FabSwingers.com forum: Party

By *elle and James OP Couple
over a year ago

Hornchurch

Hi guys - we're quite keen to host our first party, probably 4F, 8M or thereabouts. We keep reading the horror stories about no shows and thumb twiddling (no euphemism

) and hence wondered if any experienced hosts could offer us a few tips.

Thanks

B&J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always invite double the guys you want to come.......bound to be no shows, women are more reliable. Although saying that, last event I did, 3/4 turned up lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That meant 3 quarters of them

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By *elle and James OP Couple
over a year ago

Hornchurch

Thanks honey - do you think there's any advantage/disadvantage to seeking all singles or, say finding couples and topping up with a few extra guys? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be worth speaking on the phone or webcam with all those who express an interest. This tends to out the fantasists and helps establish a connection with genuine people. It can also help to make sure that the chemistry is right with the hosts.

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By *ilk n SteelCouple
over a year ago

Croydon

We have been to several now. Never actually hosted a party but had a few established friends over, 3 couples, 4 couples.

We would say invite couples, don't try matching up random singles.

Not to say singles nights at clubs or for experienced hosts are not good, because feedback tells us they are. But for first time new hosts select some reliable couples, you can so this by message on here, make sure you add them as friends, invite them well in advance, and double check the week of the party that they are still attending.

We have been to a few parties where it has been the hosts first time. One in particular just didn't work so they never had another. One went really well and became a regular monthly event with more people attending each time. One ended up as nothing more than a social, great hosts, great party, but they invited the wrong people and too many newbies so no play started.

One person we heard if later tries to arrange it with singles. None of the women showed so they ended up with one other couple and a house full of single men. The lady from the other couple freaked as she thought it was going to turn into a gang bang and left as soon as she could.

So, start small, work your way up, have fun!

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We only invite couples. Have heard of those parties with lots of men and a few women, but not been to one fortunately. A single female friend of ours was getting a drink in the kitchen at one like that when the host appeared and rudely told her to get back to the bedrooms because men were waiting! She left straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to a few very successful ones, with just singles, make sure they are verified and have attended parties before, with a couple of newbies thrown in.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

We are hosting our first party at the end of the month. We have decided to only invite couples. We hope it goes well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to go to a party where there were 4F & 8M!

Then 7 of the 8M don't turn up & it's all on me to pick up the slack...i can even do accents if the ladies like just to keep it realistic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys - we're quite keen to host our first party, probably 4F, 8M or thereabouts. We keep reading the horror stories about no shows and thumb twiddling (no euphemism

) and hence wondered if any experienced hosts could offer us a few tips.

Thanks

B&J"

Out last party we had around 35-40 people attend. Mainly couples a few fems and males. We had a number of invites from single men and even when invited no showed. Out of the 9 we invited 3 turned up lol x

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Out of curiosity, would you tell everyone who's attending beforehand? As there could be issues between some people that you're unaware of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of curiosity, would you tell everyone who's attending beforehand? As there could be issues between some people that you're unaware of "

I did encounter this too, good idea to put up guest list on your profile......then you will feed back, if someone's not happy lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of curiosity, would you tell everyone who's attending beforehand? As there could be issues between some people that you're unaware of

I did encounter this too, good idea to put up guest list on your profile......then you will feed back, if someone's not happy lol.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Well, you wouldn't know who was attending a club beforehand, so I don't see why a party would be any different.

But, y'know... drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, you wouldn't know who was attending a club beforehand, so I don't see why a party would be any different.

But, y'know... drama."

It just is, a club, anyone can attend, so you take your chances, but a party is invite only. More personal.

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By *anetandNickCouple
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

For couples, where you have spoken to both of them on the phone, they will always turn up (barring very occasional upsets such as babysitter crisis).

Single guys, alas, are getting worse and worse. We had one party recently where over 50 were invited and 8 showed up. Almost all just didn't show with no apology. If you want a lot of guys, it's often better to make friends with one of the gangbang organisers (there are several on here), and leave the problem to them.

On the other hand, TVs are almost always reliable - one of the many reasons we love them so much!

Janet

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By *o_added_sugarWoman
over a year ago

A club not so many miles away

"Well, you wouldn't know who was attending a club beforehand, so I don't see why a party would be any different.

But, y'know... drama.

It just is, a club, anyone can attend, so you take your chances, but a party is invite only. More personal. "

Agreed. I attend clubs regularly and it doesn't bother me who's attending as the establishments are usually big enough to have several of us greedy girls in there at any one time. A party however, I do like to see who's attending. whether the ladies are bi or not for instance or I'm the fastest one there. I need to feel comfortable at a party as it is very personal compared to clubs. Only size 12 straight girls attending; I won't be getting my kit off!!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Well, you wouldn't know who was attending a club beforehand, so I don't see why a party would be any different.

But, y'know... drama.

It just is, a club, anyone can attend, so you take your chances, but a party is invite only. More personal.

Very helpful, thank you

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

Went to a party with my bf early on in our relationship and it was a total disaster. The couple who invited us obviously only wanted him and made that clear, the hostess was d*unk and kept trying to touch me up because I am bi. She was not my type at all, and much too full on. I had told the host previously that more often than not I don't play until I get to know people and I would be treating it as a social, but was made to feel awkward and pressured. Some of the guests there were really rude and it was very cliquey. There was a massive pressure to play. I hated it and the evening ended with one of the guests asking me if I was a prostitute.... needless to say we left in a hurry. The whole situation brought myself and my bf closer, and helped us realise we are only going to go somewhere where we both want to go when we are together. I attend clubs, much less pressure and bigger parties now, mainly at one venue, always intend to socialise and play is a bonus. I would just say be very careful about expectations a d your own agenda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost my faith in these. Where I have been invited as a single male. When I go to there location straight away I have to pay £70 or £50, I am like wtf is it not a swingers party and I walk away with my time wasted. To me it was very deceiving as they say condoms cost money etc I was like well I brought my own. There is a lot of so called gangbang parties on here where they ask for emails to pass ob details and from what I have seen there escorts. Sorry don't do prostitution! But they have been seen to by admin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any partys in the midlands I would be interested. Esp to meet like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do guys not turn up when they have said yes? Whats the main reason? Just other things on?

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

Perhaps performance anxiety?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, I see, yes, I can understand it might feel pressured esp the first time or if your actually not really much into the people you have said yes too or feel maybe your doing something wrong..

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