FabSwingers.com forum: I've a need to complete a deed! : )

By *ickens Cider OP Man
over a year ago

taunton

Hiya...

I've been around for a fair (or little) while on Fab... and I've done my bits of posting in the forums in the past and those that know me... know that I've a certain deed I'm in need of completing to set me free... lol : P

Some cheeky sod once suggested I should sod off and pay for it! Complete the task with a cash transaction!?

But I personally want to kind of hold out and do it more in a mutual understanding and slightly more personal way...

So... I'd had hoped it might of been with a nice caring and understanding contact from fab? : )

Someone that I had made contact with... and had a connection with... a mutual understanding or friend nearly?

So I guess its a last stand... a final call for my preferred wish to be granted?

Or does anyone know who you find a good lady for a bit of spare cash?

So any thoughts...do I hold out in here... or head down the cash point? lol

Any only make a suggestion if its a semi serious one! Please...

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Deadly serious suggestion - stop making it the focus of everything you say.

You'll have found out by now that the number of people attracted by the circumstance is small, so why not push yourself forward via other aspects of your personality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What Sharpy said!

You still come across having a massive hang up about your "deed", and it can be putting potential meets off.

It certainly puts me off from meeting you, as I do not wish to be the one to give you a bad start in your pursuit of sexy happiness!

Besides, I would rather meet with peeps who know what they are doing, as life is too short for me to be a teacher.

Good luck!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Good luck and hope you find someone nice, relaxed and can make your first time special.

Agree with SDM and Pearl, chill, it will happen. The more pressure you put yourself under will not help, you may get stage fright or pop your lot unzipping. Chill, relax and again, good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being honest here

what you wrote the start of this thread put me off reading your profile

if its gonna happen it will just relax and have some fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

spike,

just read your profile, you seriously need to change it man!!! its awful, long, rambling, and full of self pity!

Humour is a very good way to get women interested. So delete it and start again. Keep it much shorter, make an off the cuff joke about needing a sexy woman to 'take you in hand'. You can discuss in detail later with whoever emails you about your hopes and fears about losing your cherry. Remember you have a lot of competition on here, as men out number us girls, also a lot of girls wont meet single guys. So u have to sell yourself better.

Another thought would be...have u considered going to a swingers club or private party? It might be a gradual intro into sex for you. ie you may not get penetration on the first visit but you might get to have a little play, and also watch and pick up some tips! just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Deadly serious suggestion - stop making it the focus of everything you say.

You'll have found out by now that the number of people attracted by the circumstance is small, so why not push yourself forward via other aspects of your personality?

I totally agree with Sharp Dressed Man. Very few swinging ladies are attracted by 40+ year old virgins (we prefer men who know what they are doing in bed! And let's be honest - there are plenty of men on here who claim to know what they're doing in bed!)

So just don't mention your virginity!

Instead, chat about other things and hopefully find a lady that you 'click with'. If you THEN decide to share the fact of your inexperience, your charm will hopefully mean that she still agrees to 'take you in hand' LOL

Alternatively, as an earlier poster suggested, try a swingers club - you may be able to get 'deflowered' without anyone ever knowing it was your first time LOL

In any event - good luck! I wish you a long and happy sex life!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I say this to people....

just because this happens to be a swinging site where likeminded people like sex.... it doesn't mean that each and every conversation or topic has to be about sex ..... if you can't have a normal conversation with someone then you certainly aren't going to be doing anything else......

(and notice how i didn't call it a sex site, that is the mistake of a lot of people... especially single guys)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(and notice how i didn't call it a sex site, that is the mistake of a lot of people... especially single guys)"

A guy in chat referred to it as a porn site the other day!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

A guy in chat referred to it as a porn site the other day!!

it makes me really cringe when I hear it (normally from single guys) being called a porn site or a sex site... because Then it does dismiss the huge social side there is to the scene and swinging in general.......

there is a huge difference between here and other site's like AFF for example and that is because this is part of a community.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly. I did try to explain the difference but he wasn't having it....His loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly. I did try to explain the difference but he wasn't having it....His loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that cheeky sod was me I seem to recall, many moons ago the said gentleman was a virgin and desperate to lose his virginity, not having any luck on here I merely suggested that if he was that desperate to lose he'd have to find a prostitute!

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By *ickens Cider OP Man
over a year ago

taunton

"And that cheeky sod was me I seem to recall, many moons ago the said gentleman was a virgin and desperate to lose his virginity, not having any luck on here I merely suggested that if he was that desperate to lose he'd have to find a prostitute! "

No it certainly wasn't you... you did chat to me about that route... privately as I recall too...

But you became a respected individual...

you where lovely me... and you know I still respect you!

My reference of a cheeky sod is at a rather rightous chap... here in forum land? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your profile comes across that your trying to hard,be yourself x

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