FabSwingers.com forum: being recognised

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So not been active for long but recently a guy recognised us from our local gym. Anyone else had this scenario I'm mortified should I be? I'm not sure if its good or bad I guess ill find out next time we see him at the gym what I don't want is him approaching us there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a couple recognise me from school and another guy said i looked familiar and knew where i was from.

Also went to Chams last week and a woman I used to live near (and actually knew since we were kids) turned up. We were both a little shocked and tried to avoid each other all night but apparently she was outside watching me in the couples room lol

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

There's a couple of threads about it - I think "Knowing me knowing you" is one.

Your reaction is up to you, though. If it freaks you out, that's not wrong,it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So not been active for long but recently a guy recognised us from our local gym. Anyone else had this scenario I'm mortified should I be? I'm not sure if its good or bad I guess ill find out next time we see him at the gym what I don't want is him approaching us there. "

I work in a gym and have had guys winking knowingly, others saying "Nice pics on Fab" etc.

The best thing is not to let it phase you, just smile, say "Hello" or whatever but never appear shocked, some guys get off on that reaction.

Just look at it this way.....whats the worse that can happen.....is it life threatening? No.

Above all don't let it worry you.

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should be ok like I have said before what goes on in the swinging community stays in the community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else had this scenario . "
NO

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By *leasureseanyMan
over a year ago

hull

there is a guy at work i'v seen on here, but i'v not said anything has yet to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they are doing the same as you they probably thinking same as you xxx lol as they say what goes on in the tourbus stays in the tourbus xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get recognised all the time had many people msg us saying we seen you out and about, got to admit does freak zoe out alittle knowing people have seen us but we didn't see or even know what they look like.

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

i received a very abusive message from someone on here saying they recognised me through work, they left the site after sending the msg, im now very wary xx

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

First social I ever went to, I met my parent's postman! He's never let me hear the end of it! Git!

I'm not that bothered... I don't hide my lifestyle choices from anyone other than my parents. There are some things they just don't need to know. Other people don't really matter.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Is he single?

If he is part of a couple… you are pretty safe.

With any luck he's cheating on someone so he'll keep his mouth shut

No one can really tell you how to play it as only you can suss out how he reacts to spotting you.

If he doesn't act like it's a big deal, then it likely isn't a big deal.

If he giggles like a school kid, then expect the actions of a school kid.... telling all his mates about what you do.

If he implies he has the upper hand in any way because of recognising you... he's likely thinking about how to use the info.

You can either tell him to keep his gob shut... which might work or might prompt him to do something.

You can act like you don't care... which may also work or may prompt him to test the theory.

The best thing to do is wait for him to make the first move and then work it out from there… but in the meantime assume he’ll do nothing as that is what most people do.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

single guy at a club seen him in asda he never said owt then as i was filling me work van up he was in same garage and said hi when i turned rund he was a paramedic nice touch as he never said or approached us in asda . local dj he avoided us in a club as he wernt with his wife

met a cpl to take them to a club one night as they pulled up i said ffs i used to play football against ya he said its ok i was drinking with ya dad last night

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By *teph_NaturallyTV/TS
over a year ago

Kettering

I dont wory to much about it ..I've been clocked a few times by Guys when I've been out in town and at does ..and thats with me in sorta drab clothes and no make-up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a couple we started talking too asked us for pictures , lovely they said and sent us 2 back...they were pretty much ok.

anyway the conversation stopped as it does and we put it down to "one of those things"

then came germany v england in the world cup , we got thumped and then my phone rang, was my boss and best mate..we went to same school together and lived next door for 10 yrs as kids.

he was who we had sent the pics too and were lucky they are active members of this site.

our lasses face was a picture when they suddenly started calling us by our fab names .ie .jemmimafluffybum and quassi at the time ..lol

regularly go to clubs with them both now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So update after few trips no hassle he was there last night came over and sat on machine next to me and actually asked "had any meets lately" I said you have wrong person and he said don't think so I just left bright red I've given him the opportunity to make me feel an idiot now I'm such a pillock under stress lol

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By *affygt61Man
over a year ago

rhondda

bit like a burglar bumping into another burglar, except you aint breaking any laws

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

We recognise loads of people off the site, usually never say anything.

Untill one day the wifes god parents became members,we watched there progress realised they were proper swingers and not just taking a peek lol. As were more like freinds told them who we were lol there fine with it were fine with it. All is well. Could have been disasterous

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By *erekduvallCouple
over a year ago

swansea

Not sure if we have been recognised, but have in the past recieved an e-mail from someone we know

, whether it was showing interest or "just letting us know" he knew I haven"t a clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So update after few trips no hassle he was there last night came over and sat on machine next to me and actually asked "had any meets lately" I said you have wrong person and he said don't think so I just left bright red I've given him the opportunity to make me feel an idiot now I'm such a pillock under stress lol "

No offence but, in our opinion, that was the worse thing you could have done.

He obviously knows its you and you obviously embarrassed yourself denying the truth.

You'd have been a lot better off just brazening it out, after all, as has been said, your not breaking any laws.

It's only when you snub people, or annoy them in some perceived way,that they may wish to make mischief for you.

Its much easier to be upfront with them and could save future problems.

XXXX

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