FabSwingers.com forum: Blocking someone you've met

By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago

Southend

So we've recently blocked someone who's been to our home, as anyone had this and had problems? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done a few times and no....I found it gives them the hint good and proper!

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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago

Southend

"Done a few times and no....I found it gives them the hint good and proper! "

That's good, she thinks he'll try to pop round, I said he wouldn't be so stupid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he does come round what's he gonna do? You don't have to answer the door to them.

I've never had any problems, i block or ignore people i've met. Sometimes by accident but mostly coz i don't wanna meet them again.

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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago

Southend

"If he does come round what's he gonna do? You don't have to answer the door to them.

I've never had any problems, i block or ignore people i've met. Sometimes by accident but mostly coz i don't wanna meet them again."

That's what I said.

It's a shame really, another single male letting the side down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had any problems. I've probably blocked a fair % of my meets too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he does come round what's he gonna do? You don't have to answer the door to them.

I've never had any problems, i block or ignore people i've met. Sometimes by accident but mostly coz i don't wanna meet them again.

That's what I said.

It's a shame really, another single male letting the side down

I've given out my address to a few no shows too, nothing came of that either.

It'll be fine i'm sure.

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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago

Southend

"If he does come round what's he gonna do? You don't have to answer the door to them.

I've never had any problems, i block or ignore people i've met. Sometimes by accident but mostly coz i don't wanna meet them again.

That's what I said.

It's a shame really, another single male letting the side down

I've given out my address to a few no shows too, nothing came of that either.

It'll be fine i'm sure."

Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he does come round what's he gonna do? You don't have to answer the door to them.

I've never had any problems, i block or ignore people i've met. Sometimes by accident but mostly coz i don't wanna meet them again.

That's what I said.

It's a shame really, another single male letting the side down

I've given out my address to a few no shows too, nothing came of that either.

It'll be fine i'm sure.

Thank you xxx"

No problem. Hope you don't worry any more about it.

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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago

Southend

"If he does come round what's he gonna do? You don't have to answer the door to them.

I've never had any problems, i block or ignore people i've met. Sometimes by accident but mostly coz i don't wanna meet them again.

That's what I said.

It's a shame really, another single male letting the side down

I've given out my address to a few no shows too, nothing came of that either.

It'll be fine i'm sure.

Thank you xxx

No problem. Hope you don't worry any more about it.

I'm hoping she'll be fine. He was a nice guy, just kept messaging when we weren't interested anymore xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be easier to email them to say we just wanted it one time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it easier not to block just message and say your reasons a think it would be terrible if a meet at mine and they went home and blocked me , so I would not do it that way

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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago

Southend

We didn't do it that way.

We met, verified and moved on as he wasn't for us.

Then after a week, started getting a message everyday, said we wouldn't meet again and still got more messages.

I appreciate E is a good fuck, but after several no's we just had to block him

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

I had something similar

I met a guy off here at his

I thought it would be once but he kept messaging wanting to see me again

He became verbally abusive when I got busy or said I wanted to meet but wouldn't go round as soon as he expected me to

Each time he was abusive it made me not wanna meet him again incase he was more than just verbally abusive

It all came to a head last week when I met someone else he flew off on one

I ignored his messages and I ended up erh 8 in my inbox he called me everything under the sun then threatened me told me to get off the site I was a cock tease etc

I thot he might calm down but in the morning he'd removed me from his friends list... By the afternoon he'd blocked me

It's not nice when people spoil it

I do say the same thing to people

Come on this site expect nothing... Anything you get is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've blocked odd ones I've met once. It's the only way they will get the message. It's tool to be used and I use it wisely lol

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

"I had something similar

I met a guy off here at his

I thought it would be once but he kept messaging wanting to see me again

He became verbally abusive when I got busy or said I wanted to meet but wouldn't go round as soon as he expected me to

Each time he was abusive it made me not wanna meet him again incase he was more than just verbally abusive

It all came to a head last week when I met someone else he flew off on one

I ignored his messages and I ended up erh 8 in my inbox he called me everything under the sun then threatened me told me to get off the site I was a cock tease etc

I thot he might calm down but in the morning he'd removed me from his friends list... By the afternoon he'd blocked me

It's not nice when people spoil it

I do say the same thing to people

Come on this site expect nothing... Anything you get is a bonus

oh hell thats awful. Thankfully you are strong enough to deal with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We didn't do it that way.

We met, verified and moved on as he wasn't for us.

Then after a week, started getting a message everyday, said we wouldn't meet again and still got more messages.

I appreciate E is a good fuck, but after several no's we just had to block him

I blocked a FB on whatsapp, my phone and here. Nothing came of that either, except he made a status about putting out the trash, cheeky git.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Done a few times and no....I found it gives them the hint good and proper!

That's good, she thinks he'll try to pop round, I said he wouldn't be so stupid"

It can happen. People have posted about previous meets turning up unannounced wanting a fuck.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I think it's harsh to treat people that way. You've met them, shagged them and now don't want to talk to them. HEAR ME OUT......

I don't want contact with meets either so I make it clear from the OFF e.g. No phone chats, ping pong messages or mails etc after the meet.

It hasn't been said clearly enough if he kept on messaging.

That's why he now needs blocking.

People need to take responsibility in who they chose and how and what they communicated with them.

Not everyone who wants a shag is a nutter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Done a few times and no....I found it gives them the hint good and proper!

That's good, she thinks he'll try to pop round, I said he wouldn't be so stupid

It can happen. People have posted about previous meets turning up unannounced wanting a fuck. "

Why since moving I no longer accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he does come round what's he gonna do? You don't have to answer the door to them.

I've never had any problems, i block or ignore people i've met. Sometimes by accident but mostly coz i don't wanna meet them again.

That's what I said.

It's a shame really, another single male letting the side down

I had similar with a couple who despite being told to stop kept calling various times of day and night.

Not just single men that spoil it couples no better just ratio of men to women make it look worse.

Single or couple its out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Close the door gently in their face without speaking if they do and call the authorities if they wont go away.... I had that from a guy from another site! That's the bet advice I can give xx

Have met loads of people over the years, almost no-one turns up after a blocking xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting reading through all the posts of everyone's experiences, some of them awful.

Unfortunately, some people cannot take no for an answer & somehow think that badgering you will somehow gain them a repeat performance.

In reality, the vast majority wouldn't just turn up out of the blue, it's embarrassing for them & you. Plus, if it continues, it's s form of harassment, regardless of how it came about.

I understand the concern, but I doubt there's really anything to worry about.

P x

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

After an experience I had, my advice is to tread carefully....

In 2014 I enjoyed a meet with a couple at my flat above the pub... It was an ok meet, but not a couple I'd choose to meet again.

Several messages followed suggesting a repeat meeting, what I should have done was politely say no, or say I was busy... but I blocked them... That weekend to my shock they walked in the pub, I was busy but acknowledged them, I saw them chatting to staff and customers and seemingly having a laugh... what I didn't know was it was at my expense... They told everyone they spoke to that the landlord was a swinger...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After an experience I had, my advice is to tread carefully....

In 2014 I enjoyed a meet with a couple at my flat above the pub... It was an ok meet, but not a couple I'd choose to meet again.

what a malicious thing to do, wankers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's harsh to treat people that way. You've met them, shagged them and now don't want to talk to them. HEAR ME OUT......

I don't want contact with meets either so I make it clear from the OFF e.g. No phone chats, ping pong messages or mails etc after the meet.

It hasn't been said clearly enough if he kept on messaging.

That's why he now needs blocking.

People need to take responsibility in who they chose and how and what they communicated with them.

Not everyone who wants a shag is a nutter.

They're not all nutters but there's always that risk. We met a couple of possessive couples early on so have since made necessary adjustments in how we msg prior to meets.

The signs they may turn funny/mardy/sensitive are always there if you know what to look for.

Make your wants/needs clear, stick to them and you won't (hopefully) go wrong

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"After an experience I had, my advice is to tread carefully....

In 2014 I enjoyed a meet with a couple at my flat above the pub... It was an ok meet, but not a couple I'd choose to meet again.

Not being funny but live in pub jobs probably don't offer the best options for accommodating- for exactly the reason you've just highlighted.

I doubt many would invite someone to their workplace for a meet, be it an office, shop or call centre. It's best keeping social life and work completely separate.

I'm curious regarding those saying they've blocked people who've already been to their houses. Sure - you've prevented future messages - but they already have your address. Is it not best to keep things simple and civil and just say that you've no interest in meeting again? If someone is mental enough to call round uninvited I suspect that blocking them is more likely to antagonise them further and increase the chances of them being a twat, rather than prevent it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After an experience I had, my advice is to tread carefully....

In 2014 I enjoyed a meet with a couple at my flat above the pub... It was an ok meet, but not a couple I'd choose to meet again.

Hope you told everyone that they only knew that because you'd fucked him and his wife and didn't wanna fuck them again.

Still, what knobs to do that just coz you didn't wanna fuck them/her again.

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

"After an experience I had, my advice is to tread carefully....

In 2014 I enjoyed a meet with a couple at my flat above the pub... It was an ok meet, but not a couple I'd choose to meet again.

What miserable, spiteful shits they were.

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I met a woman on here, we had a great meet. Spoke a couple of times after which was great even talked about meeting again. Then she got a master and blocked me. No reason why. but I wouldn't dream of holding it against her. Her loss thats my view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thought politely explaining that you wish to have no further contact with them would be preferable to a straight block. Surely all blocking does is make them wonder why deserved on not, thus increasing the chance of further contact.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

It's a downside of Fabs. There's always the chance that some things don't work out and get ugly. Just sad when adults can't walk away amicably.

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

I've been blocked by a meet before. I just assumed it didn't float their boat and I just moved on. No point worrying about it this isn't a dating site lol.

I'm not so sure all guys are the same if they get blocked after a meet though lol

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By *etzPlay OP Couple
over a year ago

Southend

this why I hate posting on here as on a text based site not everyone seems to read!

He was told 3 times that we wouldn't meet again, then after another message we blocked him xx

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