FabSwingers.com forum: Anal agony

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes another anal thread. . . We have indulged in anal on and off for years and it never gets easier and only worked when I am d*unk. We have tried bucket loads of lube, foreplay, toys etc. It's nothing to do with not being relaxed or horny as I want his cock up there. However, the pain during and after is horrendous. Does anyone else feel this frustration? Or has anyone found a lasting solution?

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

All I know is it hurts and my muscles really hurt for days after so I stoped trying to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried taking the lube out of the bucket?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its genuinely that bad then why do it?

I know most people would try it once or twice but if it is that painful then maybe it's a sign it's not for you.

I'm guessing the people who enjoy it actually get pleasure rather than pleasure through pain.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I agree with both of you.

You wouldn't persevere with anything else that hurt you e.g banging your hand with a hammer.

It's not meant to be no matter what advice you are given you just don't have a anal lovers arse hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're in agony why on earth do it?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

All three of you ( stop posing while im posting )

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

All four of you ...!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess I just thought the pain would subside. The thought of it turns us both on so much, that is why as persevere with it. Maybe it is a lost cause lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess I just thought the pain would subside. The thought of it turns us both on so much, that is why as persevere with it. Maybe it is a lost cause lol"

Maybe next time try his ass?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea how to help. Are you sure you are completely relaxed? I've been doing anal for years and take it hard and I dont experience pain at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it hurt if you only take it gently for a short spell?

The only times it hurts me are when I've not relaxed enough and it's difficult getting it in or when I've been taking it for hours and hours. Having said that my BF is very big and on our first time he was inside me for four and a half hours with no detrimental effect (apart from wind the next day

) boasting now. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like its just not for you . Anything that leaves you in agony is your body saying stop !¬!! always listen to your bodys reaction .

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Ask a gay man

Practice, going slow and plenty of lube all help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we've just recently discovered,it takes weeks to work up to it,his tongue first then fingers,then progress to his tip and a little more each time but over weeks and always gently.hope that helps.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Yes another anal thread. . . We have indulged in anal on and off for years and it never gets easier and only worked when I am d*unk. We have tried bucket loads of lube, foreplay, toys etc. It's nothing to do with not being relaxed or horny as I want his cock up there. However, the pain during and after is horrendous. Does anyone else feel this frustration? Or has anyone found a lasting solution? "

You say it works when you are d*unk. I am not any kind of expert but I am just wondering what the effects of alcohol are; numbs the mind or the body or both? The answer could be there

BTW, just like you, although the idea of anal sex excites me, everytime I have tried it it hurt me so much that I had to ask him to stop. And I have tried it with different guys and all of them could not be doing it wrong or are too big. The couple of times it worked was when I had a bit too much to drink but then, I didn't remember much of what happened anyway, so not good

I would be interested to hear how you get on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it hurt if you only take it gently for a short spell?

) boasting now. Sorry

Very big and four and a half hours?! Don't suppose he's available for the weekend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try ID Backslide lube, is specially formulated for anal and contains ingredients that help to relax the muscles.

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found I can only do it with a little tiny willy!

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

It's a delicate subject I know, but is it possible you could have internal haemorrhoids? It's the only thing I can think of that would give you pain for days afterwards.

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By *laire888Woman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Have you tried using toys to stretch yourself beforehand? Go back to the beginning and try wearing a small plug, working up to one as big as your man. Just wear it, not when having sex necessarily, just to help your muscles get used to the size and sensation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lube up well and just use his tongue or try taking a finger or two a few times. You'll be fine in to time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been trying it for a few weeks now & it's getting easier - I find it better for me to sit on top, which allows me to take him in at my pace & each time I have done it that way it's been amazing & have orgasmed each time - each time its become more enjoyable & less painful afterwards too - you must allow him in, not him put him in you - not many agree but some people have said popper assist ...but I haven't needed them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it hurt if you only take it gently for a short spell?

) boasting now. Sorry

Very big and four and a half hours?! Don't suppose he's available for the weekend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love anal my boyfriend does that to me all the time I even some that way try chilling and take your time it will be worth it in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried using toys to stretch yourself beforehand? Go back to the beginning and try wearing a small plug, working up to one as big as your man. Just wear it, not when having sex necessarily, just to help your muscles get used to the size and sensation. "

Agreed. Work it up slowly. I got my former FB an inflatable butt plug that worked wonders in anal training.

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

"It's a delicate subject I know, but is it possible you could have internal haemorrhoids? It's the only thing I can think of that would give you pain for days afterwards."

^^^^^this ^^^^^^

Or you may even have an anal fissure/small tear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're in agony why on earth do it? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a delicate subject I know, but is it possible you could have internal haemorrhoids? It's the only thing I can think of that would give you pain for days afterwards."

I messaged the OP this to be discrete but it was deleted so this!!!!

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

clean it out properly, wait few hours, then play with it 5mins or so, toy would be best then try larger, then slowly try to get him in, slow and slightly, and should be fine.

try anal cream that numbs the muscles a bit, or

you could also try putting ice cubes up there, the muscles will go cold and become very loose, pain is gone, and you can easily stretch it. push ice/water back out, then you should be easy to get inside.

you could also use poppers thats what most bi or ts ladyboys does, take about 5-10 mins before entry, anal will become loose, play with it and should get in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

anal? nope, sorry but mines exit only.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Perhaps it's the lube? Certain ones sting like a bitch for me til the point of crying.

You may also have a pile inside of you that you're not aware of. This too can make it painful.

Practice with butt plugs and small dildo to warm up. Try a silicone lube. Good luck

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By * n SCouple
over a year ago

dundee

We've tried it a number of times but the only way Mrs has found it tolerable and enjoyable is in a DP. I don't know why that should be but single anal she just can't do.....and definitely not sober

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try laying on your left side. During any anal examination by medical professionals you're advised to lay in that position because the bowels are more accessible that way. Good luck

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By *d871Man
over a year ago

nowhere

Try using butt plugs of increasing sizes. Lovehunny do sets of all sizes from tiny to OMG!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of lube start with 1 finger then 2 then 3 then the cock but make sure lube is always used and lots of it!

I used to use ky but it used to sting when he was deep. So a propa anal lube is better

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By *r and Mrs FCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Have you tried different positions I find being on top is really easy

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By *b coupleCouple
over a year ago

southampton

Only hurts when we do anal in any position but doggie style is perfect and painless.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"clean it out properly, wait few hours, then play with it 5mins or so, toy would be best then try larger, then slowly try to get him in, slow and slightly, and should be fine.

try anal cream that numbs the muscles a bit, or

you could also use poppers thats what most bi or ts ladyboys does, take about 5-10 mins before entry, anal will become loose, play with it and should get in.

I would avoid the advice about ice, muscles become tight and hard when cold!

The only side-effect that may temporarily help when using ice is that the area may become numb, however that in itself is not a good idea as you need to know if you are being damaged!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use Lubrifist, it takes away a lot of the pain. Also, anal training is a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried different positions I find being on top is really easy

Me too or spooning.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's all about the angle... if the angle is wrong it's all wrong. Oh and lube... lots of lube.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps it's the lube? Certain ones sting like a bitch for me til the point of crying.

You may also have a pile inside of you that you're not aware of. This too can make it painful.

Practice with butt plugs and small dildo to warm up. Try a silicone lube. Good luck

i agree with that comment completely.

from an anal only lover.

eve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The woman I wss with loved anal. I found it a bit awkward to slip in from behind so she got on top and gently let me in her arsehole. She didnt feel any pain and it felt so sensual. I shouldnt say this but condoms can make it painfull. A lubricated bare cock will slip in naturally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your hubby's cock is too big and thick - lucky sod

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only find it comfortable if i'm totally in control and even then I use my breathing exercises that got me through child birth!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could also be anal fissures causing the pain.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Maybe your hubby's cock is too big and thick - lucky sod

I have a thick cock and have few problems so far. One lady and that was it.

It is always painful at first...but once in I freeze. I become a toy that she backs on to at her own pace. The reassurance from this is enough for that extra bit of relaxation and they are asking for it harder.

It helps that I have a wand on their clitoris as we play. The pleasurable sensations from that help off set the pain until we get going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried taking the lube out of the bucket?"

Nearly fell off my chair laughing at this...

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

"Have you tried taking the lube out of the bucket?"

An actual LOL now work colleagues looking at me like a nutcase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have the same problem sadly its a real bummer pun intended we have pretty much given up on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried taking the lube out of the bucket?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your fellow needs to take he time plenty of lube fore play, use sum toys,fingers, try sniffing sum poppers, you need a good session so you are totally relax,is he cock to big?

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

Look at an anal sleeve (honour. Com) made for when you may have multiple partners in one session. It's just a thought. Oh and it's intended to please you both.xx

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