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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it unreasonable of me, after Ive met someone, socially and we seemed to get on well. There were a few setbacks to our meet but we managed to arrange it. Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much, he blocked me. We had exchanged mobile numbers and there seemd to be a connection too. Well, ive text him twice, the second time asking why he blocked me, just so I know what I did or said wrong. No reply. I know I should just let it go, but its rare to find a local guy who I thought might be a friend as well as the obvious.

Is it too much to want to know why, so I could not make the same mistake again. To be honest, im sat here a bit upset and feeling rather stupid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it unreasonable of me, after Ive met someone, socially and we seemed to get on well. There were a few setbacks to our meet but we managed to arrange it. Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much, he blocked me. We had exchanged mobile numbers and there seemd to be a connection too. Well, ive text him twice, the second time asking why he blocked me, just so I know what I did or said wrong. No reply. I know I should just let it go, but its rare to find a local guy who I thought might be a friend as well as the obvious.

Is it too much to want to know why, so I could not make the same mistake again. To be honest, im sat here a bit upset and feeling rather stupid. "

I realise the first line doesnt make much sense. meant to say unreasonable to want to know why im blocked. making a right hash of this I know, sorry.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Leave it be, if he contacts you all good.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

"

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Leave it be, if he contacts you all good.

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Thank you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you "

I don't think you can infer that all men don't like women to talk dirty because one blocked you.

I hope your next encounter is better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty more fish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why you'd want to know, after all it sounds like you were civil, you seemed to get on well but then he changed his mind.

The advice to guys in similar circumstances is always to accept it, move on and don't keep hassling the other party and I can see no reason why the advice shouldn't be exactly the same to a lady.

I can appreciate its confusing and you probably feel hurt, chalk it off to experience and move on! Plenty more fish in the Fab sea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it unreasonable of me, after Ive met someone, socially and we seemed to get on well. There were a few setbacks to our meet but we managed to arrange it. Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much, he blocked me. We had exchanged mobile numbers and there seemd to be a connection too. Well, ive text him twice, the second time asking why he blocked me, just so I know what I did or said wrong. No reply. I know I should just let it go, but its rare to find a local guy who I thought might be a friend as well as the obvious.

Is it too much to want to know why, so I could not make the same mistake again. To be honest, im sat here a bit upset and feeling rather stupid. "

Don't be worried just find another I seriously can't see why you can't get another guy to replace him tonight

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you

I don't think you can infer that all men don't like women to talk dirty because one blocked you.

I hope your next encounter is better "

Thank you. I may not rush in next time, if there is one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you "

He was having a wank he cum and blocked you

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Flirty teasing smutty texts would do my head in, I appreciate he started it but after the first one or two I would be bored.

i would also think high maintenance and drama if I was contacted a lot, but I have a very low tolerance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you

He was having a wank he cum and blocked you "

I know he was, he told me after I sent him some pics. blocked me two messages later

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you

I don't think you can infer that all men don't like women to talk dirty because one blocked you.

I hope your next encounter is better

Thank you. I may not rush in next time, if there is one. "

I hope there is a next time if you want there to be. by the way there's no need to feel stupid, we've all been blocked at some point

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


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Is it too much to want to know why, so I could not make the same mistake again. To be honest, im sat here a bit upset and feeling rather stupid. "

Not exactly 'too much', Mrs ddc is very much the same. I tend to assume the worst possible scenario is the correct one and deal with that.

The truth is that if he has an ounce of decency he would probably lie to you about his reasons anyway. And what use would "it's not you, it's me" serve?

Chin up and move on.

Good luck

Mr ddc

Ps. It's him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Flirty teasing smutty texts would do my head in, I appreciate he started it but after the first one or two I would be bored.

i would also think high maintenance and drama if I was contacted a lot, but I have a very low tolerance "

It was a couple of texts. A rejection message back would have done me, id know where i was then, but then now I do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you

He was having a wank he cum and blocked you

I know he was, he told me after I sent him some pics. blocked me two messages later "

this is one reason I don't respond to the "how does x y z make you feel" messages unless we are in discussion with someone who we know is interested in pursuing the BDSM side of things with us. Its nearly always a guy having a wank while his wife's in the bath

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Flirty teasing smutty texts would do my head in, I appreciate he started it but after the first one or two I would be bored.

i would also think high maintenance and drama if I was contacted a lot, but I have a very low tolerance

It was a couple of texts. A rejection message back would have done me, id know where i was then, but then now I do. "

As women often say on the forums, sometimes it's just easier to block than go into reasons

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you

He was having a wank he cum and blocked you

I know he was, he told me after I sent him some pics. blocked me two messages later

this is one reason I don't respond to the "how does x y z make you feel" messages unless we are in discussion with someone who we know is interested in pursuing the BDSM side of things with us. Its nearly always a guy having a wank while his wife's in the bath "

sometimes i know it is, but ive been to his flat, no wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try the clubs you don't get messed around then x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You could try the clubs you don't get messed around then x

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Id like to but its not possible, thank you for suggesting it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to sympathise as ive felt let down by men on here who say one thing and do another.

If someone is constantly texting you, first thing in the morning, during the day last thing at night, then rightly or wrongly you start to assume there's some form of friendship building.

In my world , friendship means honestly, but the. There's the real worldnd the fab world.

As someone has already stated on here is a one stop sex shop, and the sooner we, including me, realise that, and realise in its base form it's just getting your end away without having to be permanently nice to someone the better.

I've thought I had 'good' friends on here, but a multitude of pennies have dropped and I'm going to say this.

Act like a lady, think like a man !

It's working for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Flirty teasing smutty texts would do my head in, I appreciate he started it but after the first one or two I would be bored.

i would also think high maintenance and drama if I was contacted a lot, but I have a very low tolerance "
i completely agree, too much attention bores me very quickly, hence why I only swing and not date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could try the clubs you don't get messed around then x

Id like to but its not possible, thank you for suggesting it though "

I read your profile I suggest contacting some of the women locally that do the clubs and scrounge a lift

It's not like meeting people from fab it's totally different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the same thing happen to me and yeah I do wonder why but at the end of the day does it really matter? Your next meet could be even better and you might make a genuine friend out of that one. I've made a couple of good friends on here and we have an amazing time together so whoever blocked me I look at it as an experience and that was it. Their loss not mine as I'm having great fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to sympathise as ive felt let down by men on here who say one thing and do another.

If someone is constantly texting you, first thing in the morning, during the day last thing at night, then rightly or wrongly you start to assume there's some form of friendship building.

In my world , friendship means honestly, but the. There's the real worldnd the fab world.

As someone has already stated on here is a one stop sex shop, and the sooner we, including me, realise that, and realise in its base form it's just getting your end away without having to be permanently nice to someone the better.

I've thought I had 'good' friends on here, but a multitude of pennies have dropped and I'm going to say this.

Act like a lady, think like a man !

It's working for me "

Exactly like my situation and not just the once either. I did try the think like a man thing, then well, this happened and the soft female took over. But I will try it again and thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You could try the clubs you don't get messed around then x

Id like to but its not possible, thank you for suggesting it though

I read your profile I suggest contacting some of the women locally that do the clubs and scrounge a lift

It's not like meeting people from fab it's totally different "

Well, im a bit shy at messaging first and have never messaged a woman, well not recently anyway. Clubs, well yes I guess they are different, expectation-wise anyway. Thank you paulajay

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had the same thing happen to me and yeah I do wonder why but at the end of the day does it really matter? Your next meet could be even better and you might make a genuine friend out of that one. I've made a couple of good friends on here and we have an amazing time together so whoever blocked me I look at it as an experience and that was it. Their loss not mine as I'm having great fun "

Well, I thought he could be a genuine friend but I got it wrong. Whose the fuckwit now? Me lol thank you for your message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could try the clubs you don't get messed around then x

Id like to but its not possible, thank you for suggesting it though

I read your profile I suggest contacting some of the women locally that do the clubs and scrounge a lift

It's not like meeting people from fab it's totally different

Well, im a bit shy at messaging first and have never messaged a woman, well not recently anyway. Clubs, well yes I guess they are different, expectation-wise anyway. Thank you paulajay"

This is all about contacts southampton has some good reliable people that are nice non pushy.

It's just finding them . We know some really nice people and some real decent single guys that can be trusted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had the same thing happen to me and yeah I do wonder why but at the end of the day does it really matter? Your next meet could be even better and you might make a genuine friend out of that one. I've made a couple of good friends on here and we have an amazing time together so whoever blocked me I look at it as an experience and that was it. Their loss not mine as I'm having great fun

Well, I thought he could be a genuine friend but I got it wrong. Whose the fuckwit now? Me lol thank you for your message "

You're not a fuckwit! We've all been there and done that lol. The ones that behave like that are arses lol. we might all be here for one reason but that doesn't mean decency goes out the window.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you "

Men do like to talk dirty. At least I do lol. Turn on the mind and the body will always follow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

problem solved. hes left the site tonight. he said he might be when i met up with him yesterday, he didnt stay long lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you

Men do like to talk dirty. At least I do lol. Turn on the mind and the body will always follow. "

Good conversation turns me on, not necessarily sexual either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had the same thing happen to me and yeah I do wonder why but at the end of the day does it really matter? Your next meet could be even better and you might make a genuine friend out of that one. I've made a couple of good friends on here and we have an amazing time together so whoever blocked me I look at it as an experience and that was it. Their loss not mine as I'm having great fun

Well, I thought he could be a genuine friend but I got it wrong. Whose the fuckwit now? Me lol thank you for your message

You're not a fuckwit! We've all been there and done that lol. The ones that behave like that are arses lol. we might all be here for one reason but that doesn't mean decency goes out the window. "

Bit too trusting though? still that will have to change and thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You could try the clubs you don't get messed around then x

Id like to but its not possible, thank you for suggesting it though

I read your profile I suggest contacting some of the women locally that do the clubs and scrounge a lift

It's not like meeting people from fab it's totally different

Well, im a bit shy at messaging first and have never messaged a woman, well not recently anyway. Clubs, well yes I guess they are different, expectation-wise anyway. Thank you paulajay

This is all about contacts southampton has some good reliable people that are nice non pushy.

It's just finding them . We know some really nice people and some real decent single guys that can be trusted "

I have done some searches and found some single men that do look the type im looking for, but i think my radar is a bit off. you never know, maybe some will contact me as im reluctant to message first now. thanks. pj x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you "

Why don't you send them to me (don't forget the dirty pictures) that way I can have a look and see what put him off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given up trying to second guess what others motives for doing things are.

As much as its really hard for me to do as I like a clear & concise answer ~ I'm learning to let things go.....

chin up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sound like a genuine young lady with feelings and manners, and if this guy hasn't got the balls to tell you what he's feeling then he's not worth worrying about.

To block someone, to me, seems like a bit of a cowardly way out of a situation. i'd much rather they were honest and said what they felt.

I too have been blocked after a meet, and i understand your feelings on this.

Don't change how you are though, and lower your standards. Manners cost nothing, and its just a shame not everyone on here has the same levels of decency!

Just remember, we're not all as rude as him!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

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This!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've given up trying to second guess what others motives for doing things are.

As much as its really hard for me to do as I like a clear & concise answer ~ I'm learning to let things go.....

chin up x"

Thank you, yes had to do it before so here i go again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You sound like a genuine young lady with feelings and manners, and if this guy hasn't got the balls to tell you what he's feeling then he's not worth worrying about.

To block someone, to me, seems like a bit of a cowardly way out of a situation. i'd much rather they were honest and said what they felt.

I too have been blocked after a meet, and i understand your feelings on this.

Don't change how you are though, and lower your standards. Manners cost nothing, and its just a shame not everyone on here has the same levels of decency!

Just remember, we're not all as rude as him! "

Very well said......and spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"problem solved. hes left the site tonight. he said he might be when i met up with him yesterday, he didnt stay long lol "

There could be a hundred reasons for his behaviour. He was just after a shag. He is married. He doesn't really fancy you. He prefers men. He is not looking for a relationship. He doesn't share the same sex interests.

We will never know, OP, and you will probably never know either.

I do wish you well. You know that this is not a site directed towards dating. Enjoy what it offers as long as that coincides with what you are looking for.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It puts self doubt in your head and makes you think 'what did I do wrong?'

You can never know so try not to let it affect you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand why you'd want to know, after all it sounds like you were civil, you seemed to get on well but then he changed his mind.

The advice to guys in similar circumstances is always to accept it, move on and don't keep hassling the other party and I can see no reason why the advice shouldn't be exactly the same to a lady.

I can appreciate its confusing and you probably feel hurt, chalk it off to experience and move on! Plenty more fish in the Fab sea! "

Couldn't agree any more I recently had a meet set up and the messages were going well until day before meet when I had no more contact yet the person was online so I just left it she had her chance to reply but never did but it doesn't get me disheartened there are loads are gorgeous and cool people on here just pick yourself up brush yaself of and look for the next meet and don't let this let down cloud your judgement of other men on this site

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

This post would have gone so differently if a man posted it!

OP you've been blocked, that means contact should cease! the reason of the block is of no consequence, they do not wish to converse with you any longer so I don't really think you should have text asking why completely not fair on the guy, pick yourself up, dust yourself of and move on

It may seem like he took the cowards way out but you never know how rejected people are to respond, so it's easier than risking a possible backlash, some take it on the chin and do no more about it, some get abusive and others get damn well needy wanting to know why. So a block prevents that and SHOULD stop further contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"problem solved. hes left the site tonight. he said he might be when i met up with him yesterday, he didnt stay long lol "

It's never a nice way for someone to behave but hopefully his leaving the site will give you some closure. Chin up and hope you find what you're looking for soon x

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By *inecrestMan
over a year ago

West Yorks

To the OP: I'm a bit like you, sometimes I am curious to know why a contact of mine (on this site or others) has suddenly lost interest or gone silent. But the anonymity afforded by the internet is a boon for the lazy and the inarticulate - nobody is ever obliged to account for their words or actions, they can just block people or disappear. That's just the way it is, and we have to put up with it.

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By *estsideukMan
over a year ago

Hatfield area

I wouldn't let it worry you. As you've heard we've all had similar experiences and learnt from them. I guess I learnt to be slower in pace, slightly less trusting at face value but most importantly to remember to treat people how I would like to be treated. Therefore I'd think it the other way round - you're had a lucky escape from meeting someone who doesn't hold the same values as you.

It all takes time as well. You'll not be short of attention - I noticed I fabb'd one of your pics awhile back! - so bide your time and think the peson you do meet is a lucky person. Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all."

I (Mr) love a bit of dirty talk... if the conversation naturally leads that way.

I also wanted to say that I've had a couple of fun sexting sessions with women (or were they? lol) on Fab. I have made it clear that the exchange is turning me on and the idea is to turn them on too. Its totally different from trying to connect or arrange a meet... it's just using messaging to have a kinky moment with a horny someone. To be honest I'm surprised it doesn't go on more often... after all we're all horny and why not? It's nice feeling that you're getting horny with someone by chatting.

I've never blocked anyone for this... and some have come back for more a few days later I think, ultimately, its not about gender... its just about maturity and whether you are comfortable doing what you're doing. Some people seem very conflicted about being on Fab, as if it was sinful and dirty in some way. I just sooo don't have that lol For me its just wonderful to connect with others in a free un-repressed sexy way... I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This post would have gone so differently if a man posted it!

OP you've been blocked, that means contact should cease! the reason of the block is of no consequence, they do not wish to converse with you any longer so I don't really think you should have text asking why completely not fair on the guy, pick yourself up, dust yourself of and move on

It may seem like he took the cowards way out but you never know how rejected people are to respond, so it's easier than risking a possible backlash, some take it on the chin and do no more about it, some get abusive and others get damn well needy wanting to know why. So a block prevents that and SHOULD stop further contact "

Its is a harsh reality and its one most single guys put up with on this site everyday.. when they come on the forums whinging about it the advice as you say it always basically the same.. get used to it or maybe rethink if this lifestyle is for you.

Rejection is commonplace on here and expected. We all understand how you feel but the reality is. Tough, move on and look for someone else.

Chin up and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the OP: I'm a bit like you, sometimes I am curious to know why a contact of mine (on this site or others) has suddenly lost interest or gone silent. But the anonymity afforded by the internet is a boon for the lazy and the inarticulate - nobody is ever obliged to account for their words or actions, they can just block people or disappear. That's just the way it is, and we have to put up with it."

That doesn't mean they're inarticulate or lazy. They've decided to cut contact for whatever reason. Harsh as it may be, nobody is obliged to give any one explanations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well based on your opening post I think he was unkind to do what he did and can understand your disappointment given you had met him. It would have taken little more than a few seconds for him to drop you a line to let you know he was no longer interested (though he doesn't really need to explain why to be fair) given you progressed contact after the meet.

Regardless of the type of site this is, it's not an excuse for what appears to be ignorance in my opinion.

Put it behind you honey and move on - life is too short for drama

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Whilst I agree your predicament is not the nicest one to be in, but I do always say dignity first and foremost.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well based on your opening post I think he was unkind to do what he did and can understand your disappointment given you had met him. It would have taken little more than a few seconds for him to drop you a line to let you know he was no longer interested (though he doesn't really need to explain why to be fair) given you progressed contact after the meet.

Regardless of the type of site this is, it's not an excuse for what appears to be ignorance in my opinion.

Put it behind you honey and move on - life is too short for drama"

I agree it isn't an excuse but it is what happens, regularly. Better to be prepared for reality than continue under an illusion and be disappointed again and again.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"To the OP: I'm a bit like you, sometimes I am curious to know why a contact of mine (on this site or others) has suddenly lost interest or gone silent. But the anonymity afforded by the internet is a boon for the lazy and the inarticulate - nobody is ever obliged to account for their words or actions, they can just block people or disappear. That's just the way it is, and we have to put up with it.

That doesn't mean they're inarticulate or lazy. They've decided to cut contact for whatever reason. Harsh as it may be, nobody is obliged to give any one explanations."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to sympathise as ive felt let down by men on here who say one thing and do another.

If someone is constantly texting you, first thing in the morning, during the day last thing at night, then rightly or wrongly you start to assume there's some form of friendship building.

In my world , friendship means honestly, but the. There's the real worldnd the fab world.

As someone has already stated on here is a one stop sex shop, and the sooner we, including me, realise that, and realise in its base form it's just getting your end away without having to be permanently nice to someone the better.

I've thought I had 'good' friends on here, but a multitude of pennies have dropped and I'm going to say this.

Act like a lady, think like a man !

It's working for me "

What fantastic advice!

I don't need it as I've learnt like many others to take the site for what it is.... And nothing more

It's too easy to mistake friendly flirty chat as friends lol

loving the quote act like a lady and think like a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly move on ...

I didnt get blocked but we meet up about 4 or 5 times within a few weeks...

Then suddenly the txt became less...

And got more how can I put it polite chit chat...

So I shrugged it off and moved on

No bad feelings on my part, its the way it is on fab..

And my new playmate ...

Holy bloody hell nom nom

But when that fizzles out...

Next yes please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well based on your opening post I think he was unkind to do what he did and can understand your disappointment given you had met him. It would have taken little more than a few seconds for him to drop you a line to let you know he was no longer interested (though he doesn't really need to explain why to be fair) given you progressed contact after the meet.

Regardless of the type of site this is, it's not an excuse for what appears to be ignorance in my opinion.

Put it behind you honey and move on - life is too short for drama

I agree it isn't an excuse but it is what happens, regularly. Better to be prepared for reality than continue under an illusion and be disappointed again and again."

Learning to manage one's expectations in any walk of life does not preclude the occasional disappointment - the key is how it is managed

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well based on your opening post I think he was unkind to do what he did and can understand your disappointment given you had met him. It would have taken little more than a few seconds for him to drop you a line to let you know he was no longer interested (though he doesn't really need to explain why to be fair) given you progressed contact after the meet.

Regardless of the type of site this is, it's not an excuse for what appears to be ignorance in my opinion.

Put it behind you honey and move on - life is too short for drama

I agree it isn't an excuse but it is what happens, regularly. Better to be prepared for reality than continue under an illusion and be disappointed again and again.

Learning to manage one's expectations in any walk of life does not preclude the occasional disappointment - the key is how it is managed"

All very true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This post would have gone so differently if a man posted it!

OP you've been blocked, that means contact should cease! the reason of the block is of no consequence, they do not wish to converse with you any longer so I don't really think you should have text asking why completely not fair on the guy, pick yourself up, dust yourself of and move on

It may seem like he took the cowards way out but you never know how rejected people are to respond, so it's easier than risking a possible backlash, some take it on the chin and do no more about it, some get abusive and others get damn well needy wanting to know why. So a block prevents that and SHOULD stop further contact "

Coward yes definately in not having the balls to tell me why. I would have found that easy to accept.

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By *arymore1Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

maybe he is worried about his rabbit

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"This post would have gone so differently if a man posted "

It wouldnt have mattered if the poster was a Bugblatter Beast from Traal, the advice would have been the same. They weren't that into you. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your very supportive and nice messages. Advice gratefully received and I will act on it.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"This post would have gone so differently if a man posted it!

OP you've been blocked, that means contact should cease! the reason of the block is of no consequence, they do not wish to converse with you any longer so I don't really think you should have text asking why completely not fair on the guy, pick yourself up, dust yourself of and move on

It may seem like he took the cowards way out but you never know how rejected people are to respond, so it's easier than risking a possible backlash, some take it on the chin and do no more about it, some get abusive and others get damn well needy wanting to know why. So a block prevents that and SHOULD stop further contact

Coward yes definately in not having the balls to tell me why. I would have found that easy to accept. "

He had no guarantee that you would though and why is knowing why so bloody important? he wasn't that into you grow your own set of balls and get over it move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This post would have gone so differently if a man posted it!

OP you've been blocked, that means contact should cease! the reason of the block is of no consequence, they do not wish to converse with you any longer so I don't really think you should have text asking why completely not fair on the guy, pick yourself up, dust yourself of and move on

It may seem like he took the cowards way out but you never know how rejected people are to respond, so it's easier than risking a possible backlash, some take it on the chin and do no more about it, some get abusive and others get damn well needy wanting to know why. So a block prevents that and SHOULD stop further contact

Coward yes definately in not having the balls to tell me why. I would have found that easy to accept.

He had no guarantee that you would though and why is knowing why so bloody important? he wasn't that into you grow your own set of balls and get over it move on "

I have, which is why my last post said what it did. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it unreasonable of me, after Ive met someone, socially and we seemed to get on well. There were a few setbacks to our meet but we managed to arrange it. Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much, he blocked me. We had exchanged mobile numbers and there seemd to be a connection too. Well, ive text him twice, the second time asking why he blocked me, just so I know what I did or said wrong. No reply. I know I should just let it go, but its rare to find a local guy who I thought might be a friend as well as the obvious.

Is it too much to want to know why, so I could not make the same mistake again. To be honest, im sat here a bit upset and feeling rather stupid. "

Unreasonable? Yes. Forget it. Move on. It's not a dating site.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton


"Thank you all for your very supportive and nice messages. Advice gratefully received and I will act on it. "

I would love to offer to chat to you about it but I can't send you a message. You have my sympathy though. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This post would have gone so differently if a man posted

It wouldnt have mattered if the poster was a Bugblatter Beast from Traal, the advice would have been the same. They weren't that into you. Move on."

Good to see a hitchiker's guide reference. Time for a pangalactic gargle blaster!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"This post would have gone so differently if a man posted it!

OP you've been blocked, that means contact should cease! the reason of the block is of no consequence, they do not wish to converse with you any longer so I don't really think you should have text asking why completely not fair on the guy, pick yourself up, dust yourself of and move on

It may seem like he took the cowards way out but you never know how rejected people are to respond, so it's easier than risking a possible backlash, some take it on the chin and do no more about it, some get abusive and others get damn well needy wanting to know why. So a block prevents that and SHOULD stop further contact

Coward yes definately in not having the balls to tell me why. I would have found that easy to accept.

He had no guarantee that you would though and why is knowing why so bloody important? he wasn't that into you grow your own set of balls and get over it move on

I have, which is why my last post said what it did. Thank you "

Apologises didn't read your last post until you've now mentioned it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This post would have gone so differently if a man posted it!

OP you've been blocked, that means contact should cease! the reason of the block is of no consequence, they do not wish to converse with you any longer so I don't really think you should have text asking why completely not fair on the guy, pick yourself up, dust yourself of and move on

It may seem like he took the cowards way out but you never know how rejected people are to respond, so it's easier than risking a possible backlash, some take it on the chin and do no more about it, some get abusive and others get damn well needy wanting to know why. So a block prevents that and SHOULD stop further contact

Coward yes definately in not having the balls to tell me why. I would have found that easy to accept.

He had no guarantee that you would though and why is knowing why so bloody important? he wasn't that into you grow your own set of balls and get over it move on

I have, which is why my last post said what it did. Thank you

Apologises didn't read your last post until you've now mentioned it "

Thats ok, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are shits...that's life. Don't waste your time, he's not worth it. Some men just aren't grown up enough to be honest. Wish there were more honest people around, we're all adults after all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much"

Well what did you say that you think was "a bit too much" if it was the L word then he was probably right to run

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Some people are shits...that's life. Don't waste your time, he's not worth it. Some men just aren't grown up enough to be honest. Wish there were more honest people around, we're all adults after all! "

This is possibly a bit harsh. It's easy to forget than in general on fab we are dealing with people we do not know, and what's more we don't know their motivation for being on fab. Some people are as much if not more turned on by the chase as by the meet. They are as entitled to that as anyone is to satisfy their own interests.

I guess the real issue that that we shouldn't assume that everyone is on fab for the same reason as you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Some people are shits...that's life. Don't waste your time, he's not worth it. Some men just aren't grown up enough to be honest. Wish there were more honest people around, we're all adults after all!

This is possibly a bit harsh. It's easy to forget than in general on fab we are dealing with people we do not know, and what's more we don't know their motivation for being on fab. Some people are as much if not more turned on by the chase as by the meet. They are as entitled to that as anyone is to satisfy their own interests.

I guess the real issue that that we shouldn't assume that everyone is on fab for the same reason as you."

I think that is a good point. It's difficult in real life to infer intention doubly so on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are shits...that's life. Don't waste your time, he's not worth it. Some men just aren't grown up enough to be honest. Wish there were more honest people around, we're all adults after all!

This is possibly a bit harsh. It's easy to forget than in general on fab we are dealing with people we do not know, and what's more we don't know their motivation for being on fab. Some people are as much if not more turned on by the chase as by the meet. They are as entitled to that as anyone is to satisfy their own interests.

I guess the real issue that that we shouldn't assume that everyone is on fab for the same reason as you."

its not harsh..just be honest and say..im not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear tell a bunny rabbit has gone missing................

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I hear tell a bunny rabbit has gone missing................ "

That's not fair. The lady in question recognised she might have been a bit enthusiastic but she is very far from what you imply.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"To the OP: I'm a bit like you, sometimes I am curious to know why a contact of mine (on this site or others) has suddenly lost interest or gone silent. But the anonymity afforded by the internet is a boon for the lazy and the inarticulate - nobody is ever obliged to account for their words or actions, they can just block people or disappear. That's just the way it is, and we have to put up with it.

That doesn't mean they're inarticulate or lazy. They've decided to cut contact for whatever reason. Harsh as it may be, nobody is obliged to give any one explanations."

Agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could spend the next few months wondering and worrying what it is that you have done. That is something you shouldn't do. For whatever reason he's done what he has done, its not your fault. I have a couple of friends that I message, text etc and some of their language wouldn't be used in every day, not by them at least. I don't think it would be for that reason. The only person who knows is him and he isn't going to tell you. You just have to accept, that you weren't as compatible as you thought.

We have spoken before and I can assure you that it's not your problem, its his!

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd


"I have to sympathise as ive felt let down by men on here who say one thing and do another.

If someone is constantly texting you, first thing in the morning, during the day last thing at night, then rightly or wrongly you start to assume there's some form of friendship building.

In my world , friendship means honestly, but the. There's the real worldnd the fab world.

As someone has already stated on here is a one stop sex shop, and the sooner we, including me, realise that, and realise in its base form it's just getting your end away without having to be permanently nice to someone the better.

I've thought I had 'good' friends on here, but a multitude of pennies have dropped and I'm going to say this.

Act like a lady, think like a man !

It's working for me "
It can work the other way as well, women can equally give us men the run around. I have just blocked one such, who then accused me of being just like the rest.. so women can be players too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear tell a bunny rabbit has gone missing................

That's not fair. The lady in question recognised she might have been a bit enthusiastic but she is very far from what you imply."
Don't worry the rabbit was found................in a pot!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hear tell a bunny rabbit has gone missing................

That's not fair. The lady in question recognised she might have been a bit enthusiastic but she is very far from what you imply.Don't worry the rabbit was found................in a pot!!!"

I did chuckle..you meany! It's perfectly reasonable to assume after a social where you both get on well that contact would continue then for you to be blocked, you'd want to know why. Just a 'I'm not interested' would be common courtesy then block if they keep going on and don't accept it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much"

Well what did you say that you think was "a bit too much" if it was the L word then he was probably right to run"

It was not the word LOVE. He asked for naughty pictures of my pussy, he got them, then blocked me, so for all I know they are on the internet. As someone, said he is juvenile and men like that I dont need pissing me about

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hear tell a bunny rabbit has gone missing................ "

Thank you for your positive comment. You dont know me or the full story, which I could have posted on here, but chose not to. I just wanted some support which I have had and am grateful for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hear tell a bunny rabbit has gone missing................

That's not fair. The lady in question recognised she might have been a bit enthusiastic but she is very far from what you imply."

Thank you nicecouple. Just as I get head straight, over juvenile male, a stupid comment rears its ugly head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much"

Well what did you say that you think was "a bit too much" if it was the L word then he was probably right to run

It was not the word LOVE. He asked for naughty pictures of my pussy, he got them, then blocked me, so for all I know they are on the internet. As someone, said he is juvenile and men like that I dont need pissing me about"

urgh...what an ass!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I hear tell a bunny rabbit has gone missing................

That's not fair. The lady in question recognised she might have been a bit enthusiastic but she is very far from what you imply.

Thank you nicecouple. Just as I get head straight, over juvenile male, a stupid comment rears its ugly head. "

And that's all it was, a stupid comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hear tell a bunny rabbit has gone missing................

That's not fair. The lady in question recognised she might have been a bit enthusiastic but she is very far from what you imply.

Thank you nicecouple. Just as I get head straight, over juvenile male, a stupid comment rears its ugly head.

And that's all it was, a stupid comment "

Exactly and I thanked him for his comment

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By *hiterabbit69Man
over a year ago

Romford

Lifes tough, people are shits and it's the internet, you're all strangers till we've actually met, eye to eye.

I block people constantly. Fancied a woman then read her profile - abhorrent so block. Mention of "real" men only, block. Slightly below my standards, block so I don't get too horny and lower my standards. Passive only ts - block.

The site is a tool, don't get to hung up on rejection and the reasons why. In all my time here I have received 3 gracious denials. They were very much appreciated and polite, but 3 out of god knows how many emails. It's rather disheartening!

Chin up and stay kinky!

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By *reddyMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Not unreasonable but I wouldn't hold on to any hope of getting an honest or any response at all, I feel your pain as I've been blocked a few times with no real explanation, rejections does hurt sometimes but you learn to keep a thick skin over here and move on rapidly. People have their own agendas here so I would advise to move on don't worry about it, plenty of more fish in FAB lol

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Is it unreasonable of me, after Ive met someone, socially and we seemed to get on well. There were a few setbacks to our meet but we managed to arrange it. Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much, he blocked me. We had exchanged mobile numbers and there seemd to be a connection too. Well, ive text him twice, the second time asking why he blocked me, just so I know what I did or said wrong. No reply. I know I should just let it go, but its rare to find a local guy who I thought might be a friend as well as the obvious.

Is it too much to want to know why, so I could not make the same mistake again. To be honest, im sat here a bit upset and feeling rather stupid. "

We are each different so difficult to answer your question

I am on a sex site; I have met a few nice people here who I keep in touch with. But I wouldn't give it a second thought if one day they decided no longer to keep in touch

Sure, I will text message someone who I hadn't heard from in a long time; but if they then don't reply in, say a week, I will delete their number to make room for ... NEXT

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By *sontopMan
over a year ago

Billericay

Why any man would want to block a woman is totally ridiculous

men struggle to find a woman on here as we out number you

He must be very stupid Ignore him

Also the more women he blocks the more chance there is for us genuine men

John

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Why any man would want to block a woman is totally ridiculous

men struggle to find a woman on here as we out number you

He must be very stupid Ignore him

Also the more women he blocks the more chance there is for us genuine men

John

"

He's entitled to block, it doesn't make him stupid or any less genuine.

Women aren't stupid either and calling other men stupid or less than genuine doesn't increase your chances on here.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"Why any man would want to block a woman is totally ridiculous

men struggle to find a woman on here as we out number you

He must be very stupid Ignore him

Also the more women he blocks the more chance there is for us genuine men

John

He's entitled to block, it doesn't make him stupid or any less genuine.

Women aren't stupid either and calling other men stupid or less than genuine doesn't increase your chances on here."

Agreed, I would prefer someone block me if I am not their cup of tea ... I don't think I block single men, as I don't mind a chat, but do not meet them alone - occasionally I get one pass by and direct him to the couple profile - I think men blocking women is about individuals blocking individuals and it may even mean they are more genuine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why any man would want to block a woman is totally ridiculous

men struggle to find a woman on here as we out number you

He must be very stupid Ignore him

Also the more women he blocks the more chance there is for us genuine men

John

He's entitled to block, it doesn't make him stupid or any less genuine.

Women aren't stupid either and calling other men stupid or less than genuine doesn't increase your chances on here.

Agreed, I would prefer someone block me if I am not their cup of tea ... I don't think I block single men, as I don't mind a chat, but do not meet them alone - occasionally I get one pass by and direct him to the couple profile - I think men blocking women is about individuals blocking individuals and it may even mean they are more genuine"

Unfortunately he wasn't and I've moved on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it unreasonable of me, after Ive met someone, socially and we seemed to get on well. There were a few setbacks to our meet but we managed to arrange it. Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much, he blocked me. We had exchanged mobile numbers and there seemd to be a connection too. Well, ive text him twice, the second time asking why he blocked me, just so I know what I did or said wrong. No reply. I know I should just let it go, but its rare to find a local guy who I thought might be a friend as well as the obvious.

Is it too much to want to know why, so I could not make the same mistake again. To be honest, im sat here a bit upset and feeling rather stupid. "
. His loss! You look incredible, curvy and gorgeous auburn hair! Yes please! I work in Southampton area fairly often, I'd love to take you out and show you we aren't all idiots! No string and nothing expected. Genuine guy here xx

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London


"Why any man would want to block a woman is totally ridiculous

men struggle to find a woman on here as we out number you

He must be very stupid Ignore him

Also the more women he blocks the more chance there is for us genuine men

John

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He blocked her because he wanted to.

It's his right to do so.

He doesn't have to explain himself to anyone.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Maybe his wife found his profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you have a shag with him or just a social? If a shag, maibe that is what he was just after.

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By *urvyemmaWoman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

Sometimes it's absolutely nothing to do with you or anything you have done or anything twatty by him..sometimes life just throws stuff at you and fab and swinging becomes less important or even stressful.

For example I met and chatted to a nice bloke on here for weeks. I thought we were friends and then he suddenly blocked me. I was like you ..upset/angry /confused

Months later he got back in touch and told me he blocked me cos he just suddenly had a bit of a head fuck thinking what the hell am I doing on a sex site and decided to just quit there and then. Yes he could have told me and I do think he should have done that BUT has taught me that it wasn't me. .its just life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really think texting him was an error. He made it clear he no longer wanted to speak. People have loads of things going on in the background that you never know about.

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you "

One person does not speak for an entire gender.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"yes it is too much to want to know why, this is at its basest a sex hook up site and your post is a little ott in my opinion so maybe your messages (if they were in the same vein) frightened the guy off. Move on and don't overthink, that way lies madness.

We were sending each other flirty messages here along the sex talk lines. It was after my last message that he blocked me. the messages were instigated by him, so perhaps men dont really like women to talk dirty after all. But I will take your advice and thank you

One person does not speak for an entire gender."

Yes I do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At its best, this site is us and abuse

The term friend is used at its lowest form.

I wouldn't class friends on fab anywhere near the real friends I have off this site, so it's best to assume that ...... That was last week......NEXT!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes it's absolutely nothing to do with you or anything you have done or anything twatty by him..sometimes life just throws stuff at you and fab and swinging becomes less important or even stressful.

For example I met and chatted to a nice bloke on here for weeks. I thought we were friends and then he suddenly blocked me. I was like you ..upset/angry /confused

Months later he got back in touch and told me he blocked me cos he just suddenly had a bit of a head fuck thinking what the hell am I doing on a sex site and decided to just quit there and then. Yes he could have told me and I do think he should have done that BUT has taught me that it wasn't me. .its just life "

It's good you had it explained to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe his wife found his profile? "

No wife, I have been to his Flat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's unreasonable to think that it would be nice to get a thanks but you're not for me because.... from someone that you've met and chatted to for some time. BUT it's very rare for it to work that way.

It's happened to me when I've had a hotel booked and paid for ready for the first naughty meet

You just have to live and learn, this is a funny old game and I guess that is part of the fun of it

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I have a partner. I'd be extremely worried if I got myself into a state because some random hook up blocked me.

It could be meeting a married woman for him was guaranteed nsa but something about you set alarm bells.

Not being funny but if this thread is an indicator, to me, he dodged a bullet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really think texting him was an error. He made it clear he no longer wanted to speak. People have loads of things going on in the background that you never know about. "

A clear indicator that if people don't want to be text or contacted on kik, don't give your number out

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"I really think texting him was an error. He made it clear he no longer wanted to speak. People have loads of things going on in the background that you never know about.

A clear indicator that if people don't want to be text or contacted on kik, don't give your number out "

So because he gave you his number that automatically gave you the right to continue contacting him when he clearly didn't want you to?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can empathise with you and think people don't show enough respect sometimes.

After the one social I think a complete explanation isn't warranted though.

If you had been a regular friend with benefits, that would be different. I would definitely expect an honest reason for the change in circumstances.

People do this for different reasons and if you are planning to make it more than a one-off it helps to establish you have the same expectation.

I'm always wary of newbies as they can seem very enthusiastic at first and suddenly decide it's not for them.

PS. Welcome to Devon

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Sorry to hear you got mucked about ... You're not a fuckwit .. Far from it ... Here's hoping that you have better luck in the future .. As said before .stay kinky xxx olov

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I really think texting him was an error. He made it clear he no longer wanted to speak. People have loads of things going on in the background that you never know about.

A clear indicator that if people don't want to be text or contacted on kik, don't give your number out

So because he gave you his number that automatically gave you the right to continue contacting him when he clearly didn't want you to?"

No it didn't but as he had messaged me first by text and on kik, i asked if it was ok to continue messaging and he was ok with it but entitled to change his mind too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why any man would want to block a woman is totally ridiculous

men struggle to find a woman on here as we out number you

He must be very stupid Ignore him

Also the more women he blocks the more chance there is for us genuine men

John

"

Women block guys for no reason too, i've had it happened to me so that means women must be very stupid too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Why any man would want to block a woman is totally ridiculous

men struggle to find a woman on here as we out number you

He must be very stupid Ignore him

Also the more women he blocks the more chance there is for us genuine men

John

Women block guys for no reason too, i've had it happened to me so that means women must be very stupid too "

We are as I said else where I was talking to a pair of slippers this morning fully believing I was chatting to the cat.....which of course is perfectly normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why any man would want to block a woman is totally ridiculous

men struggle to find a woman on here as we out number you

He must be very stupid Ignore him

Also the more women he blocks the more chance there is for us genuine men

John

Women block guys for no reason too, i've had it happened to me so that means women must be very stupid too

We are as I said else where I was talking to a pair of slippers this morning fully believing I was chatting to the cat.....which of course is perfectly normal "

Classic!

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By *hiterabbit69Man
over a year ago

Romford

Johns just trying to get in there!

Another reason I block is abhorrent profile text but sexy pictures! I'd never be able to live with myself if my dick got the better of me and I actually made an attempt on someone who is repugnant to me in all forms bar the physical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The rule is, respect their wishes, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I thought this would be closed by now

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I thought this would be closed by now "

Another fifty posts to go unless you ask for it to be closed...or you make fifty more posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it unreasonable of me, after Ive met someone, socially and we seemed to get on well. There were a few setbacks to our meet but we managed to arrange it. Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much, he blocked me. We had exchanged mobile numbers and there seemd to be a connection too. Well, ive text him twice, the second time asking why he blocked me, just so I know what I did or said wrong. No reply. I know I should just let it go, but its rare to find a local guy who I thought might be a friend as well as the obvious.

Is it too much to want to know why, so I could not make the same mistake again. To be honest, im sat here a bit upset and feeling rather stupid.

I realise the first line doesnt make much sense. meant to say unreasonable to want to know why im blocked. making a right hash of this I know, sorry. "

His loss, be happy you found out now x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it unreasonable of me, after Ive met someone, socially and we seemed to get on well. There were a few setbacks to our meet but we managed to arrange it. Anyway, after my last message to him, which, for me to send it, was probably a bit too much, he blocked me. We had exchanged mobile numbers and there seemd to be a connection too. Well, ive text him twice, the second time asking why he blocked me, just so I know what I did or said wrong. No reply. I know I should just let it go, but its rare to find a local guy who I thought might be a friend as well as the obvious.

Is it too much to want to know why, so I could not make the same mistake again. To be honest, im sat here a bit upset and feeling rather stupid.

I realise the first line doesnt make much sense. meant to say unreasonable to want to know why im blocked. making a right hash of this I know, sorry.

His loss, be happy you found out now x"

I am, thank you. 48 to go lol

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