FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications

By *aughty monkey31 OP Man
over a year ago

Walsall

Hi guys. A lady I was chatting to recently commented that I had a lot of verifications and was put off so asking if a guy has alot of verifications is it a put off?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Nope, I don't care about numbers. Anyway, if you hid most of them you'd still have loads and she's never be the wiser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys. A lady I was chatting to recently commented that I had a lot of verifications and was put off so asking if a guy has alot of verifications is it a put off? "

depends on the verification and who also verified the verifier, sometimes its the history of the verifier that may put people off

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

You know you can't win with verifications can you?

It's either too many or too little.

Doesn't make any difference to me. If I fancied you I fancied you.

But I liked a man with experience so lots of verifications was definitely not an issue. They also begin to add up quite quickly don't they?

I think some are looking for reasons not to meet and find excuses.

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By *aughty monkey31 OP Man
over a year ago

Walsall

"Hi guys. A lady I was chatting to recently commented that I had a lot of verifications and was put off so asking if a guy has alot of verifications is it a put off?

depends on the verification and who also verified the verifier, sometimes its the history of the verifier that may put people off"

Yeah heard this from some of the ladies I know, if their is an undesirable lady on a guys verifications it is very off putting

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I think there should be enough to indicate you're genuine and that present a consistent picture of what kind of person you are.

Revealing any more than that, particularly several from the same person, edges towards boasting and a desperate display

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP. It's your profile. Do what you want not what others tell you. If you want to show them all do. If you want to show multiple from the same person do. If you want to hide them all do. Do what feels right to you not to please other people.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"OP. It's your profile. Do what you want not what others tell you. If you want to show them all do. If you want to show multiple from the same person do. If you want to hide them all do. Do what feels right to you not to please other people.

This is all that needs to be said.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Not really it isn't,especially if someone has been on for a long time. Quite a few of yours are repeat people anyway aren't they.

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By *aughty monkey31 OP Man
over a year ago

Walsall

"Not really it isn't,especially if someone has been on for a long time. Quite a few of yours are repeat people anyway aren't they."

Yes they are, think it shows I like regular fun with same people. I did lose a couple when another lady left the site which was a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys. A lady I was chatting to recently commented that I had a lot of verifications and was put off so asking if a guy has alot of verifications is it a put off?

depends on the verification and who also verified the verifier, sometimes its the history of the verifier that may put people off

Yeah heard this from some of the ladies I know, if their is an undesirable lady on a guys verifications it is very off putting "

What constitutes an "undesirable lady" these days?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is for me,Its quality not quantity x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For everyone it would put off.. there wi be just as many that think.. okay he meets and is well liked etc..

We are already apparently heading to the top many verifications and we don't care x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

You will never please everyone and as others have said,its your profile run it the way you want.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Hi guys. A lady I was chatting to recently commented that I had a lot of verifications and was put off so asking if a guy has a lot of verifications is it a put off? "

When you say the lady was "put off" did she actually refuse to meet because of that?

If so, that's unfortunate but does perhaps indicate that there may be a general perception that too many verifications showing on your profile does have a negative impact, which is really what you're investigating here.

When I was displaying far more verifications than I currently do, I was told t made me look like a "player" which was regarded as an undesirable characteristic, but, as a lot of people are saying here, it is entirely up to you how you present your profile.

I got rid of my repeat veris, regarded as "padding" and kept the core which I consider to present a consistent portrayal and without unnecessary graphic detail (which some of the omitted ones do).

I'm happy with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has loads of verifications we always have a read through them to see whether thats loads over a short period, long period, whether there are several from club nights or parties etc. We get slightly put off if people have a high volume in a short space of time as we wonder whether they are all about quantity over quality.

You have 27 public but I think I only counted 12 or 13 different people as you've obviously met some people on a few occasions so yours wouldn't put us off personally. But each to their own ofcourse!!

Sasha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at the quality of the meets... and sometimes it looks like people will literally shag anything with a pulse so they aren't always a positive thing ... having said that.. it would be boring if we all had the same tastes x x

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By *aughty monkey31 OP Man
over a year ago

Walsall

"I look at the quality of the meets... and sometimes it looks like people will literally shag anything with a pulse so they aren't always a positive thing ... having said that.. it would be boring if we all had the same tastes x x "

Was going to say the same thing, hopefully mine show I have standards lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she wasn't interested for another reason and just used it as an excuse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care at all x

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Maybe she wasn't interested for another reason and just used it as an excuse? "

Or maybe she thought the list was padded out with repeat meets. Who knows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe she wasn't interested for another reason and just used it as an excuse?

Or maybe she thought the list was padded out with repeat meets. Who knows?"

Or maybe she just thought he had too many and was genuinely put off?! Anyway, not worth worrying about, run your profile as you want and don't worry about what others think. as someone said, you really can't win on the verification front sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have quite a few and anyone who thinks we have too many can fin x someone else , no problem there .

It's a quantity of quality we enjoy .

Variety is the spice of life and we never judge anyone for how many they have .

Well that may be not totally true as those who have been on here for 3 months or longer with none at all are probably a waste of time .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was knocked back for this this morning..I begged n begged and deleted lotsa veries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are a pain!

People look at them and look at the people you've been verified by, a lot of yours are repeat meets though as had already been said so that cuts the amount of people down a lot. It wouldn't personally put us off if someone had a high meet number, unless there all play meets and very close together in a short period of time, then I think that could be a bit off putting.

We've been shamed by our verifications before by couples saying that all our veri's are social 1s which means that we are fake and not real swingers because we don't play

although we have numerous play ones on there.

You can't please everyone so just please yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it wouldn't bother me how many a man has, it would be hypocritical of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't win with veri's.

too few / too many / quality of verifier / veri trail.....blah blah blah.

I like to have a nose at the veri's makes an interesting read on occasions

I'd only be put off someone if I was unsure about them in the first instance.

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain

If people are put off by the number of Veris then that's their issue. How many Veris you display is your choice. It's the quality of the Veris that should be of concern for most folks profiles. I prefer mine to be non-sexual, discreet & not be saying who did what to whom. That's just my personal choice.

So don't let anyone dictate what should be in YOUR profile. If they do then they're probably not someone you'd want to hookup with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't say you had that many verifications plus a lot are repeated meets

I wouldn't care two hoots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can't win with veri's.

too few / too many / quality of verifier / veri trail.....blah blah blah.

I like to have a nose at the veri's makes an interesting read on occasions

I'd only be put off someone if I was unsure about them in the first instance.

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By *amparaWoman
over a year ago

biggleswade

lots of veris put me off tbh but thats me as i like to think i won't be meeting a guy that will shag a dead dog,so i look at veris and yes if it has people on it that will shag everything and anyone vaguely human i won't meet and i'm not unique either lots of women do it and i will continue to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You know you can't win with verifications can you?

It's either too many or too little.

Doesn't make any difference to me. If I fancied you I fancied you.

But I liked a man with experience so lots of verifications was definitely not an issue. They also begin to add up quite quickly don't they?

I think some are looking for reasons not to meet and find excuses. "

This is so true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lots of veris put me off tbh but thats me as i like to think i won't be meeting a guy that will shag a dead dog,so i look at veris and yes if it has people on it that will shag everything and anyone vaguely human i won't meet and i'm not unique either lots of women do it and i will continue to do so"

would U like to be considered vaguely human?- there might be someone out there that thinks yer a minger...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can't win with veri's.

too few / too many / quality of verifier / veri trail.....blah blah blah.

I like to have a nose at the veri's makes an interesting read on occasions

I'd only be put off someone if I was unsure about them in the first instance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dead dog ??? What if that person found a genuine attraction with those people ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't normally do this and I'm not entirely comfortable doing it now. However I'm surprised you meet anyone with the attitude you display in your profile text. There and in this post you come across as treating men and other women as beneath you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dead dog ??? What if that person found a genuine attraction with those people ?

How does a dead dog leave a veri??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be enough to indicate you're genuine and that present a consistent picture of what kind of person you are.

Revealing any more than that, particularly several from the same person, edges towards boasting and a desperate display"

I don't make that kind of judgment when you see multiple verifications from the same person. It makes me think they have a lot of good times together. I don't know why meeting someone regularly and displaying that is boasting.

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By *amparaWoman
over a year ago

biggleswade

typical response from a typical person who thinks they are clever lol i don't know how a dead dog gives a veri ask it yourself luvie!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you be happy to know that women see men have had sex with you and turn them down because of it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"typical response from a typical person who thinks they are clever lol i don't know how a dead dog gives a veri ask it yourself luvie!!!!!"

I already have asked. Only having a laugh, trying to lighten the mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've been shamed by our verifications before by couples saying that all our veri's are social 1s which means that we are fake and not real swingers because we don't play"

We've had this too...on our previous profile we mainly only displayed our social verifications and kept graphic 'play' veris hidden as we prefer to keep what happens in the bedroom private. Lots of people assumed we were time wasters and didn't play. Their loss! Xx

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By *enny PR9TV/TS
over a year ago

Southport

Anybody else finding it difficult to meet experienced virgins on this site.

Jenny xxx

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By *amparaWoman
over a year ago

biggleswade

i'm sorry to cause offence and yes i concede you are right on some points but i'm just saying who the hell wants to play with someone half of fab has had a go at, seriously yes it's a swingers site but still it horrifies me and no i'm not up myself either before you say it,and as for the dead dog senario there are men on fab who have suggested having sex with animals and these people are supposed to be normal my standards are high its a shame some have no standards at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i'm sorry to cause offence and yes i concede you are right on some points but i'm just saying who the hell wants to play with someone half of fab has had a go at, seriously yes it's a swingers site but still it horrifies me and no i'm not up myself either before you say it,and as for the dead dog senario there are men on fab who have suggested having sex with animals and these people are supposed to be normal my standards are high its a shame some have no standards at all"

hahaha...You'll often find these types of men have very few verifications then...sorta outwitting your own theory lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Is there a word for the female version of white knights I wonder.

If people assume I've slept with half the site because I am proud of my veris then I can only feel sorry for them for being so judgemental. People on a swinging site having sexual fun with many other people? The nerve!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hahaha...You'll often find these types of men have very few verifications then...sorta outwitting your own theory lol"

contradicting I meant lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a word for the female version of white knights I wonder.

Lady Contraries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anyone could manage half of fab. We on a good week will have a few plays with different couples at a club... Gg night we could quite easily hit double figures between us... But doesn't mean we have no standards...

We spend a lot of time talking to people but also do lots of spur of the moment things.

High number of meets doesn't mean no standards

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I think there should be enough to indicate you're genuine and that present a consistent picture of what kind of person you are.

Revealing any more than that, particularly several from the same person, edges towards boasting and a desperate display

I've nothing at all against meeting the same people and do so a good deal but don't really see the point of eliciting and displaying any more verifications from them unless there is something specific to add, or a different activity or aspect to relay

Several other postings on this thread tend to agree by indicating that they discount multiple reports from the same people.

I do however concede once again as I did before that it is entirely up to the individual what they display.

Boasting might be a bit strong on reflection.

Padding might be nearer the mark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read a profile earlier that wanted the potential victim to exclusively be for them. Think they may be on the wrong site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there should be enough to indicate you're genuine and that present a consistent picture of what kind of person you are.

Revealing any more than that, particularly several from the same person, edges towards boasting and a desperate display

Several other postings on this thread tend to agree by indicating that they discount multiple reports from the same people.

I do however concede once again as I did before that it is entirely up to the individual what they display.

Boasting might be a bit strong on reflection.

Padding might be nearer the mark."

My only veris are from the same person. I have no choice lol.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"My only veris are from the same person. I have no choice lol."

Stop padding!!

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By *amparaWoman
over a year ago

biggleswade

wow 5 couples and 3 single ladies messaging me and saying i'm right lol i don't need anyone to tell me i'm right because that goes without saying lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wow 5 couples and 3 single ladies messaging me and saying i'm right lol i don't need anyone to tell me i'm right because that goes without saying lol

Be careful you don't hurt yourself when you come crashing down off that high horse there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I find it a put off if the person has a lot of veris

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Its funny how the posters on Fab forums who post the most insulting, rude, and pointless vitriol always get so many private messages of support. You'd think these people would be proud to support someone so in the right publicly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wow 5 couples and 3 single ladies messaging me and saying i'm right lol i don't need anyone to tell me i'm right because that goes without saying lol

They might agree with you on the point of verifications but i doubt they agree with the manner in which you are conducting yourself.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

undesirable or desirable...how & who as that unblemished purist profile to decide this, being swingers we are degenerates to the vanilla world so we are in no position to judge people on here lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wow 5 couples and 3 single ladies messaging me and saying i'm right lol i don't need anyone to tell me i'm right because that goes without saying lol

You forgot to put "in my opinion" after you said I'm right because that goes without saying. ...

In my opinion you're wrong .very ...

LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wow 5 couples and 3 single ladies messaging me and saying i'm right lol i don't need anyone to tell me i'm right because that goes without saying lol

Really? You've only met 3 people? Don't believe ya!!!!!!!!

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I hope admin is reading what s happening on this thread cos I got barred from the forum for 24 hours and my comment abt another poster wasn't half (a quarter) as vitriolic as I can see above; this is so unfair but they must have their reasons and I'm not even going to bother asking; some loophole makes my comment worse than what s been said above. I ve even recommended people to join this site who are now paying members; can t believe how unfair this is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its funny how the posters on Fab forums who post the most insulting, rude, and pointless vitriol always get so many private messages of support. You'd think these people would be proud to support someone so in the right publicly."

Wouldn't you just... Getting it back on Topic. I think If you meet lots of people and others are bothered.. meet the ones that aren't... As if you hide your verifications some may see it as lying x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts exactly

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Wouldn't you just... Getting it back on Topic. I think If you meet lots of people and others are bothered.. meet the ones that aren't... As if you hide your verifications some may see it as lying x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts exactly

I'm sure you'd word it better though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's funny how certain posters can really change the vibe of a thread......

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Hi guys. A lady I was chatting to recently commented that I had a lot of verifications and was put off so asking if a guy has alot of verifications is it a put off? "

No, but several from the same person would be as I'd see it as "territory marking".

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Anyway, back to the OP. I used to hide mine, mainly because I don't think who I meet is anyone else's business; but the fact I meet is what's important. I don't tend to ask for them either. As previous posters have said before the thread got somewhat derailed, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. If you choose to display veri(s) and that puts someone off meeting you then you obviously weren't suited anyway for whatever reason. No-one's loss, just one of those things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You know you can't win with verifications can you?

It's either too many or too little.

Doesn't make any difference to me. If I fancied you I fancied you.

But I liked a man with experience so lots of verifications was definitely not an issue. They also begin to add up quite quickly don't they?

I think some are looking for reasons not to meet and find excuses. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would U like to be considered vaguely human?- there might be someone out there that thinks yer a minger..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hope admin is reading what s happening on this thread cos I got barred from the forum for 24 hours and my comment abt another poster wasn't half (a quarter) as vitriolic as I can see above; this is so unfair but they must have their reasons and I'm not even going to bother asking; some loophole makes my comment worse than what s been said above. I ve even recommended people to join this site who are now paying members; can t believe how unfair this is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will happily display our verification summary after reading this thread .

The people we would rather meet are those who don't mind how many veris one has .

By displaying them I think it will serve as a very useful filter for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We will happily display our verification summary after reading this thread .

The people we would rather meet are those who don't mind how many veris one has .

By displaying them I think it will serve as a very useful filter for us

Gonna display all 100 of mine too......

what a slut I am!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess if people don't like the way someone runs their profile then they're not going to want to meet them so no point worrying about what others think and keep on doing what makes you happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's funny when people think Fab verifications give total 100% proof of a person's sex life.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Or maybe a mod was having a life outside of Fab and had not read the posts until they logged in?

You have to realise, mods are not here 24 hours a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe a mod was having a life outside of Fab and had not read the posts until they logged in?

You have to realise, mods are not here 24 hours a day."

How very dare you have a life outside of fab

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Smack my arse with a wet fish for being so naughty !

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Anyway, back to the OP. I used to hide mine, mainly because I don't think who I meet is anyone else's business; but the fact I meet is what's important. I don't tend to ask for them either. As previous posters have said before the thread got somewhat derailed, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. If you choose to display veri(s) and that puts someone off meeting you then you obviously weren't suited anyway for whatever reason. No-one's loss, just one of those things."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No just means they meet, only thing that verifications would put me off, is if i think guy does "any hole a goal" meets, ie standards kept or not

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

At least a lot of veries show you are reliable and show up..

Alot to be said for that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's funny when people think Fab verifications give total 100% proof of a person's sex life.

Lol, my veris don't even show 100% of my fab meets!

OP...show what you want. If people assume that means you go for 'quantity over quality' then pass them by. I personally chose to have both qulaity & quantity when I'm actively meeting and I do display my veri summary and all veris still available when my profile isn't hidden. If that puts people off meeting me then so be it, we're obviously not compatible and I'd rather enjoy the company of someone who isn't going to judge me for having sex!

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"At least a lot of veries show you are reliable and show up..

Alot to be said for that..

That is a fair point.

Not turning up seems to be widespread amongst single males so it is some reassurance against that particular problem....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Smack my arse with a wet fish for being so naughty !"

Oooo errrrr missus

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By *aughty monkey31 OP Man
over a year ago

Walsall

Didn't realise this thread would take off like this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm surprised the forum police haven't shut this down yet!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is for me,Its quality not quantity x

Especially if the verifications are from certain women in the area...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least a lot of veries show you are reliable and show up..

Alot to be said for that..

That is a fair point.

Not turning up seems to be widespread amongst single males so it is some reassurance against that particular problem...."

Meet many men? I can tell you from experience it's not the soul preserve of the male of the species.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is for me,Its quality not quantity x

Especially if the verifications are from certain women in the area...

Oooohhh ..... I wonder what that insinuates ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have suggested a couple of times that on profiles it could say how many years you've been on the site, not just 'over a year', then maybe some people wouldn't have such a problem with it, if they saw, for example, you had 50 verifications but over 5 years, and also the option to tick if they were social or a play meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have suggested a couple of times that on profiles it could say how many years you've been on the site, not just 'over a year', then maybe some people wouldn't have such a problem with it, if they saw, for example, you had 50 verifications but over 5 years, and also the option to tick if they were social or a play meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good idea but I think people who have a problem with too many veris always will have regardless of what you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good idea but I think people who have a problem with too many veris always will have regardless of what you do. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't win! Someone will always say you have too many or not enough!! Half of mine are actually social meets and span 5 years!! but it seems some people still like to have an opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good idea but I think people who have a problem with too many veris alwaywill have regardless of what you do. "
sadly I think your probably right

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"wow 5 couples and 3 single ladies messaging me and saying i'm right lol i don't need anyone to tell me i'm right because that goes without saying lol

That's almost half the site....

....ish

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By *aughty monkey31 OP Man
over a year ago

Walsall

Good idea, but how long it take new features to be added to the site we might be waiting a while for that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a different coloured tick for cam veris, say red, would be good so when none are displayed and the summary is hidden, you know if they're all cam or all meets or a mix of the two.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"You can't win! Someone will always say you have too many or not enough!! Half of mine are actually social meets and span 5 years!! but it seems some people still like to have an opinion

5 Years!!!

That's waay too long to be swinging, how terrible regardless of number or type of meets (tongue firmly in cheek).

Got to say our very best experiences have been with experienced swingers with a number of verifications. We've found they gauge the situation well, social adaptable, well rounded and were exactly what we expected and sought when we met. More of these experiences please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can't win! Someone will always say you have too many or not enough!! Half of mine are actually social meets and span 5 years!! but it seems some people still like to have an opinion

Everyone has an opinion. Why wouldn't they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's my lose so be it! But it's also my prerogative.....

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Some folk aren't brave enough to publicly go against the more vocal forumites and would rather offer their support in private. This sometimes gives the misleading impression that the vocal ones are in the majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hell if it was all about the veries id never get a meet ive loads an not ashamed of anyone of them but i have to many to display so i say you dont like you dont have to meet simples but never judge a book by its cover ,

ive been here on site nearly 9 yrs now an to be honest i still have same attitude i had when i first joined

its my profile an i meet who i like when i like its nothing to do with anyone else unless im meeting them

so take the high ground stick up for your veries dont be ashamed of then after all you earned them ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really it isn't,especially if someone has been on for a long time. Quite a few of yours are repeat people anyway aren't they."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people are put off by the amount of vetifications we have then so be it, if they can't diferentiat between our hosting veris and our play veris then ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts. "

It truly amazes me that people rely on the views of total strangers to decide whether they get intimate with another stranger. I can't get my head around that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hell if it was all about the veries id never get a meet ive loads an not ashamed of anyone of them but i have to many to display so i say you dont like you dont have to meet simples but never judge a book by its cover ,

ive been here on site nearly 9 yrs now an to be honest i still have same attitude i had when i first joined

its my profile an i meet who i like when i like its nothing to do with anyone else unless im meeting them

so take the high ground stick up for your veries dont be ashamed of then after all you earned them ,

Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts.

It truly amazes me that people rely on the views of total strangers to decide whether they get intimate with another stranger. I can't get my head around that one.

Does anybody decide on who they are going to get intimate with based on veris? Surely they decide when they actually meet? Experience for us has taught us that verifications and profiles are a very skewed representation of people, it's not till you physically meet someone that you really have any idea what they are like.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A verification is what it is, a VERIFICATION that the person or persons are who they are, but most of the time it's almost like a review of the person, to us it's a bit of a turn off when people use the term " filthy fuckers" etc

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

Good point

Mine make me look a slag ...

(been here 5yrs now )

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts. "
. Completely agree and they seem completely pointless to me . Most of them say the same tthing . I assume you have to ask for them to written..If you had a great evening , why does anyone else need to know . Any information which I require is extracted from a phone call. .

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over a year ago

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts.

It truly amazes me that people rely on the views of total strangers to decide whether they get intimate with another stranger. I can't get my head around that one.

the verification or feedback system as I prefer to call it, was what led me to this site from other sites.

regardless of the content, I build up an idea who is most likely to meet up from these....I cant get my head round why that might not be important to some that play with various people and on a frequent basis.

Lets say for example, yesterday I was chatting via messages with a couple, they have one verify and its been over a year since their last..I will have a cynical outlook on how far the chat will go...in my cock I have the inkling they arent prepared to meet..despite all the chatting up. If i see a familiar verification of a site user it leads me more into believing there is more chance of a meet up.

I dont know how many times I have been stood up..because it has been extremely rare that it has happened..namely because I use the verification system as a part of my selection process..it hasnt failed me in the several years I have been here.

I dont need months of chat to find that special meet etc, I'll happily cut down the timeframe by using the site tools.

and the verification system is one of the main features for pre-selecting, and given the sites increased popularity, it has indeed brought a lot of people with no intention to meet..having at least a few meet verifications statistically will increase a meet to meet ratio compared to the moaning about timewasters and no shows ratio.

It has always been clear to me..I dont think theres much to get ones head around..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been here on site nearly 9 yrs now an to be honest i still have same attitude i had when i first joined

its my profile an i meet who i like when i like its nothing to do with anyone else unless im meeting them

so take the high ground stick up for your veries dont be ashamed of then after all you earned them ,

Love it

why thank you ... i do try lol

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts.

It truly amazes me that people rely on the views of total strangers to decide whether they get intimate with another stranger. I can't get my head around that one.

the verification or feedback system as I prefer to call it, was what led me to this site from other sites.

I dont need months of chat to find that special meet etc, I'll happily cut down the timeframe by using the site tools.

It has always been clear to me..I dont think theres much to get ones head around..

"
. How can verifications be an indication of whether people want to meet . Lots of members will not want other members knowing whom they have met. Why would they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point

Mine make me look a slag ...

(been here 5yrs now )"

How many veri's make someone a slag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts.

It truly amazes me that people rely on the views of total strangers to decide whether they get intimate with another stranger. I can't get my head around that one.

the verification or feedback system as I prefer to call it, was what led me to this site from other sites.

I dont need months of chat to find that special meet etc, I'll happily cut down the timeframe by using the site tools.

It has always been clear to me..I dont think theres much to get ones head around..

I use the biggest tool I have along with a tool most people have. My brain and my phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts.

It truly amazes me that people rely on the views of total strangers to decide whether they get intimate with another stranger. I can't get my head around that one.

the verification or feedback system as I prefer to call it, was what led me to this site from other sites.

I dont need months of chat to find that special meet etc, I'll happily cut down the timeframe by using the site tools.

It has always been clear to me..I dont think theres much to get ones head around..

. How can verifications be an indication of whether people want to meet . Lots of members will not want other members knowing whom they have met. Why would they?"

as I say Pat..this is what works for me..and many others..there is of course the verification summary if people dont want to know who meets who..however that summary can be pretty unclear, as on mine I have met a few men and tv's..but not to have sex with them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point

Mine make me look a slag ...

(been here 5yrs now )

How many veri's make someone a slag?"

24 apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think you have problems....?

Most guys on here are complaining the other way round lol.

Take a look at mine.....it's worse than yours for having lots of verbs.....and mostly no problems.....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts.

It truly amazes me that people rely on the views of total strangers to decide whether they get intimate with another stranger. I can't get my head around that one.

the verification or feedback system as I prefer to call it, was what led me to this site from other sites.

I dont need months of chat to find that special meet etc, I'll happily cut down the timeframe by using the site tools.

It has always been clear to me..I dont think theres much to get ones head around..

I use the biggest tool I have along with a tool most people have. My brain and my phone. "

I dont have time to think..am all action baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verbs lol....fecking auto correct!

If 24 is make you a slag then I'm in deep pooh....I have nearly 10 times that!

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts.

It truly amazes me that people rely on the views of total strangers to decide whether they get intimate with another stranger. I can't get my head around that one.

the verification or feedback system as I prefer to call it, was what led me to this site from other sites.

I dont need months of chat to find that special meet etc, I'll happily cut down the timeframe by using the site tools.

It has always been clear to me..I dont think theres much to get ones head around..

I use the biggest tool I have along with a tool most people have. My brain and my phone. "
. Same here . A well written profile , common sense , and feedback from a phone call are all I need . I don't even bother looking at verifications as they all tend to say the same thing and it becomes really boring reading them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that they are a pain in the arse and you can never please everyone. I, like others have said, prefer to make my own mind up about a person and not go on what a total stranger has said about them. I'm particularly put off by graphic ones and people who are always banging on about how many they have, like it makes them better than others with less. Personally, who I meet and what I may or may not get up to in that meet is no one else's business.

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over a year ago

"Bloody veris are a complete pain in the arse I think.

I would love to see how some would manage if they were taken away and people had to use their own brains in deciding who to meet and not rely on the words of other complete strangers.

Just my thoughts. "

Good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The type of people we meet are genuinely up for fun and most are happy to verify . We love reading veris , and love to give them too .

Those who prefer not to give and receive veris , or choose not to show them exercise their choice to do so , and that's cool .

What isn't cool is the pompous attitude that some have . They seem to sit so high and mighty above those that do like them ., and preach about how they don't need a strangers validation to choose who to meet . Well who said we do ?

We have met many newbies , who had no veri till we met them . We have met people who we didn't know we're on fab till after the meet . And we we have met plenty who joined up after we met them .

So don't think we spend much time checking out veris , we don't . Nor do we choose to block or not meet people based on who they may have met . We see fab as a great place to meet like minded people to have fun with . What the rest of you do is your business and if it works for you , great . But there's really no need to imply you are any more special than anyone else because of how many veris they have , or that they choose to show them . Because your not , and that's all we have to say about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The type of people we meet are genuinely up for fun and most are happy to verify . We love reading veris , and love to give them too .

Those who prefer not to give and receive veris , or choose not to show them exercise their choice to do so , and that's cool .

We have met many newbies , who had no veri till we met them . We have met people who we didn't know we're on fab till after the meet . And we we have met plenty who joined up after we met them .

You couldn't have put it better, happy swinging xxxx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've got quite a few veris. I hid most of them because one of my meets had a guy hassle her along the lines of 'you met him, why not meet me?'.

I've also got one that says I'm a shit shag so I hid that too. I don't want anyone to know that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have no verification and have the same problem !! though I have been on and off site for few years and chat to lots nice people

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