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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Married for 15 years. Susan is amazing. We have a great sex life but I would love her to swing with me. I'd love to see her being pleasured by a group of guys.

We have role played it together but how on earth do I get her to take the next step.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her your profile on here. Always a good starting point for single men who put up 'how do I get the wife to ....'threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Show her your profile on here. Always a good starting point for single men who put up 'how do I get the wife to ....'threads."

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Maybe if you already done role play you could suggest a club - the rules there are you do only what you want to so she can take baby steps and not get too nervous - se might love it and you could take it from there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Show her your profile on here. Always a good starting point for single men who put up 'how do I get the wife to ....'threads.

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She has no idea I'm on here and wud most likely freak

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Really sorry to say this, and I'm not been judgemental, but from our perspective if you aren't able to talk to her openly about swinging you probably aren't ready to swing. For us, and for many of our swinging friends, complete trust, openness and understanding are absolute prerequisites for an established couple to swing together. It's all about recognising each other's needs and boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really sorry to say this, and I'm not been judgemental, but from our perspective if you aren't able to talk to her openly about swinging you probably aren't ready to swing. For us, and for many of our swinging friends, complete trust, openness and understanding are absolute prerequisites for an established couple to swing together. It's all about recognising each other's needs and boundaries."

Very well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Married for 15 years. Susan is amazing. We have a great sex life but I would love her to swing with me. I'd love to see her being pleasured by a group of guys.

We have role played it together but how on earth do I get her to take the next step."

No idea but good luck mate. Why not tell her you would like to meet just one bloke with a massive cock and suck it together? You take the balls and she takes the shaft. You never know, she might love it.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

As has been said if you can't talk about it, perhaps its not right.

Also you say love sharing a cock with your horny wife on your profile...? Perhaps being more honest with everyone would be a good start... and start at home with her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As has been said if you can't talk about it, perhaps its not right.

Also you say love sharing a cock with your horny wife on your profile...? Perhaps being more honest with everyone would be a good start... and start at home with her."

Thank you

Oh and it says a horny wife not my horny wife.

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough


"Really sorry to say this, and I'm not been judgemental, but from our perspective if you aren't able to talk to her openly about swinging you probably aren't ready to swing. For us, and for many of our swinging friends, complete trust, openness and understanding are absolute prerequisites for an established couple to swing together. It's all about recognising each other's needs and boundaries."

VERY well said...Secrets and lies are not part of a swinging relationship. Openness and honesty are the most important thing.

I currently meet alone, my boyfriend doesn't meet, yet he is very happy that I do and encourages me to meet.

We have 3 simple rules...Not in our bed...No Secrets or Lies... always play safe. If either one of us was to break these rules we would be done, end of.

As said above, if you can't talk openly then swinging isn't for you, and (sorry but I'm probably going to upset someone, but its my opinion) you're just cheating.

If you don't want to show her your profile, why not show her the site and suggest a couples profile and then maybe a club visit to see how she feels about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Married for 15 years. Susan is amazing. We have a great sex life but I would love her to swing with me. I'd love to see her being pleasured by a group of guys.

We have role played it together but how on earth do I get her to take the next step."

If you have play rolled together then I am guessing she would watch porn videos with you too.

If that's the case, go out and buy a few cuckold dvd's from the likes of Q-store or other shop.

Copy the cuckold dvd's onto a blank disc and tell your wife to picked up, or found this porn disc at work but don't know what's on it.

Sit down and watch it together

most cuckold dvd's have fantastic story lines and it always ends up the submissive husband watching his wife enjoy well endowed men and watching them bring her to orgasm time after time whilst filling her pussy full of sperm at same time.

Often the cuckold goes down on her after and licks up all the remaining cream pie from her pussy.

As you watch, whisper in her ear and ask her if she is enjoying it, say no more, but next time ask again then ask if she would like to try it, ensure that you let her know you would enjoy watching as much as she would enjoy fucking another mans cock

try it, it worked for me with my first wife, although she eventually left me for him and now has two lovely kids to him. Doesn't have to end in divorce, but it did for me

depends how far you want to take it.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Married for 15 years. Susan is amazing. We have a great sex life but I would love her to swing with me. I'd love to see her being pleasured by a group of guys.

We have role played it together but how on earth do I get her to take the next step."

"Hey honey, I'm home. Wanna f**k with a couple of guys; I've been doin' it for ages; erm, with women, mostly"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really sorry to say this, and I'm not been judgemental, but from our perspective if you aren't able to talk to her openly about swinging you probably aren't ready to swing. For us, and for many of our swinging friends, complete trust, openness and understanding are absolute prerequisites for an established couple to swing together. It's all about recognising each other's needs and boundaries."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your comments.

All valid points.

It's not the thing for us.

Happy fanning all

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By *ove121LustCouple
over a year ago

LaLa Land


"Really sorry to say this, and I'm not been judgemental, but from our perspective if you aren't able to talk to her openly about swinging you probably aren't ready to swing. For us, and for many of our swinging friends, complete trust, openness and understanding are absolute prerequisites for an established couple to swing together. It's all about recognising each other's needs and boundaries."

This - me and hubby talked together about fantasies in bed and started to look into it forever. Sorry to say but if you don't have permission to swing, it's called cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Married for 15 years. Susan is amazing. We have a great sex life but I would love her to swing with me. I'd love to see her being pleasured by a group of guys.

We have role played it together but how on earth do I get her to take the next step.

If you have play rolled together then I am guessing she would watch porn videos with you too.

If that's the case, go out and buy a few cuckold dvd's from the likes of Q-store or other shop.

Copy the cuckold dvd's onto a blank disc and tell your wife to picked up, or found this porn disc at work but don't know what's on it.

Sit down and watch it together

most cuckold dvd's have fantastic story lines and it always ends up the submissive husband watching his wife enjoy well endowed men and watching them bring her to orgasm time after time whilst filling her pussy full of sperm at same time.

Often the cuckold goes down on her after and licks up all the remaining cream pie from her pussy.

As you watch, whisper in her ear and ask her if she is enjoying it, say no more, but next time ask again then ask if she would like to try it, ensure that you let her know you would enjoy watching as much as she would enjoy fucking another mans cock

try it, it worked for me with my first wife, although she eventually left me for him and now has two lovely kids to him. Doesn't have to end in divorce, but it did for me

depends how far you want to take it."

If d Op wants to ask his wife of 15 years if she would consider swinging, then that's great and fair......he mightn't like d answer he gets but at least he has asked her an honest question and showed her respect in so doing......but what you've suggested he do is called grooming in my book, and bordering on predatory !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you all for your comments.

All valid points.

It's not the thing for us.

Happy fanning all"

You have read forum posts? The "How do I get my unsuspecting partner/wife/love of my life to swing" posts always get a negative response.

I wonder why?

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By *P2903Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Swinger diaries podcast.

https://swingerdiaries.wordpress.com

Worked for my missus

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By *oublethepleasureCouple
over a year ago

Spalding

Ask your wife if she has a single profile one here, you never know she may have.

Then it will be easy to get into swinging as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Married for 15 years. Susan is amazing. We have a great sex life but I would love her to swing with me. I'd love to see her being pleasured by a group of guys.

We have role played it together but how on earth do I get her to take the next step.

If you have play rolled together then I am guessing she would watch porn videos with you too.

If that's the case, go out and buy a few cuckold dvd's from the likes of Q-store or other shop.

Copy the cuckold dvd's onto a blank disc and tell your wife to picked up, or found this porn disc at work but don't know what's on it.

Sit down and watch it together

most cuckold dvd's have fantastic story lines and it always ends up the submissive husband watching his wife enjoy well endowed men and watching them bring her to orgasm time after time whilst filling her pussy full of sperm at same time.

Often the cuckold goes down on her after and licks up all the remaining cream pie from her pussy.

As you watch, whisper in her ear and ask her if she is enjoying it, say no more, but next time ask again then ask if she would like to try it, ensure that you let her know you would enjoy watching as much as she would enjoy fucking another mans cock

try it, it worked for me with my first wife, although she eventually left me for him and now has two lovely kids to him. Doesn't have to end in divorce, but it did for me

depends how far you want to take it.

If d Op wants to ask his wife of 15 years if she would consider swinging, then that's great and fair......he mightn't like d answer he gets but at least he has asked her an honest question and showed her respect in so doing......but what you've suggested he do is called grooming in my book, and bordering on predatory !"

Is being on here without her knowledge showing respect? Good luck with whatever you decide OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chloroform.....you seem the type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Married for 15 years. Susan is amazing. We have a great sex life but I would love her to swing with me. I'd love to see her being pleasured by a group of guys.

We have role played it together but how on earth do I get her to take the next step."

By Talking to her! do not try and talk her into it, if she is ready she will lead the way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Show her your profile on here. Always a good starting point for single men who put up 'how do I get the wife to ....'threads.

She has no idea I'm on here and wud most likely freak"

Then you sound like there is no chance of taking her further. You reckon she would not be happy with your cheating? Swinging in any form needs to be based on total trust...this appears rather lacking in your case?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I think the grooming comment is a bit strong.

We explored porn and other things before trying out swinging.

To me after 15 years and the fact he's already on here himself it's a but late in the day.

But I doubt many people go straight from monogamy to let's start swinging.

The fact they already roleplay it would suggest she is open minded enough to watch porn.

However she may well fear that he wants to swing just so he can fuck other women and his profile already being on here would seem to confirm that.

So is it that he wants to watch his wide or just wants to feel less guilty about getting his own end away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone posted a site a few months ago, that stuck in my head, just in case I am ever in the position. Basically you both independently complete a sex survey. Where it matches, it tells you. Where it doesn't the other doesn't know, so no awkward conversations. Think it is called mojo upgrade.

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"Maybe if you already done role play you could suggest a club - the rules there are you do only what you want to so she can take baby steps and not get too nervous - se might love it and you could take it from there "

Good advice indeed

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Take a trip.to.amsterdam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really sorry to say this, and I'm not been judgemental, but from our perspective if you aren't able to talk to her openly about swinging you probably aren't ready to swing. For us, and for many of our swinging friends, complete trust, openness and understanding are absolute prerequisites for an established couple to swing together. It's all about recognising each other's needs and boundaries."

This

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