FabSwingers.com forum: Profile refreshed - constructive feedback welcomed!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi - sorry this is another self indulgent 'look at me' type thread but I am genuinely after constructive feedback please!

After 8 months or so with an unchanged profile I thought it was time to tweak it a little and freshen it up for the Spring. I've changed about 40% with 60% remaking from the 'old' profile.

I've tried to listen to the feedback on the multitude of other threads on this. I have a lot I want to say but slightly worried it is too long and people will lose the will to read on? Is the content right too? Anything to add / remove?

Also I will adding new pics in the not too distant future too.

Thank you!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Was shit. Still shit*

*Is what a rude fellow would say, but I say I always thought it was good anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was shit. Still shit*

*Is what a rude fellow would say, but I say I always thought it was good anyway.

ha thanks Steve!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Well OP I think its a very nice profile .... its a shames theres not more gentlemen on fab like you .. im sure you will be very popular with the ladies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well OP I think its a very nice profile .... its a shames theres not more gentlemen on fab like you .. im sure you will be very popular with the ladies

Thank you!

I was thinking it was a bit too wordy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed, it's a well written profile that stands out from the crowd.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Well OP I think its a very nice profile .... its a shames theres not more gentlemen on fab like you .. im sure you will be very popular with the ladies

Thank you!

I was thinking it was a bit too wordy? "

It looks longer than mine! I find the men up here congratulate themselves for getting to the end

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agreed, it's a well written profile that stands out from the crowd."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well OP I think its a very nice profile .... its a shames theres not more gentlemen on fab like you .. im sure you will be very popular with the ladies

Thank you!

I was thinking it was a bit too wordy?

It looks longer than mine! I find the men up here congratulate themselves for getting to the end

ha, I like yours! Maybe I should add the 'congratulations for getting this far' at the end like you have!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Well OP I think its a very nice profile .... its a shames theres not more gentlemen on fab like you .. im sure you will be very popular with the ladies

Thank you!

I was thinking it was a bit too wordy?

It looks longer than mine! I find the men up here congratulate themselves for getting to the end

ha, I like yours! Maybe I should add the 'congratulations for getting this far' at the end like you have! "

No leave it as it is, mine says I'm a sarcastic bitch so I get away with it

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Hi - sorry this is another self indulgent 'look at me' type thread but I am genuinely after constructive feedback please!

After 8 months or so with an unchanged profile I thought it was time to tweak it a little and freshen it up for the Spring. I've changed about 40% with 60% remaking from the 'old' profile.

Also I will adding new pics in the not too distant future too.

Thank you! "
. Well written and detailed . Two points . 1. Body pictures always look better if they include your face / head . I would take a full body picture but exclude your head . 2. The profile states lots of your requirements but not a lot about yourself and the type of person that you are . There is no reference to your hobbies or interests . As the feedback from others including me , I hope it brings the required results .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi - sorry this is another self indulgent 'look at me' type thread but I am genuinely after constructive feedback please!

After 8 months or so with an unchanged profile I thought it was time to tweak it a little and freshen it up for the Spring. I've changed about 40% with 60% remaking from the 'old' profile.

Also I will adding new pics in the not too distant future too.

Thank you! . Well written and detailed . Two points . 1. Body pictures always look better if they include your face / head . I would take a full body picture but exclude your head . 2. The profile states lots of your requirements but not a lot about yourself and the type of person that you are . There is no reference to your hobbies or interests . As the feedback from others including me , I hope it brings the required results ."

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We think it is a good profile but too long in our view and would suggest cutting in half.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

just too long for most

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"just too long for most "

Yes that was my concern - will see if I can cut back on some words!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We think it is a good profile but too long in our view and would suggest cutting in half."

Thank you, yes I will see how I can reduce it a little but still keep the essence of what I want to say!

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By *urvybrunette91Woman
over a year ago

tidworth

Good profile, I like that you're honest about your situation on it - means people who would avoid, easily can.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Personally I found it generic so my eyes glazed. Lost interest when I got to the "in relationship but on here alone". Kudos though for saying you were being up front instead of "honest".

Every pot has its lid as they say, from previous comments it appears you may have found some that fit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd put the bit about being in a relationship first so people like myself who don't want to meet attached people can see straight away without having read through it but well done for actually being honest about it. A better variety of pics might help.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"Hi - sorry this is another self indulgent 'look at me' type thread but I am genuinely after constructive feedback please!

After 8 months or so with an unchanged profile I thought it was time to tweak it a little and freshen it up for the Spring. I've changed about 40% with 60% remaking from the 'old' profile.

Also I will adding new pics in the not too distant future too.

Thank you Patrick. Good feedback. Yes I will take that on board, will be doing some new pics in the near future. Also a good point about what I'm like. I will consolidate feedback from the thread and later attempt a profile version 1.1!"
. I meant to say you should include your face and head but use digital imaging to blur your face so that you cannot be recognised . I alway think that pictures without your face can be a bit pointless .

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

"just too long for most

Yes that was my concern - will see if I can cut back on some words!"

you could easily loose half of it and still have the same message..tho no matter how good it is most never read them anyway

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm gonna slightly squeeze in here and say I like long profiles because I like reading about the person. Doesn't matter if I'm never gonna meet them, it's just nice to read interesting things about people. The ones that say 'here for fun' are crap.

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I'm gonna slightly squeeze in here and say I like long profiles because I like reading about the person. Doesn't matter if I'm never gonna meet them, it's just nice to read interesting things about people. The ones that say 'here for fun' are crap. "

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

"Well OP I think its a very nice profile .... its a shames theres not more gentlemen on fab like you .. im sure you will be very popular with the ladies

Thank you!

I was thinking it was a bit too wordy? "

Well, better all the words than no words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd put the bit about being in a relationship first so people like myself who don't want to meet attached people can see straight away without having read through it but well done for actually being honest about it. A better variety of pics might help."

The only thing we don't understand with people who are being honest on here about being attached/married, is why they cannot carry that honesty into their relationship.

Again, just being honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing we don't understand with people who are being honest on here about being attached/married, is why they cannot carry that honesty into their relationship.

Again, just being honest!"

He might be, it doesn't state that she doesn't know. Either way, its no one else's business. He's made it clear he's attached and that's all I need to know to make a decision.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all thanks for all the feedback, I really appreciate it.

I understand the married thing is not to everyone's taste or morals and is an instant block but I'd rather let people make their own minds up with an informed decision than pretend (like many on here do) I'm a truly 'single' guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all thanks for all the feedback, I really appreciate it.

We do agree with you about being open, honestly! !

There are a lot of guys who bullshit on here, and you are right in saying by being upfront people can make choices.

Take it easy.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I don't get any sense of personality from it. It seems a bit blah and almost like its been written to please everyone rather than from what you really want.

A bit more humour, and as an attached fella - probably shorter and put the attached bit higher up.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't get any sense of personality from it. It seems a bit blah and almost like its been written to please everyone rather than from what you really want.

A bit more humour, and as an attached fella - probably shorter and put the attached bit higher up.

Good luck"

Thank you, yes a common theme seems to be reduce if a bit and make the attached bit earlier. I'll address this when I re-tweak a little later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To long. To much like a cv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi - sorry this is another self indulgent 'look at me' type thread but I am genuinely after constructive feedback please!

After 8 months or so with an unchanged profile I thought it was time to tweak it a little and freshen it up for the Spring. I've changed about 40% with 60% remaking from the 'old' profile.

Also I will adding new pics in the not too distant future too.

For me, no need to add hobbies or interests, this is NSA meets not dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its down to luck and it doesnt matter how good a profile is. The supply and demand aint there. I gave up years ago lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well OP I think its a very nice profile .... its a shames theres not more gentlemen on fab like you .. im sure you will be very popular with the ladies

Thank you!

I was thinking it was a bit too wordy? "

'Wordy' is good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its down to luck and it doesnt matter how good a profile is. The supply and demand aint there. I gave up years ago lol."

ah and you're Fab Famous so I definitely don't have a chance then!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well OP I think its a very nice profile .... its a shames theres not more gentlemen on fab like you .. im sure you will be very popular with the ladies

Thank you!

I was thinking it was a bit too wordy?

'Wordy' is good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all both on here and a surprising number of PMs too! I really appreciate that you've taken time to read it and help a fellow Fabber!

So in summary, some like it as it is, some think it's too long and dry!

I think I will try and trim it a little and promote the attached caveat a little earlier!

Will hopefully tweak it tomorrow and also get a few new pics over the next few weeks!

Thanks again all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TLTR

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By *AURA6969TV/TS
over a year ago

RUGBY

Think it looks good didn't see before but this one is on target

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"TLTR

Had to Google that! But I think I agree! A trim to follow

thanks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think it looks good didn't see before but this one is on target"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and honest about it, but my profile isn't as good as yours - I think I'll work on mine. I thought yours was a little long, but otherwise, it's well written.

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By *aunchy21Couple
over a year ago

dub

Very nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm married and honest about it, but my profile isn't as good as yours - I think I'll work on mine. I thought yours was a little long, but otherwise, it's well written."

Thanks! I think the happy medium is somewhere in between the lengths of our respective profiles! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very nice "

thank you

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