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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

how hard can it be to get a reply from the opposite sex?? I think men must out number women 14 million to one one this site, any other guys having problems....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how hard can it be to get a reply from the opposite sex?? I think men must out number women 14 million to one one this site, any other guys having problems....? "

As you'll see by my post yeah! it IS hard. Women have the whip hand (Some time literally)but patience is the word. I am (As has been advised) being true to myself and just waiting on things. Hardest part is getting those first meets and verifications. Some won't meet a guy without them but if everyone did that NO new guys would ever get a meet.....

Keep at it OP and good luck.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Nope, but I don't say 'can I wipe my cock on ya curtains?'.

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

Patience

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Same post different day

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Everytime I see a thread entitled "is it just me?" I automatically want to say "Yes" no matter what the question!

But getting back to your original post OP. Single women, even ones who arent verified and don't have pictures up can get more than 100 messages a day. If you are messaging sexy ones with good pics, they must be totally overwhelmed. Also if they say thanks but nit thanks, you are likely to reply to them with a message of some sort which will further fill their inbox.

Try not to take it personally OP. I haven't looked at your profile, but have a look at it yourself and think if it can be improved, get involved in the forums and chat rooms, look out for socials and get yourself to a club. All that work will pay off eventually.

Keep your chin up, and good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So that's were I'm going wrong!!joke... I've been very polite and genuine, tried all sorts of tactics but all I keep seeing is deleted deleted deleted... Oh and one even blocked me and I only sent one message..women have a major upper hand in this game..I think it's quicker to die of old age then get a reply let alone a chat....good old pam and her five sisters are looked favourite at the moment....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'is it me?' Threads never go well....

Yeah though,could well be you :/

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

OP, you've been here 3 weeks. What were your expectations? Knee deep in clunge from day 4?

Don't be impatient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So that's were I'm going wrong!!joke... I've been very polite and genuine, tried all sorts of tactics but all I keep seeing is deleted deleted deleted... Oh and one even blocked me and I only sent one message..women have a major upper hand in this game..I think it's quicker to die of old age then get a reply let alone a chat....good old pam and her five sisters are looked favourite at the moment.... "

'tactics' might be where your going wrong...Sounds like your fishing.

Just be yourself, don't overthink and chat to people normally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Its definitely you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need patience lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you've been here 3 weeks. What were your expectations? Knee deep in clunge from day 4?

Don't be impatient. "

Just waiting for shag to post the usual "you need patience, lol"

Bound to arrive soon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bugger...he slipped in while I wasn't looking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 weeks here is a very short time indeed. How are you finding the ladies you send messaged to? What I mean by this is do you see someone via the chat room and think I'll message her or via reading the forums and speaking to people or through the search facility?

Yeah the ladies do have the choice of being choosy here but so do you. Read the profile and ask relevant questions relating to the profile.

Most importantly just be your self and understand that fact it may take sometime but posting your frustrations here might not help your case. Good luck though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bugger...he slipped in while I wasn't looking!"

lmao don't tell me you didn't feel a thing

He is famous for is Haribo to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, you've been here 3 weeks. What were your expectations? Knee deep in clunge from day 4?

Don't be impatient.

Just waiting for shag to post the usual "you need patience, lol"

Bound to arrive soon!"
lol yes I did post it just before you typed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how hard can it be to get a reply from the opposite sex?? I think men must out number women 14 million to one one this site, any other guys having problems....? "
no I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bugger...he slipped in while I wasn't looking!"

Lmao. Perfect timing.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Ross is a fairly low population density area, restricting numbers who may see you as locally appropriate. Plus you've been here just a few days, so it's really early.

Knowing past form, I'd consider removal of mentioning a Mr Grey on profiles.

Your profile has to be as great as it can be. People look when they receive messages.

This is best not assumed as an easy sex site if you're male. It's better if supplementing a wider swinging lifestyle, not in isolation if you're a newbie.

Final tip - you haven't done this but if ever tempted to moan etc in the forums, do not allow yourself. Soak hands in sulphuric acid if needed, to stop yourself.

Good luck!

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By *nnocentguyMan
over a year ago

LINCOLN

It took like 2 years for me to get a meet and it'll probably take another two years for another one. Just the way it goes.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"how hard can it be to get a reply from the opposite sex?? I think men must out number women 14 million to one one this site, any other guys having problems....? "
Your profile does not really tell members anything about you . We know that you are twenty nine and looking for sex. Members need a lot more information than that in order to be interested in a profile ..

What are you hobbies and interests ?. What are your unique selling features that would make a member put you on a short list to be considered for a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It took like 2 years for me to get a meet and it'll probably take another two years for another one. Just the way it goes."
A lady on our updates at weekend was on Fab 3 hours and had her first verifercation.That just about sums this site up for single blokes im afraid.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands


"So that's were I'm going wrong!!joke... I've been very polite and genuine, tried all sorts of tactics but all I keep seeing is deleted deleted deleted... Oh and one even blocked me and I only sent one message..women have a major upper hand in this game..I think it's quicker to die of old age then get a reply let alone a chat....good old pam and her five sisters are looked favourite at the moment.... "

Many people tend to read the profile first before reading messages and find it easier to block than to have vile messages sent back to them.

We're not permitted to critique people's profiles unless they request us to do, but you need to make your profile to stand out from the crowd as mich as possible to get noticed and hopefully a reply.

Good luck!

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By *inkyfun2013Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

To be honest your profile is dull, poorly written and full of spelling mistakes.

A couple of awkward looking photos showing a messy room don't exactly scream 'come and get me'!

Read the profiles of other guys and take on board the helpful comments - then delete your profile unless you're going to bother to make an effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how hard can it be to get a reply from the opposite sex?? I think men must out number women 14 million to one one this site, any other guys having problems....? "

No. Lol

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