FabSwingers.com forum: "Been Read" But no reply

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is the main reason for a message being read, but their is no reply to it. I understand when somebody reads a message and they delete it but i don't understand when a message has been read but there is no reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they were interested they would reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting too many - cant respond to all of them at the same time.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"What is the main reason for a message being read, but their is no reply to it. I understand when somebody reads a message and they delete it but i don't understand when a message has been read but there is no reply."

they read to see content perhaps view profile and decide no thanks! often not replying saves a follow up abusive message when you reply saying no thanks!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

they read to see content perhaps view profile and decide no thanks! often not replying saves a follow up abusive message when you reply saying no thanks!

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Empty your inbox. So much angst and stress caused by it. Forget you sent it, if you get a reply.......nice. If not..........shit happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It means they are too lazy to delete it....it does in my case anyway

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It means they are too lazy to delete it....it does in my case anyway"

Plus 1 - I do a bulk delete every few days, if I was interested I would reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about it lol.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"It means they are too lazy to delete it....it does in my case anyway"

Same here. I just do a bulk delete every blue moon when I remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Empty your inbox. So much angst and stress caused by it. Forget you sent it, if you get a reply.......nice. If not..........shit happens"

Excellent typo.

Did you mean sent box?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a couple you are messaging,perhaps they want the other half to see the message before deciding.We are couples not Siamese twins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Empty your inbox. So much angst and stress caused by it. Forget you sent it, if you get a reply.......nice. If not..........shit happens

Excellent typo.

Did you mean sent box? "

Oh shit yeah, good spot there.

The inbox is likely to be empty anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh thanks for the reply, i thought it was a glitch, it does make sense now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People get so hung up on this subject, if you don't hear back don't dwell on it, simply move on and try again.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"Oh thanks for the reply, i thought it was a glitch, it does make sense now."
From the FAQ's

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Just looked at your profile. 3 cock pictures and a profile text that tells me naff all about what you have to offer.

There's your answer.

Put some effort in."

But I always say if they are a cock then just leave things how they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just looked at your profile. 3 cock pictures and a profile text that tells me naff all about what you have to offer.

There's your answer.

Put some effort in.

But I always say if they are a cock then just leave things how they are

Touché

Hot pics btw, grrrrr x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the main reason is because they haven;t bothered to waste any more time by clicking on the delete button

Focus on your inbox not your sent messages

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Just looked at your profile. 3 cock pictures and a profile text that tells me naff all about what you have to offer.

There's your answer.

Put some effort in.

But I always say if they are a cock then just leave things how they are

Touché

Hot pics btw, grrrrr x"

Well.....do men really think they can entice with just their cock?

Oh and thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Empty your inbox. So much angst and stress caused by it. Forget you sent it, if you get a reply.......nice. If not..........shit happens"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't worry about it lol."

No one ever replies to you do they pal

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

Maybe the sender never read the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh thanks for the reply, i thought it was a glitch, it does make sense now."

Pmsl this is internet gold

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I sometimes read and don't reply. This can be 1 of 2 reasons.

1. I want to reply but I don't have the time to get into chatting, never mind meeting.

2. They have only just sent it or are online and I can't be bothered with the possible further message asking why I have deleted the original message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes the content of a message is so awful or blatantly not individual I just delete and don't reply.

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By *alifaxsuetvcdTV/TS
over a year ago

halifax

Because real life gets in way some people do work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never bother to delete anything in my inbox, even if I'm not interested.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

We used to reply to everyone who messaged us until we got a rude reply when we said no thanks xx

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich

We rarely delete messages. We do a bulk delete every so often.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Oh thanks for the reply, i thought it was a glitch, it does make sense now.

Pmsl this is internet gold

It made me chuckle too

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i actually almost wish the "been read" and "deleted" options were removed from sight... because it would stop half the whinges and complaints....

some people will read into something and make something out of nothing.....

everything just has to be analized and over analized

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get hundreds of messages every day, usually.

So when we get a message that reads "hi" or "hy bby" or some other Brady thought out, badly typed drivel, we hit delete.

You don't owe anybody on the site anything, and nobody owes you anything, if somebody doesn't want to meet you, or isn't interested, they don't have to even reply.

We try to reply to everybody we can... But good lord... Sometimes it's just like "well you clearly didn't give a shit, why should I".

Case in point, a guy sent us a rubbish few word message earlier, clearly ignoring everything our profile says, and clearly showing he needs to go back to school. So what do we get just now?

Of course, an abusive message, calling us ignorant tossers.

Remember kids, you don't owe anybody, and they don't owe you, damn thing. C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really doesn't bother me if people don't hit the "delete" button or not. If someone had read the message and hasn't deleted it, I'll keep it in my sent box until it shows they've deleted it, and then go ahead and delete the message myself.

I've never seen the point in sending someone an abusive message purely for the fact they don't feel a connection to want to talk to you. if someone doesn't get on with someone else in the real world, they don't hurl ignorant insults at them. Just because the idea of sex is potentially on the table, people let pride get in the way and it just makes them nasty.

People are better than that.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Sometimes people might be saving the message to post it in the secret "Is this the worst message ever?" forum

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I've left messages read but not deleted before as sometimes I have a small bet with myself as to how long it'll be before a follow up "I see you've read my message" message appears from the same profile.

I save all the winnings from these bets and use them to buy Xmas presents for the woof.

She's in for a great Xmas this year!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Getting too many - cant respond to all of them at the same time."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't stress about things you have no control over. Delete your sent mail as soon as its sent, you'll either get a reply or you won't.

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By *ummslutWoman
over a year ago

Glorious Chilterns

Ladies get lots of messages on Fabs.

Obvious if they wanted to chat they would reply to you.

I have found if you do reply nicely and say no thanks,then some guys throw their toys out the pram and get abusive.

I wouldnt take it too personally if no reply.

Swinging should be fun & stress free. X

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

sometimes i read a message and then go away to go something else before replying..like i actually think about what i want to ask/say ,.is that, really that bad??..apparently it is..ive had loads complain i havent replied instantly so... ive taken to pressing the 'mark as unread' button,

so they think i havent read it yet..so i still have my time to think about stuff...geez the things we have to do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sometimes i read a message and then go away to go something else before replying..like i actually think about what i want to ask/say ,.is that, really that bad??..apparently it is..ive had loads complain i havent replied instantly so... ive taken to pressing the 'mark as unread' button,

so they think i havent read it yet..so i still have my time to think about stuff...geez the things we have to do...

I like the ones who moan I haven't replied in an instant, it tells me I don't want to meet them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You aren't their type!!!... Or they asked for pics and you didn't send them.. I delete and block if a guys says I can meet now!! With no previous message. I also.. Man are alway complaining about how rude us women are. Forgetting that their massage said " I fuck you now"!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read it. Either not interested or no time to deal with it. It moves down the stream. Disappears. Is forgotten. Then block deleted. This is what happens with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mine is because ive had to leave quickly and will get to reply when i get back online .

if its not read i have no interest

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Just looked at your profile. 3 cock pictures and a profile text that tells me naff all about what you have to offer.

There's your answer.

Put some effort in.

But I always say if they are a cock then just leave things how they are

Touché

Hot pics btw, grrrrr x

Well.....do men really think they can entice with just their cock?

Oh and thanks

cos the blood can only power either brain or cock on most males and they think with cock thats where the blood rushes to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about it. I've got one where he messaged me and I replied declining. it's unread and its tough, not my problem

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

They probably just couldnt be bothered to hit delete or send a thanks but no thanks type message.

Or depending on how long ago they read it, they could possibly be going to reply later on. We rarely reply to messages straight away.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

they read to see content perhaps view profile and decide no thanks! often not replying saves a follow up abusive message when you reply saying no thanks!

Do people really send Abusive messages ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they read to see content perhaps view profile and decide no thanks! often not replying saves a follow up abusive message when you reply saying no thanks!

Do people really send Abusive messages ?

Oh God yes... If only it wasn't true... Some people are just... Yeah... C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't worry about it lol.

No one ever replies to you do they pal "
Yes ofcourse they do, I meant in general what about u?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It means they are too lazy to delete it....it does in my case anyway

Same here. I just do a bulk delete every blue moon when I remember"

Same here. I feel mean not replying and often leave them unread or read but I deleted for an age. Then I just clear the lot when I'm feeling brave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Half the messages we get are from people who haven't read our profile and messaged how we have asked, so why should we bother reading their message properly. Swings and roundabouts!

A decent message will get a decent reply. Make the effort and so will we....

A "fancy a fuck" messgae gets nothing!

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By *at-KitWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I sometimes can't reply straight away because im busy with my kids. Then i get another message saying why havent you answered me?

I have a life outside of fab and will answer when i have time. If im not interested then i say no politely then delete the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I'm just busy and reply later, sometimes I'm not interested, don't think about it too much! If they are interested they will reply x

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

they read to see content perhaps view profile and decide no thanks! often not replying saves a follow up abusive message when you reply saying no thanks!

Do people really send Abusive messages ?

Oh God yes... If only it wasn't true... Some people are just... Yeah... C x"

I find that So surprising we are all on here to have fun, why would someone get aggressive when they get turned down for sex.

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By *psidaisiMan
over a year ago

Halifax

they read to see content perhaps view profile and decide no thanks! often not replying saves a follow up abusive message when you reply saying no thanks!

Do people really send Abusive messages ?

Oh God yes... If only it wasn't true... Some people are just... Yeah... C x

I find that So surprising we are all on here to have fun, why would someone get aggressive when they get turned down for sex. "

Why does a kid scream when it doesn't get its way? Frustration lack of patience and a poor coping mechanism for rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they read to see content perhaps view profile and decide no thanks! often not replying saves a follow up abusive message when you reply saying no thanks!

Do people really send Abusive messages ?

Oh God yes... If only it wasn't true... Some people are just... Yeah... C x

I find that So surprising we are all on here to have fun, why would someone get aggressive when they get turned down for sex.

Why does a kid scream when it doesn't get its way? Frustration lack of patience and a poor coping mechanism for rejection. "

Total immaturity, lack of respect and self confidence. I've had abuse following polite rejections, you can go from the hottest woman on fab to a fat cow in the space of 2 messages! Speaks volumes about them and confirms my decision to not want to meet them as the correct one. I always thank them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just f....d up, deleted a message I've read but forgot to reply

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

If one of us reads it we unread it for the other to read and reply of they want too ....

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Some times theres just far too many messages to reply to

I read some .... but sometimes its easier to wipe the lot .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually if we don't reply it's for one of two reasons, either we are waiting until we are together to reply as one of us doesn't want to make a decision on behalf of both members of a couples profile OR the profile has not information or photos on...generally messages say 'you both look lovely' what do I say? 'You don't have any pics so I don't know what you look like' sometimes if the profile is well written I'll ask if they have pics otherwise if they can't be bothered why should I?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

For me it's because they didn't read my profile.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"Usually if we don't reply it's for one of two reasons, either we are waiting until we are together to reply as one of us doesn't want to make a decision on behalf of both members of a couples profile OR the profile has not information or photos on...generally messages say 'you both look lovely' what do I say? 'You don't have any pics so I don't know what you look like' sometimes if the profile is well written I'll ask if they have pics otherwise if they can't be bothered why should I? "

That's what we do and when we ask for pics they get the hump with us lol

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Some times theres just far too many messages to reply to

I read some .... but sometimes its easier to wipe the lot ....."

I'm not criticising that, but what if there are some really good messages further down? They go too.

I've always thought that better message handling would be a key improvement to the site - allowing access to page 2 of the message list for a start.

Otherwise messages have to be sent either while the recipient is online, or just before (!) on order to be at the top of the page at the right time.

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over a year ago

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