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By *uckoldingslut OP   Woman
over a year ago

mansfield/worksop

Please dont all scream at me,lol.

As im unable to accom and alot of guys in the same boat i was considering getting a hotel, what are the opinions on putting up a meet saying that a small fee like £25 would be required to help cover costs?

By the way i was thinking of a couple of guys as im greedy so would be split 3 ways really!

Or am i viewing it a bit wrong, dont want to sound like a "working girl" or break rules :/ lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's acceptable if you all split costs. Don't call it a charge,call it sharing the hotel bill

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Splitting a hotel bill is perfectly acceptable imo.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

Think it's perfectly acceptable to split the costs. Fair and reasonable. You hear the stories about people charging a premium but you are clearly not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's acceptable, just make sure they pay their share before departing. I had a hotel meet a few years ago and arranged it as the couple agreed to pay half.

They left without doing so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as your getting no more than the cost of the room, then it can't be called a fee. Expenses maybe, but certainly not a fee.

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

Perfectly acceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please dont all scream at me,lol.

As im unable to accom and alot of guys in the same boat i was considering getting a hotel, what are the opinions on putting up a meet saying that a small fee like £25 would be required to help cover costs?

By the way i was thinking of a couple of guys as im greedy so would be split 3 ways really!

Or am i viewing it a bit wrong, dont want to sound like a "working girl" or break rules :/ lol xx"

I've met and paid for a room, but would be more than happy if someone suggested splitting the cost... It's only fair...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah just split the cost 3 ways so each of you pay £8 lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy posted that you'd be flaming him calling him a cheapskate and saying he should pay the whole bill himself. Just sayin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once you have a meet, discuss the cost of the hotel with your partner or partners if you're really lucky

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

If revenue cost, then profit is made, and dodgy ground starts to become visible.

Otherwise, crack on.

(available for naked bookkeeping )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure it's not a travel lodge and you should be fine

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By *uckoldingslut OP   Woman
over a year ago

mansfield/worksop


"If a guy posted that you'd be flaming him calling him a cheapskate and saying he should pay the whole bill himself. Just sayin"

Would i? Do you know me and understand how i would react then!? Im not a rude idiot that goes round assuming things......."just saying"

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By *uckoldingslut OP   Woman
over a year ago

mansfield/worksop

Haha noooo not a travel lodge :/ thanks for all the positive replys think i will word it as "contribute towards expenses" xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy posted that you'd be flaming him calling him a cheapskate and saying he should pay the whole bill himself. Just sayin

Would i? Do you know me and understand how i would react then!? Im not a rude idiot that goes round assuming things......."just saying""

Not you personally, the forum "clique". Would you mind giving me back my head after you've bitten it off

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK


"Please dont all scream at me,lol.

As im unable to accom and alot of guys in the same boat i was considering getting a hotel, what are the opinions on putting up a meet saying that a small fee like £25 would be required to help cover costs?

By the way i was thinking of a couple of guys as im greedy so would be split 3 ways really!

Or am i viewing it a bit wrong, dont want to sound like a "working girl" or break rules :/ lol xx"

Maybe I'm old fashioned. Lol. I'd pay the whole bill to spend the night with a gorgeous sexy women like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

No one should be out of pocket when arranging a meet,at the same time swinging isn't a money making exercise

There's nothing wrong with splitting get the costs of a room fairly,by fairly I don't mean charging each man £40 to come in and shag for an hour in a premier Inn that cost £60 for 24 hours

And for the benefit of people who may think I'm showing any preference to gender I'd say the same if it was a man

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"If a guy posted that you'd be flaming him calling him a cheapskate and saying he should pay the whole bill himself. Just sayin

Would i? Do you know me and understand how i would react then!? Im not a rude idiot that goes round assuming things......."just saying"

Not you personally, the forum "clique". Would you mind giving me back my head after you've bitten it off "

Should we not be acting like adults on an adult site you two?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There nothing wrong about splitting the cost fairly between all interested parties.

Where is starts to get grey is when profit is made, I've seen gangbangs advertised at £40 or £50 a head to cover 'expenses' in their own home. Either a very high class buffet is being offered or some profiteering is happening.

A £25 charge for a hotel room share seems about right with a couple of others

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"If a guy posted that you'd be flaming him calling him a cheapskate and saying he should pay the whole bill himself. Just sayin"

There have been many posts on here from guys who want to know the fairest way to break down a hotel bill for a meet and I rarely if ever see them being called cheapskates. Why should a bloke be expected to pay the whole bill but a woman not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was meeting someone in a hotel, I would expect to help with costs and have done in the past.

I wouldn't have a problem if it was mentioned to me.

I think the problem comes when someone is offering, for example a gangbang and charging £50 'to cover costs'.

Some will argue, why shouldn't they, some will call it prostitution.

However this isn't what you are doing in my mind, op, so quite within your right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When meeting my friend with benefits we always take it in turns to pay for the room.

Usually works out at a similar price wherever we are.

He does tend to pay for meals and drinks but that's partly because he sees it as the gentleman pays and I always make it up to him by dressing to impress so I think he probably isn't too bothered about the little extra costs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy posted that you'd be flaming him calling him a cheapskate and saying he should pay the whole bill himself. Just sayin"

I wouldn't. I'd say the same thing to him.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I would say a 50/50 split is fine.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

I see no reason why anyone should have to pay the entire bill during a hotel meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy posted that you'd be flaming him calling him a cheapskate and saying he should pay the whole bill himself. Just sayin

Would i? Do you know me and understand how i would react then!? Im not a rude idiot that goes round assuming things......."just saying"

Not you personally, the forum "clique". Would you mind giving me back my head after you've bitten it off

Should we not be acting like adults on an adult site you two?

"

She started it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you planning on staying in the room overnight? If so, I'd say, if you want a hotel room for the night, pay for it yourself...

Personally, I can never understand this. If you're looking to get fucked and can't or won't accommodate, why should anyone else have to pay for you providing yourself with a place to do it in?

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By *b coupleCouple
over a year ago

southampton


"Please dont all scream at me,lol.

As im unable to accom and alot of guys in the same boat i was considering getting a hotel, what are the opinions on putting up a meet saying that a small fee like £25 would be required to help cover costs?

By the way i was thinking of a couple of guys as im greedy so would be split 3 ways really!

Or am i viewing it a bit wrong, dont want to sound like a "working girl" or break rules :/ lol xx"

Have a fake camera set up in the corner. It's illegal to charge for sex but not to shoot porn lol

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By *avid1Man
over a year ago

Dubai

Not a problem at all, in my book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see no reason why anyone should have to pay the entire bill during a hotel meet."

All should share the cost equally. If they don't like it don't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please dont all scream at me,lol.

As im unable to accom and alot of guys in the same boat i was considering getting a hotel, what are the opinions on putting up a meet saying that a small fee like £25 would be required to help cover costs?

By the way i was thinking of a couple of guys as im greedy so would be split 3 ways really!

Or am i viewing it a bit wrong, dont want to sound like a "working girl" or break rules :/ lol xx"

Nothing wrong with asking to split the costs. I always offer to pay and if its just a social, do the same with the coffee. Invariably they refuse to accept my offer. If I get a second social, I buy the coffee then, I insist.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"It's illegal to charge for sex "

No it's not.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


" think i will word it as "contribute towards expenses" xx"

Now THAT sounds like a working girl lol

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By *umad4it2Man
over a year ago

Dronfield

They should be jumping at the chance, I would it's perfectly reasonable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's fair once you spit the bill of the room between yourself and whoever's playing on a equally divided payment so it's not like your paying to find some people to fuck you and they run off scoot free.

It's not fair when to say to "cover cost" as there are a number of people who seem to make a business out of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah just split the cost 3 ways so each of you pay £8 lol."

I would be embarrassed to ask for £8

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah just split the cost 3 ways so each of you pay £8 lol.

I would be embarrassed to ask for £8 "
Yes so would you rather as the couple pay 25 or ask the guy to pay it all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you planning on staying in the room overnight? If so, I'd say, if you want a hotel room for the night, pay for it yourself...

Personally, I can never understand this. If you're looking to get fucked and can't or won't accommodate, why should anyone else have to pay for you providing yourself with a place to do it in? "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah just split the cost 3 ways so each of you pay £8 lol.

I would be embarrassed to ask for £8 Yes so would you rather as the couple pay 25 or ask the guy to pay it all?"

Would not ask for money ever and would not share our hotel room

We would only meet in a club anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you planning on staying in the room overnight? If so, I'd say, if you want a hotel room for the night, pay for it yourself...

Personally, I can never understand this. If you're looking to get fucked and can't or won't accommodate, why should anyone else have to pay for you providing yourself with a place to do it in?

Exactly "

So,when a man messages me who cannot accommodate it's acceptable for me to say you have to pay for a hotel room?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you planning on staying in the room overnight? If so, I'd say, if you want a hotel room for the night, pay for it yourself...

Personally, I can never understand this. If you're looking to get fucked and can't or won't accommodate, why should anyone else have to pay for you providing yourself with a place to do it in?

Exactly

So,when a man messages me who cannot accommodate it's acceptable for me to say you have to pay for a hotel room? "

Oh no of course not suggest a bus stop or car park

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you planning on staying in the room overnight? If so, I'd say, if you want a hotel room for the night, pay for it yourself...

Personally, I can never understand this. If you're looking to get fucked and can't or won't accommodate, why should anyone else have to pay for you providing yourself with a place to do it in?

Exactly

So,when a man messages me who cannot accommodate it's acceptable for me to say you have to pay for a hotel room?

Oh no of course not suggest a bus st

op or car park "

This made me smile a little, sorry. Car parks can be fun sometimes, long as the car is locked. But id prefer a house or a hotel really if it was available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah just split the cost 3 ways so each of you pay £8 lol.

I would be embarrassed to ask for £8 Yes so would you rather as the couple pay 25 or ask the guy to pay it all?

Would not ask for money ever and would not share our hotel room

We would only meet in a club anyway "
That's good and yes a club is better as well.

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By *olincollins79Man
over a year ago

Bromley

Perfect suggestion for all tbf tbh imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah just split the cost 3 ways so each of you pay £8 lol.

I would be embarrassed to ask for £8 Yes so would you rather as the couple pay 25 or ask the guy to pay it all?

Would not ask for money ever and would not share our hotel room

We would only meet in a club anyway That's good and yes a club is better as well."
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That way everyone pays the entrance and when they don't turn up at least you know there's others already there

Most ofv time it's not even worth making a meet as they usually mess you around which is why we don't meet people from fab unles at a clubb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't see nothing wrong with splitting the cost, I got ask the once by female on this site for £30 for the baby sitter, that wrong, she probly did,nt even have any kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not saying there's anything wrong with what the OP's suggesting. But personally, I would only contemplate splitting a hotel bill with someone I knew and liked. I would pay for the hotel myself when meeting anyone new.

Asking strangers to hand over money to facilitate a meet is asking for trouble. It creates a sense of entitlement that complicates things if you need to ask someone to leave, which can happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seen as the guys are sharing you, its only fair to share the hotel bill too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id be game if it meant seeing that arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd like to see yours and hers

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Are you planning on staying in the room overnight? If so, I'd say, if you want a hotel room for the night, pay for it yourself...

Personally, I can never understand this. If you're looking to get fucked and can't or won't accommodate, why should anyone else have to pay for you providing yourself with a place to do it in? "

So the people they meet are not looking to get fucked too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends. If I'd suggest we'd meet in a hotel, then I'd pay and wouldn't ask. If they'd offer to split the cost, then I'd accept.

If you mentioned getting a room, but would like to split the cost and they agreed, then fair enough. But if you suggest meeting at a hotel, then spring it on them that you'd like to share the bill, without telling them upfront, then I think that would be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please dont all scream at me,lol.

As im unable to accom and alot of guys in the same boat i was considering getting a hotel, what are the opinions on putting up a meet saying that a small fee like £25 would be required to help cover costs?

By the way i was thinking of a couple of guys as im greedy so would be split 3 ways really!

Or am i viewing it a bit wrong, dont want to sound like a "working girl" or break rules :/ lol xx

Have a fake camera set up in the corner. It's illegal to charge for sex but not to shoot porn lol "

"The act of exchanging money for sex is not in itself illegal" BBC, it's soliciting on the streets or running a house on the profits from sex that is illegal. Frankly Police have better things to do.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Please dont all scream at me,lol.

As im unable to accom and alot of guys in the same boat i was considering getting a hotel, what are the opinions on putting up a meet saying that a small fee like £25 would be required to help cover costs?

By the way i was thinking of a couple of guys as im greedy so would be split 3 ways really!

Or am i viewing it a bit wrong, dont want to sound like a "working girl" or break rules :/ lol xx"

As long as there aren't any 'admin charges' on top or 'rounding up' errors', all is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at your pics, go ahead and book it !! I'll happily pay the whole bill

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If I couldn't accommodate I wouldn't dream of expecting a guy to pay the full cost of a hotel, either split or take it in turns.

For a start I'd be to embarrassed to say I couldn't pay my way and if I couldn't pay my way I wouldn't meet.

I'd never expect someone to pay as I would be getting as much h fun.

But as I accommodate I don't have that problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If sharing the cost, really all involved should pay not just the men. I think If you can't afford to pay then really shouldn't even be thinking about a meet. Why should others pay when you want to meet as much as them. What you gonna ask them to pay for next time, a weeks shopping, rent.

Would you tell the men that only they were paying and you weren't or be honest about it.

Seems cheeky to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I messaged one lady and she said its 50pounds to meet her....reported the profile.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Please dont all scream at me,lol.

As im unable to accom and alot of guys in the same boat i was considering getting a hotel, what are the opinions on putting up a meet saying that a small fee like £25 would be required to help cover costs?

By the way i was thinking of a couple of guys as im greedy so would be split 3 ways really!

Or am i viewing it a bit wrong, dont want to sound like a "working girl" or break rules :/ lol xx"

Sounds fine with me and only fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be happy to contribute towards the room....count me in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I have met a couple or a single in a hotel I have paid the bill, not one person on any meet has offered to go half or pay a contribution.

Not that I have a problem with that at all, just saying.

Also I have seen profiles on here stating that the guy pays for the hotel as your shagging my wife so it's only fair oh and bring the vodka as well.

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By *aughty-shortyMan
over a year ago

Ilminster

I'd be happy to split the bill, its not always possible to accommodate and sometimes you feel safer on neutral ground, so why not. Just make sure you get the money at the door lol

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