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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can anyone give me any advice to get some action on here . Been on nearly two year never had one hook up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes time. I just fucked one and been here 5 years lol, you need patience

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Can anyone give me any advice to get some action on here . Been on nearly two year never had one hook up "

When was the last time you updated your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a patience game on this site for us single guys ,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone give me any advice to get some action on here . Been on nearly two year never had one hook up "

Keep an eye on the local updates .

Try a club and at least get a social meet in person veri .

Put in some genuine effort to get a meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also profile name leaves a little to be desired perhaps lol...

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Also profile name leaves a little to be desired perhaps lol... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When was the last time you updated your profile? "

Yes, as it still says that you've 'just come out of a shit relationship'

To be fair, your profile is rather on the sparse side, but I wonder what effort you are putting in to get meets.

Judging by the effort expended on your profile, I would automatically assume that you are waiting for others to come to you - which may explain why you appear to be getting precisely nowhere.

You have to remember that ladies and couples are hugely outnumbered by single guys on fab - and therefore they can afford to be a little more fussy.

You also have to consider that many single ladies are receiving hundreds of messages per day - and so really have little time to go 'on the hunt' as it were.

You really need to be putting yourself out there. Make your profile stand out - for the right reasons - and be pro-active in your approach. Get in touch with people.

The old saying 'good things come to those who wait' may indeed be true, but they come a lot quicker to those who go out and get them

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Permanentstiffie sussed it:......"Yes, as it still says that you've 'just come out of a shit relationship'...." isn't very sexually attractive in my opinion. Funerals aren't either but hey ho, maybe I'm weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Permanentstiffie sussed it:......"Yes, as it still says that you've 'just come out of a shit relationship'...." isn't very sexually attractive in my opinion. Funerals aren't either but hey ho, maybe I'm weird. "
Maibe u get an discount lol

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

I'm not sure the pictures of you in what I assume to be your work clothes are doing you any favours.

Scared the shit out of me to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Update profile perhaps put some good pics on

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Maybe get rid of the bit about shit relationship and add what you can offer a meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join POF... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

odd choice of name, crap profile text, grumpy pics. i wouldnt be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure the pictures of you in what I assume to be your work clothes are doing you any favours.

Scared the shit out of me to be honest "

whats scary about formal wear? lots of ladies like suits,

but bloody smile!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here is what I suggest:

Profile name change

Pics of a happy face / body shot (not a cock shot)

Expanding profile, keep it positive

Consider what you're doing to make people consider you / meeting you

Status updates 'what do you need to do to get action around here' doesn't quite appear useful

Merely advice, hope it helps

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I'm not sure the pictures of you in what I assume to be your work clothes are doing you any favours.

Scared the shit out of me to be honest

whats scary about formal wear? lots of ladies like suits,

but bloody smile!!! "

I said the pictures scared me, not specifically the clothes - the middle one especially.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


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Profile name change

Pics of a happy face / body shot (not a cock shot)

Expand profile and keep it positive

Consider what you're doing to make people consider you / meeting you

Status updates 'what do you need to do to get action around here' doesn't quite appear useful

Merely advice, hope it helps "

All of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My honest opinion......

Delete profile, start a fresh with a new name, new pics and new profile txt.

People are attracted to happy people.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile text is awful. Your face pictures are glum. Smile. Try harder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats with the funeral Profile name? Bit off putting.You need to make your profile more interesting and I dont think your pics are doing you justice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to be brutal but your pics are awful, selfies do nobody any favours even when they're taken well by the most photogenic person imaginable. For us mere mortals, they end up looking terrible and in yours, you look so miserable. Hardly endearing to the women of fab. I'd imagine they take one look at them and click the delete button.

Your profile text is uninspiring, inject humour, personality and interesting information.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are really surprised that all those social meets and club nights you have been to have resulted in no meets....

oh, no hang on a minute.......our mistake.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

This is a website called Fab SWINGERS, because it's a site for swingers, it's not called Fab Hook Ups.

Look at how many threads there are about single men complaining how hard it is to have NSA sex with single women, and then compare that to how many threads there are started by couples saying it's hard to meet other couples. Your answer might be in there somewhere...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My honest opinion......

Delete profile, start a fresh with a new name, new pics and new profile txt.

People are attracted to happy people.

Good luck "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice - if you don't take all that given on this thread....

Leave the site and go to a brothel. Nothing is a given on here, certainly not 'action'. The level of effort put into your profile speaks volumes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll pop back in a week to see if any advice has been taken on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate, with respect. Your pictures make you look like an undertaker.

secondly. Advice on a meet.

I've met 50 or 60 people on my various fab profiles.

be genuine, be honest, be reliable, be polite, be as you would expect people to treat you.

Also consider starting again mate , one year no meets, says time waster

take care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"odd choice of name, crap profile text, grumpy pics. i wouldnt be interested."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be truth full in what you want dont put a life story on I have met some one here as a regular FB but does not want to see others. But she has taken off her profile. Beginers luck may be. Be positive not negative.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Logged in 8 hours ago, profile exactly the same.....................good to see you're taking the advice that YOU asked for seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone give me any advice to get some action on here . Been on nearly two year never had one hook up "

Do a pic where you don't actually look like you're going to a funeral, i.e SMILEY PIC

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Due to your name, I look at your pictures and can only assume that you do actually work in a funeral directors and have taken pics in your work clothes - which, as much as I like suits and waistcoats, etc on men, isn't the biggest turn on when I imagine those selfies were taken while working with dead bodies/grieving customers...

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Your profile is almost non-existent and says nothing about what YOU have to offer, your pictures are blurry, rather frightening and leave a lot to be desired, you're ONLY looking for single women (the smallest pond with the least amount of fish which is already overcrowded with fishermen waiting with their tackle out), you've set your age range for 18-99 - Now, I'm all for open-mindedness but to most this comes across as desperate. Are you REALLY going to shag a 99 year old?

And the whole "What you gotta do to get some action round here" is something I've always hated as it sounds like you're expecting a service, in which case I'd suggest you go to a brothel.

In general, your profile comes across as you expecting women to come to you while putting in 0 amount of effort on your part.

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By *hornycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Is it me or does Uncle Fester come to mind?.......

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Is it just me, or on these kind of threads does it appear that the OP never actually changes a thing about their profile after asking for, and receiving advice?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Is it just me, or on these kind of threads does it appear that the OP never actually changes a thing about their profile after asking for, and receiving advice? "

Many if not most of these whining threads seek attention and a sympathy shag and pay no attention to advice.

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"Is it just me, or on these kind of threads does it appear that the OP never actually changes a thing about their profile after asking for, and receiving advice? "

3 days later, still got a face like a slapped arse, same shitty profile.

Likely logs on when he's horny, jacks off to women he could potentially have a chance of meeting, logs off.

If he puts status's like that up a local it's safe to assume all the local females have clocked him and want nowt to do with him.

Will likely never get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me, or on these kind of threads does it appear that the OP never actually changes a thing about their profile after asking for, and receiving advice?

3 days later, still got a face like a slapped arse, same shitty profile.

Likely logs on when he's horny, jacks off to women he could potentially have a chance of meeting, logs off.

If he puts status's like that up a local it's safe to assume all the local females have clocked him and want nowt to do with him.

Will likely never get a meet. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When was the last time you updated your profile?

Yes, as it still says that you've 'just come out of a shit relationship'

To be fair, your profile is rather on the sparse side, but I wonder what effort you are putting in to get meets.

Judging by the effort expended on your profile, I would automatically assume that you are waiting for others to come to you - which may explain why you appear to be getting precisely nowhere.

You have to remember that ladies and couples are hugely outnumbered by single guys on fab - and therefore they can afford to be a little more fussy.

You also have to consider that many single ladies are receiving hundreds of messages per day - and so really have little time to go 'on the hunt' as it were.

You really need to be putting yourself out there. Make your profile stand out - for the right reasons - and be pro-active in your approach. Get in touch with people.

The old saying 'good things come to those who wait' may indeed be true, but they come a lot quicker to those who go out and get them "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just looked at your profile and it's dull but why do we continue to give advise to some people who can't be bothered to put some effort in. If the guy decides to change his profile to our advice then surely this doesn't reflect who the person is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And guess what. OP's profile remains unchanged despite all the great advice on offer. Exactly as it was 3 days ago.

As has been said many, many times OP, to many, many others, you need to change your approach or change your expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile text is awful. Your face pictures are glum. Smile. Try harder."

To be fair on the OP, the default expression for his work is glum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And guess what. OP's profile remains unchanged despite all the great advice on offer. Exactly as it was 3 days ago.

As has been said many, many times OP, to many, many others, you need to change your approach or change your expectations.

"

You are spot on, my thoughts exactly. He has asked for advice, been given loads of constructive criticism, and yet not followed any of it. A pointless exercise.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"And guess what. OP's profile remains unchanged despite all the great advice on offer. Exactly as it was 3 days ago.

As has been said many, many times OP, to many, many others, you need to change your approach or change your expectations.

You are spot on, my thoughts exactly. He has asked for advice, been given loads of constructive criticism, and yet not followed any of it. A pointless exercise. "

That is the case with the great majority of these whining "advice-seeking" threads...They're mostly just "look at me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice - if you don't take all that given on this thread....

Leave the site and go to a brothel. Nothing is a given on here, certainly not 'action'. The level of effort put into your profile speaks volumes."

It certainly does

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Well at least he's changed his name now.. Makes me laugh that his profile heading still says "shat" instead of "what"

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