FabSwingers.com forum: Shift workers

By *oxycouple28 OP Couple
over a year ago

bexley

Hi guys,

We both work long hours and do shift work. We are in a position where we can only have 2 in 5 weekends off at best and week days are just as hard.

Do any of you find it hard to meet because of your job? Do you find it difficult when people are not patient enough to wait for a meet?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Morning,i.do shifts too so get what you mean.I've had people tell me to ring in sick before cos they wanted to meet!.The people who are worth meeting usually wait and are patient,good luck.

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By *oxycouple28 OP Couple
over a year ago

bexley

Yeah, we often end up going to clubs as that way we don't have to worry about making arrangements that people may break. The thing is we would like to do more private meets, but often people are not prepared to wait.

If we rang in sick every time we had a potential meet for the weekend, work would probably pull us up on it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same boat, and find many people don't like daytime meets

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Yeah, we often end up going to clubs as that way we don't have to worry about making arrangements that people may break. The thing is we would like to do more private meets, but often people are not prepared to wait.

If we rang in sick every time we had a potential meet for the weekend, work would probably pull us up on it!!

Me too ha ha

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By *oxycouple28 OP Couple
over a year ago

bexley

"I'm in the same boat, and find many people don't like daytime meets"

We like the idea of a daytime meet, but one of us works long days monday to friday and the other does shifts, so between us time is limited.

Although we have thought about doing a lunchtime hotel meet just the two of us....but thats a different topic!

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Yep, permanant nights, permanant weekends. It gets tricky getting meets on our time off, sunday, monday and some tuesday's if we are both off on that day.......throw the fact that we only meet bi femmes into the mix and things get very sparse

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By *oxycouple28 OP Couple
over a year ago

bexley

True...but hopefully when it all works out its great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only get 1 in 7 weekends off unless I book holiday

I have got a bit of hassle over it guys calling me a time waster, saying im just here to chat and mess people anout etc I'm not but I can't meet at the drop of hat I'm a single working mum, because my time to meet is so limited, most don't want to wait 3 or 4 weeks so they get bored and stop talking, but such is life

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We find it difficult to meet as we have small people who apparently rule the world! So we arw restricted to weekends for me to at alone and as a couple even harder as we need sitters ect.. we do plan meets and then are let down last minute so we have sitters and no where to go which normally ends up in a club but we never seem to get interest in the club's! X

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By *ungle VIPMan
over a year ago

Weedon

So many things make it hard work...

I have a teenage son at home so it would be a nightmare if I accom so I decide not to.

Bit of a passion killer for a spotty teen to walk in on a theeesome. Lol

Add that to my shift work it's a proper old nightmare to get time.

But when it all come together it's amazing...

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"Hi guys,

We both work long hours and do shift work. We are in a position where we can only have 2 in 5 weekends off at best and week days are just as hard.

Do any of you find it hard to meet because of your job? Do you find it difficult when people are not patient enough to wait for a meet?"

Yes. My shifts range from 6.30am...to 10.30pm and I also work every weekend unless im on holiday. Where some people are understanding...quite a few are not!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have this exact problem OP, we both work different shift patterns which rarely line up to provide us with free weekends.

This makes it quite difficult to arrange meets without it sounding like you're putting the other party off

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

I do perm set nights and often called in at last min to cover yet when i want cover they go deaf and i do every weekend .

some are decent and will wait some expect you to drop everything as there free

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By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

Same situation here. My company think it's ok to send you a rota out and then change it the day later after you've already started arranging things. Or they slap an extra shift in because someone hasn't turned up. Makes it hard to arrange meets.

Much to the wife's annoyance, I've just volunteered myself for permanent nights on a 4 on 4 off basis. At least now we can work around my shift pattern and actually start meeting people that have been hanging on for what appears ages.

Just got the other issue of cover at home for the kids to take care of now. Hopefully the people that are waiting, aren't classing us as time wasters. Just a logistical nightmare sometimes getting all the timings to work together.

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

I work part time shifts & sometimes do long days (12hr) so I def prefer day meets when I am off.

Impatient peeps can bugger off, in my book!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do shifts lates and weekends nights so if i had any meets planned it would have to be around that which can be a struggle around someone elses work life and other commitments. Guess its a good thing i am not flush with offers ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Incredibly hard to get a meet all those unsociable hours at weekends

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By *orkguy75Man
over a year ago

Selby

Yep. I work night shifts and have the same problem. A single guy looking for daytime meets usually gets the response of 'You must be married or attached'

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By *tep121Man
over a year ago

manchester

I work nights too. Can't plan anything as managers don't do rotas in advance. Besides, I've only had 1 day a week off now for last month or so, and they very from week to week so can't plan anything. It's horrendous..

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

"I'm in the same boat, and find many people don't like daytime meets"

And as I single guy lots of women think that it means 'married cheating' even when it doesn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work permanent nights. It hard to try and arrange meets usually to shattered on my days off to think about it.. from next week i will be doing 60+hrs on night

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By *abloversCouple
over a year ago

London

We prefer midweek late afternoon meets... we can then concentrate on family times at weekends but our times convenient to meet others is often difficult.... but we bravely soldier on and play with each other lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes and we both often have to cover weekends - it slows play down but most people understand and the ones that dont - well they dont hang around for long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We in same boat too I work perm nights Sunday to Thursday wife works a hell of a lot of Friday Saturday n Sunday nights we have to book time off and plan well in advance its why we do club meets only takes away the hassles

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

My boyf works permanent late shift and is also doing an early shift at weekends, then add in that I've got kids that always want to know where I'm going...meeting isn't easy, so I now do clubs. I get the social side too, the chance to have a night out and if I play it's a bonus

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

A post i can relate to

I work shift and they are a mixture of days nights and weekends

When I'm not working I have family commitments

I've been called a time waister and have impatient people

And coz I have a list of thing I wont do I get loads of stick for it

But I dne the swing club thing and I have done meets so there are some nice people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we are another who do shifts not the Monday to Friday job . It's not easy meeting for us either as we also have a family life outside of swinging but as you see by this thread we are not the only ones and some do understand and some don't . When we do get to meet we make sure to have lots of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also do shifts. 2 12 hour days, 2 12 hour nights and then 4 off. With family too it can be really difficult to arrange meets. Have been called a timewaster a lot because its complicated to arrange meets! In my opinion, if they cant wait then they dont deserve you anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this the time waster thread ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does get difficult. I do 12 hour shifts. Four days on, three days off and sometimes three days on, four days off. However, sometimes you just find yourself recovering during the days off.

Usually what happens is that i'd have a day off on some random day but no one else will. Which is annoying.

I'm currently on annual leave though for nearly three weeks. So, shift work has its perks. But, it's difficult to find someone to meet when i'm off and they're all at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's not nice when some don't believe you have to do split shifts etc and work whacky hrs including bank holidays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should have our own shift workers swinging social once a month , hold on not a good idea we won't be able to make it

oh well never mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys,

We both work long hours and do shift work. We are in a position where we can only have 2 in 5 weekends off at best and week days are just as hard.

Do any of you find it hard to meet because of your job? Do you find it difficult when people are not patient enough to wait for a meet?"

Yep, I work days, back shift and nightshift, only saviour is 8 days off every 5 weeks (not including holidays)

nightshift sure can be a pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes most want meets that night and don't really understand why you want a meet daytime cause they work then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And i've had a whole day free n tonight free but same as always when i'm free no friends are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We should have our own shift workers swinging social once a month , hold on not a good idea we won't be able to make it

oh well never mind

made me chuckle

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We both work crazy shifts and sometimes don't see each other for days. As one comes home from work the other is leaving. We sometimes barely have time together, let alone to swing. Occasionally we go over a week without having sex together (not by choice) but it makes us appreciate each other and enjoy the time we get to spend together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work every other weekend and some times I'm in at 6am and I'm always conscious about the time when were out on a work night. throw In the unpredictable mother nature and we can easily wipe out a whole month with no fun.

I always feel awkward leaving early due to work, its like were making excuses to go so we now tend to just do a club on free nights

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I work shifts so I try to plan ahead,We also have regular playmates we want to meet plus we like the occasional club visit,we also have a life away from here so it can make meeting new people quite difficult

It can be a bit of a pain but if people don't want to be patient then they can move on to someone else,it doesn't bother me in the slightest,I can't make time where there isn't any

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By *aughty cpl for funCouple
over a year ago

chester

I ( Nikki) am a palliative care nurse. Work silly hours and shifts and sometimes with very short notice. Sometimes leading to postpone meets. It does hamper us trying to find time not only for meets but also for ourselves. But you just have to work round it. Xx

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

On paper I do 4 Days 4 off, 4 Nights 4 off, but reality is covering holidays and vacancies so the offs are less and less. Plus I've also got my daughter still living at Hotel Dad so any meets have to be weekdays when she is at work.

However the day meets have been lots of fun and I havnt had to cancel too many due to short notice shift changes.

Still a lot of 9-5ers who can't understand why I can't do evenings and weekends... Yeah of course I'll throw a sickie

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Not a shift worker, but a single parent, work evenings through the week, odd times, also going back to uni, and a gym teacher as well... so free time is limited. Add in seeing my son, and some time with my lover, and well, there is not much else left.

If someone gets bored before my diary is free to meet, then so be it.

I'd rather wait until I am completely comfortable to meet than be rushed at someone else's time frame.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Hi guys,

We both work long hours and do shift work. We are in a position where we can only have 2 in 5 weekends off at best and week days are just as hard.

Do any of you find it hard to meet because of your job? Do you find it difficult when people are not patient enough to wait for a meet?"

Exactly the same for us. We also spend most of a our limited playtime in clubs. Nowadays any private meets are with trusted couples we've met before.

Still... Keeps it all fresh

lol

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do shifts! Ive put this on profile just this afternoon, i think genuine people will understand!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I work

.. earlys

Lates...nights ... sleep ins .. weekends .... bank holidays .. Christmas. . Easter.. new year

How id love a monday -friday

9-5 job .. with weekends off ... but ... I work in the care sector ...so I tend to have spur of the moment meets ...

Works for me ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I worked full time nights for 6 years...ruined my sleep/health ,social/personal life.... swinging included. Will never work weekends or nights again !

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

I used to work 12hr continentals and found the best way was to use the profile updates to say what shift and when I was off so people could see when I was free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not a shift worker but this why I do clubs only a few times a year though. It is good to get away for a break when you can and make the most of it. Can relax enjoy the facilities meet some fabulous people and have fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do security i do like 60 70 80 hours a week find it so hard to meet and when jm on a day off just want to relax

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By *isdirtygirlCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

"I work

.. earlys

Lates...nights ... sleep ins .. weekends .... bank holidays .. Christmas. . Easter.. new year

How id love a monday -friday

9-5 job .. with weekends off ... but ... I work in the care sector ...so I tend to have spur of the moment meets ...

Works for me ....

I've worked shift from '85 to 2010 solidly Done bad shifts - 3 days off in a 3 week cycle and done good ones - 4 on 4 off. Had five years working 9-5 and I am so glad to be back on shift now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ginger works shifts and I work till late evening and most of the time I'm not home till 10.30-11pm. Some weeks feels like we might only see each other for a couple of hours especially if she's working weekends. Some people don't get it that we have to prioritise our time between work, ourselves and then swinging but this has been pretty rare tbh

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I work permanent Nights, and due to the nature of my work, weekends are the busiest time of the week, plus as HOD, I have to be there.

I have had only 2 weekends off this year so far, last year I managed 3!

But at least I can meet during day times and evenings up to about 8-9 pm, but of course, that rarely suits other people.

Still, I get meets, so it can work if you adjust and find someone who can do likewise!

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