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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend

We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We have never messaged them but yes, we have 1 or 2 that look at us multiple times.

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"We have never messaged them but yes, we have 1 or 2 that look at us multiple times.

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We did because we found it frustrating, they even read the message with no reply, hate to block people

Did anything ever come from it? Xx

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"We have never messaged them but yes, we have 1 or 2 that look at us multiple times.

We did because we found it frustrating, they even read the message with no reply, hate to block people

Did anything ever come from it? Xx"

We tend to block multiple gawpers if they're outside our preferences.

And when we were meeting if we got no reply after sending a message we'd block.

Why do people need to see your profile if you've no intention of ever meeting/speaking to them?

A

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Some people just like to look at the pretty pictures!

I never bother with who has looked at me as most people browse in stealth mode and if they're aren't interested in messaging me then I'm not interested in messaging them.

They're doing no harm so I leave them be.

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"We have never messaged them but yes, we have 1 or 2 that look at us multiple times.

We did because we found it frustrating, they even read the message with no reply, hate to block people

Did anything ever come from it? Xx

We tend to block multiple gawpers if they're outside our preferences.

And when we were meeting if we got no reply after sending a message we'd block.

Why do people need to see your profile if you've no intention of ever meeting/speaking to them?

A"

Totally agree, however we read the other day that there is a limit on how many people you can block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else? "

Ok, risky move putting it out there, please don't hate me, but there are one or two profiles I do this to. Generally I have looked at their profile, liked their pictures and interests but have seen I'm outside their preferences. I don't want to message them as I don't want to fill up their inbox as I'm not what they're looking for. I may fab the odd pic and then every now and again go back to see if they have updated pictures. I probably should do this in stealth from now on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, were someone to message me enquiring why I would reply and not creep them out by remaining silent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our list of those who have looked at us fills and is replaced 2 or 3 times daily . Sometimes we see the same people look up to 10 times an hour !

We don't pay too much heed to it any more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've several folk continually perv the gallery, we think if that's what they wanna do, fair do's...........

We wouldn't bother messaging unless they took the plunge to say hello or wink, just assume they were looking at the pics.

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"Oh, were someone to message me enquiring why I would reply and not creep them out by remaining silent."

Thank you for an honest answer, as you said at least you reply xx

PS Fabbing pics never works, that's why we disabled it xx

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Yes, I do this occasionally with a profile or two.

They're just women or couples I've stumbled across while passing time in the forums. I know I'm absolutely not what they are looking for, so I wouldn't dream of messaging them and know 100% I'll never get one from her or them. I just happen to think the woman and her pics are very nice.

I'd hope they'd see my lack of contact as a sign of respect for their preferences and my looking as just a decent single guy enjoying the female form

I know of stealth mode, but have never really bothered with it.

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"Yes, I do this occasionally with a profile or two.

They're just women or couples I've stumbled across while passing time in the forums. I know I'm absolutely not what they are looking for, so I wouldn't dream of messaging them and know 100% I'll never get one from her or them. I just happen to think the woman and her pics are very nice.

I'd hope they'd see my lack of contact as a sign of respect for their preferences and my looking as just a decent single guy enjoying the female form

I know of stealth mode, but have never really bothered with it."

I'd just chance it mate, that's how we got our first meet

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Our list of those who have looked at us fills and is replaced 2 or 3 times daily . Sometimes we see the same people look up to 10 times an hour !

We don't pay too much heed to it any more "

This is how mine looks as well and I just leave them to it

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"We have never messaged them but yes, we have 1 or 2 that look at us multiple times.

We did because we found it frustrating, they even read the message with no reply, hate to block people

Did anything ever come from it? Xx

We tend to block multiple gawpers if they're outside our preferences.

And when we were meeting if we got no reply after sending a message we'd block.

Why do people need to see your profile if you've no intention of ever meeting/speaking to them?

A

Totally agree, however we read the other day that there is a limit on how many people you can block "

Never heard of a limit!

And our list is huuuuuuuuge and still accepting more!

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else? "

Yes a local couple to me view me 4 or 5 times a week. They are not looking for guys according to their profile. Yet they keep coming back. I can't mail them. They have never mailed me. Odd but hey ho.

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"Our list of those who have looked at us fills and is replaced 2 or 3 times daily . Sometimes we see the same people look up to 10 times an hour !

We don't pay too much heed to it any more

This is how mine looks as well and I just leave them to it "

I think your right xx

Also, while I have you. We get a lot of attention from Scotland, do you get lots from Essex? Xx

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"We have never messaged them but yes, we have 1 or 2 that look at us multiple times.

We did because we found it frustrating, they even read the message with no reply, hate to block people

Did anything ever come from it? Xx

We tend to block multiple gawpers if they're outside our preferences.

And when we were meeting if we got no reply after sending a message we'd block.

Why do people need to see your profile if you've no intention of ever meeting/speaking to them?

A

Totally agree, however we read the other day that there is a limit on how many people you can block

Never heard of a limit!

And our list is huuuuuuuuge and still accepting more!

A"

Amen to that lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we get that lots - maybe they just like perving over the pics, or they are too shy to say hello. I have looked at someone a few times and thought they wouldn't be interested in us so didn't say hi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else?

Ok, risky move putting it out there, please don't hate me, but there are one or two profiles I do this to. Generally I have looked at their profile, liked their pictures and interests but have seen I'm outside their preferences. I don't want to message them as I don't want to fill up their inbox as I'm not what they're looking for. I may fab the odd pic and then every now and again go back to see if they have updated pictures. I probably should do this in stealth from now on....

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Add to your hotlist. Then you'll see when they put new statuses or pics up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else?

Ok, risky move putting it out there, please don't hate me, but there are one or two profiles I do this to. Generally I have looked at their profile, liked their pictures and interests but have seen I'm outside their preferences. I don't want to message them as I don't want to fill up their inbox as I'm not what they're looking for. I may fab the odd pic and then every now and again go back to see if they have updated pictures. I probably should do this in stealth from now on....

"

I do this too. Look and fab a few pics. If I know I am never going to be in with a chance due to preferences I don't message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh, were someone to message me enquiring why I would reply and not creep them out by remaining silent.

Thank you for an honest answer, as you said at least you reply xx

PS Fabbing pics never works, that's why we disabled it xx"

I've had some great fun that started with a little wink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh, were someone to message me enquiring why I would reply and not creep them out by remaining silent.

Thank you for an honest answer, as you said at least you reply xx

PS Fabbing pics never works, that's why we disabled it xx

I've had some great fun that started with a little wink!"

Mine started with a little wank

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"Yes, I do this occasionally with a profile or two.

They're just women or couples I've stumbled across while passing time in the forums. I know I'm absolutely not what they are looking for, so I wouldn't dream of messaging them and know 100% I'll never get one from her or them. I just happen to think the woman and her pics are very nice.

I'd hope they'd see my lack of contact as a sign of respect for their preferences and my looking as just a decent single guy enjoying the female form

I know of stealth mode, but have never really bothered with it.

I'd just chance it mate, that's how we got our first meet "

Cheers

It's a nice thought, but it seems like a massive longshot.

The connections I have made on here have arosen because I've been polite, written decent messages and sent them to people who seem to express some level of interest for neurotic, 40-something Welshmen. Doing what you suggest feels like going against that. Maybe one day though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here i just block as cannot be arsed.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Our list of those who have looked at us fills and is replaced 2 or 3 times daily . Sometimes we see the same people look up to 10 times an hour !

We don't pay too much heed to it any more

This is how mine looks as well and I just leave them to it

I think your right xx

Also, while I have you. We get a lot of attention from Scotland, do you get lots from Essex? Xx"

Oh I don't know I've never paid attention until now, I will have to see if there is any connection but plenty from down south look and I always wonder how they find me or know when I have uploaded new pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else? "

My husband and I both browse fab profiles together and seperately - and I am very forgetful so I repeat my peeks a few times whilst I get organised who is who, what they are into, what they are looking for etc.We browse one week, discuss what kind of experience we would like next, browse again, think about work/life/diaries/logistics etc then send a message to the ones that appeal and look feasible at the time. If the person I had been peeking at ever messaged me I would reply - that is basic politeness. I hope that being peeked over the span of a few weeks does not make others think we are in some way less likely to make good swinging buddies for them than a couple who look once and send message almost immediately? The slow. steady, measured approach works for us I think.

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else?

My husband and I both browse fab profiles together and seperately - and I am very forgetful so I repeat my peeks a few times whilst I get organised who is who, what they are into, what they are looking for etc.We browse one week, discuss what kind of experience we would like next, browse again, think about work/life/diaries/logistics etc then send a message to the ones that appeal and look feasible at the time. If the person I had been peeking at ever messaged me I would reply - that is basic politeness. I hope that being peeked over the span of a few weeks does not make others think we are in some way less likely to make good swinging buddies for them than a couple who look once and send message almost immediately? The slow. steady, measured approach works for us I think. "

Good for you, stick with it if it works xx We message, meet, shag within a day or two xx

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By *leur de lisWoman
over a year ago

Buxton


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else? "

If it bothers you block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had a few who've kept viewing nonstop, it's annoying. So we block

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

We get some that we notice keep having a look, there is one couple from the US that looks at us, we have messaged them a few times to say hello, but then they seem to suddenly forget who we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of dreamers and fakes...just saying

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"We have never messaged them but yes, we have 1 or 2 that look at us multiple times.

We did because we found it frustrating, they even read the message with no reply, hate to block people

Did anything ever come from it? Xx"

No as they have never messaged us either, just looked. If they were interested in chatting or meeting us then they would have got in contact by now. So we assume they're just nosey or forgetful.

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"We have never messaged them but yes, we have 1 or 2 that look at us multiple times.

We did because we found it frustrating, they even read the message with no reply, hate to block people

Did anything ever come from it? Xx

No as they have never messaged us either, just looked. If they were interested in chatting or meeting us then they would have got in contact by now. So we assume they're just nosey or forgetful. "

Guess so. They should message, we reply to everyone and you never know what we'll fancy xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else? "

Yes, I've had that. People who wink and watch. I wait and they don't message. I message and they don't reply. Just like looking, I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it lots too... never mail them though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people might have a look at your profile after reading your posts... I tend to do after reading the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else? "

Same as x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ops Sorry, I've done it again.

I look at peoples pics on their foram posts, click on the profile, then find they dont meet single guys, sorry!

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"Ops Sorry, I've done it again.

I look at peoples pics on their foram posts, click on the profile, then find they dont meet single guys, sorry!"

We do, just not you and that isnt what this is about xx

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

We get that all time even straight guys fabing mr's ass and cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ops Sorry, I've done it again.

I look at peoples pics on their foram posts, click on the profile, then find they dont meet single guys, sorry!

We do, just not you and that isnt what this is about xx "

Thank you for re-wording your response

I now understand, your talking about the multiple watchers.

I just was saying that you cant findout someones preference without looking at their profile, but why keep looking? that must be bloody frustrating to say the least.!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bit of an offender with this usually have a browse through profiles that pop in my news feed then look and remind myself, oh yeah that person is probably not interested, already messaged that person. etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never looked at who is watching us. If it bothered me I would hide our profile.

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"I've never looked at who is watching us. If it bothered me I would hide our profile. "

If you did that you'd have no meets and your friends couldn't see you xx

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By *ovelybumCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells


"Some people just like to look at the pretty pictures!

I never bother with who has looked at me as most people browse in stealth mode and if they're aren't interested in messaging me then I'm not interested in messaging them.

They're doing no harm so I leave them be."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else?

Ok, risky move putting it out there, please don't hate me, but there are one or two profiles I do this to. Generally I have looked at their profile, liked their pictures and interests but have seen I'm outside their preferences. I don't want to message them as I don't want to fill up their inbox as I'm not what they're looking for. I may fab the odd pic and then every now and again go back to see if they have updated pictures. I probably should do this in stealth from now on....

I do this too. Look and fab a few pics. If I know I am never going to be in with a chance due to preferences I don't message. "

Also if the lady is attractive you return to see her updated pictures. There is nothing sinister going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who post in the forums get checked out often. People are just interested to see what they are about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like your pics very sexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who post in the forums get checked out often. People are just interested to see what they are about. "

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else? "

But there is nothing much to see on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get a few people who look at our profile everyday and it doesn't bother us. We put pictures up for people to see and if they are coming back to look at them then at least we know the pictures are ok.

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

If you don't want people looking at your pictures then don't allow them to.

Pretty simple really.

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By *agic wandMan
over a year ago

harrow

Probably smashing one out whilst looking lol

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By *P2903Couple
over a year ago

Rotherham

If someone is funny in the forums it's nice to have a peek and see if they're hot/funny on their profile. Funny is sexy.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We have a few people who look several times a day....I don't message them because if they wanted to chat to me they would. I do however take a little peep at them and if they are unsuitable I may block them. Unverified couples who have been on 6 months or more (I know they are never going to meet anyone)....people who say they don't like fatties but look many times a day ( to save their eyes from the horror ) .....people who I know are mean on the forums or on their status updates.

I leave all the others to it - they don't bother me

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Not bothered by this in the slightest, they can look, all day everyday if they like.

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"We keep getting people who continue to view us several times a day, we wrote to them asking what are they interested in etc, but no reply, just watching, anyone else?

But there is nothing much to see on your profile"

There is if you look carefully and I'm mainly talking the pics x

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By *etzPlay OP   Couple
over a year ago

Southend


"If you don't want people looking at your pictures then don't allow them to.

Pretty simple really.

"

I'm not sure you know how this site works

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By *oon-lightWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Anyone that views profile pics are doing no harm I take it as a compliment! they like what they see x remember everyone on fab have their own kinks some chat, some go to socials and some like to look at profile pics but none want to meet x not everyone is looking for a meet they are happy with observing and chatting that's their turn on x

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