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When I suggested I liked it like my sex ... The wife said rare then.  | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about...". Surely you just have to ask them what their hobbies and interests are and you can just ignore them if you are not a match. ? Are you saying that you are snowed under with members enquiring about your cock. It is the first time that I have seen a male member make this complaint . Would a dating site be better for you rather than a sex site?. Fab is a totally ruthless environment with each member trying to fulfill their own pleasures . | |||
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"Like I said, I know physical attraction is important, but there's a social aspect to swinging too. Being asked how big my cock is, and then being given a place and time to meet is so detached. Couples often have the same complaint. They don't want to be used, they appreciate meeting intelligent people with whom they can establish a chemistry, and have a bit of a flirt! " You have pictures. Of your body and cock. Unless you're being messages by someone who is blind I can't see why anyone would need to ask? A | |||
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"Nobody asks me either of those questions. I must be doing it wrong. "How big's your cock? | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about...". Important to be realistic. All you are on this site is a piece of meat . I go to a Sauna in Cap d Agde . All you are in there is a piece of meat ..Ladies in there select men because they are. hung and able to perform.. It is a great environment for a few hours ..If I want to chat or for people to treat me as more than a piece of meat , I choose to meet in different circumstances ..As I member of fab ,I am happy to be treated as a piece of meat ..Then it is back to the real world . In some of the sex clubs abroad the ladies cannot speak English. If you measure up you are simply dragged to the room. A true meat market. | |||
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"Nobody asks me either of those questions. I must be doing it wrong.
How big's your cock?"Tiny.
And now I can never make that statement again.
You meanie. | |||
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"Nobody asks me either of those questions. I must be doing it wrong.
How big's your cock?
Tiny.
And now I can never make that statement again.
You meanie. "Soz | |||
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I like a bit witty banter and a giggle not a tirade of abuse thanks... Nice pics though op  | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about..."If that makes you feel like a piece of meat then the messages women get would send you running for the hills!  | |||
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"Like I said, I know physical attraction is important, but there's a social aspect to swinging too. Being asked how big my cock is, and then being given a place and time to meet is so detached. Couples often have the same complaint. They don't want to be used, they appreciate meeting intelligent people with whom they can establish a chemistry, and have a bit of a flirt! " It depends on the person, remember there's lots of reasons for being here. Some do want the social side and the connection as well as being attracted to you. Some just want a fuck so are only bothered about the physical aspect. Some only want to be social so the mental connection is important but the physical aspect isn't. You see what I mean? | |||
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" It depends on the person, remember there's lots of reasons for being here. Some do want the social side and the connection as well as being attracted to you. Some just want a fuck so are only bothered about the physical aspect. Some only want to be social so the mental connection is important but the physical aspect isn't. You see what I mean? " | |||
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"But, aren't well all just meat anyway?" Cannibal lecture | |||
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"Like everything in life, U don't really know what something is like until U try it......Fab is no different. I know that if I were on here when I was in my early 20s I'd be out to shag most of d ladies here who showed an interest......and it would have been all about getting my end away. At this stage in my life I've pretty much had a wide variety of sexual encounters and experiences....so I'm much more in2 personalities and chemistry now rather than pure self gratification. Others on here r able to switch between d deep people they r in d real world and coming across as shallow in their activities on here.....for many this site and sex is just recreational escapism, where they can adopt a different persona for a few hours and fulfill their hobby. Others keep there everyday personalities and enjoy d banter, social side and d occasionial sexual chemistry that comes from an encounter......but the problems only really occur when these two different types of fabbers ignore their different outlooks and have unfulfilling meets with one another where it's usually d former kind of fabber who becomes disillusioned with d lifestyle. I just wouldn't take this place or d messages that U find demeaning so serious OP....and I'd make sure my profile left no possibilities for misunderstandings about what / who exactly U r looking for on here. " | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about..."Shite eh...trying being regularly reffered to as a "Fucktoy" i frigging hate it | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about...
If that makes you feel like a piece of meat then the messages women get would send you running for the hills! " | |||
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"..as long as I'm not made out as some niche plaything." Precisely. All my original post set out to do was acknowledge that objectification applies to both sexes. | |||
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"I know these are the sort of messages women get all the time, and that's wrong too. Like so many people on here, I believe there's a distinction between swinging, and anonymous fuck sites like craigslist. I'm getting a lot of grief for my original post. To those of you that think my opinion isn't valid, you must just have a very different outlook on swinging. One that is just as valid as mine, but different. " Yes , we have . We swing to enjoy fun with like minded people. Always with people we find attractive. We aren't looking for friends or anything more than mutual sexual adventures . | |||
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" Always with people we find attractive. We aren't looking for friends or anything more than mutual sexual adventures . "But do you actually talk to those people beforehand? Find out what they're into, a little about who they are? | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about.... Surely you just have to ask them what their hobbies and interests are and you can just ignore them if you are not a match. ? Are you saying that you are snowed under with members enquiring about your cock. It is the first time that I have seen a male member make this complaint . Would a dating site be better for you rather than a sex site?. Fab is a totally ruthless environment with each member trying to fulfill their own pleasures ."Very true! | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about...
Shite eh...trying being regularly reffered to as a "Fucktoy" i frigging hate it "I would never call you that | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about..."Yeah. I get random messages asking me my bra size (dunno), when I'm next shaving my head (dunno), exactly what pleasure my piercings will give a man (dunno), what clothes I'm currently wearing (jeans and t shirt), what I'm up to right now (answering this fucking message). It does become very tiring. | |||
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"Funny isn't it. The split between those who call this a sex site and those on for social friends and fun. Perhaps there is as wide a definition of swinging as there are people here. I've quite an open mind to attractiveness, were all given what we're given but it's what you do with it. I'd rather be ravashed by a lumpy honey with crooked teeth who'll have me thinking did she just expertly drain me, twice, than a stale evening with a supermodel corspe. I'd like young beautiful tight nubile as much as the next but I appreciate friendly sexy attitudes more than looks, that way I see attractive people more often." | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about...
Yeah. I get random messages asking me my bra size (dunno), when I'm next shaving my head (dunno), exactly what pleasure my piercings will give a man (dunno), what clothes I'm currently wearing (jeans and t shirt), what I'm up to right now (answering this fucking message).
It does become very tiring."Not sure why but your replies always make me smile.
To the op, I understand what you're saying, and we pick people based on a connection at some level, whether it be physical or other. That said we are always very conscious that it's working for everyone. For example we may pick a guy because of his physical attributes, thus falling into the category of treating them like a piece of meat, but would like to think we don't expect them to just perform like a dancing bear! - more that we all have fun.
We've been in that scenario where we don't think the other party is getting as much out of it and called time on it.
I think the ones that would carry on regardless are the ones that probably make you feel that way, so I'd suggest that's the way to beat it. If you're not really into it stop it - if they don't! - If you are enjoying then who cares what flavour of meat you are;-)
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"Never, because I use this site for my purposes and am very honest about that. I am here to get a shag when it suits me, with who it suits and I am brutally honest about that. Now that, minimises my chances from people who are not seeking the same as me and that is cool. People who would want me to behave in that fashion are as disposable to me and I may be to them." I wish more people would do this. Yes you may get less meets but they'll be better for everyone. We get so many people trying to be all things to everyone and don't find it attractive at all. D | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about..."Totally agree mate.. Gets frustrating.. Maybe an age thing with me also perhaps | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about..."I did once when the man of a couple we were meeting for a social held me at arms length and looked me up and down as if he was appraising my worth at a cattle auction, I was waiting for him to inspect my teeth . | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. I understand that a physical attraction is important. Sometimes, I'm even willing to play along with the whole casual, anonymous approach. But after the hundredth time, it begins to wear thin. I'm more than just a piece of meat and this isn't what swinging is about..."Sometimes I feel like a leg of lamb,and some people just keep pulling it.   | |||
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" Always with people we find attractive. We aren't looking for friends or anything more than mutual sexual adventures .
But do you actually talk to those people beforehand? Find out what they're into, a little about who they are?"Nope , if they're fit we meet | |||
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"Stop with your moaning about things which trouble you. You have no right to be upset as you are not a woman and just don't understand." Just because one particular group has it worse does not mean another, less affected group has no right to make a point about it. That is illogical. | |||
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"Stop with your moaning about things which trouble you. You have no right to be upset as you are not a woman and just don't understand. Just because one particular group has it worse does not mean another, less affected group has no right to make a point about it. That is illogical." I totally agree. I think you missed the irony and sarcasm of my post. | |||
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"One of the best mfm meets we ever had we have no clue who the guy was.. he was just a nameless guy that fitted what we wanted in the club.. he left and we still to this day haven't a clue. We didn't use him, he didn't use us... We just all got what we wanted from it. Some of my lady friends on here would be mortified if a guy got up and left straight after sex... Where as with meets I would rather. I see it as having mutual wants and satisfying the others need while sorting your own. With single guys sorry but I dont want to get to know them above their sexual wants to see if they match what we are looking for.. Mr is different with ladies as its what he enjoys but so many times women see that as more than what it is.. Couples we get to know often but still our best meets have been spur of the moment ones x " Good post . Different people will handle the issue in different ways . I have had meets where the lady is straight off to the shower after her needs are fulfilled and after dressing the husband opens the door for me to leave .We both satisfied our needs and I was only there to fulfill her requirements . Some will like chat , others just want action and your pictures and attitude are all they want for a meet . On a simplistic basis , each party is just concentrating on their personal pleasure.  | |||
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"This wasn't why I began dabbling in the swinging lifestyle. But so often, I am approached by couples and singles who simply want to know how big my cock is, and how muscular I am, in order to set up a meet. ." You love it you tart! | |||
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