FabSwingers.com forum: Is swinging for me?

By *abydollxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham - Selly oak

So been on this site for a couple of weeks and spoke to some lovely people, we even met up with a couple who were lovely but im so body conscious I don't know if I should carry on or just wait until I've lost weight.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"So been on this site for a couple of weeks and spoke to some lovely people, we even met up with a couple who were lovely but im so body conscious I don't know if I should carry on or just wait until I've lost weight. "

Carry on swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe if you get out and about visit some clubs you'll see all shapes and sizes xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Are you Laura or Ash?

Whichever one you are only you can decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt wrong with curvy. Everything wrong with not being comfortable in your own skin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carry on swinging

One thing I learnt there is always someone older fatter not as fit smellier stupider worse dress sense anywhere you go .

It's upto you if you believe me ,

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Carry on swinging

One thing I learnt there is always someone older fatter not as fit smellier stupider worse dress sense anywhere you go .

It's upto you if you believe me ,"

And I am that person

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Which ever one of you it is, the vast majority of people have sinilar feelings to you, just to a greater or less extent. Although you may not be confident in your own body, there are plenty of people im am certain would love to worship your body and make you feel like the sexiest person alive.

If you enjoy swinging then carry on. It might even help when you see how much others enjoy your body. But if it is really making you sad, then knock it on the head, but you are the only person who can make that decision.

Life is too short to spend it doing things that make you sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also body conscious, however, there is no moment like the present, there is no point waiting for the perfect moment because there isn't one. Whether swinging is for you or not, is a decision only you can make

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Also body conscious, however, there is no moment like the present, there is no point waiting for the perfect moment

because there isn't one. Whether

swinging is for you or not, is a decision

only you can make"

Exactly.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Please carry on, we had the same dilemma a few months ago and, despite the fear, went to club anyway and, while we still get nerves, we were fine, learned a lot about us by trying it! good luck x

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

As a 33 year old woman, who has had 2 children, I have had many relationships with my own body. I've had the 'happy teen' body, the pregnancy body twice, the ever inflating boobs, the saggy bits, the firm bits, etc etc.

I've come to the conclusion that whatever relationship I have with my body there is someone out there who loves it!! I get messages everyday from people who love my curves, yes I get some that aren't quite as kind, but do you know what, I have curves and after everything me and my lil bod have been through we are best mates, so I treat myself weekly to little things that make me smile.

As has been suggested, why not try a club, first time I went I was totally covered up, bit as time has gone on my confidence has grown and now I wear a rather sexy corset to go out in and I feel fab in it.

Trust me, any insecurities you have are soon gone once you get one person say 'wow, you look amazing'.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

that was beautifully and eloquently put, _ngeluk69

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a 33 year old woman, who has had 2 children, I have had many relationships with my own body. I've had the 'happy teen' body, the pregnancy body twice, the ever inflating boobs, the saggy bits, the firm bits, etc etc.

Trust me, any insecurities you have are soon gone once you get one person say 'wow, you look amazing'.

And you do look amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Angel,

brilliant and honest answer, I think that is probably one of the best thought out replies I've seen on here so far.

I probably don't need to add anything, but I will anyway.

I'm a 43 year old bloke with ME/CFS and although I get on with life I'm no longer the person I used to be and at the moment I can't do the things I used to do, so unfortunately no gym for me at this time.

I'm a 6ft guy who weighs around 18 1/2 stone, which was fine when I was 9% body fat, but not so great now that I'm not. If I'm totally honest, it does bother me, but I have to accept that I am what I am at this time.

The point I am probably trying to get to is that I've never really been as critical of how others look as I have about myself, I tend to see the great points in others but the bad points in myself, I guess there's a lot in the same boat. You'll probably find that most people are more accepting of you than you are of yourself, we are our own worst critics so, if you can, put your own body image to one side and get out there and enjoy yourself.

Hope this makes some kind of sense.

Neil

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

When I was in my teens I felt I was too big. In my twenties I had children and changed shape rapidly and never returned to my pre pregnancy shape and size. In my thirties I still kept well covered. My forties flew by in a flurry of body self loathing. I'm now in my fifties and realise all the wasted time worrying about my body. I've entered this life style and have found body confidence which spills over into my every day life. I'm happier with my body than I've ever been... Big bits, saggy bits and all!

My advice is enjoy your body as it is. The pleasure it can give you is immense! Love yourself. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive felt like this a few times too, I hate my body , size , shape and I have a few scars from a while back all of which makes me very self confident and I have often wondered the same thing. I've decided to keep with it for now and see if it helps me in the long run

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely try a club because as someone said you'll see all sorts of shapes and sizes. I ( the Mrs ) am a size 18 and currently on a journey of self love. In fact last time we visted a club I took off my dress that covered everything and wore a rather sexy see through dress and was complimented so much on it.

If you don't love yourself now, you still won't love yourself a few stone lighter

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

very true! You have nothing to lose by trying, be brave and trust me you will both be amazed by the compliments you get. good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you'd feel better by losing weight, then lose it. Swinging shouldn't really be a factor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im very body conscious and was 3 stone heavier a year ago. Found it pretty difficult meeting at first (still do a bit lol) But always had lovely compliments and i agree with other people, visit a club, its really eye opening to see people of all shapes and sizes wondering around, completely comfortable with themselves! Its lovely. Oh and sexy outfits can cover a multitude of insecurities too! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know exactly how you feel OP.

I (Mr) am very body conscious, to the extent that it effects my play.i have no problem saying I'm a very big guy. As soon as I start thinking about it the big guy (yeah right lol) downstairs just goes and I really struggle to get it back.

This has happened a fair few times to the extent that I was considering leaving the lifestyle and putting it down for its just not for me/I don't fit in.

The way I look at it now is the people we've played with. They could have asked to play with others but they asked us. So if it doesn't bother them, why should it bother me?

My advice is don't leave and just forget yourself and enjoy it (easier said than done I know)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone at some time or other has thoughts about their own body image, should I carry on with this etc. including me, (more so as I get older)

More recently, as I've thought about joining a club, I've questioned myself as to whether I would look out of place, do I look fit enough etc. etc. In other word, grab hold of as much anxiety and self doubt as I can lay my hands on, lol. (This is quite normal initially or so I'm lead to believe)

I know as most have pointed out on this thread that this is not how the majority of people you meet will see you so there's no need to worry about it. I think as long as you are enjoying what you do I hope you'll carry on.

Carry on, build self confidence from all the positive comments and compliments you receive and if you feel you want a change on how you see yourself you can do that at the same time as enjoying yourself.

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