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By *prilChristian OP   Couple
over a year ago

Town

Hi guys, we are new to the scene and excited to meet a girl for a threesome. We havent yet met with a girl but were looking for some pointers.

If anyone could give us some advice as we havent managed to find anyone yet.

Thanks in advance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As part of a couple I really struggled with this too now I'm single it's easy..go figure

I happily meet couples for me the important thing is that the messages come from the woman and it's for them not just the hubby. From a single fem perspective it's nerve wracking meeting a couple si don't rush straight to it chat and be comfortable first.

That's just me but hope it helps

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By *prilChristian OP   Couple
over a year ago

Town

Ok, thanks for the comment! Ye we usually try the approach you mentioned tbh but haven't had much luck yet. Perhaps we just need to be abit more patient. Best stick at it ?? Sure we shall meet someone soon!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to meet a couple but cant find any to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We been here five years lol still not had the pleasure of finding one who's up for playing with both of us lol but live it hope one day maybe

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath


"I would love to meet a couple but cant find any to play with "

We'd love to meet you and aren't too far away

Minnie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sack that off and simply have sex with us instead.

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By *abloversCouple
over a year ago

London

We have been very lucky and met some fabulous women on here who have become great friends. I generally (Fi) do the talking though.

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

Looking at your pics OP - I can't see you having any trouble

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By *prilChristian OP   Couple
over a year ago

Town


"Looking at your pics OP - I can't see you having any trouble "

Thanks! Sure something will come up for us soon .. Positive thinking!

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield


"Looking at your pics OP - I can't see you having any trouble

Thanks! Sure something will come up for us soon .. Positive thinking!"

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By *tevelizCouple
over a year ago

northampton

this is something we would like to try if there are any interested ladies around near us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are new on here and looking for other females for fun and great friendship. Wife is also looking for her own female friend for 1 to 1 and friendship x

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By *ox......Man
over a year ago

Wakefield

My fb wants ff first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are looking for what the majority of couples on here are looking for. I wouldn't rely on this site for meets but use it as more of a tool for keeping in touch with people that you have meet. Clubs and socials. Get yourself out there. Get yourself know. Single fems are out there but we can pretty much have the puck on here. The couples who make no effort are the ones who end up most disappointed.Good luck.

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By *ullyboy2Couple
over a year ago

Douglas

H guys and girls.

We are also new to this site looking forward to finding a bi woman to join us. The only thing i see being a problem is where we live (Isle of Man) we have no clubs here and everyone knows your business. We do however travel across the water to liverpool often. We are going across next month and are thinking of going to a club, any tips on a good club for first timers would be great. We hope to make lots of new friends for meets and friendships.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Hi guys, we are new to the scene and excited to meet a girl for a threesome. We havent yet met with a girl but were looking for some pointers.

If anyone could give us some advice as we havent managed to find anyone yet.

Thanks in advance! "

We posted this in answer to a similar thread in Support & Advice, have adapted it as you may also find it useful:

If you want to have an FFM threesome through Fab, much patience is needed, as you need to have a alignment of five things:

1) Attraction! Mutual attraction between three is rare, and four rarer still.

2) Trust! All parties need to feel safe in meeting with a stranger.

3) Location! This is always tough. All the best matches seem to be at the opposite end of the country, unless you get really lucky.

4) Likes! Everybody wants different things from play. Finding people who want the same thing that you do can be tricky.

5) Timing! If you get all the above right, finding a date that all can play together is tough.

So you can see why you need to be patient, it is unlikely to happen overnight for you.

Your chances will be improved if you get verified in person, which you could do by visiting a club. Even if you don't play with anyone, you can get veris from people you meet there. This will give prospective meets the confidence that you are genuine people.

Hope that's helpful. It really is worth perservering, as when you do finally find what you want here, it is amazing - there is nothing quite like FFM. Good luck!

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Also, you might find it helpful to be a bit more specific about what you mean by kinky...it runs a whole spectrum of things, and what you have in mind by the word may differ wildly from what it conjures up in the mind of a prospective meet, and put them off before you even get started.

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By *prilChristian OP   Couple
over a year ago

Town


"Hi guys, we are new to the scene and excited to meet a girl for a threesome. We havent yet met with a girl but were looking for some pointers.

If anyone could give us some advice as we havent managed to find anyone yet.

Thanks in advance!

We posted this in answer to a similar thread in Support & Advice, have adapted it as you may also find it useful:

If you want to have an FFM threesome through Fab, much patience is needed, as you need to have a alignment of five things:

1) Attraction! Mutual attraction between three is rare, and four rarer still.

2) Trust! All parties need to feel safe in meeting with a stranger.

3) Location! This is always tough. All the best matches seem to be at the opposite end of the country, unless you get really lucky.

4) Likes! Everybody wants different things from play. Finding people who want the same thing that you do can be tricky.

5) Timing! If you get all the above right, finding a date that all can play together is tough.

So you can see why you need to be patient, it is unlikely to happen overnight for you.

Your chances will be improved if you get verified in person, which you could do by visiting a club. Even if you don't play with anyone, you can get veris from people you meet there. This will give prospective meets the confidence that you are genuine people.

Hope that's helpful. It really is worth perservering, as when you do finally find what you want here, it is amazing - there is nothing quite like FFM. Good luck! "

Thanks for the tips! Really helpful we shall try take all of this into consideration... And hopefully with some luck it may all fall into place!

Good luck to any couples in the same boat as us, it's not easy :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Searching for the elusive unicorn is apparently hard work!

I get alot of messages and the ones that stick out are genuine people that want to talk and find a connection to build on. Make sure you send face pictures of both of you. There obviously has to be an attraction so it's better to know straight off if you fit the bill for a single lady.

Don't be pushy, just be patient and the right girl will come along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because of the ratio, hardly no women, but good luck x.

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By *prilChristian OP   Couple
over a year ago

Town


"Searching for the elusive unicorn is apparently hard work!

I get alot of messages and the ones that stick out are genuine people that want to talk and find a connection to build on. Make sure you send face pictures of both of you. There obviously has to be an attraction so it's better to know straight off if you fit the bill for a single lady.

Don't be pushy, just be patient and the right girl will come along "

More great advice thanks. Ye we shall take that into consideration, it's just a shame there aren't more out there like yourself :p

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By *ubybabyCouple
over a year ago

lincoln ish

Im free xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree that patience is the main ingredient. . Being on your own with a couple that have know each other alot longer than you've known them is daunting as a single female... saying that I'm still with the same couple I met 5 years ago.. but took along time to finally meet and play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are struggling as well thought be easy being friendly and trying hard lol I think if we get one we will keep her unless offers lady's ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because of the ratio, hardly no women, but good luck x."

You need patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because of the ratio, hardly no women, but good luck x.

You need patience. "
Thats right. You know it to

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By *tevelizCouple
over a year ago

northampton

after weeks looking it seems that there are no single ladies on here wanting a FFM, or if there are they are not in this area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a couple that I meet regularly the female did all the chat and still does. The chemistry is amazing and I class them both as good friends.

Key pointer from me will always be not to be too pushy, share face pics, and especially on first meet to make her feel welcome and not overwhelmed. Don't over plan it enjoy and roll with what feels right at the time

Good luck hope you find someone xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have been very lucky and met some fabulous women on here who have become great friends. I generally (Fi) do the talking though. "

Same with us although some of the ladies we meet , Mr used to meet back in his single days x

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

Try a club,I play as a single girl

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By *andkCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

The fabled swingers unicorn, 5 years and still searching. I've had loads of girl on girl with bi girls but never persuaded one to join us. Fingers crossed we've arranged one for the end of the month but she did change her plans last time. I guess if your a single female your choices are endless

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By *ogamuffinMan
over a year ago

slough


"I would love to meet a couple but cant find any to play with "

Welcome to the struggles of a single guys, hehehe.

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By *ina75Woman
over a year ago

Stone

As a so called unicorn,attraction to both the m & f in a couple is rare. I often fancy her but not him.

Or I am turned off by how pushy they become once we start chatting, that I don't end up meeting them. Not being a timewaster but I don't like being treated as though my feelings don't count.

Big turn off is if he is very eager and she doesn't seem sure.

When I do play, we have always spent a couple of hours just chatting socially first, either at a social meet or just as part of the mental foreplay. But the meets have then been spectacular.

So I say be patient, be very patient. Be respectful of the single female, she is not a toy and holds most of the power in a mff meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never had a problem meeting single ladies for threesome fun, we have 2 ladies we see very regularly the secret

1. It's not about what you want it's about what everyone wants, lots of single girls are put off by profiles which actually say looking for a single lady they kinda think they would be there to fulfil your fantasies

2. Don't rely on fab, get out to clubs and meet ladies best example we can give you is that one of our regular ladies turned us down on fab, on the off chance ran into her at a club we've been playing ever since.

3. Don't be pushy it is nerve wracking for a single lady to meet a couple

4. Ask yourself why you want to play with a single lady? Many reasons put off single ladies

5. Get out and experience some MMFF play and if you are not keen for that ask yourself why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe it or not, it's just as difficult for a single fem to find a couple to play with. There are many different combinations of what people want and it's not always easy to match up.

When I was meeting I just looked for people on the same wavelength as me who I could have a laugh with and who were confident in themselves. I wasn't a fan of clubs and preferred private meets.

Good luck.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Looking at the OP's profile, and veri, it seems that everything worked out for them just fine!

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