FabSwingers.com forum: Read but not Deleted

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi im a single guy who's finding that im sending messages to couples always with a face pic, not getting a lot replied to.

but the couples are not deleting them. should i leave it a bit and message again.or just leave it?

Thanks G xx

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Wait, there may be many reasons for them not deleting a message once read, waiting till they're both there seems to be the most obvious. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wait.

it is best not to pester or that will put people off you.

if a mail is deleted without reply just block them.

inconsiderate people are not worthy of your time.

move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave it a while, say a couple of weeks and if you've heard nothing back after that, assume that you probably won't, then if you do get a response after that, it's a bonus

One of the worst things you can do (in our opinion) is to send another message along the lines of "I messaged you a few weeks ago and just wondered ......"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi thanks, but i'm talking Days Weeks even.

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By *nothercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Then take it that they are not interested. We very rarely delete mail so that if we get another message from the same person we can check to see if its the same as the first message i.e. copy and paste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personal speaking as a single woman

i read messages and sometimes i don't get straight back that's as could be busy or cant think of a reply

i sometimes send messages out and get no reply etc so its not just single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi thanks, but i'm talking Days Weeks even."

If they dont reply then chances are they not interested,but also could be that one half of couple reads it and waits for the other like already been said.

If you go pestering then chances are you will blow it completely,if they are interested they will get back to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No i wouldn't want to pester anybody

so best just not to message them again then.

thanks all

G xx

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Best thing to do is delete your sent items as soon as you've sent them.

That way you can't worry about anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pestering me wont get you anywhere i just think Patience!! delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as i said. just wait.

everyone gets fed up by a constant knocking on the door.

leave it. move on. they will contact you if interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wait.

it is best not to pester or that will put people off you.

if a mail is deleted without reply just block them.

inconsiderate people are not worthy of your time.

move on."

I'm sorry but we don't think we are being inconsiderate if we don't reply to every message ,we used to try and get back even if it was just a thanks but no thanks but just got sick of all the abusive messages that we got sent back

And couples and esp single girls can get sent loads of messages a day and to reply to all can be hard I've heard people say it only takes 20 seconds to reply but it only takes 1 second to delete

While I have been typing this we have received 12 messages and I think today we must have had over 40 so there are a lot of reasons why people don't reply

But for us it was all the grief we got by a lot of others when we did reply that put a stop to it for us.

D & A

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By *laclkguyMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

"wait.

it is best not to pester or that will put people off you.

if a mail is deleted without reply just block them.

inconsiderate people are not worthy of your time.

move on."

i find that some mail is deleted without reply

so i block them and move on

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By *emjoCouple
over a year ago

Reading

Reply rate is less than 1 in 10 for couples so I'm amazed that single guys get any replies at all.

This site has the lowest reply site of any we have been on. The price you've got to pay for being a free site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our reply rate is about 50/50. It happens to everybody but don't worry because sometimes they get back in touch with you forgetting they deleted your message without replying to it in the first place.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I reckon my reply rate is probably 80%

Althout 80% of replies are "fuck off"...

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We get between 10-60 msgs a day. Some I read and want to reply to but need more time than I've got. Some show as read because I've pressed 'delete go to next unread' without thinking and can see more than a 1 line response is needed. Some I delete without replying because they're 'fancy a fuck' type msgs with no pics on profile and no words other than something like 'looking for fun' - nothing there to spark an interest.

I had a mail and read it a couple of weeks ago but didn't reply straight off, as I was reading messages whilst doing something else. Less than 15 minutes later(!) I had another mail accusing me of being rude and having no manners in not replying and they'd blocked me - stupidly I'd have given a positive response if they'd only waited another 10 mins or so.. their loss.

I have a clear out of mail every few days and reply to most unreplied ones then. I sometimes save them for hubby to look at (he works away in the week) before replying too

I've had messages of mine not replied to - it's no biggie in the scheme of things. I generally delete all sent mail whether it's read or not now - big deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single male on here(and on swingers sites in general)you need to have a very thick skin!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"Reply rate is less than 1 in 10 for couples so I'm amazed that single guys get any replies at all.

This site has the lowest reply site of any we have been on. The price you've got to pay for being a free site."

Got naff all to do with it being a free site.

On another site I'm a member off, I pay, but still don't reply to messages if they don't interest me.

Why should I? If you've sent me a message I didn't ask for, why should I?

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