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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I find it fascinating that for the most part this place seems to be enjoyed by lots of what i would call "regular" people..(sorry if that sounds judgmental, not meant to be, just my opinion!)

Any tips that might get my partner interested in taking the first few steps into this dark and mysterious world?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You could talk to each other in a subtle and round about way to see if she would be interested.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

There are no tips that will make an unwilling person willing.

Patience, love, communication about mutual fantasies in a trusting atmosphere all help people to understand what their partners most intimate desires are and sometimes will make them feel that they want to join in though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she know you're on here?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does she know you're on here?"

I'm guessing that he's found the partner he says he's looking for in his profile and is keen to involve her and let her know about his interests. I can't see can a big problem with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does she know you're on here?

I'm guessing that he's found the partner he says he's looking for in his profile and is keen to involve her and let her know about his interests. I can't see can a big problem with that."

Neither can I but if that's the case why not just tell her of his interests

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have started to see someone and so want to introduce the subject without watching her turn and run for the hills lol..

So far I haven't told her about my "internet hobbies" but I will soon as its best to be upfront i guess..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I have started to see someone and so want to introduce the subject without watching her turn and run for the hills lol..

So far I haven't told her about my "internet hobbies" but I will soon as its best to be upfront i guess.."
I think, according to previous questions such as yours, that taking to her sooner rather than later would be better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have started to see someone and so want to introduce the subject without watching her turn and run for the hills lol..

So far I haven't told her about my "internet hobbies" but I will soon as its best to be upfront i guess.."

Fair enough and I'm not having a go but your profile does say you're big on RESPECT. Maybe you should show her some?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have started to see someone and so want to introduce the subject without watching her turn and run for the hills lol..

So far I haven't told her about my "internet hobbies" but I will soon as its best to be upfront i guess.."

Do you see it as a long term thing? How will you feel if she recoils in horror? In short which means more to you in the event she's not interested? This might affect how you approach things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any tips that might get my partner interested in taking the first few steps into this dark and mysterious world? "

we got into swinging because we were having a (slightly d*unk) heart 2 heart about fantasies, and it transpired that we both wanted the same thing!

Start a relaxed conversation about fantasies or sexual bucket list etc and see how it goes.

Sasha x

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I would try listening to the Life on the Swingset podcast. Episode 200 is a good place to start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think, according to previous questions such as yours, that taking to her sooner rather than later would be better. "

If them not being interested is a deal breaker then you need to tell them ASAP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our mutual interest in this scene came about during pillow talk. Just talk about it then.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

if its new relatioship if you do it real soon you can get away with the...before i met you i was on this site

if you leave it, you wont be able to do this....

not sure how you feel about giving it up or leaving the scene for her..if you were considering hiding your profile, and being exclusive for a while, you could offer this as a reassurance of no pressure...

if not prepared to do this however, i suggest some straight talking about not being exclusive atm , and see where that leads...

good luck with whatever approach but sooner, rather than later eh? x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys I appreciate your thoughts.. it's not a sit on the fence kinda thing so better look for the right time to drop it into conversation and watch the reaction ....

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By *elshman52Man
over a year ago

North Wales

My ex was never interested despite me hinting several times. I didnt force the issue and did not swing alone. Since we split I have joined fab and been to a couple of club nights. At least I know it was not swinging that caused our split.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"My ex was never interested despite me hinting several times. I didnt force the issue and did not swing alone. Since we split I have joined fab and been to a couple of club nights. At least I know it was not swinging that caused our split. "

Was it pissing in the lounge?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"My ex was never interested despite me hinting several times. I didnt force the issue and did not swing alone. Since we split I have joined fab and been to a couple of club nights. At least I know it was not swinging that caused our split.

Was it pissing in the lounge? "

Is there a problem with passing in the lounge? I have graduated from the bathroom to the bedroom and now I am enjoying doing it in kitchen .....

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