FabSwingers.com forum: The message advice thread

By *rank Einstein OP Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Ok we've seen a million and one profile review threads and it's always the same.

But there's only one way to advise on the messages that are being sent.

So, my idea for this one is a message review thread, post if you're willing to help receive some messages that people send and just reply with a review.

Was it too short?

Did they send the right pictures?

Did they read your profile?

You can block etc after sending your review to stop people using this as a way to try chat you up.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

But that will only help them in what I expect from a first message... and I cannot speak for the entire site.

I'd suggest they read profiles and tailor first messages individually, not just a set prescription...

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By *rank Einstein OP Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I'd suggest they read profiles and tailor first messages individually, not just a set prescription..."

That's the idea.

Just for the thread they message you using whatever style they normally would and you review the message to tell them what they may be doing wrong.

Profile reviews are typically generic and a good profile only does so much, I think the message content is much more important.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'd suggest they read profiles and tailor first messages individually, not just a set prescription...

That's the idea.

Just for the thread they message you using whatever style they normally would and you review the message to tell them what they may be doing wrong.

Profile reviews are typically generic and a good profile only does so much, I think the message content is much more important. "

Yes, I saw the idea, but messaging me and getting my feedback would still just be one viewpoint... and to be honest, would be pointless. So they send a great first message that someone else has advised them what to write... and then subsequent messages are shite because they don't know what to do...? How will this help anyone get meets?

Until the vast majority of first messages actually take into account the wishes of the person they message, and are less fuck now, and more chat, then it will always be a struggle.

I am not on here to tutor others how to run their profile, teach them how to message and how to get meets... I am on here for fun with likeminded people who I am attracted to.

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By *rank Einstein OP Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I am not on here to tutor others how to run their profile, teach them how to message and how to get meets... I am on here for fun with likeminded people who I am attracted to."

I'm not being funny but if you don't want to help people then why post on a thread looking for people who do want to help just to say you don't want to help?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I am not on here to tutor others how to run their profile, teach them how to message and how to get meets... I am on here for fun with likeminded people who I am attracted to.

I'm not being funny but if you don't want to help people then why post on a thread looking for people who do want to help just to say you don't want to help? "

Because I think all too often people expect others to do the work for them... I'm saying why I don't think its a good idea. I could help but the only one it would help them meet would be me - but by the time I help them, I'll have decided I didn't like the first impression and wouldn't want to meet them... see the cycle?

Fab isn't easy for anyone, and I think people should realise its not a quick fix and a magic wand.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Oh, and I am not seeing a massive influx of people jumping up and down to help either, so just pointing out why some folk won't be interested in helping...

But good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like nobody else is offering any help/advice....because as the lady pointed out there is no such thing as an "ideal" first message. It all depends on the person you are sending to.

That requires reading their profile....and from reading forum posts over the lady few years 99.5% of guys don't read profiles. Nor do they take any of the advice offered on here.

There are lots of ways to write shite first messages....but good messages are individual for each member....you cannot coach that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*last few years lol....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my point of view it's the face and torso picture that (hopefully) comes with the message - and the content of their profile - that helps me decide if I want to reply back!

A fantastic and unique message won't make me want to sleep with a man if I don't find him attractive! Sad but true! Ergo I don't demand long messages with bloody code words on my profile - and personally I think those who do are on an ego trip!

One sentence is fine as long as it isn't full of spelling mistakes and doesn't request an immediate meet/a fuck!

Let's give single guys a break. It's tough enough without expecting them to spend ages on a message that may well be ignored anyway!

IMHO - there should be a standard fab introductory message that we all send with our face pics added to people they're interested - and a standard yes please/no thankyou message we send in return. Conversation is then initiated when both parties are actually interested/find each other attractive - and only THEN can a friend request be sent by either party!

This would save single guys - and perhaps some couples and women - hours of frustration when 'unique' messages are regularly ignored!! Xxx

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"IMHO - there should be a standard fab introductory message that we all send with our face pics added to people they're interested - and a standard yes please/no thankyou message we send in return. Conversation is then initiated when both parties are actually interested/find each other attractive - and only THEN can a friend request be sent by either party!

I can't see that working - besides... is fancy a fuck not the standard message accompanied by 17 cock shots from every angle from soft to cum covered?

I prefer to see what someone thinks makes a good introduction - same as I like to see what they think matters on a profile.

Its not about meeting everyone and anyone - its about finding like minded people for me, and the more standardised we make it, the less chance there is of that happening.

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By *rank Einstein OP Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Ok I concede defeat, I thought it would be a good place for newbies to get some help but you're right I didn't really think it through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see that working - besides... is fancy a fuck not the standard message accompanied by 17 cock shots from every angle from soft to cum covered?

I prefer to see what someone thinks makes a good introduction - same as I like to see what they think matters on a profile.

Its not about meeting everyone and anyone - its about finding like minded people for me, and the more standardised we make it, the less chance there is of that happening."

I see your point Ladybee - but in my opinion the content of someone's profile - along with the type of picture they choose to display - is enough to tell me all I need to know about that person - and whether we'd 'click' or not - if the profile has been used as a 'self advertising board' as it should be!

My profile tells people enough about me to help them decide whether they'd like to meet me - and if their profile does the same then there's no need for a tailored message.

This is obviously just my opinion though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP, do you really think any woman finds attractive the fact that "you need your cock milking tonight"

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By *rank Einstein OP Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"To the OP, do you really think any woman finds attractive the fact that "you need your cock milking tonight"

I don't really care if they do. contrary to popular belief we're not all super horny guys chasing meets 24/7, in fact a lot of us aren't.

It's a joke shared with another well known forum user

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not on here to tutor others how to run their profile, teach them how to message and how to get meets... I am on here for fun with likeminded people who I am attracted to."

This i agree on.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"To the OP, do you really think any woman finds attractive the fact that "you need your cock milking tonight"

Quite a few guys have this style of update due to a 'doffing hat' attitude (I've been to 1858 btw) to another fab user who will remain nameless*.

Anyway, one of the filters that people use is a first message. Although some people might have genuine difficulty in putting words in their head onto a screen, most are too lazy to even try and so one of my first filters is a good first message. *it was shagtonight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To the OP, do you really think any woman finds attractive the fact that "you need your cock milking tonight"

I don't really care if they do. contrary to popular belief we're not all super horny guys chasing meets 24/7, in fact a lot of us aren't.

It's a joke shared with another well known forum user "

Speaking of which ok'd shag has been a bit quiet for a day or two....wonder if he got a 48hr time out?

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By *rank Einstein OP Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"To the OP, do you really think any woman finds attractive the fact that "you need your cock milking tonight"

I don't really care if they do. contrary to popular belief we're not all super horny guys chasing meets 24/7, in fact a lot of us aren't.

It's a joke shared with another well known forum user

Speaking of which ok'd shag has been a bit quiet for a day or two....wonder if he got a 48hr time out?"

Can't imagine what he'd do to get one, he's never abusive and doesn't post links

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read the profile and,if you fit the bill, any reasonable message stands a chance of illiciting a response, but don't take it to heart if it doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it was a fantastic idea. And I think people should decide if they want to contribute or not. The negative responses on here so far will have possibly put some people off who may have contributed. I appreciate each person is an individual but I believe the idea was a guide and nothing more. Writing a good profile that will appeal is no easy feet nor is getting the opening message right. We are not all wordsmiths. It might have been a futile exercise after all but it's certain now. Shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its a bad plan, same as if I tell you how to write the perfect profile, it would no longer be your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should i give advice when

im not a consultant

I have no desire to help them

Why

If they cant write a profile about themselves i wont be meeting them, its a great filter

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