FabSwingers.com forum: being contacted by fakes...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i tend to get messages daily from fakes and they are easy to spot:

no face pics on the profiles.

If a couple only the lady has pictures, none of them both together

THe profile has not been verified genuine by the site.

no verifications from other members, or if just one, it is not on display

so probably self written using a dummy profile set up for that purpose

and they never want to go on webcam or their cam does not work.

They usually use profiles of white women asking to see black men only and into size. and they are far too open about their sex lives and keep asking quesitons about size and wanting to see pics or you go on cam to show them

So i ask them to take a selfie of them holding a fork if they say no they cant do that they are a fake, and they then block me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have public face pictures and im not fake

but I do agree with you,and I always ask to see a picture of holding a toothbrush

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Ask to speak on the phone. That saves a good deal of time and confirms status early on.

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Sadly fakes are part and parcel of fab x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i tend to get messages daily from fakes and they are easy to spot:

no face pics on the profiles.

If a couple only the lady has pictures, none of them both together

THe profile has not been verified genuine by the site.

no verifications from other members, or if just one, it is not on display

so probably self written using a dummy profile set up for that purpose

and they never want to go on webcam or their cam does not work.

So i ask them to take a selfie of them holding a fork if they say no they cant do that they are a fake, and they then block me!

I don't have a face picture on public folders or site verification photo, I must be fake

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"Ask to speak on the phone. That saves a good deal of time and confirms status early on."

I never cam or do phone calls but I am still very real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face pic, cam , hold a tooth brush. Feck off!! I must be fake!

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Ask to speak on the phone. That saves a good deal of time and confirms status early on.

I never cam or do phone calls but I am still very real

Me too.....and if someone asked me for a toothbrush or fork pic I would think they were seriously weird! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i tend to get messages daily from fakes and they are easy to spot:

no face pics on the profiles.

If a couple only the lady has pictures, none of them both together

THe profile has not been verified genuine by the site.

no verifications from other members, or if just one, it is not on display

so probably self written using a dummy profile set up for that purpose

and they never want to go on webcam or their cam does not work.

So i ask them to take a selfie of them holding a fork if they say no they cant do that they are a fake, and they then block me!

OP one hidden verification on your profile, you just identified yourself to everyone as a FAKE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other signs of fake profiles; can't accommodate but can travel.

In other words in a relationship so can't meet at home, but if I travel to you no one will catch me out.

Ooh, just noticed it says that on your own profile OP.

You see how easy it is to make broad sweeping generalisations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i tend to get messages daily from fakes and they are easy to spot:

no face pics on the profiles.

If a couple only the lady has pictures, none of them both together

THe profile has not been verified genuine by the site.

no verifications from other members, or if just one, it is not on display

so probably self written using a dummy profile set up for that purpose

and they never want to go on webcam or their cam does not work.

So i ask them to take a selfie of them holding a fork if they say no they cant do that they are a fake, and they then block me!

OP one hidden verification on your profile, you just identified yourself to everyone as a FAKE"

This.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

We don't have public pics of him, they're of me, but we plan to sort that.

We also don't cam as we'd need to organise a time when we're together, then another time to play and we don't have lots of spare time.

But we have a ton of veris so

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I'm not a fake and ok I have a few of the criteria you suggest make people genuine but if anyone made demands of me like that I'd tell them where to go lol

Sometimes people get so obsessed with the fake profiles they forget this site is for fun!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Other signs of fake profiles; can't accommodate but can travel.

In other words in a relationship so can't meet at home, but if I travel to you no one will catch me out.

Ooh, just noticed it says that on your own profile OP.

You see how easy it is to make broad sweeping generalisations? "

That's not being fake. We don't accommodate as I live alone, and my home is my personal space. We don't want some guy getting d*unk and chancing his arm and turning up on my doorstep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ask to speak on the phone. That saves a good deal of time and confirms status early on."

That doesn't always match the pics in the profile to the person you talk to - we've had someone talk to us on the phone but for 'reasons' can't send any other pics than what's on their profile already and they can't Facetime - mmmm fake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Re: "hidden verifications" - I had a lovely veri from a lady I met last year which I would love to still be displaying! She's now left the site so I can't show it!

So, yeah, I'm obviously fake

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"Ask to speak on the phone. That saves a good deal of time and confirms status early on.

I never cam or do phone calls but I am still very real

Those twins look very real to me!

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"Ask to speak on the phone. That saves a good deal of time and confirms status early on.

I never cam or do phone calls but I am still very real

Those twins look very real to me!

Yes my boobs are very real too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Face pic, cam , hold a tooth brush. Feck off!! I must be fake!"

;)

But do it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweet won't speak on the phone or show her face on cam.nor do we show our verifications.does that make us fakes?

If you think someone isn't what they say they are,ignore them,don't ask to meet them,it's not as if they will turn up,is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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and they never want to go on webcam or their cam does not work.

So i ask them to take a selfie of them holding a fork if they say no they cant do that they are a fake, and they then block me!

But but but my cam doesn't work

And I would never take a selfie with a fork

Ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i tend to get messages daily from fakes and they are easy to spot:

no face pics on the profiles.

If a couple only the lady has pictures, none of them both together

THe profile has not been verified genuine by the site.

no verifications from other members, or if just one, it is not on display

so probably self written using a dummy profile set up for that purpose

and they never want to go on webcam or their cam does not work.

So i ask them to take a selfie of them holding a fork if they say no they cant do that they are a fake, and they then block me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many complications on this site everybody's got there guard up that's why I think everyone should have kik as soon as initial contact is made transfer to kik to prove eachother is genuine no confusion then or am I seeing things black and white

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"i tend to get messages daily from fakes and they are easy to spot:

no face pics on the profiles.

If a couple only the lady has pictures, none of them both together

THe profile has not been verified genuine by the site.

no verifications from other members, or if just one, it is not on display

so probably self written using a dummy profile set up for that purpose

and they never want to go on webcam or their cam does not work.

So i ask them to take a selfie of them holding a fork if they say no they cant do that they are a fake, and they then block me!

I would make them hold a fork AND a knife; that way, I can also judge if they've got any table manners

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

"Too many complications on this site everybody's got there guard up that's why I think everyone should have kik as soon as initial contact is made transfer to kik to prove eachother is genuine no confusion then or am I seeing things black and white"

I've chatted to loads of fakes on kik. Proves absolutely nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah if your just chatting I tend to ask for a photo with today's date in it can't get round that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm genuine and I know it. I meet when I decide to and I don't need to be told to upload photos to prove I'm not fake

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes I think you are. We never do phone, cam, kik, uploading dated photos, photos with objects by request, hoop jumping, code words etc. However I can see how anybody would be wary of fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i tend to get messages daily from fakes and they are easy to spot:

no face pics on the profiles.

If a couple only the lady has pictures, none of them both together

THe profile has not been verified genuine by the site.

no verifications from other members, or if just one, it is not on display

so probably self written using a dummy profile set up for that purpose

and they never want to go on webcam or their cam does not work.

So i ask them to take a selfie of them holding a fork if they say no they cant do that they are a fake, and they then block me!

Ultimately none of these things prove beyond any doubt whatsoever that a profile is fake. For sure they could be seen as indicators, but as other comments in this thread show, there are many reasons why a member manages his/her/their profile in a certain way.

We are all individuals.

Personally I ask for face photos, a full set of cutlery and it MUST be from John Lewis.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"They usually use profiles of white women asking to see black men only and into size. and they are far too open about their sex lives and keep asking quesitons about size and wanting to see pics or you go on cam to show them"

Heh, you've pretty much described me there. Just think of all the black guy loving, wanton women you've missed out on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hahahaha, thanks for the early morning laugh guys......toothbrush lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

When it comes to it we all have our own criteria for spotting fakes. Touch wood we've not been caught......yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am quite strict in that phone chat with potential meets is important and if its a couple I ask to speak to both on phone.

If the couple are not prepared to do this yet expect me to give my address out then I will not contemplate a meet.

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By *rafty98Man
over a year ago

herts

I surprised they don't tell you to fork off

They are lots here and you have found a way that suits you to find out if they are real or not nice tactic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to do the random photo request thing. It's not a huge thing to ask and if they don't have enough of a sense of humour to do it then I probably wouldn't want to meet them anyway. Me and one guy actually send each other random selfies since our first "Dr Evil" pose - it's fun!

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By *rafty98Man
over a year ago

herts

"When it comes to it we all have our own criteria for spotting fakes. Touch wood we've not been caught......yet

Oh no the challenge has been set

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone asked me to do pic say with a fork etc I would politely decline as plenty other folk on fab to be getting into silly stuff like this.

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

If you think someone is a fake then just ignor them and move on and the same goes if they think your fake, no big deal there are plenty of others to chat & meet on here who I'm sure are very genuine.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

why do i feel a (user no longer on site) coming no..lol..connie x

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

If you have a criteria and it works well for you then it's all good

I have my own and have no problems with less than genuine people

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"why do i feel a (user no longer on site) coming no..lol..connie x"

Are you leaving?

Take care then x

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

There will always be fakes all site,s are the same got one photo of Jane on we always talk on the phone first before a meet but still it can be a fake and we get asked how do i no your genuine not a fake.

It,s this style of life a lot of miss trust because of the fake,s it will never alter

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We always request that anyone we speak to sends us a photo holding a Clarice Cliff Athens shape jug with an early 'Original Bizarre' pattern.

Not only does it out the fakes, it also ensures they have a good eye for art deco antiques.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it comes to it we all have our own criteria for spotting fakes. Touch wood we've not been caught......yet

Is it verified wood?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i tend to get messages daily from fakes and they are easy to spot:

no face pics on the profiles.

If a couple only the lady has pictures, none of them both together

THe profile has not been verified genuine by the site.

no verifications from other members, or if just one, it is not on display

so probably self written using a dummy profile set up for that purpose

and they never want to go on webcam or their cam does not work.

So i ask them to take a selfie of them holding a fork if they say no they cant do that they are a fake, and they then block me!

I think your doing well if you get mail.....never mind who it's from ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

THe profile has not been verified genuine by the site."

We must all be fakes then as no profiles are verified genuine by the site.

The only forms of verification available are Photo verification - which entails a member submitting a photograph of themselves holding a piece of paper with the word 'fabswingers' and their profile name on it, or by verification by other members, either from being seen on webcam or from meeting in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just look for woman/couples who do have pics or verifications, there are plenty of them, all over the site

I wouldn't do a pic with a fork but then again I'm not a blank profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well if after exchanging a few mails and in the process of arranging a meet and they still won't send facepics apart from the ones on the profiles in glamourous settings or could be clearly off the internet, or won't go on cam (but happy to see me on cam) I tend to think they are fake and ask for them to take a fork pic etc. Also some of them give game away by trying too hard to convince you they are really women by dropping in the conversation they are on their period so not ready for a selfie or webcam or mention their kids are running around etc even at late time!!! Just sounds unreal! They always block me or close their account when they get rumbled!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I keep getting mobbed by people when I go out in those suits asking to be photographed with me or I get in clubs free and get free drinks by the management. It doesn't mean I'm getting bare flings no! So meeting fakes on here is same thing just flirting but nothing happens! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we ever had a single man ask us to prove we were not fake we would laugh our socks off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well if after exchanging a few mails and in the process of arranging a meet and they still won't send facepics apart from the ones on the profiles in glamourous settings or could be clearly off the internet, or won't go on cam (but happy to see me on cam) I tend to think they are fake and ask for them to take a fork pic etc. Also some of them give game away by trying too hard to convince you they are really women by dropping in the conversation they are on their period so not ready for a selfie or webcam or mention their kids are running around etc even at late time!!! Just sounds unreal! They always block me or close their account when they get rumbled!"

Absolutely pmsl. I'd be telling you where to stick your fork. You do realise this approach will alienate the genuine ones as well.

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

We had a friendly fan (on a non-swinging pic sharing site) ask to have pics playing with various kitchen items. Cutlery, rolling pin, pans, wooden spoon, all that kind of thing. Turns out that was his kink and was desperate for some lady to help him out! We were on the verge of acquiescing (hell, why not!) when he left the site. Shame!

As for us, we might ask you to hold up your favourite book

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Why a fork?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why a fork?

As people walk about wth them 24/7

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many time wasters I have booked hotels and no shows then they disapear from fab! Time and money wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does kik prove ..... Nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once sent a pic to someone of a toothbrush up my pussy does that count as not being fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

There are more piss taking, timewasting,cyber wanking,anonymous pic collectors on Kik than anywhere else on the net

And once you start making arrangements on there you have no protection from the site when it all blows up in your face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are more piss taking, timewasting,cyber wanking,anonymous pic collectors on Kik than anywhere else on the net

And once you start making arrangements on there you have no protection from the site when it all blows up in your face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what you've said here, I'd agree with your feeling that they are fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you may well alienate some genuinely nice people but that's a chance you take.

You will offend the people with their heads up their arses. But don't worry about that- would you really want to meet someone with such a low opinion of you? You are human and worthy of respect the same as anyone.

Unfortunately some people think very little of single guys and will take the piss. You have every right to try to avoid timewasters, same as they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"OP, you may well alienate some genuinely nice people but that's a chance you take.

Unfortunately some people think very little of single guys and will take the piss. You have every right to try to avoid timewasters, same as they do. "

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i think making people take a picture of a fork is ridiculous...

I make people take a picture with a panini "italia 90" sticker album (fully completed!!!! I aint having this spaces nonsense!!!)

p.s anybody who has any doubles.. i'll go swopsies!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are more piss taking, timewasting,cyber wanking,anonymous pic collectors on Kik than anywhere else on the net

And once you start making arrangements on there you have no protection from the site when it all blows up in your face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does kik prove ..... Nothing"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

End of the day people who want to lead up a garden path or waste your time will do it.

But I haven't suffered it as the way I follow my gut feeling and veri people had never let me down in 8 years.

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By *loriajonCouple
over a year ago

near u

Most of the couples on here are actually single guys posing as couples, even profiles with verifications turn out to be fake, we always ask to go on cam before we take it any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simples way to think off everyone on here all fake until you meet them face to face , ie. Club, Organised Social Event or Face to Face at a meet you have planned and that's that really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just use your filters

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Why a fork?

As people walk about wth them 24/7

What if they're Chinese and only use chopsticks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a fake off here. She wasn't entirely fake. Just her boobs!

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I met a fake off here. She wasn't entirely fake. Just her boobs!

Tina gets around!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have novel idea for everyone on this site. JUST LOG ON WHEN YOU'RE READY TO MEET.

Just put where you are going that night or if you want someone to come to you. In your status message.

That way this place can get back to normal. And we can get back to what we signed up for..

Sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why a fork?

As people walk about wth them 24/7

What if they're Chinese and only use chopsticks?

Fake!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"I met a fake off here. She wasn't entirely fake. Just her boobs!

Tina gets around!

Waves

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"We always request that anyone we speak to sends us a photo holding a Clarice Cliff Athens shape jug with an early 'Original Bizarre' pattern.

Not only does it out the fakes, it also ensures they have a good eye for art deco antiques."

Or a Troika

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"Save the message, use the report button and copy and paste the admission into the report comment.

I would do exactly this "

i also add them to my fab photo list, then i can see if/ when they are removed,,

together we can beat photo / profile fakes just by spending a few minutes, and using common sense...connie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"I have novel idea for everyone on this site. JUST LOG ON WHEN YOU'RE READY TO MEET.

Just put where you are going that night or if you want someone to come to you. In your status message.

That way this place can get back to normal. And we can get back to what we signed up for..

Sex

Yeah ......its really that simple

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I once sent a pic to someone of a toothbrush up my pussy does that count as not being fake?

Only counts if you sent it via Kik and it was an electric toothbrush. All other toothbrushes are fake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Save the message, use the report button and copy and paste the admission into the report comment.

I would do exactly this "

i also add them to my fab photo list, then i can see if/ when they are removed,,

together we can beat photo / profile fakes just by spending a few minutes, and using common sense...connie xx"

Great idea!

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I'm sorry but could anyone please explain the toothbrush thing? I really don't understand it !

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's short plastic bristles,bunched together on the end of a plastic shaft.primarily used for cleaning teeth.

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