FabSwingers.com forum: i don't get it

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been onthis site in different profiles for over a year and have tried contacting people.

I have tried naughty,cheeky,polite,short and long messages. I have met people from online before just never this site so i am asking as a "newbie" arethere hint and tips do i aproach this the wrong way. I guess im seeking advice from others

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You have hardly anything written on your profile and what is written is mostly in one long sentence. The only picture you have on display is a cock picture.

Try completly changing your profile, make it longer and add punctuation, tell the person a bit about yourself and what your looking for. Take the cock picture of.

That is just my advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of info might have something to do with it,there is nothing about you on your profile,what you are into likes dislikes ect.. You say on your profile "as i learn more i will update" If you have had several profile over a year then surely after seeing others profiles it would give you an idea what to put on your profile?

Also,everyone knows what a cock looks like no maybe a body shot might be more appealing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed. I'd want to know more about you so expand your profile more and get rid of the cock pic!! Us ladies all know what one looks like thanks yawn.

The profiles i find most interesting are the refreshingly honest ones. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i have done some work hopefully going in right directiom pic gone and working on some to upload

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank you for those that commented x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

beggs the question why have you kept changing your profile, stick with it and take the above advice im sure it will happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I right in thinking the "Cannot accomodate" bit puts a lot of women off?

Makes it sound like you're playing away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I right in thinking the "Cannot accomodate" bit puts a lot of women off?

Makes it sound like you're playing away..."

Thats a good point, whilst it might not put women off because it looks like he's cheating, it certainly limits his market because many women aren't comfortable inviting people into their homes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uploading a profile pic is probably the biggest improvement you can make. Other pics should be loaded, as you can see from my profile a variety of body shots are in the public gallery, with face shots and the odd shot with my good mate sneaking in in the private one.

However the profile pic (at least the existance of one) is the most important, as it's the first one a prospective meet sees as soon as you message them. Many people just see the silouette and chuck the message straight in the bin, as they get a lot of messages and use this detail as a filter to save time. Even if it's just a shot of your backside you chances would be improved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big improvement on your profile and glad the cock shot has gone.

Just need a face or body pic,or both would be better.

Good luck

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"thank you for those that commented x "

same advice I give to everyone...

Time, patience, common sense....

the site gives you all the tools to make it work... you have to work out how to make it work for you... no one can help that but you!

your profile is your show window... fill it up with "stock phrases" which sound good but say nothing and people will walk on by....

make people say "wow, I have to meet that person".... only you can work that bit out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always with Fabio on what he advises re single guys, you get out of it what your willing to put into it.

Profiles are like shop windows, you display what you have to offer, the shop windows that look the most appealing get the most attention.

Others are right about the "could be in a relationship" it does put a lot of people off so either be upfront about it because some people are seeking those in relationships and some are not.

Although your accommodating situation is nobody's business the real world shows that your looking to meet people and to do that you have to be a bit open in the lifestyle, if you live with family/students/friends say so, if you live in shared accommodation like barracks say so, this will go a long way to explaining why you can't accommodate and stop people "jumping to conclusions".

Travel, great but how far and when, daytimes, evenings, any distance ? all this is relevant and will help people decide if you are for them.

I always think it is a good idea to put yourself in the shoes of those you want to meet and think what it is that you would want to see in a profile, what you would like to know about them.

Then it's about reading and respecting other people's profiles and having patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been onthis site in different profiles for over a year and have tried contacting people.

Send good pictures as it helps

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