FabSwingers.com forum: Am I really that bad?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i just cant seem to get a reply to any message on here?

is it the way i look?

the things i say??

HELP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to write a decent profile and try smiling sweetie, it helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naff profile with spelling mistakes, wouldn't look twice personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You need to write a decent profile and try smiling sweetie, it helps

Thank you for the reply and advice. just never think i look comfortable smiling.

strange i know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need to write a decent profile and try smiling sweetie, it helps

Oh I dunno , I quite like the serious look

You defiantly need to right a profile though op.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Put some effort into your profile fella.

'am i really thank unattractive??' doesn't make much sense does it ?

You've got to try to make yourself stand out, in a good way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be your profile? It aint helping. Fill it up with positive stuff, not poor me stuff..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need to write a decent profile and try smiling sweetie, it helps

Oh I dunno , I quite like the serious look

You defiantly need to right a profile though op. "

Oh ffs sake write not right.

My apologies to the grammar police.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for the helpful advice.

it seems i need to put more effort into the profile.

thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spruce up your profile abit.

Two sentences saying that your having no luck isnt a great selling point.

What can you offer a potential meet? What would you like to experience?

What kind of people do you like?

What are you like?

I hope that helps. Happy swinging.

P.s perhaps it may be the messages your sending too, be creative an unique, stand out from the many

Peach x

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"You need to write a decent profile and try smiling sweetie, it helps

Oh I dunno , I quite like the serious look

You defiantly need to right a profile though op.

Oh ffs sake write not right.

My apologies to the grammar police.

And what about 'defiantly' ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that would be definitely and not defiantly lol

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Come on OP? Seriously? Is that REALLY the best you can do? Two lines that don't even make sense! Put some effort in man! Lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Thank you for the helpful advice.

it seems i need to put more effort into the profile.

thanks again"

ya think...... really...

why should someone want to pick you over someone else.....

i have to ask what your expectations were... and then i would suggest lowering them.... alot!!!!

Time, patience, basic common sense, patience, use all the tools the site gives you, patience......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again.

I appreciate the advice and the spelling lessons. My Profile has been rushed and as Fabio has stated maybe unrealistic expectations. i will take this away and put it to good use and again thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You need to write a decent profile and try smiling sweetie, it helps

Oh I dunno , I quite like the serious look

You defiantly need to right a profile though op.

Oh ffs sake write not right.

My apologies to the grammar police.

And what about 'defiantly' ?

Ah shit , ok I admit my spelling and grammar is crap. Bite me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete that shite you've currently got on there.

With nothing on there you'll not get anywhere, but having a moan will put people off you for good.

Best to remove it until you get round to re-writing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's your profile rather than you that's the problem.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

THE STICKS

Inverse Betteridge's Law ?

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I put more effort into making my morning coffee than you have into your profile.

And the text.... Nobody likes whiners it's unattractive.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

1. You only have 1 public pic which you look quite miserable in.

2. It doesn't tell me anything about you or what you are looking for.

3. It screams negativity.

All of these things can be rectified tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One word ~ profile.

Shadow avatar - replace

Public photos - upload a few more

Text - list some things that you like / what you can offer etc.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sending penis photos with every message? You won't get a reply if you don't. You should also stick to short messages. Maybe cut and paste... something generic like "hi how are you? " or "fancy a fuck?" Hope that helps

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"Are you sending penis photos with every message? You won't get a reply if you don't. You should also stick to short messages. Maybe cut and paste... something generic like "hi how are you? " or "fancy a fuck?" Hope that helps

I can confirm that this works but am obliged to deny its too because we don't need more guys knowing the secret to getting meets

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By *aul100Man
over a year ago

blackburn

Make a fantastic profile then send all the lady's that have given you advice on here a message then you should have no problem getting a meet with them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look ok to me mate..I have the same problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, your profile is currently doing nothing for you.

Two lines of text which gives the reader absolutely no information about you whatsoever - in fact, all it's doing is bemoaning your lack of success.

Delete your profile text and start again, only this time try and write something that tells people a little about you, what you like and more importantly, what you can offer.

Tell the reader why they should meet you over anybody else.

Think about having a profile pic too.

When a message from you appears in someone's inbox, it will have just a silhouette showing and most recipients will simply delete your message without a second thought.

Those that don't will most likely look at your profile before reading your message.

The golden rule is that you get out what you put in.

Effort in = rewards out.

Simples!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"You need to write a decent profile and try smiling sweetie, it helps

Oh I dunno , I quite like the serious look

You defiantly need to right a profile though op.

Oh ffs sake write not right.

My apologies to the grammar police.

Apology accepted

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

Ditch the 'woe is me' crap!!

You are currently coming across as a stroppy teenager who is throwing toys out the pram - not attractive, not gonna get you anywhere!

I actually like the pic, at least its not just another cock shot.

Do yourself a favour though and read your profile and look at it as if you were someone else, and ask yourself one question... Would you want to meet you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply."

That's a load of rubbish.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

To be honest, I don't think there's all that much wrong with your picture. Also, reading this thread, you seem like a decent enough chap.

I'd say it's just a matter of thinking about what you're seeking and what you have to offer and putting them in a friendly, welcoming and original way. That said, I'm no expert and things haven't been too busy in the bedroom department for me either, so hey ho there we go.

Anyway, good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for.

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

Dont think their anything wrong with pic just need to make more effort to your profile of interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i just cant seem to get a reply to any message on here?

is it the way i look?

the things i say??

HELP!"

No profile picture (just setting that face pic you have to your profile pic will up your chances 100%)

No profile text except a whine

Remember people aren't here for misery they're here for fantasy.

Write what your like and what your looking for people can't decide if they don't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think men over 6ft who can accommodate and have a few more pics than you and profile text giving a little insight into their personality do quite well on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I've had similar problems in the past, though I've hopefully rectified them now. And although even writing a thoughtful message can still get you ignored by some, it's better than the cut and paste effort in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been given a lot of great advice. Let's see if you take it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

That's a load of rubbish."

Shag already admitted this was total bullcrap but he still likes to say it to every bad profile on here! Lol! It gives them hope that it's just like the lottery on here so they feel justified in bitching women out when they can't get a meet. If they can't accept that thousands of men with good profiles get meets all the time then the fall back of being"neglected in the numbers" makes them feel better.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

You can have the best profile on earth but, if you are a man of a certain age, or (heaven forbid) married and on here alone, you've got no chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

That's a load of rubbish."
Have you seen it from a mans view? lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can have the best profile on earth but, if you are a man of a certain age, or (heaven forbid) married and on here alone, you've got no chance."

I know! We women are such bitches when we don't find older married men attractive. Damn us! Damn us all to hell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

That's a load of rubbish.Have you seen it from a mans view? lol."

Yes Shag i have. Most of the guys who meet me show me their inbox. And it's normally full....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

That's a load of rubbish.Have you seen it from a mans view? lol.

Yes Shag i have. Most of the guys who meet me show me their inbox. And it's normally full...."
by a mix of men and women I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

That's a load of rubbish.Have you seen it from a mans view? lol.

Yes Shag i have. Most of the guys who meet me show me their inbox. And it's normally full....by a mix of men and women I guess."

No because the guys i meet know how to use filters so all women.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"You can have the best profile on earth but, if you are a man of a certain age, or (heaven forbid) married and on here alone, you've got no chance.

I know! We women are such bitches when we don't find older married men attractive. Damn us! Damn us all to hell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

That's a load of rubbish.Have you seen it from a mans view? lol.

Yes Shag i have. Most of the guys who meet me show me their inbox. And it's normally full....by a mix of men and women I guess.

No because the guys i meet know how to use filters so all women."
That's good and what I forgot to say is that yes we do get emails from women but most of the convos is from women who are not from the same city but instead up north England usually

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

"You can have the best profile on earth but, if you are a man of a certain age, or (heaven forbid) married and on here alone, you've got no chance.

I know! We women are such bitches when we don't find older married men attractive. Damn us! Damn us all to hell!

As I was saying........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

That's a load of rubbish.Have you seen it from a mans view? lol.

Yes Shag i have. Most of the guys who meet me show me their inbox. And it's normally full....by a mix of men and women I guess.

No because the guys i meet know how to use filters so all women.That's good and what I forgot to say is that yes we do get emails from women but most of the convos is from women who are not from the same city but instead up north England usually

So it's not a numbers game because you get lots of messages, it's the fact you won't travel to meet them. That's got nothing to do with numbers and everything to do with how much effort you're prepared to put in to have a meet. Just like the OP. Effort in, reward out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo more content and pics but op don't do yourself down your very good looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

That's a load of rubbish.Have you seen it from a mans view? lol.

Yes Shag i have. Most of the guys who meet me show me their inbox. And it's normally full....by a mix of men and women I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

That's a load of rubbish.Have you seen it from a mans view? lol.

Yes Shag i have. Most of the guys who meet me show me their inbox. And it's normally full....by a mix of men and women I guess.

So next time some guy moans you'll be saying "It's a distance game" instead of giving guys who make no effort on here the impression that it's not their fault at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because the site is saturated with men, so its more by luck to get a reply.

That's a load of rubbish.Have you seen it from a mans view? lol.

Yes Shag i have. Most of the guys who meet me show me their inbox. And it's normally full....by a mix of men and women I guess.

So next time some guy moans you'll be saying "It's a distance game" instead of giving guys who make no effort on here the impression that it's not their fault at all?"
Yes or the demo graphics thingy, well a good profile would help as well as you say there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^^^^^^

Agree with this guy

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Op you need to sell yourself a bit,what can you offer a potential meet ?.Maybe some more pics like torso or bum to attract interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i just cant seem to get a reply to any message on here?

is it the way i look?

the things i say??

HELP!"

Im sure your not all that bad. Your just let a lot of guys on here. The trouble is there are so many guys and so very very few real women available. A huge proportion of the female profiles are likely to be lone males, some will be females who just enjoy the tease and will never meet.

Face with those stats the best thing to do if your looking for sex is just have a fap or join a real dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i just cant seem to get a reply to any message on here?

is it the way i look?

the things i say??

HELP!

Face with those stats the best thing to do if your looking for sex is just have a fap or join a real dating site.

Not true. Nothing to do with numbers and everything to do with your profile, how you look and how you come across. Loads of guys get meets all the time on here. It's not numbers, it's the guy.

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