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"Thank goodness that's finally been cleared up! "Indeed! We all know the time wasters etc will not do the above,and will waste someone's time.Us genuine folk are alright tho...  | |||
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"Thank goodness that's finally been cleared up!
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We all know the time wasters etc will not do the above,and will waste someone's time.Us genuine folk are alright tho... "Genuine are fine. But so many people get it wrong and just dont realise that we know what to look for. But from our eyes. If they cant be bothered to respect what we put in our profile, then they arn't going to respect our wishes at a meet. so they dont stand a chance. | |||
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"Thank goodness that's finally been cleared up!
Indeed!
We all know the time wasters etc will not do the above,and will waste someone's time.Us genuine folk are alright tho...
Genuine are fine. But so many people get it wrong and just dont realise that we know what to look for.
But from our eyes. If they cant be bothered to respect what we put in our profile, then they arn't going to respect our wishes at a meet. so they dont stand a chance."There will always be chancers! Us "genuine" swingers usually know what to look for,but occasionally we'll probably get caught out... | |||
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"Thank goodness that's finally been cleared up!
Indeed!
We all know the time wasters etc will not do the above,and will waste someone's time.Us genuine folk are alright tho...
Genuine are fine. But so many people get it wrong and just dont realise that we know what to look for.
But from our eyes. If they cant be bothered to respect what we put in our profile, then they arn't going to respect our wishes at a meet. so they dont stand a chance.
There will always be chancers!
Us "genuine" swingers usually know what to look for,but occasionally we'll probably get caught out..."But as one of the points above states. "Get verified by others" (published or not) which you are. Makes a diffrence. It dosnt spoil our fun in any way what so ever. | |||
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"Just a Tip for you single guys and wannabee hubbies out there who seem to think that we genuine swingers are a bit stupid and love our time wasting. 1) Photo verification takes just 2 mins and when youve joined several wks ago or longer and havnt bothered to photo verify..it sais a lot really!! 2) Getting verified by others is easy too. All you have to do is meet others and we will be kind enough to verify you. But again joining a year ago with no meets...sais it all!! 3) Having no pics what so ever in your profile...We might aswell look at the wall. 4) If your only pictures are of your wife and non of hubby or as a single guy, they are just of your cock. Cock look generally the same and as a cpl there are two of you that want to play so pictures of both are a help. 5) How many genuine profiles do you read that state "Pics of both, Full face pics, Not just cock pics" But do you listen in your mails? No..How hard is it? 6) When you mail. at least give some details about your self and not just hi how are you,etc Again..its not hard. 7) read a profile fully. It may be long, it may be short. But it will tell you most what you need to know or that key word that you may need to show you have. No winks, mean NO WINKS! As does No friend requests before mails. 8) Get the above right and you may just have some meets rather than a wank!!! ps: As for us its just a simple "BLOCK" takes seconds and your gone! " This ...  | |||
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"Thank goodness that's finally been cleared up!
Indeed!
We all know the time wasters etc will not do the above,and will waste someone's time.Us genuine folk are alright tho...
Genuine are fine. But so many people get it wrong and just dont realise that we know what to look for.
But from our eyes. If they cant be bothered to respect what we put in our profile, then they arn't going to respect our wishes at a meet. so they dont stand a chance.
There will always be chancers!
Us "genuine" swingers usually know what to look for,but occasionally we'll probably get caught out...
But as one of the points above states. "Get verified by others" (published or not) which you are. Makes a diffrence.
It dosnt spoil our fun in any way what so ever."I agree being photo verified and being verified by others makes a difference. I don't see why the poster,lady?,wouldn't at least get photo verified?? It costs nothing and only admin ever see it! On a personal level I would think twice about contacting someone who isn't at least photo verified!That's just a personal preference tho... | |||
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As for our filters they are set. block is used often. and we have no problems with meets. it just makes us laugh how stupid some people are THAT DONT READ PROPERLY!! | |||
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"Thank goodness that's finally been cleared up!
Indeed!
We all know the time wasters etc will not do the above,and will waste someone's time.Us genuine folk are alright tho...
Genuine are fine. But so many people get it wrong and just dont realise that we know what to look for.
But from our eyes. If they cant be bothered to respect what we put in our profile, then they arn't going to respect our wishes at a meet. so they dont stand a chance.
There will always be chancers!
Us "genuine" swingers usually know what to look for,but occasionally we'll probably get caught out...
But as one of the points above states. "Get verified by others" (published or not) which you are. Makes a diffrence.
It dosnt spoil our fun in any way what so ever.
I agree being photo verified and being verified by others makes a difference.
I don't see why the poster,lady?,wouldn't at least get photo verified?? It costs nothing and only admin ever see it!
On a personal level I would think twice about contacting someone who isn't at least photo verified!That's just a personal preference tho... " | |||
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"Genuine swingers, what does that mean? Im not photo verified. I dont publish my meets i wink at profiles because i find them attractive, amusing, interesting, it doesnt mean i want to play with them. i feel your frustration at fake profiles and chancers who contact anyone with a pulse, but being on here a while makes it easy to spot them and one click blocks them. dont let the few idiots spoil your fun and bring frustration. X " Winking is fine...If its invited. We do. But some dont. And winking attracts their attention and if youve no intention of meeting or playing? why waste their time?? If you winked us we would write and you would have wasted ours! Photo Verification? takes 2 mins Verified by others..you are Published is irrelivent. Been verified by others shows you are who you are. Genuine swingers? Not time wasters..Obvious really! | |||
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"Just a Tip for you single guys and wannabee hubbies out there who seem to think that we genuine swingers are a bit stupid and love our time wasting. 1) Photo verification takes just 2 mins and when youve joined several wks ago or longer and havnt bothered to photo verify..it sais a lot really!! 2) Getting verified by others is easy too. All you have to do is meet others and we will be kind enough to verify you. But again joining a year ago with no meets...sais it all!! 3) Having no pics what so ever in your profile...We might aswell look at the wall. 4) If your only pictures are of your wife and non of hubby or as a single guy, they are just of your cock. Cock look generally the same and as a cpl there are two of you that want to play so pictures of both are a help. 5) How many genuine profiles do you read that state "Pics of both, Full face pics, Not just cock pics" But do you listen in your mails? No..How hard is it? 6) When you mail. at least give some details about your self and not just hi how are you,etc Again..its not hard. 7) read a profile fully. It may be long, it may be short. But it will tell you most what you need to know or that key word that you may need to show you have. No winks, mean NO WINKS! As does No friend requests before mails. 8) Get the above right and you may just have some meets rather than a wank!!! ps: As for us its just a simple "BLOCK" takes seconds and your gone! " Do you ever message people first? | |||
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"Even as a single guy I'm sketchy about profile's without pictures, verifications etc, sometimes I'll entertain a chat if I've not received any other mail, but meeting someone who isn't verified is not territory I'm stupid enough to get into" I got suckered like that when I was first on the site-cue a frustrating late night in the middle of nowhere.Lesson learnt tho! | |||
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"If people won't read your profile properly OP, how do you know they'll read this post properly? CHAOS! HELL FIRE! "You are Soooo right!!  | |||
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"Just a Tip for you single guys and wannabee hubbies out there who seem to think that we genuine swingers are a bit stupid and love our time wasting. 1) Photo verification takes just 2 mins and when youve joined several wks ago or longer and havnt bothered to photo verify..it sais a lot really!! 2) Getting verified by others is easy too. All you have to do is meet others and we will be kind enough to verify you. But again joining a year ago with no meets...sais it all!! 3) Having no pics what so ever in your profile...We might aswell look at the wall. 4) If your only pictures are of your wife and non of hubby or as a single guy, they are just of your cock. Cock look generally the same and as a cpl there are two of you that want to play so pictures of both are a help. 5) How many genuine profiles do you read that state "Pics of both, Full face pics, Not just cock pics" But do you listen in your mails? No..How hard is it? 6) When you mail. at least give some details about your self and not just hi how are you,etc Again..its not hard. 7) read a profile fully. It may be long, it may be short. But it will tell you most what you need to know or that key word that you may need to show you have. No winks, mean NO WINKS! As does No friend requests before mails. 8) Get the above right and you may just have some meets rather than a wank!!! ps: As for us its just a simple "BLOCK" takes seconds and your gone! Do you ever message people first?" Yes we do and there is no issue with that. We also say more than "Hi" we dont include pics cos ours are there to see. But if they wernt they would see both of us and before i message i read fully the profile and make sure we are at least compatible beforehand. | |||
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"Just a Tip for you single guys and wannabee hubbies out there who seem to think that we genuine swingers are a bit stupid and love our time wasting. 1) Photo verification takes just 2 mins and when youve joined several wks ago or longer and havnt bothered to photo verify..it sais a lot really!! 2) Getting verified by others is easy too. All you have to do is meet others and we will be kind enough to verify you. But again joining a year ago with no meets...sais it all!! 3) Having no pics what so ever in your profile...We might aswell look at the wall. 4) If your only pictures are of your wife and non of hubby or as a single guy, they are just of your cock. Cock look generally the same and as a cpl there are two of you that want to play so pictures of both are a help. 5) How many genuine profiles do you read that state "Pics of both, Full face pics, Not just cock pics" But do you listen in your mails? No..How hard is it? 6) When you mail. at least give some details about your self and not just hi how are you,etc Again..its not hard. 7) read a profile fully. It may be long, it may be short. But it will tell you most what you need to know or that key word that you may need to show you have. No winks, mean NO WINKS! As does No friend requests before mails. 8) Get the above right and you may just have some meets rather than a wank!!! ps: As for us its just a simple "BLOCK" takes seconds and your gone! Do you ever message people first? Yes we do and there is no issue with that. We also say more than "Hi" we dont include pics cos ours are there to see. But if they wernt they would see both of us and before i message i read fully the profile and make sure we are at least compatible beforehand. " Shame more don't do that isn't it xx I've got that I'm not meeting but I still get messages asking to meet | |||
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" Shame more don't do that isn't it xx I've got that I'm not meeting but I still get messages asking to meet "So true. its frustrating. Weve had to block single guys because we were inundated with them which we didnt want to do. I know single guys take the chance. But they dont realise that they are just one of many that take the chance and it becomes annoying. we'll wait till you are playing to message..lol | |||
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"All good points, but you gotta take the rough with the smooth OP, maybe being barebackers attracts more of the fakes, chancers, wannabes and idiots, that's no way an inditement on you're choice and we are making no comment on that, just pointing that out x" | |||
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"Even as a single guy I'm sketchy about profile's without pictures, verifications etc, sometimes I'll entertain a chat if I've not received any other mail, but meeting someone who isn't verified is not territory I'm stupid enough to get into I got suckered like that when I was first on the site-cue a frustrating late night in the middle of nowhere.Lesson learnt tho! " At least it was only a late night in the middle of nowhere. I naturally think of the worst case scenarios, and while I can defend myself, I just don't see the point running the risk | |||
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" Shame more don't do that isn't it xx I've got that I'm not meeting but I still get messages asking to meet
So true. its frustrating. Weve had to block single guys because we were inundated with them which we didnt want to do. I know single guys take the chance. But they dont realise that they are just one of many that take the chance and it becomes annoying.
we'll wait till you are playing to message..lol "I think quite a few single ladies and females block single guys,which is frustrating for us genuine blokes! I doubt that many of those ladies/couples would then message single guys,so potentially great,horny meets are lost,due to idiots... But,it's the way it is on here! | |||
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"Even as a single guy I'm sketchy about profile's without pictures, verifications etc, sometimes I'll entertain a chat if I've not received any other mail, but meeting someone who isn't verified is not territory I'm stupid enough to get into I got suckered like that when I was first on the site-cue a frustrating late night in the middle of nowhere.Lesson learnt tho! At least it was only a late night in the middle of nowhere. I naturally think of the worst case scenarios, and while I can defend myself, I just don't see the point running the risk" Well it was a mixture of being incredibly horny and wanting to get my first meet,and verification on here,that led to a bad decision being made. Yea,could've been incredibly dodgy when I think about it...  | |||
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"All good points, but you gotta take the rough with the smooth OP, maybe being barebackers attracts more of the fakes, chancers, wannabes and idiots, that's no way an inditement on you're choice and we are making no comment on that, just pointing that out x "Cant say we attract more or not. But speaking with our other friends it happens a lot to be honest and has for years. I posted this topic not out of frustration in any way. just to pint out to time wasters that we aren't stupid. Most of our meets are arranged away from fab nowadays and we hold exclusive free parties for people here. Though we do meet new friends through fab. we tend to only contact who we think we are compatible with. | |||
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But hey - everyone's entitled to vent.
It won't make a jot of difference to how anyone uses the site though.
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Face pic on profile, what people see is what they get
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" Shame more don't do that isn't it xx I've got that I'm not meeting but I still get messages asking to meet
So true. its frustrating. Weve had to block single guys because we were inundated with them which we didnt want to do. I know single guys take the chance. But they dont realise that they are just one of many that take the chance and it becomes annoying.
we'll wait till you are playing to message..lol "Not all single guys are chancers I send very few messages and I do ok on here but then I do read profiles first | |||
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"Already been said. The idiots won't read your post. I dont know the exact figure but it's a small percentage who actually use the forums to start with. I've seen a fair few threads saying what you say. All not reaching the target audience. I see your post as being out of frustration despite you stating otherwise. And I understand why you are frustrated. Despite that I find it condescending. Your doing the usual thing of tarring a specific demographic with the same brush. Also so what if someone hasn't had a veri in so long. It says nothing. You say it says it all. I assume you mean timewaster. I took a year to get my first veri. It can happen like that. Some people just dont veri. That simple. Genuine swingers? What makes you more a genuine swinger than anyone else? Please don't take this as a personal attack. Im just sick of hearing the same thing over and over again. " The post proves my point that "People dont read properly" Not frustrated in any way what so ever to be honest. The thread (If read properly) is aimed at MEN pretending to be couples or fems and not been verified. If you mailed us as a single guy without verification. Who gives a dam..your a single guy we know that. Its cpls and sngle fems without any of the above. jees!! No wonder some people get blocked. The thread wasnt aimed at genuine people it was aimed at time wasters. But if people get upset by reading it. I would suggest reading it properly. No offence | |||
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" Not frustrated in any way what so ever to be honest. The thread (If read properly) is aimed at MEN pretending to be couples or fems and not been verified. If you mailed us as a single guy without verification. Who gives a dam..your a single guy we know that. Its cpls and sngle fems without any of the above. jees!! No wonder some people get blocked. The thread wasnt aimed at genuine people it was aimed at time wasters. But if people get upset by reading it. I would suggest reading it properly. No offence "People are suggesting that said time wasters etc won't bother to come in and read your post-which is probably true! I don't think you'll ever stop the time wasters or the guys that are blatantly on as a couple,just one of those things that you have to deal with. I'd message you about it,but you're not poking for guys...  If you need any for parties though... | |||
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"Already been said. The idiots won't read your post. I dont know the exact figure but it's a small percentage who actually use the forums to start with. I've seen a fair few threads saying what you say. All not reaching the target audience. I see your post as being out of frustration despite you stating otherwise. And I understand why you are frustrated. Despite that I find it condescending. Your doing the usual thing of tarring a specific demographic with the same brush. Also so what if someone hasn't had a veri in so long. It says nothing. You say it says it all. I assume you mean timewaster. I took a year to get my first veri. It can happen like that. Some people just dont veri. That simple. Genuine swingers? What makes you more a genuine swinger than anyone else? Please don't take this as a personal attack. Im just sick of hearing the same thing over and over again. The post proves my point that "People dont read properly" Not frustrated in any way what so ever to be honest. The thread (If read properly) is aimed at MEN pretending to be couples or fems and not been verified. If you mailed us as a single guy without verification. Who gives a dam..your a single guy we know that. Its cpls and sngle fems without any of the above. jees!! No wonder some people get blocked. The thread wasnt aimed at genuine people it was aimed at time wasters. But if people get upset by reading it. I would suggest reading it properly. No offence "None taken. But you said single guys and wannabee hubbies. I dont see how I've misread that. | |||
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"All good points, but you gotta take the rough with the smooth OP, maybe being barebackers attracts more of the fakes, chancers, wannabes and idiots, that's no way an inditement on you're choice and we are making no comment on that, just pointing that out x
Cant say we attract more or not. But speaking with our other friends it happens a lot to be honest and has for years.
I posted this topic not out of frustration in any way. just to pint out to time wasters that we aren't stupid.
Most of our meets are arranged away from fab nowadays and we hold exclusive free parties for people here. Though we do meet new friends through fab. we tend to only contact who we think we are compatible with. "We don't seem to attract hardly any fakes, time wasters or idiots and by rights we should as we run club nights for newbies and play quite a bit away from Tease so I don't know why you get loads... | |||
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"Imagine if a single guy said they bareback then the std police would start lol." Bareback police gonna say what they gonna say lol. Hope they enjoy their little outburst, be even better if they block us | |||
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"Genuine swingers, what does that mean? Im not photo verified. I dont publish my meets i wink at profiles because i find them attractive, amusing, interesting, it doesnt mean i want to play with them. i feel your frustration at fake profiles and chancers who contact anyone with a pulse, but being on here a while makes it easy to spot them and one click blocks them. dont let the few idiots spoil your fun and bring frustration. X " well said | |||
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" i wink at profiles because i find them attractive, amusing, interesting, it doesnt mean i want to play with them. well said "How is it well said? You wink at us. That sais i like what i see and im attracting your attention. We take the time to write and you had no intention of playing or what so ever in the first place? TIME WASTERS! If you find a pic nice, amusing,etc. THEN FAB IT ! We do not get that many time wasters. as we are experienced and dont fall for idiots. It was advice. As for you single guys getting miffed about it.. Get a grip fer fuks sake! | |||
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"Imagine if a single guy said they bareback then the std police would start lol. Bareback police gonna say what they gonna say lol. Hope they enjoy their little outburst, be even better if they block us " | |||
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" i wink at profiles because i find them attractive, amusing, interesting, it doesnt mean i want to play with them. well said
How is it well said? You wink at us. That sais i like what i see and im attracting your attention. We take the time to write and you had no intention of playing or what so ever in the first place? TIME WASTERS!
If you find a pic nice, amusing,etc. THEN FAB IT !
We do not get that many time wasters. as we are experienced and dont fall for idiots. It was advice. As for you single guys getting miffed about it.. Get a grip fer fuks sake!"Zzzzzz now. Time for thread to die. | |||
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" i wink at profiles because i find them attractive, amusing, interesting, it doesnt mean i want to play with them. well said
How is it well said? You wink at us. That sais i like what i see and im attracting your attention. We take the time to write and you had no intention of playing or what so ever in the first place? TIME WASTERS!
If you find a pic nice, amusing,etc. THEN FAB IT !
We do not get that many time wasters. as we are experienced and dont fall for idiots. It was advice. As for you single guys getting miffed about it.. Get a grip fer fuks sake!"Return the wink and wait for them to message as they made first contact, seems logical and no time is wasted. | |||
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"What exactly does not being photo verified say ?" It says you don't know how to use photoshop to fake a pic | |||
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"What exactly does not being photo verified say ? It says you don't know how to use photoshop to fake a pic "It's wonderful how many Darth Vader's have been photo verified | |||
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"Thank goodness that's finally been cleared up!
Indeed!
We all know the time wasters etc will not do the above,and will waste someone's time.Us genuine folk are alright tho...
Genuine are fine. But so many people get it wrong and just dont realise that we know what to look for.
But from our eyes. If they cant be bothered to respect what we put in our profile, then they arn't going to respect our wishes at a meet. so they dont stand a chance.
There will always be chancers!
Us "genuine" swingers usually know what to look for,but occasionally we'll probably get caught out...
But as one of the points above states. "Get verified by others" (published or not) which you are. Makes a diffrence.
It dosnt spoil our fun in any way what so ever.
I agree being photo verified and being verified by others makes a difference.
I don't see why the poster,lady?,wouldn't at least get photo verified?? It costs nothing and only admin ever see it!
On a personal level I would think twice about contacting someone who isn't at least photo verified!That's just a personal preference tho... "And your preference is fine! I also am not photo verified though! I also choose not to display my verifications! After about 12 months as an active forumite - and 18 months on the North West club and party scene - I think I've earned the right to keep my sex life private, and proved that I am indeed female and look exactly like my pictures, for better or worse!! As the site is more, for me, about chatting on the forums and deciding which club/party to go to on my next free night - without sounding conceited I really don't mind whether people I don't know choose to contact me or not! I already know oodles of lovely people - but if more want to contact me then that's fine too!! My profile is intended to give a reflection of my wants and my character though - it isn't designed to attract the maximum possible number of messages! | |||
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"Just a Tip for you single guys and wannabee hubbies out there who seem to think that we genuine swingers are a bit stupid and love our time wasting. 1) Photo verification takes just 2 mins and when youve joined several wks ago or longer and havnt bothered to photo verify..it sais a lot really!! 2) Getting verified by others is easy too. All you have to do is meet others and we will be kind enough to verify you. But again joining a year ago with no meets...sais it all!! 3) Having no pics what so ever in your profile...We might aswell look at the wall. 4) If your only pictures are of your wife and non of hubby or as a single guy, they are just of your cock. Cock look generally the same and as a cpl there are two of you that want to play so pictures of both are a help. 5) How many genuine profiles do you read that state "Pics of both, Full face pics, Not just cock pics" But do you listen in your mails? No..How hard is it? 6) When you mail. at least give some details about your self and not just hi how are you,etc Again..its not hard. 7) read a profile fully. It may be long, it may be short. But it will tell you most what you need to know or that key word that you may need to show you have. No winks, mean NO WINKS! As does No friend requests before mails. 8) Get the above right and you may just have some meets rather than a wank!!! ps: As for us its just a simple "BLOCK" takes seconds and your gone! How many people ask for face pics on their profile but never have their own available to view. Being in the public eye I am always cautious of whom I talking to so I can make sure they are not a colleague or business acquaintance. " | |||
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"Just a Tip for you single guys and wannabee hubbies out there who seem to think that we genuine swingers are a bit stupid and love our time wasting. 1) Photo verification takes just 2 mins and when youve joined several wks ago or longer and havnt bothered to photo verify..it sais a lot really!! 2) Getting verified by others is easy too. All you have to do is meet others and we will be kind enough to verify you. But again joining a year ago with no meets...sais it all!! 3) Having no pics what so ever in your profile...We might aswell look at the wall. 4) If your only pictures are of your wife and non of hubby or as a single guy, they are just of your cock. Cock look generally the same and as a cpl there are two of you that want to play so pictures of both are a help. 5) How many genuine profiles do you read that state "Pics of both, Full face pics, Not just cock pics" But do you listen in your mails? No..How hard is it? 6) When you mail. at least give some details about your self and not just hi how are you,etc Again..its not hard. 7) read a profile fully. It may be long, it may be short. But it will tell you most what you need to know or that key word that you may need to show you have. No winks, mean NO WINKS! As does No friend requests before mails. 8) Get the above right and you may just have some meets rather than a wank!!! ps: As for us its just a simple "BLOCK" takes seconds and your gone! How many people ask for face pics on their profile but never have their own available to view. Being in the public eye I am always cautious of whom I talking to so I can make sure they are not a colleague or business acquaintance. " | |||
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"Just a Tip for you...." A such genuine experienced swingers who have so much skill and acumen for this site Did you not notice the mass of other threads in the same context spouting the same crap that have been circulating recently Because the one thing that is guaranteed and fully applicable to this and every other of these time-wasting timewaster threads IF THERE NOT READING YOUR PROFILE THEY ARE NOT READING THE FORUM So your audience is solely the non timewasters that are actually in the forum contributing, which makes it very look at me | |||
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"even a complete tech-newb like me could fake our profile name onto a fake picture." Never actually looked at photo verify like that, valid point though, wouldn't be difficult with decent photoshop skills | |||
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"Only got as far as number 1 and it appears we have fallen at the first hurdle. Sorry to all that we have met but it turns out we are fake " I knew it!! | |||
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"Fuck me... I'm not photo verified, shoot me now I'm a time wasting twat. I'll also go and get an egg to suck on in regards to your other tips!!! I'm forever in your debt "Verified by others though. Try reading it properly while ya suck yer egg!!! | |||
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"Fuck me... I'm not photo verified, shoot me now I'm a time wasting twat. I'll also go and get an egg to suck on in regards to your other tips!!! I'm forever in your debt "Verified by others though. Try reading it properly while ya suck yer egg!!! | |||
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"Just a Tip for you single guys and wannabee hubbies out there who seem to think that we genuine swingers are a bit stupid and love our time wasting. 1) Photo verification takes just 2 mins and when youve joined several wks ago or longer and havnt bothered to photo verify..it sais a lot really!! 2) Getting verified by others is easy too. All you have to do is meet others and we will be kind enough to verify you. But again joining a year ago with no meets...sais it all!! 3) Having no pics what so ever in your profile...We might aswell look at the wall. 4) If your only pictures are of your wife and non of hubby or as a single guy, they are just of your cock. Cock look generally the same and as a cpl there are two of you that want to play so pictures of both are a help. 5) How many genuine profiles do you read that state "Pics of both, Full face pics, Not just cock pics" But do you listen in your mails? No..How hard is it? 6) When you mail. at least give some details about your self and not just hi how are you,etc Again..its not hard. 7) read a profile fully. It may be long, it may be short. But it will tell you most what you need to know or that key word that you may need to show you have. No winks, mean NO WINKS! As does No friend requests before mails. 8) Get the above right and you may just have some meets rather than a wank!!! ps: As for us its just a simple "BLOCK" takes seconds and your gone! This ... "If only everyone could bare this in mind before contacting | |||
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"I'm not photo verified and don't intend to be either. If people don't want to meet me because of that, then it's yet another self filtering mechanism to keep the twats away from me. " I'm with you on that one I'm not intending to get photo verified either and if people are put off by that then that's my lucky escape. | |||
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"Even as a single guy I'm sketchy about profile's without pictures, verifications etc, sometimes I'll entertain a chat if I've not received any other mail, but meeting someone who isn't verified is not territory I'm stupid enough to get into I got suckered like that when I was first on the site-cue a frustrating late night in the middle of nowhere.Lesson learnt tho! " thing to do is let them come to you.. works. | |||
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"Thank goodness that's finally been cleared up!
Indeed!
We all know the time wasters etc will not do the above,and will waste someone's time.Us genuine folk are alright tho... "Surely you mean time waisters ? | |||
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"I am not a guy but I have been on here for nearly two years and I am still not photo verified (shock- horror). Does this mean I am a time waster??? As far as I am aware it is not compulsory to be photo verified and until it is then I will not get photo verified. I have had a couple of successful meets with guys and ohhh shock-horror they were not photo verified either. If being photo verified is one of your criteria then don't waste your time with them and just sit back and chill. " Ive been wondering for a while whether to get myself photo-verified. Whether it would actually make a difference to how im doing on here, I have no idea | |||
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"Thank goodness that's finally been cleared up!
Indeed!
We all know the time wasters etc will not do the above,and will waste someone's time.Us genuine folk are alright tho...
Genuine are fine. But so many people get it wrong and just dont realise that we know what to look for.
But from our eyes. If they cant be bothered to respect what we put in our profile, then they arn't going to respect our wishes at a meet. so they dont stand a chance.
There will always be chancers!
Us "genuine" swingers usually know what to look for,but occasionally we'll probably get caught out...
But as one of the points above states. "Get verified by others" (published or not) which you are. Makes a diffrence.
It dosnt spoil our fun in any way what so ever.
I agree being photo verified and being verified by others makes a difference.
I don't see why the poster,lady?,wouldn't at least get photo verified?? It costs nothing and only admin ever see it!
On a personal level I would think twice about contacting someone who isn't at least photo verified!That's just a personal preference tho... "In seven years on this site I've NEVER had my time wasted. During that time I've NEVER encountered a fake. The majority of the men I've met were unverified: it was their message and interaction with me that got a meet. Why would I take into account what a total stranger thinks about another stranger? The only opinion that matters is my own and I take 100% responsibility in deciding who comes into my home and body.
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"Even as a single guy I'm sketchy about profile's without pictures, verifications etc, sometimes I'll entertain a chat if I've not received any other mail, but meeting someone who isn't verified is not territory I'm stupid enough to get into I got suckered like that when I was first on the site-cue a frustrating late night in the middle of nowhere.Lesson learnt tho! " You've simply learnt to use your big head to override the little one! | |||
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"I don't think time wasters set out to be timewasters, best way is to say ok 'let's have a phone call?' That will scare off most. If they won't speak in the phone they sure as hell ain't turning up. It can be handy as a lady I spoke to on the phone had a shrill voice much like the witch fron wizard of Oz.. I didn't want to hear that at higher octaves " Oopsy. I guess I'm a time waster too. Phone calls and cams I just don't like. Don't even call family regularly. I'd rather face to face meet somewhere neutral. | |||
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"Maybe you're not frustrated, but it certainly comes across that you have some serious attitude. Which I find very off putting and wouldn't want to contact you anyway. " this... see it all the time, not pleasant to read, I can understand peoples' frustration, but this sort of thing especially on a profile, means there's no way I would consider sending a message. But no loss as I'm sure they still get hundreds per day. | |||
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"I don't think time wasters set out to be timewasters, best way is to say ok 'let's have a phone call?' That will scare off most. If they won't speak in the phone they sure as hell ain't turning up. It can be handy as a lady I spoke to on the phone had a shrill voice much like the witch fron wizard of Oz.. I didn't want to hear that at higher octaves Oopsy. I guess I'm a time waster too. Phone calls and cams I just don't like. Don't even call family regularly. I'd rather face to face meet somewhere neutral." I will do cams but cant talk on the phone as im rarely alone at home. Plus have given out my number before only for it to fizzle out. | |||
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"I don't think time wasters set out to be timewasters, best way is to say ok 'let's have a phone call?' That will scare off most. If they won't speak in the phone they sure as hell ain't turning up. It can be handy as a lady I spoke to on the phone had a shrill voice much like the witch fron wizard of Oz.. I didn't want to hear that at higher octaves Oopsy. I guess I'm a time waster too. Phone calls and cams I just don't like. Don't even call family regularly. I'd rather face to face meet somewhere neutral. I will do cams but cant talk on the phone as im rarely alone at home. Plus have given out my number before only for it to fizzle out. " Choose guys that are not busy , and don't have jobs. Have someone at your beck and call I found this in my single days , single women that did not work would be constant texting during the day , meet at lunch etc etc too needy for me When I used to date those that worked was a text usually at night or even better for me once a week . I did date a girl a while ago , she told me she worked nights at tesco and could not answer phone , and only see me during the day , told her husband that she worked days so she could be at home when he was . One girl I went out was married saw her for 2 or so years , I was a single dad had a very little one. My washing machine broke , she said she had a spare and if I bid on it on eBay she would make sure I would get it . I told her ok , when it came to getting it I was told " just pretend to my husband this is first time we met " that was her way of telling me she was married about a year into our relationship . I did ask her about it next time we met and she said I did tell you, I said I thought it was a joke Anyway keep looking and either go for a guy that is secure enough to go for weeks without a message You have to be realistic busy secure guys , who have stuff in their lives , like demanding jobs kids etc etc usually only date women who chase them , as we generally don't need to chase women ourselves or look for a needy guy to be on your beck and call that does not work or have anything apart from you . | |||
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"I don't think time wasters set out to be timewasters, best way is to say ok 'let's have a phone call?' That will scare off most. If they won't speak in the phone they sure as hell ain't turning up. It can be handy as a lady I spoke to on the phone had a shrill voice much like the witch fron wizard of Oz.. I didn't want to hear that at higher octaves Oopsy. I guess I'm a time waster too. Phone calls and cams I just don't like. Don't even call family regularly. I'd rather face to face meet somewhere neutral. I will do cams but cant talk on the phone as im rarely alone at home. Plus have given out my number before only for it to fizzle out. Choose guys that are not busy , and don't have jobs. Have someone at your beck and call I found this in my single days , single women that did not work would be constant texting during the day , meet at lunch etc etc too needy for me When I used to date those that worked was a text usually at night or even better for me once a week . I did date a girl a while ago , she told me she worked nights at tesco and could not answer phone , and only see me during the day , told her husband that she worked days so she could be at home when he was . One girl I went out was married saw her for 2 or so years , I was a single dad had a very little one. My washing machine broke , she said she had a spare and if I bid on it on eBay she would make sure I would get it . I told her ok , when it came to getting it I was told " just pretend to my husband this is first time we met " that was her way of telling me she was married about a year into our relationship . I did ask her about it next time we met and she said I did tell you, I said I thought it was a joke Anyway keep looking and either go for a guy that is secure enough to go for weeks without a message You have to be realistic busy secure guys , who have stuff in their lives , like demanding jobs kids etc etc usually only date women who chase them , as we generally don't need to chase women ourselves or look for a needy guy to be on your beck and call that does not work or have anything apart from you . " I don't want a needy guy | |||
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"Can i just point out. We are not seeking advice. we are offering it to wannabees As for our filters they are set. block is used often. and we have no problems with meets. it just makes us laugh how stupid some people are THAT DONT READ PROPERLY!!"And they won't read this thread either | |||
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"Thanks for posting this forum, I am now photo verified and have been open to what I am looking for. I don't see any need to put a pic of my cock as we all know what one looks like. I don't get many messages, is there anything else I could do?" Well your wasting your time with the meet you put up Look in the clubs section change Your username to something easier to remember And go to that club people you meet at clubs and socials add them to your friend Lizt or hotlist them Less that 1 in 100 we have met have verified us The way forward is clubs clubs and clubs If you think that your the exception and going to get a new girl every Saturday night from messaging on fab you wil be seriously disappointed When you get known you will get the details of meets And events and will get asked to parties dogging etc At the moment you are just another All talk no walk | |||
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"If people won't read your profile properly OP, how do you know they'll read this post properly? CHAOS! HELL FIRE! " | |||
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"Just a Tip for you single guys and wannabee hubbies out there who seem to think that we genuine swingers are a bit stupid and love our time wasting. 1) Photo verification takes just 2 mins and when youve joined several wks ago or longer and havnt bothered to photo verify..it sais a lot really!! 2) Getting verified by others is easy too. All you have to do is meet others and we will be kind enough to verify you. But again joining a year ago with no meets...sais it all!! 3) Having no pics what so ever in your profile...We might aswell look at the wall. 4) If your only pictures are of your wife and non of hubby or as a single guy, they are just of your cock. Cock look generally the same and as a cpl there are two of you that want to play so pictures of both are a help. 5) How many genuine profiles do you read that state "Pics of both, Full face pics, Not just cock pics" But do you listen in your mails? No..How hard is it? 6) When you mail. at least give some details about your self and not just hi how are you,etc Again..its not hard. 7) read a profile fully. It may be long, it may be short. But it will tell you most what you need to know or that key word that you may need to show you have. No winks, mean NO WINKS! As does No friend requests before mails. 8) Get the above right and you may just have some meets rather than a wank!!! ps: As for us its just a simple "BLOCK" takes seconds and your gone! Do you ever message people first? Yes we do and there is no issue with that. We also say more than "Hi" we dont include pics cos ours are there to see. But if they wernt they would see both of us and before i message i read fully the profile and make sure we are at least compatible beforehand. Shame more don't do that isn't it xx I've got that I'm not meeting but I still get messages asking to meet "It says you're looking for men. | |||
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Gents if you want meets you need to get proper verification's through meets.
otherwise sounds like good advice, but considering most guys complain about either not getting meets or Verification's, i imagine we'll be seeing a continued influx of ''How do i get meets?'' posts.
and for the guy reading this anting to say patience....
'' You've got to have patience.''
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