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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have seen several status updates re time wasters on here and have encountered a fair few myself.

Is there a list somewhere where we can report, and fellow 'genuine' swingers can check on potential new contacts??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No. There is too much potential for spiteful people to put people's names on it.

What one person classes as a time waster can vary hugely from another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only lol but would be open to abuse shame really lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It depends what you mean by 'time waster' and 'genuine'. What about genuine time wasters? If you feel you've been let down or impacted negatively by a person you consider to be wasting your time, then you can report them to admin. I suspect they have a list but it's not published or available to standard members. You need platinum membership for access.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If you arrange a meet and they don't show, you can report them as such from their profile. Apart from that best to just ignore or block and move on. there are plenty of people on here who meet.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


" I suspect they have a list but it's not published or available to standard members. You need platinum membership for access. "

Stop stirring you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I bet I'm on the list I waste enough of my own flaming time on here. I might report myself actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timesup73 are timewasters.

See the potential flaw in having a list?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bet I'm on the list I waste enough of my own flaming time on here. I might report myself actually."

Hahaha

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I have seen several status updates re time wasters on here and have encountered a fair few myself.

Is there a list somewhere where we can report, and fellow 'genuine' swingers can check on potential new contacts??"

How does one know that you are not the timewaster?

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"If only lol but would be open to abuse shame really lol "

This is why I'm not aloud a Cunt Button lol xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


" I suspect they have a list but it's not published or available to standard members. You need platinum membership for access.

Stop stirring you "

There's no such thing as platinum membership, of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I suspect they have a list but it's not published or available to standard members. You need platinum membership for access.

Stop stirring you

There's no such thing as platinum membership, of course. "

Course not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where's the list for 'genuine swingers'? I want to know if I'm on it.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Where's the list for 'genuine swingers'? I want to know if I'm on it. "

I checked; you are not neither am I; I guess I need that Platinum membership afterall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm selling black market platinum membership if any ones interested

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

A time wasters list, i'm sure that would be a long and boring read, i certainly wouldn't want to, it'd be a right waste of.....

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I'm selling black market platinum membership if any ones interested "

You are out of luck; this morning, FabS marketing announced the brand spanking new Platinum Plus membership

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

In a way verifications provide an indication that people are genuine swingers and turn up for meets - a sort of "not timewaster" list. However it seems that some on fab are put off by long verification lists.

Personally our time isn't so precious that we consider it wasted - it's all part of the fun and chase, and it's up to individuals to protect their precious time by taking care of who, where and when they meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know if a few not so nice people who would abuse such a system

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In a way verifications provide an indication that people are genuine swingers and turn up for meets - a sort of "not timewaster" list. However it seems that some on fab are put off by long verification lists.

Personally our time isn't so precious that we consider it wasted - it's all part of the fun and chase, and it's up to individuals to protect their precious time by taking care of who, where and when they meet"

Being verified doesn't prove that they're genuine and not a time waster

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"I have seen several status updates re time wasters on here and have encountered a fair few myself.

Is there a list somewhere where we can report, and fellow 'genuine' swingers can check on potential new contacts??"
. Why do members worry about what they refer to as time wasters.? All you need to do is have a well thought out vetting procedure and maybe ignore profiles that are less than fifteen lines .

If someone cannnot be bothered to write a decent profile , it may indicate that they have no real interest in the site or meeting anyone .

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By *umslut jannineTV/TS
over a year ago

nottingham

I have a very good time wasters list

It's called my block list if someone wastes my time I block them and move on

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"In a way verifications provide an indication that people are genuine swingers and turn up for meets - a sort of "not timewaster" list. However it seems that some on fab are put off by long verification lists.

Personally our time isn't so precious that we consider it wasted - it's all part of the fun and chase, and it's up to individuals to protect their precious time by taking care of who, where and when they meet

Being verified doesn't prove that they're genuine and not a time waster"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have seen several status updates re time wasters on here and have encountered a fair few myself.

Is there a list somewhere where we can report, and fellow 'genuine' swingers can check on potential new contacts??. Why do members worry about what they refer to as time wasters.? All you need to do is have a well thought out vetting procedure and maybe ignore profiles that are less than fifteen lines .

If someone cannnot be bothered to write a decent profile , it may indicate that they have no real interest in the site or meeting anyone . "

Although I agree a well written profile is always a bonus, I don't necessarily agree that because they've only bothered with a few lines they're going to be time wasters or not genuine. I've met a couple of guys who only had one or two line profiles but send some nice pics and both wrote fantastic first messages that I can still remember now some 4 or so years later.

The problem is so many have differing opinions of what constitutes a time waster. Talking for a bit then going quiet or blocking I don't see as time wasting as you'd be on here chatting anyway probably. They probably just changed their mind or didn't like something the other person said. To me, your time is only really wasted when you arrange a meet, spend time getting ready, sort child care etc, travel to the venue then are let down by a now show with no contact from them or a last minute poor excuse. This has only happened to me once but I now like to think I've perfected the way I meet as it hasn't happened in nearly 4 years.

This site gives you all the tools you need to them out, filters etc, and you have your gut instinct which for me, works very well. People will change their mind, I have in the past but it doesn't mean they're time wasters. Anyone is more than entitled to change their mind at any point about meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have seen several status updates re time wasters on here and have encountered a fair few myself.

Is there a list somewhere where we can report, and fellow 'genuine' swingers can check on potential new contacts??. Why do members worry about what they refer to as time wasters.? All you need to do is have a well thought out vetting procedure and maybe ignore profiles that are less than fifteen lines .

If someone cannnot be bothered to write a decent profile , it may indicate that they have no real interest in the site or meeting anyone .

Although I agree a well written profile is always a bonus, I don't necessarily agree that because they've only bothered with a few lines they're going to be time wasters or not genuine. I've met a couple of guys who only had one or two line profiles but send some nice pics and both wrote fantastic first messages that I can still remember now some 4 or so years later.

The problem is so many have differing opinions of what constitutes a time waster. Talking for a bit then going quiet or blocking I don't see as time wasting as you'd be on here chatting anyway probably. They probably just changed their mind or didn't like something the other person said. To me, your time is only really wasted when you arrange a meet, spend time getting ready, sort child care etc, travel to the venue then are let down by a now show with no contact from them or a last minute poor excuse. This has only happened to me once but I now like to think I've perfected the way I meet as it hasn't happened in nearly 4 years.

This site gives you all the tools you need to them out, filters etc, and you have your gut instinct which for me, works very well. People will change their mind, I have in the past but it doesn't mean they're time wasters. Anyone is more than entitled to change their mind at any point about meeting."

All great points.

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By *ethepeopleMan
over a year ago

Near you

On my timeline every two or so weeks two couples both different areas of the county pop up same pictures saying the same shit then gone.

Soon as I block them ( I noticed the pattern after a while) they come back ??? , just a spin in names but always based around the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One persons time waster could be someone else's meet. Or meat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones that amuse me are people who moan the xxxx is a time waster in their status. You look at xxxx and see they have plenty of veris from many people and I think bless, they're bitter because they didn't want to meet you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there is a list and you are top of it because you didn't meet us as arranged.

OK that's a lie, but that's what would happen if there was a list / name & shame etc etc etc yadda yadda yadda

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I have seen several status updates re time wasters on here and have encountered a fair few myself.

Is there a list somewhere where we can report, and fellow 'genuine' swingers can check on potential new contacts??. Why do members worry about what they refer to as time wasters.? All you need to do is have a well thought out vetting procedure and maybe ignore profiles that are less than fifteen lines .

If someone cannnot be bothered to write a decent profile , it may indicate that they have no real interest in the site or meeting anyone . "

That last bit is complete rubbish.

Our profile is not very long and we made it that way with thought and consideration. It does not indicate our desire to meet people or not.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"In a way verifications provide an indication that people are genuine swingers and turn up for meets - a sort of "not timewaster" list. However it seems that some on fab are put off by long verification lists.

Personally our time isn't so precious that we consider it wasted - it's all part of the fun and chase, and it's up to individuals to protect their precious time by taking care of who, where and when they meet

Being verified doesn't prove that they're genuine and not a time waster"

I didn't say it was proof I said it was an indication - and it's as valid an indication as any timewasters list would be

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I have seen several status updates re time wasters on here and have encountered a fair few myself.

Is there a list somewhere where we can report, and fellow 'genuine' swingers can check on potential new contacts??. Why do members worry about what they refer to as time wasters.? All you need to do is have a well thought out vetting procedure and maybe ignore profiles that are less than fifteen lines .

If someone cannnot be bothered to write a decent profile , it may indicate that they have no real interest in the site or meeting anyone .

That last bit is complete rubbish.

Our profile is not very long and we made it that way with thought and consideration. It does not indicate our desire to meet people or not. "

The poster said it MAY indicate, not that is definitely DOES indicate.

So, it's not complete rubbish. It's worth remembering they were speaking about a generality, not about you in particular.

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By *ekyllandHydeCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I wish there was a list and those that protest the fact that there shouldn't be are usually the main offenders! Hope you do find some genuine people out there xx

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Some person's friend , can be some one elses time waster , theres no win win situation , ,

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Think we all have done it not on purpose

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

I'm sure we would be considered time wasters. Kate is in a hotel at the moment and yesterday met with a guy (who we had met once before) for an few hours of fun.

Now, that sounds ok until you know we first met him 2 years ago and have been trying to arrange another meet since.

Yes 2 years of cancellations... 2 years of yes "let's meet this weekend" only to find a babysitter cancels, child gets I'll, they get called into work etc etc.

Now, if you are holding your cock in your hand, and this keeps happening, then we will appear to be time wasters.

As it stands, the Stars have aligned and she's in the hotel for 3 days and they are making the most of it.

The thing is, we were and are always clear about how real life takes preference. We do this as fun, and don't get stressed over it.

This is also why we rarely try and arrange meets and just go to clubs. Saves all the hassle and let downs.

We have even been paying a taxi driver and got a call to go home. It happens.

My advice, don't stress it, don't worry about the time wasters. There are plenty about but there are also plenty of people who change plans.

If its that important to you, just block and move on. I have no problem people blocking us because we may cancel - I'm not about to lose a seconds sleep about someone else's sexual needs over my kids welfare.

The only real way to guarantee going on a meet where there will be swingers is going to a club. No, you may not get who you want but that's the balance.

Moaning about time wasters is like moaning about a train being late. Most will be fine, some will be late and some never turn up. And some you'll end up take a ride on a knackered old bus! That's the risk you take.

If you don't want to take the risk... Don't take the train.

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** for those who didn't read all my post. Don't waste your time on time wasters. Move on.

;-)

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford


"If someone cannnot be bothered to write a decent profile , it may indicate that they have no real interest in the site or meeting anyone . "

Couldn't agree more ...

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"In a way verifications provide an indication that people are genuine swingers and turn up for meets - a sort of "not timewaster" list. However it seems that some on fab are put off by long verification lists.

Personally our time isn't so precious that we consider it wasted - it's all part of the fun and chase, and it's up to individuals to protect their precious time by taking care of who, where and when they meet

Being verified doesn't prove that they're genuine and not a time waster

I didn't say it was proof I said it was an indication - and it's as valid an indication as any timewasters list would be"

We once got stood up by someone with ginner hair. Does that mean that ginger hair is an indication of time wasters? Or is it a sign of something else?

Your words are somewhat weasely. It could be said that literally anything MAY be an indicator of time wasters. However you brought that specific instance up which suggests you hold it slightly more dear and likely to be a cause than others as you never saw fit to mention them.

Therefore in suggesting that you are talking out of your arse I was simply reminding you and others that there are often good reasons for people to write shorter profiles and that bringing suspicion on the in the way you did was both unnecessary and somewhat short sighted.

Also remember one person's time waster is another person's valuing certain unforseen events higher than meeting strangers for sex.

It is frustrating but in our experience there is usually a good reason. I have no doubt some people never seriously intend to meet but I also suggest they are in the minority.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"In a way verifications provide an indication that people are genuine swingers and turn up for meets - a sort of "not timewaster" list. However it seems that some on fab are put off by long verification lists.

Personally our time isn't so precious that we consider it wasted - it's all part of the fun and chase, and it's up to individuals to protect their precious time by taking care of who, where and when they meet

Being verified doesn't prove that they're genuine and not a time waster

I didn't say it was proof I said it was an indication - and it's as valid an indication as any timewasters list would be

We once got stood up by someone with ginner hair. Does that mean that ginger hair is an indication of time wasters? Or is it a sign of something else?

Your words are somewhat weasely. It could be said that literally anything MAY be an indicator of time wasters. However you brought that specific instance up which suggests you hold it slightly more dear and likely to be a cause than others as you never saw fit to mention them.

Therefore in suggesting that you are talking out of your arse I was simply reminding you and others that there are often good reasons for people to write shorter profiles and that bringing suspicion on the in the way you did was both unnecessary and somewhat short sighted.

Also remember one person's time waster is another person's valuing certain unforseen events higher than meeting strangers for sex.

It is frustrating but in our experience there is usually a good reason. I have no doubt some people never seriously intend to meet but I also suggest they are in the minority. "

Sorry - I don't get your point. I didn't mention anything about profiles. I was talking about verifications. A verification from a meet is some evidence however slim that the person has at least met.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"In a way verifications provide an indication that people are genuine swingers and turn up for meets - a sort of "not timewaster" list. However it seems that some on fab are put off by long verification lists.

Personally our time isn't so precious that we consider it wasted - it's all part of the fun and chase, and it's up to individuals to protect their precious time by taking care of who, where and when they meet

Being verified doesn't prove that they're genuine and not a time waster

I didn't say it was proof I said it was an indication - and it's as valid an indication as any timewasters list would be

We once got stood up by someone with ginner hair. Does that mean that ginger hair is an indication of time wasters? Or is it a sign of something else?

Your words are somewhat weasely. It could be said that literally anything MAY be an indicator of time wasters. However you brought that specific instance up which suggests you hold it slightly more dear and likely to be a cause than others as you never saw fit to mention them.

Therefore in suggesting that you are talking out of your arse I was simply reminding you and others that there are often good reasons for people to write shorter profiles and that bringing suspicion on the in the way you did was both unnecessary and somewhat short sighted.

Also remember one person's time waster is another person's valuing certain unforseen events higher than meeting strangers for sex.

It is frustrating but in our experience there is usually a good reason. I have no doubt some people never seriously intend to meet but I also suggest they are in the minority.

Sorry - I don't get your point. I didn't mention anything about profiles. I was talking about verifications. A verification from a meet is some evidence however slim that the person has at least met. "

Oh dear... I replied to the wrong post. Apologies. That must have been mightily confusing!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had someone who at the last minute decide they were too nervous to meet.

A wuss yes, but it's his decision except 5 minutes later he asked if he could book a hotel for us.

So he was too nervous to meet for a drink but a hotel meet for sex was ok. Twat.

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By *rank_SimoneCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

We travel miles for meets, always turn up when we say we are.

But we are shit shags so we must be time wasters lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. There is too much potential for spiteful people to put people's names on it.

What one person classes as a time waster can vary hugely from another."

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