't feel quite so upset now. I'll nip back to the other thread then where the guy told me to fuck off to my friends "

your joking?? What an ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh really? Don't feel quite so upset now. I'll nip back to the other thread then where the guy told me to fuck off to my friends

your joking?? What an ass"

lol yeah but Rugby saved me and removed it! Good job she's around I'd get myself into some right shit otherwise! She's like a forum dinnerlady who's skirt I can hide behind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cynical old bugger tonight I am - I just thought as soon as I read it that his wife is pregnant, doesnt want to swing any more, doesnt want sex, so he thought he'd come on here, post on the forums, try the lost little boy getting no sex, wife doesnt understand me approach and hopefully get us all to give him a sympathy fuck.

If he was that bothered about his wife, why not talk to her, instead of coming and asking a bunch of swingers for advice

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

lol @ 41nite and BB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She is pregnant, hormones and emotions all over the place ad mother nature and nesting kicking in. You need to be there for her and her every need. Talk to her and reasure her. Shes not thinking about being a "single/free person she is thinking like a mother. And a lot of women go off sex when they ae pregnant.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


" She's like a forum dinnerlady who's skirt I can hide behind! "

When I think of Rugby, she's not wearing a skirt.

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