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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What does a guy have to do to get some chat on here. Sent loads of nice, decent messages and not a word in return. Becoming disillusioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty I wouldn't even open a message from you. Name and profile picture are enough to know that it'd be pointless

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By *rs TootyWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"In all honesty I wouldn't even open a message from you. Name and profile picture are enough to know that it'd be pointless"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In all honesty I wouldn't even open a message from you. Name and profile picture are enough to know that it'd be pointless"

So you think maybe a profile pic change would be a good idea?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is this picture any better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty I wouldn't even open a message from you. Name and profile picture are enough to know that it'd be pointless

So you think maybe a profile pic change would be a good idea? "

That is for you to decide.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In all honesty I wouldn't even open a message from you. Name and profile picture are enough to know that it'd be pointless

So you think maybe a profile pic change would be a good idea?

That is for you to decide. "

Is the new pic better as a profile pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no instant fix. Or no best way. Sell yourself as you think best. My opinion is just that and while some will share it others won't

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is no instant fix. Or no best way. Sell yourself as you think best. My opinion is just that and while some will share it others won't"

I agree with your no quick fix statement. I've tried to sell myself as well as shorter nice "I like the sound of your profile and would like a chat" type messages but to no avail. I know I can't be everyones cuppa tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pool of men from which the women of fab have to choose is overflowing so look at your own profile objectively and ask yourself 'would I meet me?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try doing a forum search for the numerous threads on the subject.

Such threads now reside in the Introductions section along with those asking for profile advice.

See what advice has been given to others and how it might apply to you.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We get a lot of messages saying 'love your profile' but they obviously have not read it ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We get a lot of messages saying 'love your profile' but they obviously have not read it ...."

I always read the profile and base my opening conversation on what the profile states

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could try doing a forum search for the numerous threads on the subject.

Such threads now reside in the Introductions section along with those asking for profile advice.

See what advice has been given to others and how it might apply to you.

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Lol. I've seen you post this a million times. You must be sick of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your current profile pic is like one of those adverts where you spend the whole time wondering "what the fuck is this advertising?" Think about it... if you saw your own profile pic would you want to shag that person? At this point it's more of an advert for getting better lighting or a new door or something. Good luck... looks like you might need it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your current profile pic is like one of those adverts where you spend the whole time wondering "what the fuck is this advertising?" Think about it... if you saw your own profile pic would you want to shag that person? At this point it's more of an advert for getting better lighting or a new door or something. Good luck... looks like you might need it "

No, as my profile pic is a guy lol

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By *rSwaggerMan
over a year ago

Northants

The fact you advertise kik could show your just a chatter not a player..

All your pictures are cock related.. show your style more to women who like to see a well dressed well presented man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fact you advertise kik could show your just a chatter not a player..

All your pictures are cock related.. show your style more to women who like to see a well dressed well presented man "

I've got pics like that set to friends or private. Don't want to be showing my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty I wouldn't even open a message from you. Name and profile picture are enough to know that it'd be pointless"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact you advertise kik could show your just a chatter not a player..

All your pictures are cock related.. show your style more to women who like to see a well dressed well presented man "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact you advertise kik could show your just a chatter not a player..

All your pictures are cock related.. show your style more to women who like to see a well dressed well presented man

I've got pics like that set to friends or private. Don't want to be showing my face"

So you only have a face and a cock? Nothing inbetween?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your current profile pic is like one of those adverts where you spend the whole time wondering "what the fuck is this advertising?" Think about it... if you saw your own profile pic would you want to shag that person? At this point it's more of an advert for getting better lighting or a new door or something. Good luck... looks like you might need it

No, as my profile pic is a guy lol"

Now it is. Before it was an advert for Interior Design Weekly lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your current profile pic is like one of those adverts where you spend the whole time wondering "what the fuck is this advertising?" Think about it... if you saw your own profile pic would you want to shag that person? At this point it's more of an advert for getting better lighting or a new door or something. Good luck... looks like you might need it

No, as my profile pic is a guy lol

Lol, fair play

Now it is. Before it was an advert for Interior Design Weekly lol "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fact you advertise kik could show your just a chatter not a player..

All your pictures are cock related.. show your style more to women who like to see a well dressed well presented man

I've got pics like that set to friends or private. Don't want to be showing my face

So you only have a face and a cock? Nothing inbetween? "

I'll send you a couple and you can tell me what you think if you're ok with that?

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Do you send a face pic with first message so ladies know who they are going to 'chat' with? If not, 99% will delete if all they can see is a cock!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose you need to be you and if things aren't going well you might want to consider more about who you are - as opposed to a mere image you want to broadcast.

Personally I like to see a face so I can see someone's eyes, it's important to me. I also try to understand their body language, how they stand, what feelings their body projects or tries to hide. Confidence or insecurity can sometimes be seen in how someone holds themselves.

Can this be reading tea leaves or projection? Yes, but cultivating your feelings and understanding who you are first might help your end of this interaction. It's action and response - two way communication.

Good luck

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By *ou212Woman
over a year ago

Egremont

For me personally I would not message you as I hate cock pictures so not only is your profile picture a turn off but also your public pictures. Also all of your verifications on show is a no go for me as you have a fair few. You only need to show a couple to show you are not a fake and time waster. Then if you get chatting to somebody and they want to see more of your veris then that's fair enough. In my opinion to show that many you are trying to boast about it and that is an instant turn off too. That's only my personal opinion though.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

We always answer all of our messages

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