FabSwingers.com forum: Questions for their first playtime

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm meeting this couple for a play date. I've done this before like 9 years ago. This will be their first time. I have some questions.

1. It's a little ways off what are some things we can do through email to keep the sexual tension high.

2 They want me not to get off for the whole week before. Should they also abstain? Or maybe just him?

3. I know sometimes it hard to break the ice and get started. Are there any good techniques for this.

4. I know what he wants and what he says she wants. But I also know that guys sometimes think they know what the female wants. I want both of them to have a wonderful experience. When I arrive and we're all together is there a subtle way to talk about this without anyone thinking that I didn't believe what I was told?

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Do you need to keep it high? Our best mmf meet there was very little of that.

2. A week is a bit, we usually abstain for two or three days.

3. We've read that the longer time passes the more awkward it becomes to get going, so we've just sat the guy down and Mrs sat next to him and started stroking his inner thigh. Soon hots up.

4. Not a fan of setting too many 'must haves' in advance, discuss any particular desires such as DV or DP etc of course, but a play-by-play would end up in disappointment and you being used as a glorified sex toy of the husband. It should be a three way experience, and the couple can learn new things from your fresh input, as well as being a whole new different experience for the Mrs.

If you have issues to talk over, talk them over beforehand, not at the time. That could put a dampener on things, keep it flowing and hot and sexy without any awkwardness and the experience will be much better for ir.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the reply.

I'm going to try to get them on the phone because they are too far to visit.

Yes I also believe that scripts would ruin things. With my wife it was always off the cuff