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"Hi, been here a while now and dont understand some people, they msg you then dont get back to u, or you msg them and they dnt evan send a reply, a reply would be nice atleast you no then" It can be disheartening but as a general rule if somebody doesn't respond to our message within a week we take it as a no. We also have a line in our profile that asks people to take no reply as a polite no thank you.  | |||
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"Hi, been here a while now and dont understand some people, they msg you then dont get back to u, or you msg them and they dnt evan send a reply, a reply would be nice atleast you no then" Well you look very nice! ok profile,just unlucky I guess  | |||
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" It can be disheartening but as a general rule if somebody doesn't respond to our message within a week we take it as a no. We also have a line in our profile that asks people to take no reply as a polite no thank you. "A week?! That's a bit quick, I leave it a year, then send a follow up   | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!  "Because they might have liked what they saw to begin with then they changed their minds. Simples. Why get so wound up about it. It's trivial. | |||
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"Thats right, atleast people know then, but what annoys me is when they msg you, and wink so you reply then nothing!" We have had this too - just have to shake it off, their loss - We certainly wouldn't ignore you, you're yummy | |||
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" It can be disheartening but as a general rule if somebody doesn't respond to our message within a week we take it as a no. We also have a line in our profile that asks people to take no reply as a polite no thank you.
A week?! That's a bit quick, I leave it a year, then send a follow up "??? I thought you simply supposed to 1000s of messages to 1 person until they respond and if they block you just another profile that's what some guy keeps doing to me haha | |||
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" It can be disheartening but as a general rule if somebody doesn't respond to our message within a week we take it as a no. We also have a line in our profile that asks people to take no reply as a polite no thank you.
A week?! That's a bit quick, I leave it a year, then send a follow up
??? I thought you simply supposed to 1000s of messages to 1 person until they respond and if they block you just another profile that's what some guy keeps doing to me haha "P. S that's not what I actually do | |||
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" It can be disheartening but as a general rule if somebody doesn't respond to our message within a week we take it as a no. We also have a line in our profile that asks people to take no reply as a polite no thank you.
A week?! That's a bit quick, I leave it a year, then send a follow up
??? I thought you simply supposed to 1000s of messages to 1 person until they respond and if they block you just another profile that's what some guy keeps doing to me haha
P. S that's not what I actually do "Course it's not  | |||
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"Thats right, atleast people know then, but what annoys me is when they msg you, and wink so you reply then nothing! We have had this too - just have to shake it off, their loss - We certainly wouldn't ignore you, you're yummy "I love the.. their loss. Doubt they think that otherwise they would of replyed lol | |||
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" It can be disheartening but as a general rule if somebody doesn't respond to our message within a week we take it as a no. We also have a line in our profile that asks people to take no reply as a polite no thank you.
A week?! That's a bit quick, I leave it a year, then send a follow up "we're just so impulsive | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place! "No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?" we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence  .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?"
we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along "Save us a bit  | |||
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"I've had many a meet from that dont reply in the first case...sometimes its all about timing..unless they really say NO thanks... I've ended up meeting people in parties etc that never replied to messages, and then after meeting they have.. sometimes, people even miss a message" Too true!! | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?"
we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along
Save us a bit "ok but you'll have to hurry I'll give the cake forks a polish | |||
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"Thats right, atleast people know then, but what annoys me is when they msg you, and wink so you reply then nothing! We have had this too - just have to shake it off, their loss - We certainly wouldn't ignore you, you're yummy
I love the.. their loss. Doubt they think that otherwise they would of replyed lol"Very true - didn't think of that doh! Think will keep gob shut in future | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?"
we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along
Save us a bit
ok but you'll have to hurry I'll give the cake forks a polish "And coffee ? please | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?"
we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along
Save us a bit
ok but you'll have to hurry I'll give the cake forks a polish
And coffee ? please "so that's six of us so far. I'll get the 8 cup cafetiere out and grind some more beans.  | |||
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"Did someone say cake?????????" I am oft to be heard whispering that word | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?"
we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along
Save us a bit
ok but you'll have to hurry I'll give the cake forks a polish
And coffee ? please
so that's six of us so far. I'll get the 8 cup cafetiere out and grind some more beans. "Shall we bring something ...spare batteries toys ...upps I (f) mean coffee and more cake | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?"
we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along
Save us a bit
ok but you'll have to hurry I'll give the cake forks a polish
And coffee ? please
so that's six of us so far. I'll get the 8 cup cafetiere out and grind some more beans.
Shall we bring something ...spare batteries toys ...upps I (f) mean coffee and more cake "I have cake and coffee, spare batteries are never wasted | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?"
we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along
Save us a bit
ok but you'll have to hurry I'll give the cake forks a polish
And coffee ? please
so that's six of us so far. I'll get the 8 cup cafetiere out and grind some more beans.
Shall we bring something ...spare batteries toys ...upps I (f) mean coffee and more cake
I have cake and coffee, spare batteries are never wasted "Okay two multi packs of AAA batteries are in hand bag When does the "coffee party" start  | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?"
we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along
Save us a bit
ok but you'll have to hurry I'll give the cake forks a polish
And coffee ? please
so that's six of us so far. I'll get the 8 cup cafetiere out and grind some more beans.
Shall we bring something ...spare batteries toys ...upps I (f) mean coffee and more cake
I have cake and coffee, spare batteries are never wasted
Okay two multi packs of AAA batteries are in hand bag When does the "coffee party" start "as soon as the first beans are ground | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?"
we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along
Save us a bit
ok but you'll have to hurry I'll give the cake forks a polish
And coffee ? please
so that's six of us so far. I'll get the 8 cup cafetiere out and grind some more beans.
Shall we bring something ...spare batteries toys ...upps I (f) mean coffee and more cake
I have cake and coffee, spare batteries are never wasted
Okay two multi packs of AAA batteries are in hand bag When does the "coffee party" start
as soon as the first beans are ground "Sends multi invite to all on this thread Do we need to bring anything else ?? Have a cupids couch | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
No idea but it happens to us a fair bit. They (often couples not just single men)message saying "blah blah, nice profile, blah, stunning, rhubarb, rhubarb, meet?"
we respond in a similar vein only to be met with radio silence .
I just take another large slice of Victoria sponge and move along
Save us a bit
ok but you'll have to hurry I'll give the cake forks a polish
And coffee ? please
so that's six of us so far. I'll get the 8 cup cafetiere out and grind some more beans.
Shall we bring something ...spare batteries toys ...upps I (f) mean coffee and more cake
I have cake and coffee, spare batteries are never wasted
Okay two multi packs of AAA batteries are in hand bag When does the "coffee party" start
as soon as the first beans are ground
Sends multi invite to all on this thread Do we need to bring anything else ?? Have a cupids couch"we have plenty of BDSM equipment but anything to add would be nice and if more than about 60 are going to turn up maybe a marquee  | |||
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"Hi, been here a while now and dont understand some people, they msg you then dont get back to u, or you msg them and they dnt evan send a reply, a reply would be nice atleast you no then" i myself respond to every message that is sent no matter how long it takes even if it's just a not my type, manners cost jack shit at the end of the day | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned." Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears......... | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned. Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears........." Eastbourne will NEVER run out of cake | |||
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"Thats right, atleast people know then, but what annoys me is when they msg you, and wink so you reply then nothing!" Depends on your timing say they message you 8pm. You see it at day 9pm but they're already of line and you reply now they don't come back online till say 9am between your message arriving in their inbox and them checking it dozens of other messages could have landed and because fabs for some unknown reason doesn't let you scroll through your messages means that unless they choose to read or individual delete all the messages after yours till it comes back to the front page your message is now hidden and gone in till they do thier next bulk delete. | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
Because they might have liked what they saw to begin with then they changed their minds. Simples.
Why get so wound up about it. It's trivial."Maybe they messaged because they thought they'd be interested - and then something in your response changed their mind? At the point they got in touch all they had to go on was your profile. Your response may have altered their opinion and made them decide they're no longer interested - at which point they decided not to engage in conversation anymore. An initial message is just that. It doesn't guarantee ongoing conversation and not everyone will let you know they've changed their mind. Move on to the next contact. A | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned. Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears........." I left ages ago. Went to the land of cake. Not saying where it is coz it's all mine. | |||
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"So why msg me in the first place!
Because they might have liked what they saw to begin with then they changed their minds. Simples.
Why get so wound up about it. It's trivial.
Maybe they messaged because they thought they'd be interested - and then something in your response changed their mind?
At the point they got in touch all they had to go on was your profile.
Your response may have altered their opinion and made them decide they're no longer interested - at which point they decided not to engage in conversation anymore.
An initial message is just that. It doesn't guarantee ongoing conversation and not everyone will let you know they've changed their mind.
Move on to the next contact.
A"or the husband was secretly bi and then deleted the messages  | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned. Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears......... I left ages ago. Went to the land of cake. Not saying where it is coz it's all mine." What, not even any crumbs, boo hoo  | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned. Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears......... I left ages ago. Went to the land of cake. Not saying where it is coz it's all mine. What, not even any crumbs, boo hoo "I will enquire if there is a land of crumbs. I'm sure there is, possibly it has sprinkles too. | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned. Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears......... Eastbourne will NEVER run out of cake " no one around at 2am..we arrived with the batteries | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned. Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears......... Eastbourne will NEVER run out of cake
no one around at 2am..we arrived with the batteries"We were all in the marquee with cake | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned. Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears......... Eastbourne will NEVER run out of cake
no one around at 2am..we arrived with the batteries
We were all in the marquee with cake "Oh you mean that big 300 persons marque with the 4 hot tubs ... Sighs the guys at gates didn't let us in... said we hadn't enough batteries | |||
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"Hi, been here a while now and dont understand some people, they msg you then dont get back to u, or you msg them and they dnt evan send a reply, a reply would be nice atleast you no then" We always answer any messages that we receive...if someone has made the effort to write to us, the least we can do is acknowledge that. | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned. Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears......... Eastbourne will NEVER run out of cake
no one around at 2am..we arrived with the batteries
We were all in the marquee with cake
Oh you mean that big 300 persons marque with the 4 hot tubs ... Sighs the guys at gates didn't let us in... said we hadn't enough batteries" | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned. Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears......... Eastbourne will NEVER run out of cake "Good to hear. Is Eastbourne the cake capital of the UK? | |||
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"Mention cake on your profile, i lost track of this topic after seeing it mentioned. Thread? Topic? Discussion? Apologies, I'm still trying to get to Eastbourne before all the cake dissapears......... Eastbourne will NEVER run out of cake
Good to hear.
Is Eastbourne the cake capital of the UK? "Yes because all the pensioners can eat it without their teeth in . It's not known as God's waiting room for nothing. | |||
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" It can be disheartening but as a general rule if somebody doesn't respond to our message within a week we take it as a no. We also have a line in our profile that asks people to take no reply as a polite no thank you.
A week?! That's a bit quick, I leave it a year, then send a follow up "Lol still waiting for your reply | |||
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"Hi, been here a while now and dont understand some people, they msg you then dont get back to u, or you msg them and they dnt evan send a reply, a reply would be nice atleast you no then i myself respond to every message that is sent no matter how long it takes even if it's just a not my type, manners cost jack shit at the end of the day" Some people actually have a life!  | |||
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