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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve seen contradicting comments now on what to say in a profile and messages. One one hand I see “We’re not impressed by in-your-face attitude2, “Dick pics”, “Lewd and vulgar suggestions straight up”, but then I see people saying “Just saying hello how are you and small talk won’t gain my interest”. So what’s a guy supposed to think? If I put dick pics on my profile along with a description that says “I can fuck like a stallion” I’m sounding like a Pratt plus it’s a turn off in a message, but if I have a considered and calm yet descriptive profile and send polite and respectful messages...I’m boring and not worth replying to.

So...What SHOULD I say? What DO you expect?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I can tell you what NOT to expect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take the approach that you think is the right one, like attracts like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about half and half? Or just look around and see what people have and find a nice balance that your good with.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If your message suits the person you've sent it to then you'll hit it off. This is why it's important to read the whole profile, not just perve the pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be honest here, there are loads of guys on here that i find attractive, funny, interesting, hot, etc but i do not reply to them just because i can't reply to everyone.

Like the above says, be yourself to attract like. And these will probably be your best meets too.

Yeah some people don't like cock pics, if you like showing it off then do that so you find people who enjoy looking at it. Not everyone likes the same things, why not just be yourself so that you get the best meets coz then you're more likely to get repeat meets too and have a lot more fun.

If you're after one off, shit sex then fake yourself and your profile, coz us women can tell if you lied or not and we don't wanna meet you again if you have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't get me wrong, NOT expecting everyone to like me OR a flood of offers and replies. True If I was a woman it's a different world. Seen a new one tonight, she’s had 2 meets and fun already after just 4 days (Good on her)but as a single male it IS a steep hill. But now I’m slightly confused. If I’m in-your-face I’m too pushy, but if I’m NOT in-your-face I’m too dull !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If your message suits the person you've sent it to then you'll hit it off. This is why it's important to read the whole profile, not just perve the pics."

I always do, and I always read the profile otherwise I may insult OR waste their and my time.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Basically, OP, you can't know what people like - what person A loves, person B hates so don't try to have a profile or approach that you think A and B will like because neither of them will. Just be yourself - it's your profile, put on it what YOU want, not what you think other people want. Hang in for person c who has a friend person d, who invites you to a party with E and F and there you go....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Don't get me wrong, NOT expecting everyone to like me OR a flood of offers and replies. True If I was a woman it's a different world. Seen a new one tonight, she’s had 2 meets and fun already after just 4 days (Good on her)but as a single male it IS a steep hill. But now I’m slightly confused. If I’m in-your-face I’m too pushy, but if I’m NOT in-your-face I’m too dull !!!"

You're only too pushy for some, not all. You're only too dull for some, not all. I do wish someone would ask me what you shouldn't expect as in my first post.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Hi OP, you might be misinterpreting what people are looking for. I woukd say the majority aren't looking for dick pics, they aren't looking for lewd, "Im gonna cum on your face" messages, but also some aren't looking for JUST "hi, hows it going".

Some profiles are easier to craft a message to than others. Read the profile, see if there is a "key word" like some people say "put Peaches in the title so I know you read this". Without that you'll likely get deleted. Look for something interesting or unique about their profile and mention it, ask some questions, not too many though and tell them a little bit about yourself. Perhaps something along the lines of how long you have been on fab, what you are looking for, if you like to meet in clubs, if so which ones, rough times you might be able to meet (i work nightshifts, or have the kids at weekends etc.) and perhaps suggest a social in a neutral place, close to theirs or yours and take it from there, no pressure.

Hope that helps, good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi OP, you might be misinterpreting what people are looking for. I woukd say the majority aren't looking for dick pics, they aren't looking for lewd, "Im gonna cum on your face" messages, but also some aren't looking for JUST "hi, hows it going".

Some profiles are easier to craft a message to than others. Read the profile, see if there is a "key word" like some people say "put Peaches in the title so I know you read this". Without that you'll likely get deleted. Look for something interesting or unique about their profile and mention it, ask some questions, not too many though and tell them a little bit about yourself. Perhaps something along the lines of how long you have been on fab, what you are looking for, if you like to meet in clubs, if so which ones, rough times you might be able to meet (i work nightshifts, or have the kids at weekends etc.) and perhaps suggest a social in a neutral place, close to theirs or yours and take it from there, no pressure.

Hope that helps, good luck "

Thanks yes all suggestions help. In the case of key words I've seen that and read ALL profiles before I message (After all I could carefully craft a message only to find I'm excluded due to age, location, and the message is blocked. Also I don't let failures get me down, some times it's just a matter of a 'Block delete' due to overload; although the first woman on here I encountered was sooooo unrealistic. Said Hi, then demanded a face pic, then blocked me because I didn't send one...How COULD I I'd been on 5 mins and no admin had reviewed it yet!!! Some time you just have to let it go over your head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've answered your own question mate. You can't win on here. Some will like one thing some the other. But spin it round. Because some like One way some don't you also can't lose if you think about it.

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By *ark074Man
over a year ago

nottingham

Here's the truth.

Come home from work and go straight to bed. Sleep till midnight. Especially on a weekend.

If it's Saturday night be prepared to stay awake till dawn.

Do not drink. You will be unable to travel.

Post that you are available today.

Repeat for at least six months.

You may get lucky.

You may get luckier still and receive a veri.

Then Boom! You're up and running.

If after six months of no luck move to a more densely populated area.

And repeat.

Or just go the pub. Like what people did in the olden days.

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve seen contradicting comments now on what to say in a profile and messages. One one hand I see “We’re not impressed by in-your-face attitude2, “Dick pics”, “Lewd and vulgar suggestions straight up”, but then I see people saying “Just saying hello how are you and small talk won’t gain my interest”. So what’s a guy supposed to think? If I put dick pics on my profile along with a description that says “I can fuck like a stallion” I’m sounding like a Pratt plus it’s a turn off in a message, but if I have a considered and calm yet descriptive profile and send polite and respectful messages...I’m boring and not worth replying to.

So...What SHOULD I say? What DO you expect?

"

You do realise that the logical step up from just saying hello/small talk is not whipping your cock out right?

There's a fairly large region called "interesting conversation" in between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about half and half? Or just look around and see what people have and find a nice balance that your good with. "

Half an half?

"Hi there, nice weather were having BTW here's my erect genitalia for your perusal"

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