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Best way to start up a conversation ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am finding it hard to start up a conversation with females or couples on here. Read their profile first and go from there.

Any advice from people would help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Whoa and steady on cowboy!

You've been on the site for just three weeks so be patient.

There are lots of single guys on here you really have to make your profile stand out.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Well, six out of seven pics are of your cock, if that is all that defines you then leave it as it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I know thats why I am asking for some help !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well, six out of seven pics are of your cock, if that is all that defines you then leave it as it is "

Thanks for the advice better pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many cock pics, 18-99, "like my females" bit. I'd say rewrite a little to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and whiny status.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Well, six out of seven pics are of your cock, if that is all that defines you then leave it as it is

Thanks for the advice better pictures"

You have to have carefully read the profile as so very many do not, and refer to something in it to which you can relate in some meaningful or amusing way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh and whiny status. "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, six out of seven pics are of your cock, if that is all that defines you then leave it as it is "

Add to that...and not saying it is the case....your brief profile is written in a way that positively screams married/attached.

If this is not the case then look at the way it is worded and make it clear why you cannot accomodate.

Be more clear as to what you seek.

When you message someone they will always check your profile. ...often before they even open your mail.....if the profile is not outstanding and clear....then message will be deleted.

Hope this helps explain things.

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I like messages that refer to something in my status or profile. You only need a quick line or two but enough to show you've taken an interest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all have re written profile and this time from the heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all have re written profile and this time from the heart "

Reads quite nice, well written

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all have re written profile and this time from the heart "

Much improved........at last we have a guy who takes the advice onboard and acts on it.

Wishing you every success dude! Look at adding a few more pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not put "Hi" in the subject line.

Do not just say "How r u?"

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"Thanks all have re written profile and this time from the heart

Much improved........at last we have a guy who takes the advice onboard and acts on it.

Wishing you every success dude! Look at adding a few more pics?"

Agreed. Him

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

Still need the profile needs further tweaks as to age range and people sought. The OP mentions females and couples in his post. Is he really seeking eg MM couples? If he is, fine.

The OP also has to consider the very many couples profiles that ask single men not to contact them - this is there at the very least to reduce what would otherwise be a relatively large number of relatively poor standard messages.

As the male half of the couple I usually block and delete, especially if it seems that the message is solely aimed at my wife.

Finally the constant advice is to go to clubs and go to socials.

Some men do very well following such advice.

Some men stand, walk and sit but can't engage socially, and often look grim.

Some men are poor at starting conversations. I saw one chap on Saturday night go up to a couple and make a remark, which drew a response. His next remark drew the response that the couple were engaged in a private chat.

When I worked in sales I only enjoyed calling on people who wanted to discuss our services. I wasn't the sort of report who enjoyed cold calling.

The OP needs to work out how to manage these circumstances and whether he has the confidence to take the knock backs and carry on.

Good luck to him.

DJ

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

You're bi curious looking to meet TVs this puts a lot of people off.

You can't accommodate as your children live with you is enough. The long story part says drama which nobody wants.

A lot of us want to be discrete you don't need to say it.

Try putting what you're looking for and what you have to offer.

It's all about standing out, there's about ten males per female on here and you really don't stand out.

I'm sorry to burst your bubble but you're not special.

There are guys who can accommodate.

Younger guys in better shape with bigger dicks.

Guys who will travel 100 miles and book a hotel for a meet.

So lower your expectations drastically, put a lot more thought into your profile and messages, do some homework. look at other guys profiles and get some ideas on creating yours.

Try looking for social events, get some verifications and get talking to people.

You'll see the phrase effort in = reward out a lot and it's very true.

Halfarsing it simply will not do.

Best of luck to you.

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By *oderndaylivesCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes taken out the ' long story' and change the public profile pics to something which shows more of the body perhaps, as there just isn't enough to go on. A pic with some smart clothes on (a suit always goes down well) isn't a bad thing. Good luck x

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

I find a subject line of "Yo bird!" To be a great opener with the actual text along the lines of "Have you ever had a battered fanny? Want one?"

It's a guaranteed winner!

Well it probably will be when I get that elusive first response. I've tried cut and pasting that and sending it to every woman in a 90 mike radius between 18 and 99.

It'll pay off, you mark my words!

(You're welcome)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile is hidden... so cant comment

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