FabSwingers.com forum: Stay or go

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am in a pickle.

I've messaged everyone in my search criteria. Most didn't read the message (yellow box). The replies I have had have either been "not my type" or nasty insults.

There is no one left to message, and my search criteria is very broad.

So as there is no one left to message

Do I stay or go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you can answer that. Maybe just hide your profile and take a break for a while.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

You should consider going to socials and club meets rather than just depending on messaging.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

You've had 3 meets in 4 weeks - not exactly sure what the problem is? That is sooooo much more than 99% of guys get! But, only you can decide whether it is time to throw in the towel or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only you can answer that. Maybe just hide your profile and take a break for a while."
I vote go sad to see it but reduce the odds for the others to 50,000-1

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've tried messaging people holding social events, again no reply. I've been to xstasia, felt uncomfortable tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've tried messaging people holding social events, again no reply. I've been to xstasia, felt uncomfortable tbh.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I've tried messaging people holding social events, again no reply. I've been to xstasia, felt uncomfortable tbh. "

i've only just spotted that you have had 3 meets in 4 weeks!

I can't see what your problem is if you managed to get those meets!

There currently seems to be an outbreak of threads on the forums from guys asking for help who clearly don't need it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've tried messaging people holding social events, again no reply. I've been to xstasia, felt uncomfortable tbh. "
hey clubs are about sex for sake of sex they are clicky and very expensive for guys for me no point ,be patient and be nice have a sense of humour that helps ,good luck

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I've tried messaging people holding social events, again no reply. I've been to xstasia, felt uncomfortable tbh. "

see if you can get to jaydees on a newbie night or on a friday..get known in person socially...its such a different atmosphere to xtasia, both different places ( horses for courses) .. you havent been here very long..join in the forums, get known..ive never seen you about before.. try to relax and go with the flow, join in for the fun of it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need a break! Hide your profile and do something else!

Similar posts won't be doing you any favours. If you're that need buy a flesh light

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

The Clash - Should I Stay Or Should I Go

www.youtube.com/watch?v=GqH21LEmfbQ

If I were you, I'd keep making self-referential threads about supposed inadequacies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cock says Stay, head says leave

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"The Clash - Should I Stay Or Should I Go

www.youtube.com/watch?v=GqH21LEmfbQ

If I were you, I'd keep making self-referential threads about supposed inadequacies.

bloody love that song

if i go there will be trouble...if i stay there will be double...just learn to love trouble i say..but then im ever the non conformist and dont give a flying fuck about 'rules'..

firestarter..twisted firestarter...hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cock says Stay, head says leave "

Probably time to have a break if you're thinking with your cock!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 meets in 4 weeks is doing rather well!! I've had nothing what so ever so really just become use to enjoying looking at some gorgeous women on here instead.

Generally to get along on here as a male you need to be exceptional. VWE and ripped etc. If you're not then there's not much chance. That's the shallow reality of the site.

It is what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cock says Stay, head says leave "

Then leave... Bye (but we all know you won't really)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 meets in 4 weeks is doing rather well!! I've had nothing what so ever so really just become use to enjoying looking at some gorgeous women on here instead.

Generally to get along on here as a male you need to be exceptional. VWE and ripped etc. If you're not then there's not much chance. That's the shallow reality of the site.

It is what it is

I don't agree with having to be exceptional, VWE, ripped etc. There are many guys with veris in the hundreds who are just normal average guys but clearly make the effort to stand out.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"3 meets in 4 weeks is doing rather well!! I've had nothing what so ever so really just become use to enjoying looking at some gorgeous women on here instead.

Generally to get along on here as a male you need to be exceptional. VWE and ripped etc. If you're not then there's not much chance. That's the shallow reality of the site.

It is what it is

I don't agree with having to be exceptional, VWE, ripped etc. There are many guys with veris in the hundreds who are just normal average guys but clearly make the effort to stand out. "

God I can't stand ripped VWE guys so that disproves that I do however look for a little effort to have read my profile and wrote a decent message out of the people that contact me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It certainly applies to Cumbria that's for sure. I see your point nationally however. I'm going by personal experience mind.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I am in a pickle.

I've messaged everyone in my search criteria. Most didn't read the message (yellow box). The replies I have had have either been "not my type" or nasty insults.

There is no one left to message, and my search criteria is very broad.

So as there is no one left to message

Do I stay or go? "

You've messaged everyone?

What if they all said "yes - meet me Saturday!!".

What would you do? How would you decide who to meet and how would you let the others down gently without ruining your chances of a future meet?

This always makes me chuckle as people rarely seem to see the negative side to a scattergun approach. Openly stating you've messaged 'everybody' and that you have 'very broad' criteria may also be seen as adopting an any holes a goal approach.

But if the Internet Pproach isn't working and you don't feel comfortable face to face?

Try pubs and vanilla clubs at closing time.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Maybe you should be a bit more 'picky' !!!!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"3 meets in 4 weeks is doing rather well!! I've had nothing what so ever so really just become use to enjoying looking at some gorgeous women on here instead.

Generally to get along on here as a male you need to be exceptional. VWE and ripped etc. If you're not then there's not much chance. That's the shallow reality of the site.

It is what it is

I don't agree with having to be exceptional, VWE, ripped etc. There are many guys with veris in the hundreds who are just normal average guys but clearly make the effort to stand out. "

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By *akedwife12Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I am in a pickle.

I've messaged everyone in my search criteria. Most didn't read the message (yellow box). The replies I have had have either been "not my type" or nasty insults.

There is no one left to message, and my search criteria is very broad.

So as there is no one left to message

Do I stay or go? "

You have been on here four weeks and you have put up a thread like this?

Single guys are in abundance on here and we are sure you are fully aware of that.

Only you can decide, but if you don't have any patience we think best if you leave.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

"I am in a pickle.

I've messaged everyone in my search criteria. Most didn't read the message (yellow box). The replies I have had have either been "not my type" or nasty insults.

There is no one left to message, and my search criteria is very broad.

So as there is no one left to message

Do I stay or go? "

Have you considered it might be your profile - there are a few things on there I would change, like the 'guarantee' which has sense of arrogance about it. Also the 'looks and size are not really important' - which supports Obi's comment about the image you portray that every hole is a goal, or anything with a pulse as long as you get your fun.

Rather than leave, change your strategy

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"Cock says Stay, head says leave "

My cock says.... go... My head says .. whatever you think is right. No one else can decide.

These rarely end well ..

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I am in a pickle.

I've messaged everyone in my search criteria. Most didn't read the message (yellow box). The replies I have had have either been "not my type" or nasty insults.

There is no one left to message, and my search criteria is very broad.

So as there is no one left to message

Do I stay or go?

You have been on here four weeks and you have put up a thread like this?

Single guys are in abundance on here and we are sure you are fully aware of that.

Only you can decide, but if you don't have any patience we think best if you leave. "

If you use the green arrow it's not his first thread on the subject of having no luck

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By *akedwife12Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I am in a pickle.

I've messaged everyone in my search criteria. Most didn't read the message (yellow box). The replies I have had have either been "not my type" or nasty insults.

There is no one left to message, and my search criteria is very broad.

So as there is no one left to message

Do I stay or go?

You have been on here four weeks and you have put up a thread like this?

Single guys are in abundance on here and we are sure you are fully aware of that.

Only you can decide, but if you don't have any patience we think best if you leave.

If you use the green arrow it's not his first thread on the subject of having no luck "

We just don't understand what pickle he is in?

Was he expecting fucks to be flying in after a couple of weeks??

He has done far better in three weeks than a lot of guys have done in a year on here, so maybe his thread should have been saying how great the site is for him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am in a pickle.

I've messaged everyone in my search criteria. Most didn't read the message (yellow box). The replies I have had have either been "not my type" or nasty insults.

There is no one left to message, and my search criteria is very broad.

So as there is no one left to message

Do I stay or go?

You have been on here four weeks and you have put up a thread like this?

Single guys are in abundance on here and we are sure you are fully aware of that.

Only you can decide, but if you don't have any patience we think best if you leave.

If you use the green arrow it's not his first thread on the subject of having no luck

We just don't understand what pickle he is in?

Was he expecting fucks to be flying in after a couple of weeks??

He has done far better in three weeks than a lot of guys have done in a year on here, so maybe his thread should have been saying how great the site is for him?"
hehe its another publicity stunt and its worked ,good one

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I am in a pickle.

I've messaged everyone in my search criteria. Most didn't read the message (yellow box). The replies I have had have either been "not my type" or nasty insults.

There is no one left to message, and my search criteria is very broad.

So as there is no one left to message

Do I stay or go?

You have been on here four weeks and you have put up a thread like this?

Single guys are in abundance on here and we are sure you are fully aware of that.

Only you can decide, but if you don't have any patience we think best if you leave.

If you use the green arrow it's not his first thread on the subject of having no luck

We just don't understand what pickle he is in?

Was he expecting fucks to be flying in after a couple of weeks??

He has done far better in three weeks than a lot of guys have done in a year on here, so maybe his thread should have been saying how great the site is for him?"

He clearly had higher expectations of the site of the

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's this green arrow?

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By *akedwife12Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"What's this green arrow? "

Press it and see.

All previous threads that someone has posted in are there for all to see.

It kind of shows how people are thinking, if they keep moaning about the same old thing etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's this green arrow?

Press it and see.

All previous threads that someone has posted in are there for all to see.

It kind of shows how people are thinking, if they keep moaning about the same old thing etc."

Where is the green arrow,

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I am in a pickle.

I've messaged everyone in my search criteria. Most didn't read the message (yellow box). The replies I have had have either been "not my type" or nasty insults.

There is no one left to message, and my search criteria is very broad.

So as there is no one left to message

Do I stay or go?

You have been on here four weeks and you have put up a thread like this?

Single guys are in abundance on here and we are sure you are fully aware of that.

Only you can decide, but if you don't have any patience we think best if you leave.

If you use the green arrow it's not his first thread on the subject of having no luck

We just don't understand what pickle he is in?

Was he expecting fucks to be flying in after a couple of weeks??

He has done far better in three weeks than a lot of guys have done in a year on here, so maybe his thread should have been saying how great the site is for him?hehe its another publicity stunt and its worked ,good one

What's the saying " no such thing as bad publicity".

Some of these threads have a whiff of Gerald ratner..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The green arrow of destiny and truth. It. Can make you look a hero or at the opposite end, it can make you look a prize plonker.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The green arrow of destiny and truth. It. Can make you look a hero or at the opposite end, it can make you look a prize plonker."

Where do I find the green arrow of destiny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that the op had 3 meets early on has probably given him an unrealistic expectation of what to expect .

That's understandable , so now it's time for a reality check .

Be patient , message those looking for a meet , and don't waste time with random messages .

All will be well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The fact that the op had 3 meets early on has probably given him an unrealistic expectation of what to expect .

That's understandable , so now it's time for a reality check .

Be patient , message those looking for a meet , and don't waste time with random messages .

All will be well

Maybe you are right.

I don't want to fuck the world, just find one lady or couple to have regular nawty fun with, once or twice a week.Maybe try clubs together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is very niche, some people will like it but it will put a lot of people off. I think it shows your personality, maybe a little too much lol

Try trimming the text down, leave a little to the imagination and chat. The chains and hooks are too much if you want wider appeal.

Only my advice, you don't need to take it babe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only 3 meets in four?

I'd just give up and leave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile is very niche, some people will like it but it will put a lot of people off. I think it shows your personality, maybe a little too much lol

Try trimming the text down, leave a little to the imagination and chat. The chains and hooks are too much if you want wider appeal.

Only my advice, you don't need to take it babe."

The chain and hooks was part of my Halloween costume. Only cheap plastic.

Trim down which part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you read the advice from yesterday?

U have met loads and one wanna see you soon again, if you wanna meet more, be prepared to travel further away lol.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Or change criteria. Heck, you might even drop your standards

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple
over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

You've been on here for 4 weeks and you've had 3 meets

what more do you want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is very niche, some people will like it but it will put a lot of people off. I think it shows your personality, maybe a little too much lol

Try trimming the text down, leave a little to the imagination and chat. The chains and hooks are too much if you want wider appeal.

Only my advice, you don't need to take it babe.

The chain and hooks was part of my Halloween costume. Only cheap plastic.

Trim down which part "

I meant you were being too specific in your profile. Try writing a little about yourself and what your looking for and leave the rest to the chat you'll hopefully be having.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've been on here for 4 weeks and you've had 3 meets

what more do you want? "

Another 3 in 4 weeks

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"You've been on here for 4 weeks and you've had 3 meets

what more do you want? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone said sling your hook yet??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone said sling your hook yet??!

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genius

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"no offence.... but seeing the way you took advice yesterday.... why should people give you any advice today!

just being honest... because anyone who didn't tell you what you wanted to hear yesterday got a lot of abuse

I was going to say similar but wasn't sure in the rules if your allowed to refer to an abusive forum post that got deleted

I wondered where that went

I was quite enjoying it and then, poof, it was gone!!"

I'm presuming that's what happened too it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is very niche, some people will like it but it will put a lot of people off. I think it shows your personality, maybe a little too much lol

Try trimming the text down, leave a little to the imagination and chat. The chains and hooks are too much if you want wider appeal.

Only my advice, you don't need to take it babe."

Agree with this. I think your photos are probably not to everyone's taste too. I'd try a re-branding exercise... Few new pics, new profile and perhaps more select (individually tailored) messaging so it doesn't look like you're blanket mailing anything with a pulse x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"3 meets in 4 weeks is doing rather well!! I've had nothing what so ever so really just become use to enjoying looking at some gorgeous women on here instead.

Generally to get along on here as a male you need to be exceptional. VWE and ripped etc. If you're not then there's not much chance. That's the shallow reality of the site.

It is what it is

Bull. Im not vwe or ripped. I've had meets. Shallow viewpoint alert.

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Loughborough

If you keep on doing the same old things.........

Then you will keep on getting the same old results.

If you want a different outcome then change your profile, try a different approach.

Try looking at things from a girls perspective instead of your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The green arrow of destiny and truth. It. Can make you look a hero or at the opposite end, it can make you look a prize plonker.

Where do I find the green arrow of destiny "
its in your trousers my friend so sayeth the lord from the old testacles chapter one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've had 3 meets in 4 weeks - not exactly sure what the problem is? That is sooooo much more than 99% of guys get! But, only you can decide whether it is time to throw in the towel or not

must be another oh look at me post

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"You've been on here for 4 weeks and you've had 3 meets

what more do you want? "

Some people are never satisfied, lol.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Go.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

If you've truly messaged everyone that meets your criteria within your chosen travel

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

...radius, and they've all rejected you,your options are

- change criteria

- move house

- take the hint

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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

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By *tripper9Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

I have wondered in the past about sob story messages but are they not attractive to women so I have quiet!

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By *akedwife12Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I have wondered in the past about sob story messages but are they not attractive to women so I have quiet! "

Agree totally, they are not attractive at all.

And that little green arrow means that the story is stuck on here forever and all can see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're having a giraffe dude!2 meets in 4 weeks and you're complaining!iv had 4 meets in nearly 2 years!lol..its like 100-1 ratio women to men on here!2 meets in 4 weeks in a bloody miricle if you ask me lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally to get along on here as a male you need to be exceptional. VWE and ripped etc. If you're not then there's not much chance. That's the shallow reality of the site.

It is what it is

I disagree. Plenty of guys in here fit that description but struggle.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

If you leave, don't let the door hit ya, where the good Lord split ya!!!

No doubt you'd be back within 10mins tho.

OP, was you expecting all the ladies to drop their knickers because you sent them a message? We don't work like that, sex site or not.

There are tonnes of socials posted on these forums. Pop your name down and get out there.

Drop your expectations too.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" You're having a giraffe dude!2 meets in 4 weeks and you're complaining!iv had 4 meets in nearly 2 years!lol..its like 100-1 ratio women to men on here!2 meets in 4 weeks in a bloody miricle if you ask me lol!"

I don't understand why people think having 2 meets in 4 weeks is good???

It's easy to get as many meets as you want if you have no standards!

Number of meets is no reflection of success, just view there meets profiles I was shocked!

Even though I don't send out messages (other than speaking to forum members) I still get women and couples approaching me.... Is it really that difficult on here!?

I don't think so!

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