FabSwingers.com forum: Skinny Guys get all the fun.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

something I've noticed on virtually all profiles.

It doesn't matter what the shape and size of the lady in the profile, the one thing thats nearly 99% always stated is that they are looking for slim athletic men.

Now I know me personally, I've never fitted into that category (well maybe for a short while in my mid 20's) and just wondered:-

a)Are all single guys who like to Swing (FIT)

b)Are all Single guys who are slim and Athletic FANTASTIC in the sack..

I mean if thats the case, then shouldn't there be a sign on the door saying only join of your a,b,c and SLIM, or else don't bother.

I mean I know it's free to join this site but it does make you wonder..

Sorry Just something that I wanted to maybe discuss, I mean I'm sure people look at my post and go oooh no way, too big not interested..OR maybe i'm just ugly lol.

But It does make you wonder about the shallowness of people at times and in the many messages people post about single guys been a problem, perhaps it's that people set such high standards.

quite funny when with couples, often the partner isn't any of the above and yet they are together as a couple....mmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi ,your profile says you are ample,you look average size to me.

all this is about personal choice,not being shallow.some like slim,anal,curvy.etc.the list goes on.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

We love slim people

it's called preference!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I prefer a bit of meat to get hold of nothing worse than bones digging in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, I wasn't saying that People picking slim was bad or anything so apologies for that and yes indeed it is preference.

Really just seems that a lot of people have this image in their head.

I mean this also applied to women, there is larger women on this site, who may put ample, large or curvy as their profiles.

I also know its each to their own, just really looking for peoples opinions is big in men on the whole a bad thing etc.

Thanks to all for the comments so far.

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

Whatever your intentions, your post only comes across as a bit of a whinge that people have preferences that may exclude you.

2 points - 1 - you'll get no sympathy or positive interest by this. 2 - if you aren't what people want, then change. We both work hard to stay slim. I, Mr lost 3 stone 5 years ago, and I now work out and run/walk 40 miles a week so I stay that way. But if you are right, and people should/will prefer you as you are, then do nothing and you'll be fine.

We don't mind a few extra pounds on our playmates, but sometimes we want the same build as us, and don't have problems attracting such members, as they seem to appreciate that we keep ourselves in shape too.

Horses for courses. If you're happy as you are, and many seem to be, then celebrate and enjoy it, but dont moan if people express different preferences. One of the larger, dom. ladies on here would fulfill many of my personal fantasies, but I'm not what she's looking for (I'm Bi) so I settle for a bit of banter in the forums instead, and don't bend her ear about changing what she prefers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Many thanks, sorry wasn't aimed at a whinge, just seen far too many single guys posts on the forum of late.

I'm actually not 100% happy with myself, personal health issues, divorce etc have led to me wanting to lose a few pounds.

Certainly not looking for sympathy, I too have my preferences and i fully understand that, As someone's pointed out also, I'm not a LARGE man, but I'm not "Athletic".

Just having read a number of posts by people having a go at single men, I thought perhaps a question of Asthetics.

Similarly I also had an experience where I ticked all the boxes except been Bi-Oral ruled me out. Anything on here that maybe helps people to find out their needs better is always useful.

Reading several posts by people going on about timewasters, My thoughts on it was what are people really looking for (on both sides)

I appreciate your thoughts though, any criticism whether positive or negative can be useful if listened to correctly.

Me myself, I more enjoy the banter to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have read this with interest and again its a personal choice thing. There have been a few threads about this usually women being bbws , its interesting to see a man posting.

I looked at your profile and saw absolutely nothing that would put me off , but again thats my opinion.

Personally i dont want a skinny (slim) man , i dont like to feel bones sticking into me i much prefer a man who has meat on his bones something to hold on to and more to kiss, and my advice would be to you if they dont like u let them pass you by , plenty more swingers on the site who will enjoy your company and what you have to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP: I'm with Twobitwo in that this does sound like a bit of a whinge because you feel excluded.

I'm very big but don't usually find very big men sexually attractive. The other thing is a matter of dynamics:

1 (big gut) + 1 (big gut) = (NO) bumping uglies!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Its nice to see different perspectives really.

Over the years I've had varying relationships with women of different shapes, sizes, colour etc.

I think I was trying to gauge the Single guy dynamic, I mean I could have posted about height I suppose.

The trend I've seen is seemingly tall dark, handsome, Athletic etc..

Like so many "adult sites" you tend to see filters, categories for your preferences such as in video porn sites as an example.

I think I used size because thats quite an immediate yay/nay decision, very easy to see in photos for example.

A lot of posts about time-wasters, abusive people because of rejections, anything that perhaps helps both parties to

a)avoid making wrong choices

b)avoid backlash by the other parties

c)Enjoy the site.

I know I chose the weight issue probably becuase I'm feeling less than 100% about my own appearance and when browsing profiles i'm very careful to avoid anyone that may explitcily state they aint looking for "Fatties", again thats a point of _iew, some people thing women over a size 10 are Fat or guts over a size 22 for example whereas most people may see those sizes as too skinny.

All relative of course but I agree with one or two people, Do not like bones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

HAHAHAH

thats just reminded me of a billy Connolly Sketch, and yes in many instances like that one, its not preferable at all.

and really, truly...am not whinging..not at been excluded on that basis, but I do see how my post may come across as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Skinny guys get all the fun...

No they don't people have preferences on the type of person they want to meet,me personally(mrs) Don't have a type of guy i go for,there just has to be an attraction and personality goes a long way for me too.

We recieved an email recently,the guy said on his profile that he was looking for slim women,when i replied that i wasnt slim,he said its ok you can sit on my face but i wont fuck you... Charming

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Skinny guys get all the fun...

We recieved an email recently,the guy said on his profile that he was looking for slim women,when i replied that i wasnt slim,he said its ok you can sit on my face but i wont fuck you... Charming

lol"

That is bloody awful, I have to admit it was cases such as that which i've read in other posts that kinda lead me to posting this I guess.

But that kind of abusiveness is unwarranted, I do hope you gave as good back or just simply ignored him and got on with people who do matter.

TBh, I'm wishing i'd not posted this now, I think It's come across the wrong way and my best intentions have gone awry.

Anything that helps people not get that kind of abuse is a good thing though I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skinny guys get all the fun...

We recieved an email recently,the guy said on his profile that he was looking for slim women,when i replied that i wasnt slim,he said its ok you can sit on my face but i wont fuck you... Charming

lol

That is bloody awful, I have to admit it was cases such as that which i've read in other posts that kinda lead me to posting this I guess.

But that kind of abusiveness is unwarranted, I do hope you gave as good back or just simply ignored him and got on with people who do matter.

TBh, I'm wishing i'd not posted this now, I think It's come across the wrong way and my best intentions have gone awry.

Anything that helps people not get that kind of abuse is a good thing though I guess."

Dont let it put you off posting in here,sometimes people read posts and read more into it(hope that made sense lol)

And i didnt give him the satisfaction of him thinking that he had bothered me,which he didnt,so didnt reply but he is blocked from contacting us again x

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By *r-MissCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I would not say that skinny guys get all the fun, if you look at some of the guys with good verfications (and lots of them), you will see that often these are not always skinny, slim or athletic guys.

People have preferences on this site and this does not make them shallow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bad choice of word using shallow and really sorry if that word offended anyone.

I'm a Great believer in beauty been more than skin deep, and yet yes, I like to look for certain things, preference as they say is our individual choice.

I guess I just noted that there is a pattern in these choices, and does this then cause issues both ways. some people here have shown accounts of attitude given back at them.

There seems to be a lot of people who argue both sides of the case, timewasters, pushy people, genuine people vs non-genuine.

Just trying to gauge if some of the issues come from conflicts in what people are seeking and want.

I also agree with what has been said quite a few times, that people don't read profiles.

I mean I'f I replied to someone's profile and they were looking for young athletic blonde men, then I'd be pretty daft sending them a message.

But yet this seems to happen (maybe not quite in that way) and you see stories on here or in the chat rooms where people are either rude, or abusive..

Just don't quite get it I guess.

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Speaking as one who is carrying 30 pounds of excess lard on his belly, its never hindered us in meeting people.

Like some of the others who actively seek out thin (skinny) peeps, we look for average, to slightly overweight.

We attend a party night once a month and I can tell you now that once you get to mid 40's, the body gives up wanting to be slim. Out of 12 couples or so that attend every month, maybe only 1 of those couples are thin, sometimes 2.

The majority are slightly overweight and are quite happy with it. Ive even seen some of the thin couples avoided by the others because they find them not attractive being so thin.

So the Op's comments really don't hold water, its a case of each to their own. Seek out those like yourself and you'll be ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wondering where all the statisics are coming from....recent thread said 90% of women on this site are looking for BBC...I am not! now 99% prefer, slim/athletic men, I don't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure about statistics but when you read these type of threads it seems that a lot of people have a problem with slim people, rather than slim people having a problem with overweight people, personally speaking nice men come in all shapes and sizes and it’s the nice bit that’s important.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow, it's amazing to see the different perspectives, really regretted the post earlier as what I meant to say and how it actually worded didn't tally up. I've found some of the comments very interesting. The statistics, I'm as much to blame I guess there, observed statistics, forum posts etc, left me thinking that there was some unwritten rules. I've learnt a lot from different peoples _iews here alone.

I hear far too much of single guys struggling, abusive behaviour from single guys etc, picky couples etc and many talking bout rejection and why.

I found it refreshing to actually have people say balls to all of that. Been a single guy, there has been a lot of negativity and like most if not all, just looking for sensible adult fun without the crap.

Thanks for those that did post x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's put the boot on the other foot.

It's human nature to fancy the people who are "easy on the eye".

Put 5 slim people and 5 large people, men or women for that matter, and ask any person at random, who they would prefer to shag.

I'd bet my house that the slim people would be the most popular choices.

It's just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True, I guess I'd probably vote same way bit then again not may e not. It's a good point though and very valid, well put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's put the boot on the other foot.

It's human nature to fancy the people who are "easy on the eye".

Put 5 slim people and 5 large people, men or women for that matter, and ask any person at random, who they would prefer to shag.

I'd bet my house that the slim people would be the most popular choices.

It's just the way it is

Sorry, I disagree....slim or easy on the eye may be some peoples choice where as curvy may be easy on the eye to others, it is all down to personal choice....not all people are attracted to slim folk, just as not all prefer curves.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's put the boot on the other foot.

It's human nature to fancy the people who are "easy on the eye".

Put 5 slim people and 5 large people, men or women for that matter, and ask any person at random, who they would prefer to shag.

I'd bet my house that the slim people would be the most popular choices.

It's just the way it is

of course some will go for the curvy people, and thank God that they do, or else I wouldn't get a shag, lol, but like I said, I'd bet my house that the slim people would be the most popular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say and I dont know what everyone else has said in reply, but this all really seems to be your own hang ups. I've not seen loads of profiles saying they want skinny guys. I've seen plenty of profiles that have met all types...

...and really it comes down to one thing, personality. You could have the body of an olympic athlete, but you still wont get very far if you are a miserable old git!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ima bigger lady i veer between a 16 and 18 ..people seem to like me that way and im very body confident ...Skinny guys do nothing for me i feel like i ould overwhelm someone smaller than me i like a guy who can throw me round a bit ...my guy is rugby player build thats perfect for me .... So to the OP its horses for courses u just cant generalise ...

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By *ominantPerv85Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

Have to say, I am quite skinny, and I've not had any fun on here yet.....................

Maybe I am just the exception to the rule lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bad choice of word using shallow and really sorry if that word offended anyone.

I'm a Great believer in beauty been more than skin deep, and yet yes, I like to look for certain things, preference as they say is our individual choice.

I guess I just noted that there is a pattern in these choices, and does this then cause issues both ways. some people here have shown accounts of attitude given back at them.

There seems to be a lot of people who argue both sides of the case, timewasters, pushy people, genuine people vs non-genuine.

Just trying to gauge if some of the issues come from conflicts in what people are seeking and want.

I also agree with what has been said quite a few times, that people don't read profiles.

I mean I'f I replied to someone's profile and they were looking for young athletic blonde men, then I'd be pretty daft sending them a message.

But yet this seems to happen (maybe not quite in that way) and you see stories on here or in the chat rooms where people are either rude, or abusive..

Just don't quite get it I guess."

seemed like a dig at us larger guys with super slim attractive bi fem women so hey hum that seems to blow your theory of women and couples choosing slim men only.

if we were ever knocked back for whatever reason by another member we would except it and move on(and not gripe)

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

as a... ahem ....."big old unit"..... I am having an absolute blast..... so maybe it is something I am doing!!!

oh... and I bet I am fitter than a lot of the perception of these "skinny" people anyway....

you concentrate on you... and be the best person you can be, that is the only thing you can affect!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry OP: I'm with Twobitwo in that this does sound like a bit of a whinge because you feel excluded.

I'm very big but don't usually find very big men sexually attractive. The other thing is a matter of dynamics:

1 (big gut) + 1 (big gut) = (NO) bumping uglies!

in that case i will have the big uns and you can have the skinny uns

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I like what i call robust men. Men that look as though they can throw me around. I did go with one thin guy for a while he was nice but physically to slim for me. Anyway now im an old woman i dont want them too fit i want to be able to keep up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as you see, its all about preference. I much prefer someone with a bit a meat on them, not because i dont fancy skinny/slim/athletic guys, but usually they take care of themselves, i cant afford a gym and also having had kids, id feel like Morecombe and Wise or Little and Large, Laurel and Hardie, dont think fit athletic guys want us that have had kids, therefore, i prefer a guy with imperfections like me, i wouldnt feel uncomfortable then. On the other hand though, if i chatted to someone and they are nearer my age and slim, i wouldnt turn them down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's put the boot on the other foot.

It's human nature to fancy the people who are "easy on the eye".

Put 5 slim people and 5 large people, men or women for that matter, and ask any person at random, who they would prefer to shag.

I'd bet my house that the slim people would be the most popular choices.

It's just the way it is

Have to agree there, you only have to look at the top 50 mens list in most womens magazines or read threads posted on here about celebrities you'd like to be swingers or have threesomes with etc and most mention slim athletic types

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take it from your rant you will jump anything !!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Personally I find that personality is just as important - if not more so - than physical appearances.

I'll admit that when I'm just browsing profiles the first thing that catches my eye is the person's appearance. That's usually because it's very difficult or even impossible to judge a person's character from the few words they've written in their profile. If the person doesn't post on the forums or I've not seen them in the chat room (on the couple of occasions I've used it) then their looks are really the only thing I have to go by.

However, I've lost count of the number of times that I've found myself attracted to someone because of their personality, even if I would have possibly dismissed them based solely on their looks for whatever reason.

It's as if I'm prepared to look past the physical aspect when I've found myself attracted to their personality; I can't honestly say, however, that I'm prepared to ignore someone being an arsehole just because they're drop-dead-gorgeous. I grew out of that mindset a long time ago now.

This may be because I'm no George Clooney lookalike myself (instead I've been told I look like Ian Hislop

) but I do think that I am personable and get on well with people generally. So, maybe there's some self-projection thing going on here... I rate personality highly in the hope that others will do so too.

Who knows... perhaps I'm just spouting complete rubbish again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you look at peoples profiles and then at their verifications you'll, most times, find that like attracts like.

That's one of the reasons couples will say "looking for similar".

People like to meet those that they feel comfortable with.

Some people have issues about their self image and the last thing they need to do is meet someone who makes them feel worse about themselves.

They might well desire a meet with their idea of a Venus or Adonis but their own insecurities prevent it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you look at peoples profiles and then at their verifications you'll, most times, find that like attracts like.

That's one of the reasons couples will say "looking for similar".

People like to meet those that they feel comfortable with.

Some people have issues about their self image and the last thing they need to do is meet someone who makes them feel worse about themselves.

They might well desire a meet with their idea of a Venus or Adonis but their own insecurities prevent it.

XXXX"

Thats the thing though, on these type of threads people say things like, prefer my man to be big blah blah, dont like slim atletic types, prefer rugby players, then on celebrity threads you get names like Daniel Craig, Jude Law, Wentworth Miller, Gerard Butler, Brad Pitt, Allan Rickman, Matt Damon, David Tennant, Christian Bale, Johnny Depp etc etc

So i certainly can see where the OP is coming from especially if he follows the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you look at peoples profiles and then at their verifications you'll, most times, find that like attracts like.

That's one of the reasons couples will say "looking for similar".

People like to meet those that they feel comfortable with.

Some people have issues about their self image and the last thing they need to do is meet someone who makes them feel worse about themselves.

They might well desire a meet with their idea of a Venus or Adonis but their own insecurities prevent it.

XXXX

So i certainly can see where the OP is coming from especially if he follows the forums."

Yeah, we've noticed that too.

That's what was meant in our last couple of lines.

They may well have a fantasy sex partner or body type but many would be too insecure to meet them, if given the chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a type, for me personality is very important, I've had a FB for a couple of years who is fairly overweight who is great in the sack, knows exactly what turns me on and is an all round great guy and we laugh a lot together. I've also had great times with skinny guys and average guys. As long as they don't look like the elephant man personality is the key to my choices with men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"take it from your rant you will jump anything !!"

Was that aimed at me, in actual fact no I won't. I look for personality, at times that's difficult to gauge from profiles, like to chat quite a bit before anything happens, like to be comfortable and the reverse applies. Agree with comments after this post. Personality is key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like skinny, geeky types, and from the feedback I've received, men like that don't have much luck on here. i don't like preening muscle men.

I've also recently developed a bit of a thing for short men. Small but perfectly formed. It takes all sorts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lol"

Personality goes a long way.

you know theres an awful lot of people posting on this saying the same thing.

Its not size its personality, yet at the start we had a few people saying, its personal preference, though my argument was that Looks aint everything and for the majority, that seems to be other peoples _iews too.

A woman who makes me laugh, makes me excited and who makes me at ease and lets me know she knows a lot behind those eyes, well that means much more though I do understand a lot of the arguments about personal preference, self pride, similar looks etc, confidence issues etc..

Found the comments on this post fascinating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lol"
haha....honesty's the best policy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lolhaha....honesty's the best policy.

I agree, "hi there, I have a very large belly and I haven't seen much of my cock in the last 4 years but I'm told its a good size"

Honesty, respectfulness and as most people say, just been yourself, counts for a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think we have gone right the way around the houses and back again, just to come to the same conclusion - everybody has their own prefences, if you do not fit these move on and respect the fact that others have said no thank you in a polite constructive manner.

(unlike the won't fuck you but can sit on my face comment)

Over and out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lol

Personality goes a long way.

you know theres an awful lot of people posting on this saying the same thing.

Found the comments on this post fascinating.

Read my profile! you'll see I prefer personality over looks everytime. If a guy can make me giggle he's already halfway there. Most people don't have a 'type' anyway. I like them whether they are tall, short, large or small but saying that I am not into huge muscly guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"size doesn't matter to me (in every aspect :P) as long as you have a pulse and a sense of humour lolhaha....honesty's the best policy.

Gawd can you imagine if we all rewrote our profiles stating all the horrid bits hahaha

44, prone to be being frosty, menopausel, so sweaty in bed, chicken drum stick thighs, stretch marks and a huge scar from belly button to pubic bone.

But a great smile and a bubbly personality !

Would that cut it?

Any takers??!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Where do I apply

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"I like skinny, geeky types, and from the feedback I've received, men like that don't have much luck on here. i don't like preening muscle men.

I've also recently developed a bit of a thing for short men. Small but perfectly formed. It takes all sorts

I can talk for hours about firewalls and TCP/IP... is that what you meant by the geeky type?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like skinny, geeky types, and from the feedback I've received, men like that don't have much luck on here. i don't like preening muscle men.

I've also recently developed a bit of a thing for short men. Small but perfectly formed. It takes all sorts

I can talk for hours about firewalls and TCP/IP... is that what you meant by the geeky type?"

Cisco Juniper of Firewall-1, not to mention Ipv4 or new sexy ipv6..ooohheeerrr I say.

from one Network Speaclist Geek to another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like skinny, geeky types, and from the feedback I've received, men like that don't have much luck on here. i don't like preening muscle men.

I've also recently developed a bit of a thing for short men. Small but perfectly formed. It takes all sorts

I can talk for hours about firewalls and

TCP/IP... is that what you meant by the geeky type?"

now you're talking!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hurrah for the geeks.

I knew all those years of transformers, Cult films, Comics, messing with my Amiga and then writing programs and finally tinkering with networks...there was a reason for it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Variety is the spice of life! We are all different and all have differing tastes and preferences. The observant will note trends when reading profiles but I think we all need to be a little 'thick skinned' to be on a site like this. You cannot take it personally when you are rejected/excluded for not meeting someone's specifications or requirements...nor can you necessarily change your appearance in order to meet that requirement. Simply move on and hope to find someone else with whom there is mutual attraction. Good luck...the Geeks will have their day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following on from what others have said, I'd have to agree that its is down to personal preference. However, personality is probably going to be more of a factor.

Funnily enough I recently spoke to a playmate and She said that she preferes a bit more meat on a guy and I'm the slimist guy She plays with. Then She said its because of my personality She likes me.

There you are you see, it really isn't worth getting hung up about, just be happy and love the skin you're in.

Having said all that, I appreciate we all do have limits (differing granted). I recently chatted to a girl who said She was a size 34 though had lost some weight - unfortunatly She was outside my comfort zone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well as you see, its all about preference. I much prefer someone with a bit a meat on them, not because i dont fancy skinny/slim/athletic guys, but usually they take care of themselves, i cant afford a gym and also having had kids, id feel like Morecombe and Wise or Little and Large, Laurel and Hardie, dont think fit athletic guys want us that have had kids, therefore, i prefer a guy with imperfections like me, i wouldnt feel uncomfortable then. On the other hand though, if i chatted to someone and they are nearer my age and slim, i wouldnt turn them down

I'm twice your size, I've had four children and my playmates are all between 5ft 11 to 6ft 4. They include a dancer/model, one that runs marathons, one tennis, a couple play golf and rugby, they dive. My point is ALL of my playmates are athletic, lithe or medium build.

The Michelin Man wants his tyres back and my boobs lost the fight with gravity decades ago. Lymph oedema and erythema nodus have left my legs scared. My playmates can't wait to get their hands on me, and a rock hard erection says it all.

I meet playmates socially, they see me in the flesh. It's a major confidence booster seeing handsome, fit men nervous and excited in your presence.

It makes a difference how you feel about yourself too I think. I'm rich, smart, gainfully employed, attractive and think men are very lucky to be around me.

. My playmates are also professional men, directors etc.

I met a new playmate this week, we'd met twice before socially. For the first time I felt nervous. Why? I've not been well with the flu, plus it was months since I'd played due to a medical condition, not had my hair done and he is gorgeous: I nearly cancelled because I didn't feel good about me.

The phone was in my hand to call when he called me, excited, looking forward to seeing me. He travelled across London in blizzard conditions to get to me: and I live on a hill!!

We spent six hours together, stopping for lunch and coffee. Even when we sat snuggled up having coffee before he left I cannot say I was confident in myself: this has never happened to me as I think I'm hot and the men lucky. I didn't feel myself and that affected how I was around such a handsome, fit, younger man.

*Please note the "up my own" arse response in this thread is made with my tongue firmly in cheek to illustrate fit, handsome men do play with Ms Blobby's and some even hold our hands, kiss us and socialise with us in public and they're not out as part of Care in the Community.

I thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you look at peoples profiles and then at their verifications you'll, most times, find that like attracts like.

That's one of the reasons couples will say "looking for similar".

People like to meet those that they feel comfortable with.

Some people have issues about their self image and the last thing they need to do is meet someone who makes them feel worse about themselves.

They might well desire a meet with their idea of a Venus or Adonis but their own insecurities prevent it.

XXXX"

Should have read to the end before posting as this sums it up nicely!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

prefers very skinny guys in a gang bang situation..

once they had their go, you snap them in half, easier keeping track who is still to have a go

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It's all about confidence and how you carry yourself. I'm far more attracted to people who like themselves and who are comfortable with who they are.

We all have body issues... I've just lost a whole heap of weight and I feel much better for it but there are still things I don't like and want to change. However, I keep those to myself, work on them without whinging that my tummy still wobbles.

For me... people are attractive from the inside. I chat to some folks and I have no idea what they look like. The mental connection for me is more important. We all have preferences and some of them may come across as shallow or picky but they're our choices to make.

It may be an old cliche but I think if you like yourself then it's much easier for other people to like you. One lady I met in this scene is a bigger girl, she makes no bones about it and she oozes confidence. That's not to say she doesn't have moments like the rest of us when her tummy wobbles but I don't know that I've ever met someone who's more attractive regardless of her size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

speaking as somone who was once the wrong end of 17 stone, and now just under 14 stone. i can say hand on my heart, if people like a slim person, they like a slim person, if they like anyone so long as they are nice, and get alone with them, then thats who they'll meet.

im no way near slim, nor would i want to be, most of the women/couples ive played with have all said they liked "real" men *cough not those who are slaves to a gym*cough* bar one or two who just liked me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet playmates socially, they see me in the flesh. It's a major confidence booster seeing handsome, fit men nervous and excited in your presence.

It makes a difference how you feel about yourself too I think. I'm rich, smart, gainfully employed, attractive and think men are very lucky to be around me.

. My playmates are also professional men, directors etc.

The phone was in my hand to call when he called me, excited, looking forward to seeing me. He travelled across London in blizzard conditions to get to me: and I live on a hill!!

I thank you!

To be honest, from many years of ridicule, an appalling childhood and not wishing to be likend to my mother, its taken me a long time to actually like myself: i work she doesnt, when i moved into my house, i worked till the early hours of the morning to sort it out, she never has, she is overweight constantly moans about it but does nothing other than want a magic pill, i have worked hard to lose weight. i know from your comment, that i am still not wholly there but Rome wasnt built in a day.

There are some guys on here that ive no desire to meet as i feel they are far too good looking for me, least i have something to offer them if i am slim. Its also my reason for not liking the 20's age group; most of them on here are slim, fit, i dont see that they would want me as i'm not the typical hot slim 'gym attending' gorgeous cougar.

I do fancy slim etc guys, i just think they wouldnt really want me, thats not to say that i purposely look for men with similar figures to mine but i do feel slightly uncomfortable with those that are slim. On the other hand once as you say, following several hours of chatting, I feel comfortable and all thoughts of "why would they want me??" go out the window and several hours of hot sex follows

I don't want to sound like i am putting down those that i have met that are slim and fit as i am not, to me they are good looking but not an Adonis and lets face it who would want someone that spends hours at the gym and more time looking in the mirror, leaves no time for sex really does it

So for me personality counts but i still wouldnt touch those that you have met, and ive only one out of your three but as i have said, i'm working on one of them, just takes time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Variety is the spice of life! We are all different and all have differing tastes and preferences. The observant will note trends when reading profiles but I think we all need to be a little 'thick skinned' to be on a site like this. You cannot take it personally when you are rejected/excluded for not meeting someone's specifications or requirements...nor can you necessarily change your appearance in order to meet that requirement. Simply move on and hope to find someone else with whom there is mutual attraction. Good luck...the Geeks will have their day!

Well i meet a geek, least it gives intelligent conversation even though i dont always understand what he says

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all babe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all babe

Tsk tsk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any one has the ability to fuck and yeh super fit people can fuck like bulls, but my mind is trained like a tiger, and as sharp as a nail not to mention my Tongue which is also razor sharp, good if your intelligent enough, but it doesn't as nor do I, suffer fools.

I think I've learnt from this entire post this, people have very different needs and desires and many have different reasons for why the look in a smaller pool of people.

I just keep looking, to those who say no, I say Bon voyage and the best of luck in what ever sexy adventures the road takes them. I will continue to grow following my divorce and those that say hi, well your welcome to stay and play a while. Lifes too short to get upset, let me show you such sights

Xxx

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Well i meet a geek, least it gives intelligent conversation even though i dont always understand what he says

Aww, Kitten, I'm sure you'd understand me - I'm more like the bloke off the IT Crowd than Stephen Hawking... and if you had any problems with your computer, then I could fix it at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speaking as one who is carrying 30 pounds of excess lard on his belly, its never hindered us in meeting people.

Like some of the others who actively seek out thin (skinny) peeps, we look for average, to slightly overweight.

The majority are slightly overweight and are quite happy with it. Ive even seen some of the thin couples avoided by the others because they find them not attractive being so thin.

So the Op's comments really don't hold water, its a case of each to their own. Seek out those like yourself and you'll be ok."

I've read a lot of your posts and responses on here and you seem to talk a lot of sense and have a good perspective!

Good call and credit where credit is due!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

I've had this song running round and round in my head all day long...

Some guys have all the luck

Some guys have all the pain

Some guys get all the breaks

Some guys do nothing but complain

...hopefully someone else will share my pain now too

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

ps - I'm not in any way suggesting that anyone in this thread fits any of the categories, it's just I heard the song on the radio and it was stuck in my head for hours. Hopefully it's stuck in your's now too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people will look for the more athletic guys cos its a 'fantasy' to be with a ripped guy.

Others purposely avoid meeting ripped guys cos they have the impression their ego's are too big.

And just cos hubby at home isnt athletic, dont mean they cant ask for athletic guys... why have the same as what you already have at home.

Im a bigger guy, yes that will put some people off but we dont have trouble getting meets as either a couple, or me playing alone. There is someone for everyone on this site, whatever your size, height, colour etc. More than anything your personality will count.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

i get pleny of meets and i get my fair amount of peeps turning me down and its true personality does count why should body size come in to it, its pity because it does with a lot of peeps

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

I just picked up on the bit of your post that said are people that 'shallow minded'? Of course we are! And we're allowed to be! As others have said, it's choice. A lot of people choose not to have sex with larger people.

We're all shallow when it comes to swinging - it's not like a relationship where other factors come into it other than looks. It's purely about looks with swinging. If i'm not phyically attracted to someone - it aint happening.

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ps - I'm not in any way suggesting that anyone in this thread fits any of the categories, it's just I heard the song on the radio and it was stuck in my head for hours. Hopefully it's stuck in your's now too."

nope

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

nope

Damn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i,wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marts skinny, Lisas not, its not size thats the decidng factor in who we like, its the whole combination of looks and personality, Lisa is often fussier than Mart, she will often veto a couple that Mart would meet based on the males photos.

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over a year ago

to the OP - i wouldnt class you as 'ample' at all. I would change that immediately to average. When i think of the word 'ample' in a guy, i think of Bernard Manning, Big Daddy wrestler or even Peter Kay. I expected to see a big guy in the pics, but didnt see that at all. Perhaps a change in the description and a more positive outlook is all you need? Hope this helps you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"prefers very skinny guys in a gang bang situation..

once they had their go, you snap them in half, easier keeping track who is still to have a go

LOL! trust you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And on a personal note, i'd rather have a guy wi meat on his bones - i wouldnt want to break him cos i am no lightweight- leave that to View!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for every woman that like a slim guy, there's a woman who likes a bulky guy. for every woman who wants only white guys, there's a woman who wants only black guys

It's all about preferences. I'm sure you've got your own. Though having said that, I've seen some very picky profiles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i get pleny of meets and i get my fair amount of peeps turning me down and its true personality does count why should body size come in to it, its pity because it does with a lot of peeps

Personality does count. But let's be honest. On a site like this, it takes a back seat. It's about physical attraction, then you get to know the person. I think we'd all be lying to ourselves to say otherwise!

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By *ifferentClassMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *ifferentClassMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Without wanting to sound cynical about my own gender, I think it is down to a combination of sheer weight of numbers and the fact that many men would shag the hole in a polo mint. Bigger women will still have the pick of a host of single guys chasing them - and they can afford to be picky, so regardless of their own size, they can target slim/athletic men with plenty scope for success, I am sure. Personal choice and all that.

On the other hand, we hear of plenty examples of a girl getting 150 offers of sex a day without any pictures on their profile, so those messaging seem happy to shag regardless of looks/size etc That's just men!

In the world of swinging we have BBWs but not BBM - just fat bastards!

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over a year ago

"Without wanting to sound cynical about my own gender, I think it is down to a combination of sheer weight of numbers and the fact that many men would shag the hole in a polo mint. Bigger women will still have the pick of a host of single guys chasing them - and they can afford to be picky, so regardless of their own size, they can target slim/athletic men with plenty scope for success, I am sure. Personal choice and all that.

In the world of swinging we have BBWs but not BBM - just fat bastards!

In the world of swinging, we try to impress people who's opinions (usually) mean F-all to us, just to get some fun! I've read a couple of profiles about what certain women want and they'll be lucky to find it. Even if they do, that doesn't guarantee they'll like them or they'll have a good meet.

Chill my friend!

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By *ingleguy1973Man
over a year ago

peterborough

looks only go so fae... at the end of the day size is just another number like age etc. without wanting to sound shallow, yes appearance does matter but only to a certain extent.

confidence to me is far more appealing. someone who is happy with the way they look is better than somebody who is a so called perfect 10 but is not happy with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well im livin proof of the saying someone fa everyone lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say (and brutal as it sounds) if anyone thinks that their weight is stopping them getting laid, and thats causing them annoyance, drinling less beer, eating less bacon butties and walking round the block every night would probably sort that problem out in a few months.

Now before everyone jumps on my back about there being other reasons for being big im not excempt from weight issues (this is mart by the way not lisa) im underweight and i know it, i have to have 6 monthly health checks due to a bike accidenat i had 20 years ago and the doc is always telling me my BMI is hovering around the very bottom of the healthy range.

What i should do is eat a calorie controlled diet (more calories not less) and go to the gymn and build muscle mass, however what i actually do is sit on my pc quite happily knowing that i have girl mates who prefer heavier guys and have never slept with me for that simple reason.

I'm happy to have had the experiances that i have and leave the gilrs who like bigger guys to the rest of you.

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By *umpingJackFlashMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near you?

Well I'm far from slim, but I have stamina!

And so far its not effected my ability to meet people. Some like their men to be rakes other like a bit of meat. But I'm sure most prefer someone they can get on with both out of bed and in, no matter what their size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging, to a lot of people is about living out your fantasies.

Wonder how many ladies fantasize about being shagged by a fat bloke?

When ever we get a thread on here about "fantasy shags", I've never seen Johnny Vegas or Peter Kay on the list.

Let's face it, the Ladies who swing are in the driving seat, they have hundreds to choose from, and the fact is, they know they do too.

We've been playing about two and a half years now, and regularly go to clubs and parties. We rarely see an obese or very overweight guy. Yes, you will see the guys with beer bellies, but you wont see anywhere near the same number as you do of overweight ladies.

It's just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging, to a lot of people is about living out your fantasies."

Thank you!

That's the point I try to make on all threads of this type. Some people get really offended if they're excluded in some way, but it shouldn't be taken personally as for most of us it IS about living a fantasy!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, I'm a slim athletic guy and i can't seem to get any fun.

Its obviously something more then that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey, I'm a slim athletic guy and i can't seem to get any fun.

Its obviously something more then that."

Yes patience, you’ve only been here 3 weeks and your first forum post is saying you’re getting no fun rather than introducing yourself.

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over a year ago

"Hey, I'm a slim athletic guy and i can't seem to get any fun.

Its obviously something more then that.

Yes patience, you’ve only been here 3 weeks and your first forum post is saying you’re getting no fun rather than introducing yourself. "

Not forgetting that you are way to young for those of us that have kids your age group

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