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"I hear the statement all the time 'It's better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all' Now personally I think it's a load of old bull. Especially the way I'm feeling right now. I've read many threads that people have confessed to falling for their fb and it has resulted in the same predicament that I'm in now. My question to you fantastic fabbers is.. How long did it take for your broken heart to mend? What did it take for you to snap out of it and how did you alleviate the hurt? Time may be a healer but it's been over three months now and it hasn't become any easier " Can take years and some days you still feel like your back to square one Just as time goes on it doesnt occupy your every thought, not that you dont think of them loads each day but you are soon able to focus on other things aswell | |||
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"I hear the statement all the time 'It's better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all' Now personally I think it's a load of old bull. Especially the way I'm feeling right now. I've read many threads that people have confessed to falling for their fb and it has resulted in the same predicament that I'm in now. My question to you fantastic fabbers is.. How long did it take for your broken heart to mend? What did it take for you to snap out of it and how did you alleviate the hurt? Time may be a healer but it's been over three months now and it hasn't become any easier Can take years and some days you still feel like your back to square one Just as time goes on it doesnt occupy your every thought, not that you dont think of them loads each day but you are soon able to focus on other things aswell " Thanks. Not much to look forward to then lol I'll keep plodding on. Three months is relatively new if we are talking about years!! | |||
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"I feel ur pain i fell for mine in here didnt work out im heartbroken over it." The more people I speak to the more I realise it happens all the time. Brings a completely different meaning to the statement NSA.. If only it was true and that simple. Thank you for sharing and good luck with your healing | |||
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"O p are you mistaking love for lust and companionship the 2 can be muddled as one." Nope, I can assure you I know the difference between lust and love. Have experienced lust a few times on here omg have ever hehe and companionship, was married for 14 years so I belive I have that one sussed too. Not saying I dont miss the companion side of our relationship because I do but without a shadow of a doubt; It is love | |||
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"I hear the statement all the time 'It's better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all' Now personally I think it's a load of old bull. Especially the way I'm feeling right now. I've read many threads that people have confessed to falling for their fb and it has resulted in the same predicament that I'm in now. My question to you fantastic fabbers is.. How long did it take for your broken heart to mend? What did it take for you to snap out of it and how did you alleviate the hurt? Time may be a healer but it's been over three months now and it hasn't become any easier Can take years and some days you still feel like your back to square one Just as time goes on it doesnt occupy your every thought, not that you dont think of them loads each day but you are soon able to focus on other things aswell Thanks. Not much to look forward to then lol I'll keep plodding on. Three months is relatively new if we are talking about years!! " Im talking about a loss, not a fb so im sure you wont be hit as hard as me | |||
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"If i may offer a perspective, i would instead of looking at it as a loss see it as a gain. Experiences happen (FACT)... the good/bad are irrelevant in terms of losing/gaining and are subjective based upon the filters of past experiences. As such if you can see the experience for what it was, learn the lessons involved with the experience,(as an example you know you like this trait in guys and not that trait) and use them to better your understanding not just of other guys but of yourself and what you require. Good and bad over complicate things and really are a distraction. If you are like me and believe everything happens for a reason... you should be excited by the opportunities that are about to be laid out before you... offering new experiences ...new and different men... and a hell of a good time if you let it. While im not saying it isnt hard... i would say that think of how much better it could be...and are you going to let yourself pass up new opportunities for the sake of love lost. " Thank you. I do keep telling myself that (as well as all my friends too) maybe I will be able to look back on it in time to come and truly believe it but right now I'm trying to convince myself something I don't belive is true. A no win situation until my head is sorted I'm afraid. I am managing to have fun but of course, once bitten twice shy and all that. I'm scared to fall again so I've had to completely change the way I operate on here and keep it clinical/emotionless (can do passion without emotion) so I do not open myself up again to the hurt. | |||
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"I hear the statement all the time 'It's better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all' Now personally I think it's a load of old bull. Especially the way I'm feeling right now. I've read many threads that people have confessed to falling for their fb and it has resulted in the same predicament that I'm in now. My question to you fantastic fabbers is.. How long did it take for your broken heart to mend? What did it take for you to snap out of it and how did you alleviate the hurt? Time may be a healer but it's been over three months now and it hasn't become any easier Can take years and some days you still feel like your back to square one Just as time goes on it doesnt occupy your every thought, not that you dont think of them loads each day but you are soon able to focus on other things aswell " Not over a fb, but this over the 1 guy I fell for. Took me Years to get over, probably only cemented actually when I started dating someone else a few years down the line, though it never worked out. Time doesn't heal, but it gets easier. Keep busy in the mean time. And avoid any new FB scenarios while your feeling delicate. Big hugs x | |||
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