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"We're a couple we meet separately 99% of the time. It seems to work." But would you use a singles account and state that your half a couple ? | |||
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"I've met women from couples with permission from their other half, but never a man." See I find loads that would meet me by myself and while he wouldn't mind I'm not going to meet a woman alone and to be honest wouldn't really want to meet a couple alone either. So far this year while trying to sort this we have had one amazing success.. but the rest have all either thought it was dodgy... Or didn't want to because I was happy... Even had one lady all up for it till she realised I was happy with it.. as she only wanted to meet behind women's backs and for the partners to be cheating .. | |||
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"We wouldn't have a theoretical problem with a man from a couple meeting alone if the wife was happy with it. We would have more of a practical problem. That is to say, there are tons of single guys on fab to choose from, so why would we need to meet with the male half of a couple? We would much rather meet the couple together. The female half of a couple has it easier just because there are so few single women. That's how we would view it anyway. Probably different for others. -Courtney" This is what I'm kinda asking. Would a singles profile be more appealing but as it would say also on here as a couple, partner knows etc... Would that just mean that the same biased would apply. I know most worry about time constraints but Mr doesn't do quick meets really anyway.. we haven't really done separate meets in a long time.. and used to have our own profiles as well as the couples but kinda Just want to use this one. Also would other women be put off with me wanting to maybe meet them socially or converse with them and maybe have some photos for my satisfactin? It seems guys dont mind but women less inclined x | |||
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"I have been meeting a man of a couple a few times now and I think she's happy as now recently met at a party and she has heard about what we get up to think it us a turn on for us both." Awww see there would be my limit. I'd only expect it to be a one off lol x not regular thing ... Although the lady we did it with is a good friend and was one of Mr's first meets on fab as a single guy but just them meeting has been the once in the last year , maybe longer lol x | |||
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"We wouldn't have a theoretical problem with a man from a couple meeting alone if the wife was happy with it. We would have more of a practical problem. That is to say, there are tons of single guys on fab to choose from, so why would we need to meet with the male half of a couple? We would much rather meet the couple together. The female half of a couple has it easier just because there are so few single women. That's how we would view it anyway. Probably different for others. -Courtney This is what I'm kinda asking. Would a singles profile be more appealing but as it would say also on here as a couple, partner knows etc... Would that just mean that the same biased would apply. I know most worry about time constraints but Mr doesn't do quick meets really anyway.. we haven't really done separate meets in a long time.. and used to have our own profiles as well as the couples but kinda Just want to use this one. Also would other women be put off with me wanting to maybe meet them socially or converse with them and maybe have some photos for my satisfactin? It seems guys dont mind but women less inclined x " Personally, it wouldn't matter to us whether he has his own profile or the couples profile. We would still probably only meet as a couple. As for whether we would be put off meeting you? No, that would be fine (in the event we agreed to meet him separately). Would we let you have pics? No way. We don't give people photos of us having sex. We certainly wouldn't give them for the chance to meet a 'single' man. But again, all of that is personal. It will obviously be different for different people. Just thought I'd offer our perspective. -Courtney | |||
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"I have been meeting a man of a couple a few times now and I think she's happy as now recently met at a party and she has heard about what we get up to think it us a turn on for us both. Awww see there would be my limit. I'd only expect it to be a one off lol x not regular thing ... Although the lady we did it with is a good friend and was one of Mr's first meets on fab as a single guy but just them meeting has been the once in the last year , maybe longer lol x " That would be my problem, I wouldn't like any meet to just be a one off. Sometimes it ends up that way but I wouldn't start something knowing it would just be one time. As for photos, I guess as long as there weren't any face pics included it would be fine but I'd have to vet them! | |||
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"We wouldn't have a theoretical problem with a man from a couple meeting alone if the wife was happy with it. We would have more of a practical problem. That is to say, there are tons of single guys on fab to choose from, so why would we need to meet with the male half of a couple? We would much rather meet the couple together. The female half of a couple has it easier just because there are so few single women. That's how we would view it anyway. Probably different for others. -Courtney This is what I'm kinda asking. Would a singles profile be more appealing but as it would say also on here as a couple, partner knows etc... Would that just mean that the same biased would apply. I know most worry about time constraints but Mr doesn't do quick meets really anyway.. we haven't really done separate meets in a long time.. and used to have our own profiles as well as the couples but kinda Just want to use this one. Also would other women be put off with me wanting to maybe meet them socially or converse with them and maybe have some photos for my satisfactin? It seems guys dont mind but women less inclined x " Personally I'd find it far too controlling. You later state it has to be a one off. Sorry but wouldn't jump through all of your hoops when there are so many delicious single men on site to choose from x | |||
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"I would not be happy being a one off - none of my fab meets have been, and its not something I'd be looking for either. Photos would be a no go - but thats a rule on any fab meet for me anyway. I'm happy to have a joint social where I meet both parts of a couple if we are going to play - its nice to know about their partner if we are going to build a friendship... and I have occasionally gone from a social with a couple, to playing with the female, and then that developing into a fuller friendship where the male is invited to play sometimes too. Also, I'd feel uncomfortable that you say your lady would not meet a couple alone, but yet you expect single females to meet you - I find those double standards uncomfortable. So, while I do meet ladies from couples separately and would consider meeting a male on his own under the right circumstances... I would not meet your Mr alone for those reasons." It's me the lady that doesn't want to meet singles or couples alone... Mr would love it. I'm Just happier to meet together for my stuff. So any dpi me standards are mine. If and when I meet a guy alone he knows that I will be taking photos and video to share with mr later... As to the one off thing... I'm his regular partner ...and that is what is mine exclusively... To be fair we do occasionally meet someone more than once but often it doesn't work out that way.. but in no way would I want another woman having one to one regular time. The lady we have met we have met together, I have spent time at clubs socially with her alone and have played with as a 3sum and a 4sum, but her alone time has been none regular. It will put people off but even as a single he tended to meet a few times only. | |||
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"I have cpls profile with hubby as well as my single one.as cpls we meet seperately as well as with cpls.hubby has even taken me to my playmeet and even waited for me before.lol" See I so want to do that.. but me be the one waiting... Although could be fun both ways... Seems its rare for the woman to be like me... Like even on this post people assuming it's Mr that doesnt want me to play with couples etc... He would love it.... Its my choice and decision that I don't at this moment want to x | |||
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"We're a couple we meet separately 99% of the time. It seems to work. But would you use a singles account and state that your half a couple ? " Is this a trick question? | |||
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"We're a couple we meet separately 99% of the time. It seems to work. But would you use a singles account and state that your half a couple ? Is this a trick question?" No I meant do you find it works xx sorry was rushing around and didn't proof read my own post lol x | |||
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"We're a couple we meet separately 99% of the time. It seems to work. But would you use a singles account and state that your half a couple ? Is this a trick question? No I meant do you find it works xx sorry was rushing around and didn't proof read my own post lol x" Well it works well for her she gets all the action she could want. I could to if i wasn't so particular ! ( I'm not into car fun etc) we realised months ago that the chances of meeting a compatible couple were slim to none. | |||
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"We're a couple we meet separately 99% of the time. It seems to work. But would you use a singles account and state that your half a couple ? Is this a trick question? No I meant do you find it works xx sorry was rushing around and didn't proof read my own post lol x Well it works well for her she gets all the action she could want. I could to if i wasn't so particular ! ( I'm not into car fun etc) we realised months ago that the chances of meeting a compatible couple were slim to none." See we do really well with finding meets together and prefer couple play but its just for that occasion extra deviance from time to time. We used to go to different gang bangs and meet up after and done separate clubs but mostly played together. People just seem to find it odd when it's the lady wanting the guy to meet but still hear about it x | |||
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"We're a couple we meet separately 99% of the time. It seems to work. But would you use a singles account and state that your half a couple ? Is this a trick question? No I meant do you find it works xx sorry was rushing around and didn't proof read my own post lol x Well it works well for her she gets all the action she could want. I could to if i wasn't so particular ! ( I'm not into car fun etc) we realised months ago that the chances of meeting a compatible couple were slim to none. See we do really well with finding meets together and prefer couple play but its just for that occasion extra deviance from time to time. We used to go to different gang bangs and meet up after and done separate clubs but mostly played together. People just seem to find it odd when it's the lady wanting the guy to meet but still hear about it x " I'll admit that my wife has no interest in any details from my meets. | |||
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" I'll admit that my wife has no interest in any details from my meets." See I know a few women like that and I just can't get my head around it. So I just accept I'd hate that.. I'd want to know who, and while I dont want to know every detail, I find I love another woman telling me how much fun she had x | |||
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"I met one half of a couple a while ago, was not worth the crap i got after he told her the details, needless to say they are no longer on fab.....some cant handle it!" See I can't understand that either... We have had that from Meeting couples together though. So think sometimes people dont talk this through x | |||
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"Don't see the point it meeting seperatly or seperate rooms personally xxx" Same | |||
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"We wouldn't have a theoretical problem with a man from a couple meeting alone if the wife was happy with it. We would have more of a practical problem. That is to say, there are tons of single guys on fab to choose from, so why would we need to meet with the male half of a couple? We would much rather meet the couple together. The female half of a couple has it easier just because there are so few single women. That's how we would view it anyway. Probably different for others. -Courtney" Spot on. Let's be serious. The vast bulk of the 'male meeting a alone for the moment' crowd are either fake and have always been a single man; or the woman has stopped swinging/left the man, and he's using a cpls profile to stand out from the legions of blokes on here | |||
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"Don't see the point it meeting seperatly or seperate rooms personally xxx" Each to their own, that's what makes the lifestyle so fascinating, everyone has their own take on it. What works for one couple might not suit another, so long as everyone involved gets what they need out of it then everyone is happy. Unfortunately we're between playmates at the mo, it's the searching for someone suitable that takes the time! | |||
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"Don't see the point it meeting seperatly or seperate rooms personally xxx Each to their own, that's what makes the lifestyle so fascinating, everyone has their own take on it. What works for one couple might not suit another, so long as everyone involved gets what they need out of it then everyone is happy. Unfortunately we're between playmates at the mo, it's the searching for someone suitable that takes the time!" We have a cpl of genuine and good male playmates who are friends. Yet to find a cpl or female though. It is very time and energy consuming. xx | |||
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"We wouldn't have a theoretical problem with a man from a couple meeting alone if the wife was happy with it. We would have more of a practical problem. That is to say, there are tons of single guys on fab to choose from, so why would we need to meet with the male half of a couple? We would much rather meet the couple together. The female half of a couple has it easier just because there are so few single women. That's how we would view it anyway. Probably different for others. -Courtney Spot on. Let's be serious. The vast bulk of the 'male meeting a alone for the moment' crowd are either fake and have always been a single man; or the woman has stopped swinging/left the man, and he's using a cpls profile to stand out from the legions of blokes on here" I think that's what I'm trying to say.. for us we mostly meet together but on occasion we want to get back to meeting separately.. but want to have the option... For me my idea of meeting separately its going to be a quick meet ending in a facial or going to a Club with some friends.. (maybe not even play) but being a woman its easy anyway for me. We don't want to be seen as being deceptive.. we know If Mr had a singles account he would get meets ... But if we set up a single account for him and didn't say we were a couple it would be a bit sneaky... And we would rather be honest The problem I guess is the amount of couples that are just the guys x | |||
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"Don't see the point it meeting seperatly or seperate rooms personally xxx Same" Me neither , that's just shagging about not swinging ! Plus dislike the thought that it would be a one time meet , sex gets better and kinkier the more you meet someone and learn their likes and dislikes But the world would be boring if we was all the same A x | |||
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"Mmmmm a hotwife funny chaplol ty " welcome, something of a rarity on here | |||
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"Mmmmm a hotwife funny chaplol ty welcome, something of a rarity on here " Yes that's right lol we don't see much of that | |||
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"Don't see the point it meeting seperatly or seperate rooms personally xxx Same Me neither , that's just shagging about not swinging ! Plus dislike the thought that it would be a one time meet , sex gets better and kinkier the more you meet someone and learn their likes and dislikes But the world would be boring if we was all the same A x " Exactly. It would make us feel like we weren't a proper couple if we did that.much prefer doing this together,makes our relationship strong I think. It is great though that everyone isn't the same and that it works for some people,good on them x | |||
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"Don't see the point it meeting seperatly or seperate rooms personally xxx Same Me neither , that's just shagging about not swinging ! Plus dislike the thought that it would be a one time meet , sex gets better and kinkier the more you meet someone and learn their likes and dislikes But the world would be boring if we was all the same A x " | |||
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"Don't see the point it meeting seperatly or seperate rooms personally xxx Same Me neither , that's just shagging about not swinging ! Plus dislike the thought that it would be a one time meet , sex gets better and kinkier the more you meet someone and learn their likes and dislikes But the world would be boring if we was all the same A x Exactly. It would make us feel like we weren't a proper couple if we did that.much prefer doing this together,makes our relationship strong I think. It is great though that everyone isn't the same and that it works for some people,good on them x" You know you have just made me realise why I was so reluctant to move back to Meeting separately xx I was anxious about something and for the life of me couldn't work out what it was... When we met we were just two perverted singles who found in the other a friend and a sexual partner that could keep up and excite the other in special ways... Over time it obviously grew to what we have now.. The thing is I think after a while I was concerned that people didn't see us as a couple... So just playing together was kinda a "look... We are"... even though playing separately worked for us when we got tofu and for ages x I can't believe its as simple as that... | |||
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"You can send Lee over anytime. Our duvet has just about dried out now On a serious note, we only play together even though I have discussed with Mandy that I am ok with her meeting others on her own. She prefers to play together and I respect that . She is off " on holiday" again soon and said if a hunky guy or nice couple caught her eye she has my blessing to play. (So long as I hear about it afterwards) She has reiterated that she would only play if I was there so ive shut up now ! " maybe like me Mandy feels it was/is a way to show that your a serious couple to others... Don't get me wrong I find it more exciting to play as a couple but we did used to enjoy the others separate antics and then the sex together was amazing ... I feel like I've had an light bulb moment x not going to jump in... But feel less worried | |||
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"We played alone ....but then I found it too much hassle so allowed hubby to play alone ....for me the problem was too many men wanted it to happens without husband knowing rather than with his knowledge...it happened several times think it was the thrill for them then dirty secret thrill." We have found lots of women that want that too... | |||
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"We played alone ....but then I found it too much hassle so allowed hubby to play alone ....for me the problem was too many men wanted it to happens without husband knowing rather than with his knowledge...it happened several times think it was the thrill for them then dirty secret thrill. We have found lots of women that want that too... " There will be those but for us the woman were actually not too bad which surprised me....cock teases some woman thou.... | |||
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"Don't see the point it meeting seperatly or seperate rooms personally xxx Same Me neither , that's just shagging about not swinging ! Plus dislike the thought that it would be a one time meet , sex gets better and kinkier the more you meet someone and learn their likes and dislikes But the world would be boring if we was all the same A x " Swinging is just shagging about. | |||
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"Don't see the point it meeting seperatly or seperate rooms personally xxx Same Me neither , that's just shagging about not swinging ! Plus dislike the thought that it would be a one time meet , sex gets better and kinkier the more you meet someone and learn their likes and dislikes But the world would be boring if we was all the same A x Exactly. It would make us feel like we weren't a proper couple if we did that.much prefer doing this together,makes our relationship strong I think. It is great though that everyone isn't the same and that it works for some people,good on them x You know you have just made me realise why I was so reluctant to move back to Meeting separately xx I was anxious about something and for the life of me couldn't work out what it was... When we met we were just two perverted singles who found in the other a friend and a sexual partner that could keep up and excite the other in special ways... Over time it obviously grew to what we have now.. The thing is I think after a while I was concerned that people didn't see us as a couple... So just playing together was kinda a "look... We are"... even though playing separately worked for us when we got tofu and for ages x I can't believe its as simple as that... " | |||
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"We wouldn't have a theoretical problem with a man from a couple meeting alone if the wife was happy with it. We would have more of a practical problem. That is to say, there are tons of single guys on fab to choose from, so why would we need to meet with the male half of a couple? We would much rather meet the couple together. The female half of a couple has it easier just because there are so few single women. That's how we would view it anyway. Probably different for others. -Courtney This is what I'm kinda asking. Would a singles profile be more appealing but as it would say also on here as a couple, partner knows etc... Would that just mean that the same biased would apply. I know most worry about time constraints but Mr doesn't do quick meets really anyway.. we haven't really done separate meets in a long time.. and used to have our own profiles as well as the couples but kinda Just want to use this one. Also would other women be put off with me wanting to maybe meet them socially or converse with them and maybe have some photos for my satisfactin? It seems guys dont mind but women less inclined x " This is a good thread, well done OP. It's a discussion we have regularly, we each meet people of the same gender alone, but meet couples together. If Jaz hit it off with a woman from a couple and we were meeting people of the opposite sex alone, then I would want to know that the Mr was okay with it. So I would be fine with reassuring the lady in question that I was happy with it. I would probably want to know the lady too. I would want to know for myself that she understood our relationship and the limits that their meet(s) have. | |||
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"I always presume that if a "couple" profile is offering the man to meet alone that there isn't a women there at all (subject to more than one verification of course). Much like the couple cams in chat that are just a man bashing one out. I'm sure there are genuine situations but I've met so many time wasters in my time that I'm generally suspicious. " I think we are okay verification wise for being a couple and a woman actually on the account lol x | |||
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"I always presume that if a "couple" profile is offering the man to meet alone that there isn't a women there at all (subject to more than one verification of course). Much like the couple cams in chat that are just a man bashing one out. I'm sure there are genuine situations but I've met so many time wasters in my time that I'm generally suspicious. I think we are okay verification wise for being a couple and a woman actually on the account lol x " Weve come to that conclusion as well regarding suspicious accounts , verifications say alot ! | |||
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"I have met the male half of a couple alone , with his wife's consent. I've met them together as well - so I know she's given it. I do always remember to thank her, for lending him to me. I imagine it's a dynamic that many like - I enjoy it, as I know they discuss what we have done together. They both get something from it, as do I - so it's win/win all round. " This is kinda the thing I would like... We have mostly found that the women just want to prove they are better or ask to meet without my knowing.. this has then put me off. It's about everyone enjoying time... And I'd love a woman to thank me or tell me what fun she had.. x | |||
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"I have met the male half of a couple alone , with his wife's consent. I've met them together as well - so I know she's given it. I do always remember to thank her, for lending him to me. I imagine it's a dynamic that many like - I enjoy it, as I know they discuss what we have done together. They both get something from it, as do I - so it's win/win all round. " We'd like this, we'll sort of but the female half to play with Mrs N only forbys both, proving nigher impossible to find. | |||
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