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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My partner is a good man we have a great sex life never a problem at home he just can't seem to get a erection when we go out to clubs or meet people any advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite possible just nerves can you not try meeting at yours to see if thats the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like nerves to me, start slower like seeing if he can get hard in risky places like outside or in front of just 1 other person etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Will try thanx for advice we been swinging about a year with a couple but he dosent seem to get hard he dose as soon as we home xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Super drug on line do viagra, may be worth a go ????

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By *andbCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Has he been checked out for ED (Erectile Dysfunction) its quite a common issue although not readily discussed. His GP will be able to arrange tests etc Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with other comments it may be nerves, stress or anxiety issues. Hope this helps

http://www.m.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/guide/sexual-performance-anxiety-causes-treatments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pressure to perform does weird things to a lot of guys. Hard to do in reality but he probably just need to relax. Failing that, is being at the club the issue? Try a home or hotel meet too and see if the same happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If ordered some herbal Viagra for him hope that helps xx

Thanx for all your advice will show him when gets home?

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"If ordered some herbal Viagra for him hope that helps xx

Thanx for all your advice will show him when gets home?"

I have problems in clubs too and I've had lots of threesome's where the other guy has struggled so it's quite a common problem. It's due to nerves and anxiety. I take herbal erectile dysfunction medication and whether it's the herbs or psychological i don't know but it works for me. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanx hope they will help him get over this little hicup xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has he been checked out for ED (Erectile Dysfunction) its quite a common issue although not readily discussed. His GP will be able to arrange tests etc Hope this helps"

The OP said it works at home so he should`nt really be suffering that.

For the record when I asked my Doctor about it she said "do you get the moring horn" I answered its the hardest i get all day, she said you are fine as far as ED goes as thats the first thing they test you on. There must be other reasons like people are saying, anxiety ect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doubt it's anything as serious as "erectile dysfunction". It'll be purely down to performance anxiety in public, frankly I'm a little surprised more guys don't suffer this (especially as very few of us are satisfied with our bodies). It can lead to anxiety especially with people we don't know and don't trust. Obviously when the trust level is there, the problem may well dissipate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My partner is a good man we have a great sex life never a problem at home he just can't seem to get a erection when we go out to clubs or meet people any advice?"

Dr's for some blue pills?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont worry about it.

Happened quite abit to my hubby when we first got into swinging/clubs.

Said he really felt aroused, but brain and willy not really connecting!

So got some help online via Superdrug and voila! Fun was had by everyone!

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A friend of mine used pharmacy2u online from Leeds and apparently they did what they said on the label. Apparently you have to complete a questionnaire for a Dr to review....

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

it will just be a case of stage fright, if he trys not to worry about it and maybe uses an online remedy as suggested on here, it could pass over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it might be the use of condoms in clubs or with other couples. Some guys have a problem staying hard using them. Try having sex with condoms together and also have him practice jerking off with condoms also. That might help.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"My partner is a good man we have a great sex life never a problem at home he just can't seem to get a erection when we go out to clubs or meet people any advice?"

Could be simply he is thinking more about you than about himself when you (as a couple) meet at clubs or with others.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I would definitely say it's part of the stress of the situation and the performance anxiety.

I've been dealing with my own anxiety for a while which had the effect of making it very hard to get very hard. Going into sex, I'd be thinking about how tough it was going to be, which made it even worse. I actually found taking some stress relief pills like Kalms really helped. Up until that point, I would focus more on giving oral or using toys on my lady. I actually got a lot of mental pleasure out of this, almost feeling like I was being used as a servant and it really took the pressure off me to perform.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Consider also a ban on him having fun in the clubs. He could remain with you and even have a private wank, if aroused. Removing the demand/goal for him to perform may help him enough to relax and get turned on seeing you play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you try Viagra or whatever and dont get results dont worry. ED drugs work differently in different people.

Cialis is also great and can work where Viagra doesnt. Forget the time scales too. Some say half an hour yet some people dont feel it until the next day. We're all different and our bodies work at different speeds Experiment and find what works for you.

Most of all relax and dont put him or let him put himself under any pressure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you every one for your help we going to try a lot the things we said to see if helps us xx

Happy playing everyone xx

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