FabSwingers.com forum: Helping out the Ex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's a bit of a long story, and I won't go into all the why's and wherefore's but I went around to the ex's to see her and ended up fixing a leaking pipe under the sink. Since we parted she has dropped from a size 20 to a 14. She was wearing jeans and a t-shirt when I arrived, nothing out of the ordinary at all.

As I was lying on the kitchen floor she came back and stood over me to ask me if I wanted a cuppa. She had got changed into a short figure hugging dress, and I noticed she was commando and smooth. I said she looked lovely and sexy and if she was going out. She said "no, it's for you" I nearly split my head open on the cupboard shelf as I went to sit up. She did look gorgeous, and my reaction was there for her to see.

Anyway we ended up in bed, which we both really enjoyed, I'd forgotten just how sexy and naughty she was/is.

The problem is everyone says revisiting the ex is a bad idea...yet we had such fun...Really do feel on the horns of a dilemma....any words of wisdom appreciated.

Thanks

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

Crazy women are always amazing in and terrible to live with xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shes an x for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"shes an x for a reason "

this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"shes an x for a reason "

Yes very true...More than one reason! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could look at it as it was no string sex. If there are no strings

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You could look at it as it was no string sex. If there are no strings "

That's what I'd like but will there ever be no strings after a 16 year marriage....

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Sorry but you need to run this through your head...not your cock.

You know the outcome.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

Was she an ex because she found you on Fab?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was she an ex because she found you on Fab? "

No - didn't join FAB until a good while after we parted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could look at it as it was no string sex. If there are no strings

That's what I'd like but will there ever be no strings after a 16 year marriage....

Probably not a good idea to do it again if you don't want your strings pulled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was she an ex because she found you on Fab? "

Why would you think that?

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

May be you should show her your profile. She might of wanted to be a swinging fun player as well to spice life up. Who knows you might make a great play fun couple

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney

Some people get back together after a split and live happily ever after. Then again, some don't. No one can tell you what's best. You have to work it out for yourself. Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"May be you should show her your profile. She might of wanted to be a swinging fun player as well to spice life up. Who knows you might make a great play fun couple"

I never suggested it to her although she was/is a bit of a show off...didn't occur to me. That would be great...we'll see what happens...still undecided what to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice ...much appreciated...

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney

Oh, and it's never a good idea to ask questions like that on here. They always seem to attract the worst kind of people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope everything works out mate

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

Agree with others, she is your ex for a reason. Maybe a one off for old times sake if, as you seem to be, on friendly terms but more than that I'd be wary of. Though of course some ex couples do get back together.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

She obviously wanted to get laid!! Job done - I wouldn't worry about it

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Would it have made a difference to your visit had she not dropped from a size 20 to a 14?

Had she stood over you, commando in the same outfit as a 20 would the outcome still have been the same?

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

You know the reasons why the two of you split in the first place.

Have they been resolved?

If they have all well and good, if not they could surface again.

Think about what went wrong first time if those reasons are capable of being solved you have a chance if not there is no chance

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

Have you asked her?

She may be thinking that it's all back on again after that.

She's probably the best person to speak to rather than us.

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

But I'd also go with showing her your profile on here and seeing what she says.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would it have made a difference to your visit had she not dropped from a size 20 to a 14?

Had she stood over you, commando in the same outfit as a 20 would the outcome still have been the same?

Yes...exactly the same....

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By *renaaJirkaCouple
over a year ago

Prague and New York

We know three couples that splited and then re-maried and they are quite happy for few years now.

But I agree that it can be good idea to be now more open about your recent live and wishes including fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd ignore the advice to show her your profile on here. You split, you started playing the field... that's totally legit. You're not cheating on her. People are just trying to trip you up for the fun of it.

You were married 16 years... after you split she lost a lot of weight, dressed up sexy for you, and basically wants you... perhaps she has done all this to try and make amends and win you back. Only you know the reasons why it failed the first time... and whether there is a better chance this time. The fact that you would've jumped on her even if she hadn't lost weight tells me that you still feel something for her... perhaps she still feels something for you?

Go slow... test the waters... expect the worst... but perhaps hope for the best. Then... if you get back together... and if you feel its important... leave Fab, stop swinging... then work your way to having a conversation with her about whether she has any sexual fantasies.. and see if you can't kick start it all from there. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the support...going to go out for a drink/meal later so we'll see what happens...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about the reasons you split.

Look at why you had stayed together so long in the first place.

There is still friendship and sexual attraction there.

Think about what you want for your future.

You need to weigh it all up inside and be honest with yourself.

Then communicate with her honestly and openly and see where it goes.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flip a coin, heads for yes tails for no

The coin doesn't need to land you will know which you want to land,

Take it day by day, could work out could not you will never know if you don't try

But the only persons who can evaluate the risks vs previous activity is you,

But most importantly are there children, its going to effect them so need to tread carefully but I would accept 'x for reason' as an answer from someone who doesn't know you or your circumstances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got together at 16, around 20ish we split for about 6 months, still stayed friends nothing nasty happened, fast forward a few years and were engaged have a mortgage together and are happier than ever.

Getting back with an ex can work out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She will mess with your head.....!

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By *ark074Man
over a year ago

nottingham

I wouldn't get back with my ex even if she was a size 8 and turned up with two teenage cock hungry sluts.

I'd kick her in the fanny and keep the sluts.

Hee hee.

I'm not bitter.

Just smarter now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the difference between applying the OP to the OPster or applying the OP to what it means to the reader

His circumstances may not replicate the readers

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"May be you should show her your profile. She might of wanted to be a swinging fun player as well to spice life up. Who knows you might make a great play fun couple

I never suggested it to her although she was/is a bit of a show off...didn't occur to me. That would be great...we'll see what happens...still undecided what to do.

When I split with mother of my kids we carried on having regular sex for about 2 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I wouldn't mind catching my ex on fire so I could piss next to her ! Wouldn't kick her though

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