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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london

Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Ideas on a postcard.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Look at and approach those that don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a social or club

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london


"Look at and approach those that don't. "

That's the thing I rarely see any profiles that don't specify this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at and approach those that don't. "

Seems so obvious when you say it like that.....

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Ideas on a postcard. "

Find the ones that are looking for what you can offer.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Look at and approach those that don't.

That's the thing I rarely see any profiles that don't specify this"

It isn't something I'd noticed but we probably look at quite different profiles.

The short answer is if most of the profiles you look at aren't wanting to meet people like you the only thing you can do is concentrate on the ones that do.....the only other option is to go to clubs as said above.

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I rarely see any race specific profiles, I mean enough to notice but not so much that it's common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah bbc is very popular in London almost every profile you look at have it lol.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Ideas on a postcard. "

1) most dont stipulate

2) just be you.... if you were never going to appeal to those people... why get fussed over it

people are so fixated over those who don't want you that they then to forget about the people who would want you!!!!

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Ideas on a postcard. "

"If there are so many complaints over the inability to meet, or lack of genuine profiles, why do people insist on coming back or continuing to use the site?

Is it because its free? Or a place to moan? Or do people think eventually they will get the one reply they have been waiting all year for!?"

Oh sweet irony, the Green arrow tells no lies

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

"

Personally I don't believe that be true. A few profiles might (10% ?)

It's hard for many guys to get a meet and little to do with skin colour/ethnicity IMHO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I's say your lack of meets in the years will most doubtedly be against you rather than race...

there are tonnes of clubs/socials etc in your area/surrounding areas..I'm flummoxed that these havent popped on your radar already...

*I think your username sounds a little bigheaded...it would put many off I think.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Ideas on a postcard.

"If there are so many complaints over the inability to meet, or lack of genuine profiles, why do people insist on coming back or continuing to use the site?

Is it because its free? Or a place to moan? Or do people think eventually they will get the one reply they have been waiting all year for!?"

Oh sweet irony, the Green arrow tells no lies "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look at and approach those that don't.

That's the thing I rarely see any profiles that don't specify this"

That's bollocks! So you are saying out of all the profiles most state this?! Crap poor using that as an excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm waiting for the " I'm leaving the site thread "

From the op in a few days

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london


"Look at and approach those that don't.

That's the thing I rarely see any profiles that don't specify this

That's bollocks! So you are saying out of all the profiles most state this?! Crap poor using that as an excuse."

K

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Personally I don't believe that be true. A few profiles might (10% ?)

It's hard for many guys to get a meet and little to do with skin colour/ethnicity IMHO."

I think it's a London thing which is where I happen to live. Profiles outside of London tend to not have this stipulation

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Personally I don't believe that be true. A few profiles might (10% ?)

It's hard for many guys to get a meet and little to do with skin colour/ethnicity IMHO.

I think it's a London thing which is where I happen to live. Profiles outside of London tend to not have this stipulation "

excuses excuses excuses.... if you really want to blame everyone else for your lack of success.. then to be honest no amount of advice and telling you it aint so is going to help because at the moment it looks as if you stuck your fingers in your ears and started shouted "la la la i can't hear you!"

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Personally I don't believe that be true. A few profiles might (10% ?)

It's hard for many guys to get a meet and little to do with skin colour/ethnicity IMHO.

I think it's a London thing which is where I happen to live. Profiles outside of London tend to not have this stipulation

excuses excuses excuses.... if you really want to blame everyone else for your lack of success.. then to be honest no amount of advice and telling you it aint so is going to help because at the moment it looks as if you stuck your fingers in your ears and started shouted "la la la i can't hear you!""

And people moan at me when I have a low tolerance for why can't I get a meet threads, it's rare they actually listen to the advice offered and you get a load of "yeah but"

I would go to clubs but

I would go to socials but

I would only look for people who do want to meet me but...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Personally I don't believe that be true. A few profiles might (10% ?)

It's hard for many guys to get a meet and little to do with skin colour/ethnicity IMHO.

I think it's a London thing which is where I happen to live. Profiles outside of London tend to not have this stipulation "

But you said the majority of profiles you look at do have this stipulation I'm really confused now

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london

Most women in London seem to have a comment about not messaging them if you aren't Caucasian or black. Living in London it's more likely I'm going to meet someone in the area. Unfortunately this rules out most the profiles in my radius. Few Profiles out of London have anything about race.

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Personally I don't believe that be true. A few profiles might (10% ?)

It's hard for many guys to get a meet and little to do with skin colour/ethnicity IMHO.

I think it's a London thing which is where I happen to live. Profiles outside of London tend to not have this stipulation

excuses excuses excuses.... if you really want to blame everyone else for your lack of success.. then to be honest no amount of advice and telling you it aint so is going to help because at the moment it looks as if you stuck your fingers in your ears and started shouted "la la la i can't hear you!""

It's more a lack of interest on this site. I'm not sure how you can say it's my fault if I'm not Caucasian or black yet that's the fundamental requirement of the profiles in my catchment area

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Most women in London seem to have a comment about not messaging them if you aren't Caucasian or black. Living in London it's more likely I'm going to meet someone in the area. Unfortunately this rules out most the profiles in my radius. Few Profiles out of London have anything about race."

Oh right, well as I said there isn't a lot you can do about it I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Personally I don't believe that be true. A few profiles might (10% ?)

It's hard for many guys to get a meet and little to do with skin colour/ethnicity IMHO.

I think it's a London thing which is where I happen to live. Profiles outside of London tend to not have this stipulation

excuses excuses excuses.... if you really want to blame everyone else for your lack of success.. then to be honest no amount of advice and telling you it aint so is going to help because at the moment it looks as if you stuck your fingers in your ears and started shouted "la la la i can't hear you!"

It's more a lack of interest on this site. I'm not sure how you can say it's my fault if I'm not Caucasian or black yet that's the fundamental requirement of the profiles in my catchment area"

I note that I havent said anything of particular help?...or did you just skim by it?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Ideas on a postcard. "

Like Cheddars said.....think back 13 weeks.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Personally I don't believe that be true. A few profiles might (10% ?)

It's hard for many guys to get a meet and little to do with skin colour/ethnicity IMHO.

I think it's a London thing which is where I happen to live. Profiles outside of London tend to not have this stipulation "

It's not a London thing. Trust me!!

From what I can see, you need to be patient. Get to know people you're chatting with and don't stress on people who don't want to meet you.

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

Just carried out very unscientific test and did a search for London ladies.

Of around the first 20 or so profiles that appeared; 2 profiles said 'no Asians or Blacks'. None to my knowledge specified 'only Caucasian'.

Doesn't quite fit with your assertion that 'Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Ideas on a postcard. "

Looks like God screwed you over mate..lol

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

We'd meet you but your all the way up in london.such a shame

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Ideas on a postcard. "

But but but.. You've specified race on your profile? what about the poor black women in London who might want to meet you?!

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

But saying that, I would meet you if I was in a meeting mood and you lived closer

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Jesus wept, it's not rocket science even I can get meets. You've got youth on your side.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Jesus wept, it's not rocket science even I can get meets. You've got youth on your side."

what do you mean "even you"? You have more success than many of the younger men on here.

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By *ilkchocolate87 OP   Man
over a year ago

sw london


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Ideas on a postcard.

Looks like God screwed you over mate..lol"

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most profiles ask for either only blacks or only Caucasians?

Ideas on a postcard. "

Not my experience.......most are non-specific!

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