FabSwingers.com forum: agressive

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i have had a bloke say my profile is agressive.is it?thought i was just showing my preferences really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd agree I'm afraid. there's ways of stating preferences. maybe you could soften it down a bit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say it was aggressive at all to be honest. Ignore him, if he's not interested because if it then why bother saying it?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I personally don't think it is aggressive but on balance there is more about what you don't want than what you do. If it works for you, don't worry about what someone else says ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, it's pretty forthright and maybe a bit officious but I'd not go as far as aggressive.

Guessing it would appeal to those who appreciate straight talk.

If it's worked for you up to now and helped filter people you wouldn't have wanted then that's good?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

its not really happy smiley......

i can see why the people you are trying to attract may well be turned off by it... it doesn't scream "fun person to be around"....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say it was aggressive at all to be honest. Ignore him, if he's not interested because if it then why bother saying it?"

he was a bald man.not sure why he bothered to moan really.im not changing what i dont find attractive just for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of negative statements and no positive statements xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for help.i shall soften it a bit.though it has never been moaned about before.xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's straight forward enough says it like it is and preference that's all

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

Perhaps aggressive is a strong word, but I do think it's quite cold

there isn't much joy in it, and quite a bit of negativity. Rather than listing what you don't like and don't do, why not put what your preferences are?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"i have had a bloke say my profile is agressive.is it?thought i was just showing my preferences really

It's not aggressive. It's nice and easy to see what you like and don't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't say it was aggressive at all to be honest. Ignore him, if he's not interested because if it then why bother saying it?

he was a bald man.not sure why he bothered to moan really.im not changing what i dont find attractive just for him"

Ah well that's clear why he moaned as it excluded him and he took it as a personal insult. Your profile, if it works for you then great.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think it can come across rather negative and I should know, as I kept adding to mine with all the crap I was being sent. Compared to what I wasn't looking for, it kind of out weighed the positive.

So now I have kind of lied and come across all warm and fuzzy

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I wouldn't say aggressive....but it sure tells people what you don't want in no uncertain terms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm cowering!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'm cowering!"

Buck buck buckaaah

To be honest, I'm just shocked a single bloke read a profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a lot of negative statements and no positive statements xxx"

Not aggressive, but this. Needs more positives instead of dont's, but it is your right to point out what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMO the profile is where you get your chance to sell yourself, why would someone pick you, and say what you want. If someone likes the sound of it and messages you, and you like the look of them, then you can say what your preferences or rules are. I've never understood why people put that they don't like cock pics, or people with certain features, or being called certain things, or certain terms etc. If someone sends you a message with any of these things in... just delete and move on. That's the way we see it anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm cowering!

Buck buck buckaaah

To be honest, I'm just shocked a single bloke read a profile.

see thats one of the reasons i didnt put too much on there.cos they really dont read it all.seems bluntness is all they understand.xx

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By *ffrenataCouple
over a year ago

Warwickshire

It's clear and to the point, does what it says on the tin.... if it represents your personality leave as is we'd say. Mwah xxx

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

don't see it as aggressive at all, honest yes, aggressive no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes its rather negative profile and as well the status is lol. Tell us more about you and all the fun things you wanna do, no need to put ethnic preference on a profile, just don't reply to them you don't want.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Yes its rather negative profile and as well the status is lol. Tell us more about you and all the fun things you wanna do, no need to put ethnic preference on a profile, just don't reply to them you don't want."

Swedes make my turnips boil.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It made me laugh. Image of a balding, ginger black guy being mortally offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swedes make my turnips boil.

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lol good one that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

am changing it all as we type.lol

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By *AJANCouple
over a year ago

Lisbon

We think is simply straightforward. Best to be direct than go around the bushes. You know what you want and you stated it.

You even put a lol

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By *abloversCouple
over a year ago

London

It 's not aggressive and is very clear about what you want. However it does say very little about what you offer in return. I'm sure you are a fun person to be around but that doesn't come across in my profile. That said it's your profile and it's up to you what you write. I would suggest a capital 'I' though xxxxx

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't think it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen much more aggressive on here. If you wanted to change it (only if you want to, don't let what someone else thinks drive what you do with your profile) you could think about saying a bit more about what you do like as well as what you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not aggressive but not a profile I would contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm afraid it is. Would put me off. I would be scared to move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I'm afraid it is. Would put me off. I would be scared to move

But you're a cutie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen as about 95% of men dont bother to read a profile just look at the pictures dont worry about it :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I'm afraid it is. Would put me off. I would be scared to move

But you're a cutie

xx"
aww shucks

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By *ong riderMan
over a year ago

belfast

Seems alright to me. I've read loads that would be far more over the top with rules and demands etc. Don't change to suit someone else x

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

"see thats one of the reasons i didnt put too much on there.cos they really dont read it all.seems bluntness is all they understand.xx"

I don't think your profile or the use of the term "they" conveys you in a good way. Maybe if your profile and manner was better you would attract a better type of person on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well,i changed and deleted bits and pieces.not sure its any better.but what i did do,was to look and read other fem profiles.and low and behold there were some very aggy ones.lists of demands as long as my arm.so i think as it stands i will leave it for now.after all i am getting nice messages from alot of nice blokes.and i do still get meets.

thanks to all who took the time to help me.xxx

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By *eorgy26Man
over a year ago

Sutton

Not that you'd care what I think but I would try to fix the grammar in your profile text.

Don't forget to space (or double space) after a full stop to make it easier to read!

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By *loriajonCouple
over a year ago

near u

Honest and straight to the point, nothing wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes you sound hard to please and that you are likely at any point in the meet to stop play quoting one of your plethora of "i don't likes". However, if this is you it is better to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've seen as many "I's" in a profile before....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well people cant say you didnt tell them - but thats how it sounds - like youre telling them not talking to them - it is abrupt not aggressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is an expression of yourself as a person and what you are looking for on here.

If you are happy that someone reading it would get a true sense of you and what you want then keep it as it is.

Change it if you want because you want.

The people who complain are those who don't meet your requiements!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit negative overall for me. But has plus points too.

Certainly not aggressive, I've seen loads that scream aggressive!

Wouldn't put me off if you messaged me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's much better than when I last looked. I'd suggest you lead with your positive points (general advice in any form of communication) i.e. put your last three paragraphs first. Also just say you can't travel and can't accommodate... no need to explain why

Of course, if something is really important info put that first... like we have at the top of our profile. Perhaps a simple "I can't accommodate and I can't travel" should be put at the top... followed by the nice stuff. Good luck

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I think its positive OP ... youve gotta state exactly what you are looking for on here... else you get allsorts of cranks send you messages ...... saying that... my profile doesnt always get read ... and mines quite specific ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

and then i deleted it again.have little on it now.many ppl moaned and many said it was gud.cant please all the ppl all the time eh.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you worrying about others opinions anyway? Be true to yourself. Amen

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